Tsk, tsk.
Alright, who let this slide off the first page?
Come on, own up... :jagsatwork:
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flapjackboy
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 51
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Quote by neilinleeds
At least neilinleeds and I aren't the kind of guys to be posting on a message board until ridiculously unearthly hours of the morning.
Me neither. These silly-o-clock-in-the-morning posters really need to get a life. ;)
i went to get a life once Ice Pie. they'd run out down Safeway's so i ended up with a packet of fags and some silly website!
neil x x x ;)
What? You mean there's more to life than SH? :shock: :shock: :shock:
Yes, I thought so too... Sadly, it's not my case though... (I wish). The guy who made that case is a master modder and this particular case got so much attention that Gabe Newell, head of Valve Software commisioned a new case to demo the game at Valve's HQ.
And yes, I'm thoroughly enjoying HL2 (and all the Source mods released so far).
And yes, I'm thoroughly enjoying HL2 (and all the Source mods released so far).
Quote by SarfLondoner
Whilst I certainly do not condone "cheating" in any way shape or form I have read this thread with some interest and would like to say that TT has defended his standpoint in an erudite manner ( despite considerable provocation from other members).
The one thing that stands out from the quote above is that despite his protestations Flappy (oops sorry Flapjackboy) is certainly making judgements predicated on his own moral standpoint.
This forum is designed as a meeting place and in my view is not the right location for a witch hunt.
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Hey, this guy is free to choose to cheat on his partner if he wishes. I'm fully aware that his moral standpoint is different than mine, but what I won't stand for is his insinuations that he has some kind of affinity with us because he's seeing other women behind his partner's back.
I'm not judging him by my own moral code, merely pointing out to him that this is the wrong place for him to be. I'm sure there is a cheater's equivalent to this site out there somewhere, so perhaps he would be better off trying to find it.
OK, to take your points one at a time...
1. It's not whether or not you described yourself as a swinger or not that offends me. What offends me is the fact that you seem convinced that we should welcome cheaters on here with open arms as some kind of kindred spirits. Furthermore, I have seen the same ads you have and know there are people looking to play away from home on here. The thing is, the ads are a totally seperate section from the forums and they tend not to sign up to the forums and start posting.
2. This is true, you haven't said what you do is 'right', but just because you accept that what you are doing is wrong, it doesn't absolve you in any way from your actions. Please explain to me why you feel the 'need' to look elsewhere. I'd be fascinated to hear your excuse. Let me guess, you're going to pull a Clinton on us and say you're a 'sex addict'.
You are quite right, it is your choice and I'm not preventing you from making it. That's the thing with choices though, there's always another path to take. You don't need to look elsewhere, you want to. There's a huge difference, you know.
BTW, I doubt very much that you got many PMs in support of your actions, judging by the responses you've received so far in this thread.
1. It's not whether or not you described yourself as a swinger or not that offends me. What offends me is the fact that you seem convinced that we should welcome cheaters on here with open arms as some kind of kindred spirits. Furthermore, I have seen the same ads you have and know there are people looking to play away from home on here. The thing is, the ads are a totally seperate section from the forums and they tend not to sign up to the forums and start posting.
2. This is true, you haven't said what you do is 'right', but just because you accept that what you are doing is wrong, it doesn't absolve you in any way from your actions. Please explain to me why you feel the 'need' to look elsewhere. I'd be fascinated to hear your excuse. Let me guess, you're going to pull a Clinton on us and say you're a 'sex addict'.
You are quite right, it is your choice and I'm not preventing you from making it. That's the thing with choices though, there's always another path to take. You don't need to look elsewhere, you want to. There's a huge difference, you know.
BTW, I doubt very much that you got many PMs in support of your actions, judging by the responses you've received so far in this thread.
Quote by tintin
Flapjack, you are TOO funny! You must be a Daily Mail reader or something.
Wow. I'm constantly amazed at your ability to come up with a good put down. NOT! Take you all year to think of that one, did it? :dry:
This might be a newsflash for you but there are some folks out there who would regard your lifestyle as morally bankrupt. But hey, its your choice, yes?! What the fuck has it got to do with anyone else?
And that would be those people who don't understand what swinging is and who are probably so emotionally and sexually repressed that they look upon anyone who has sex more than once a month and/or in any position other than the missionary position as sexual deviants.
But it does amaze me that you have the gaul to come out with that pious rhetoric when we are really not that different. We both want excitement. Hey, we both want to get laid! Yet you're lucky enough to have a partner that swings too. Some of us aren't so lucky and have to go about things a bit differently. That doesn't mean to say that I'm any less a person or that I have less right to be here. As long as i'm upfront with who I am and what i'm looking for why should you care?
Actually, I'm single at the moment, but if I did have a partner, she'd know about this aspect of my life. You still seem to have difficulty in grasping the concept of what swinging is about. The one thing that is paramount in a swinging relationship is that it is open and honest, something that your relationship with your partner is most certainly not. Swinging is not something furtive that you keep hidden from your partner, it's something that you are both aware of and are comfortable with. Do not try and tell me that we are alike, because we're not. You are looking to have sexual relations with another woman behind your partner's back. That is cheating and is a million miles from what swinging is.
I suggested that we're the same but the one big difference between you and I is that I don't judge people.
Free your mind, Flappy, and your arse will follow. =)
TT.
I don't judge you, I leave that up to your own conscience. Oh, that's right, you had yours surgically removed at birth, didn't you.
*hands TT a crowbar so that he can pry his own head from his arse*
EDIT: BTW, only my friends get to call me Flappy. You certainly don't qualify for that category. You may refer to me as Flapjackboy, or, since I'm pwning you in this debate, Master.
Quote by zootle
Much belated congrats on your 2000th post, Venus.
Don't fret about it, though. No-one spotted my 200th one, either. Still, I'm only 7 away from my 300th now...
Bah, no one spotted my 100, ,200, 30 OR 400.
Anyway, why are you here? HL2 crap is it? Or finished it already? :shock:
HL2 crap? Certainly not. It is the very pinnacle of the Game Maker's art. But yes, finished it already. (lots of late nights, sleep... :shock: ) Still, got the original to play through again and the expansions... and online play with Counter-Strike: Source... :bounce: :bounce:
Quote by respectful
just ignore them, you are entitled to advertise and they are entitled to post a notice but you don't have to reply and get wound up.
I hope some nice "married lady" contacts you and you have a good time.
Sorry, but he's not entitled to advertise here if his sole purpose is to cheat on his partner. He is not a swinger. We don't need people like him on here making it look like we're 'Cheats 'R' Us'. For someone who in his first post professed to be into the swinging scene, you know very little about what makes a swinger.
Quote by tintin
OK. Clearly my introduction to this community isnt going as well as it could.
What was your first clue?
I hear and completely respect your views on adultery. But its a personal choice of mine. I believe in being upfront so that the other party (jn this case, a like-minded lady) can make their own judgement call. If someone thinks it is wrong then they will not respond. Simple as that.
Yes, but you don't seem to understand the concept of swinging. You seem to be under the impression that because you are on a swinging site that you can somehow justify your actions. This is not the case. Swinging is not adultery. Swinging is mutually consentual sex between adults in open relationships. It would seem that your relationship with your partner is far from open.
And my comment about being judged wasn't targeted at anyone's morals here. I just expected a little bit more open-mindedness and more of a live and let live attitude. My being caught by my partner is my issue to deal with, no one elses. I dont need to be reminded that cheating is 'morally wrong'. But I have my own reasons.
So, because we're swingers, we're supposed to understand why you want to sleep around behind your partner's back? You're right, getting caught by your partner is your issue to deal with, I never said otherwise.
Lastly, I really think you should take a look at the private ads on here before you start accusing me of being presumptious. Yes, theres a lot of posts from ladies who say 'Hubby knows' or 'Hubby approves'. But theres also just as many that say 'Hubby is away', or 'Bored housewife'. One even there this morning saying 'Hubby bores me stupid'. Am I the only one on here thats plays away? I dont think so.
And you will find that those who are obviously intending on cheating will invariably get few replies. Again, I say to you that swinging is about open relationships, not illicit nookie. Perhaps if you spent more time working on fixing your current relationship, instead of looking online for women to play away from home with...
Above everything else, I'm sorry that i've got off to the wrong foot with y'all. Apart from my tendency to stray from home occasionally I am generally a fairly decent bloke and this appears to be a nicely run, happy community. Lets not fall out over this, please?
Too late. Please seek some professional councilling about your need to play away from home. That's a more productive use of your time than looking for women of loose morals on here.
