I know what youre saying - its hard. But stick at it!
The single guys on here are always being "hit on" as time wasters etc - but there are just as many so-called couples that are timewasters too. I was getting fed up with no responses to perfectly good messages. I even had no response from someone i met once!!!! (she will know who she is!)
There are genuine people out there and we have to be patient - but it can and does happen.
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gailen
Over 90 days ago
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Sexpert
Im not sure if this is the right place for this - if not then i apologise.
But id just like to say to all the guys who regularly answer ads in the Photo ads section and continually get ignored or let down - Stick at it!!!!!! I did and yesterday had a fantastic evening with a lovely couple in Surrey.
I guess we all expect to answer an ad - or put an ad up - and then to get lucky right away, WELL - it just deosnt happen - so stick at it guys.
Thanks to P & J - it was fantastic.
But id just like to say to all the guys who regularly answer ads in the Photo ads section and continually get ignored or let down - Stick at it!!!!!! I did and yesterday had a fantastic evening with a lovely couple in Surrey.
I guess we all expect to answer an ad - or put an ad up - and then to get lucky right away, WELL - it just deosnt happen - so stick at it guys.
Thanks to P & J - it was fantastic.
Sexpert
Hi - im a mature guy and can accomodate any couples looking for a safe and discreet place to meet this evening near Basingstoke. (Tadley)
No fees of any kind - but i'll provide a glass of wine!
Obviously (with your permission) i'd like to watch for a while. No participation expected.
This is a genuine offer from a clean, smart & intelligent (hopefully) guy.
Im online now - so if youre interested - pm me with a method of contact.
No fees of any kind - but i'll provide a glass of wine!
Obviously (with your permission) i'd like to watch for a while. No participation expected.
This is a genuine offer from a clean, smart & intelligent (hopefully) guy.
Im online now - so if youre interested - pm me with a method of contact.
Sexpert
277381
The weather for the next couple of days looks uninviting so if any couples or single ladies were contemplating dogging fun tonight (Friday) or Tomorrow (Saturday) then I am offering a warm, dry and discreet place - i'll even throw in a glas of wine -!
There will be NO FEES of any kind.
No participation unless asked.
If anyone is interested and i hope you are - please PM me for details.
Im not a pic collector so pics arent necessary
Im GENUINE and I hope you will be!
There is a pic and info on my ad - No 277381
The weather for the next couple of days looks uninviting so if any couples or single ladies were contemplating dogging fun tonight (Friday) or Tomorrow (Saturday) then I am offering a warm, dry and discreet place - i'll even throw in a glas of wine -!
There will be NO FEES of any kind.
No participation unless asked.
If anyone is interested and i hope you are - please PM me for details.
Im not a pic collector so pics arent necessary
Im GENUINE and I hope you will be!
There is a pic and info on my ad - No 277381
Sexpert
I think this a great idea!
I for one would be more than willing to travel northwards to join in - if im invited?
THe idea of a North v South match is also appealing - maybe we could investigate that?
I have experience of organising golf evenets (as are others) and would be more that willing to lend a hand .
I'd love to be included in any golf match!
I for one would be more than willing to travel northwards to join in - if im invited?
THe idea of a North v South match is also appealing - maybe we could investigate that?
I have experience of organising golf evenets (as are others) and would be more that willing to lend a hand .
I'd love to be included in any golf match!
Sexpert
I don't suppose for one second that anyone is interested - and even if they bother to read this this - im sure it will be replied to with a load of sarcastic comments (as seems usual on here lately) - BUT!
Im a mature male and im a voyeur! I can accomodate this weekend (friday & saturday)coming in Tadley (which for those of you who dont know or care - is near Basingstoke!)
I dont ask for any fees but i would love to be able to watch and IF required lend a hand?
Im no hunk- nor am i a model type - but i AM GENUINE and the offer is real.
I have an ad going - and it is 285784 - there is a face pic on there. Im not sure how to put one on this ad!
The "accomodation" is open to one or more couples - i can even provide wine etc!
Im not a pic collector - so pics arent required!
NOR are dumb comments from the so-called comedians on here!
Maybe - just maybe - i might hear from someone!
Regards
Mike
Im a mature male and im a voyeur! I can accomodate this weekend (friday & saturday)coming in Tadley (which for those of you who dont know or care - is near Basingstoke!)
I dont ask for any fees but i would love to be able to watch and IF required lend a hand?
Im no hunk- nor am i a model type - but i AM GENUINE and the offer is real.
I have an ad going - and it is 285784 - there is a face pic on there. Im not sure how to put one on this ad!
The "accomodation" is open to one or more couples - i can even provide wine etc!
Im not a pic collector - so pics arent required!
NOR are dumb comments from the so-called comedians on here!
Maybe - just maybe - i might hear from someone!
Regards
Mike
Sexpert
Quote by Sarah1448
But what happened to the rest of you,
Next time we are going to go midnight bowling, so watch for the thread in a couple of months time.
Sorry Sarah - i had a last minute call to do a job (it happens occasionally). Glad you all had a good night tho - and i hope to come to the bowling next time!
Sexpert
Quote by Ross_king30
I wanted to know if there is a particularly good time to go there, if anyone has tried a Monday (been suggested Wednesdays were good by a couple I was chatting to there) but yet to go there then.
Anyone heading there tonight/Wednesday? OR can give any advice - it would be appreciated.
I was there last wednesday from about 6-10. there were a few couples but literally loads and loads of guys! It was difficult to get into the steam rooms (doors were constantly opening and closing not giving the room chance to get really hot), jacuzzis or saunas! At one point we were queing up for the shower!
Dont let me put you off though because i like Rios - i think it may have been just one of those nights. You just might enjoy it a bit more if you have someone to go with!
Try it for yourself tho!
Sexpert
Well im sorry you feel that way Rainbows - because not a single one of my posts was ever intended as a generalisation - NOR a swipe at anyone in particular OR their morals !
I dont have to prove that Married men are treated differently - because its there for all to see. But again that coud be classed as a generalisation. In fact i believe ive apologised twice during the thread in case i have offended anyone?
You picked out many snippets of my posts - but i beleive that if thread was taken as a whole - it may read a little differently.
I have no argument with you - nor anyone else on this site. I do not like upsetting people and i certaily do not like offending people. If anything i have said has either upset or offended you then i sincerely apologise.
But i am entitled to my opinions as much as anyone. Maybe sometimes we dont say things quite exactly how we mean them - but then i hope we are man (woman) enough to apologise!
This is my last posting!
I dont have to prove that Married men are treated differently - because its there for all to see. But again that coud be classed as a generalisation. In fact i believe ive apologised twice during the thread in case i have offended anyone?
You picked out many snippets of my posts - but i beleive that if thread was taken as a whole - it may read a little differently.
I have no argument with you - nor anyone else on this site. I do not like upsetting people and i certaily do not like offending people. If anything i have said has either upset or offended you then i sincerely apologise.
But i am entitled to my opinions as much as anyone. Maybe sometimes we dont say things quite exactly how we mean them - but then i hope we are man (woman) enough to apologise!
This is my last posting!
Sexpert
Quote by MISSCHIEF
This thread isnt about the moralities of swinging - its about whether married men are outcasts or not! and no-one has convinced me that they are not!
I don't think any of us should spout off about morals of married men. But I do think people are entitled to there preferences without having them questioned.
Same applies to the married people on here, I think their decision to swing should be accepted without having the moral thing told to them after every post they make.
I totally agree Misschief! and i dont think ive questioned anyones rights - if i have im sorry.
Sexpert
Quote by shireen-steve
You obviously dont know many swingers then!!.... I for one am the fussiest person around and I very rarely find someone that I find attractive enough to want to swing with.... It's comments like that that gives swinging a bad name...
We always ask the question about the other person being married be they male or female..... There is no rule for one and another rule for the other in this house.....
OK - i accept that!
BUT! - if you were confronted with a sngle female - willing to play - would you seriously go through an "interview" before playing?
This thread isnt about the moralities of swinging - its about whether married men are outcasts or not! and no-one has convinced me that they are not!
Sexpert
Quote by kristof
of a sexual nature I am a newly single guy, was married but after living apart for 3 years we have called it a day Before you read on, please be aware, I do not approve of cheating or playing away from home, so if you are looking for that, look elsewhere. I would sooner lose out on great sex than be a part of the cheats scen I am 43, about 5'7" and average 6" cock, my pic shows that I am a little soft around the waist for which I make no excuses. I am clean shaven head face cock and balls. Clean in hygene if not in m
and I know I am not alone in this view
HI Kris - we've met and i Know you are agreat guy!
I think youre right in youre ad!
My "argument" is about the different treatmnt handed out to males as opposed to females!
Sexpert
Quote by Reese"
If that is what you truly think regarding everyone here, then you are most certainly wrong. Please do not make such broad generalisations when each of us is a unique individual with different desires, morals, expectations and approaches to swinging.
Let's take myself for example: Let's say I was approached by a stunningly beautiful woman who wanted to shag my barins out. Here's what I would do:
1) Introduce her to my wife, Vix.
2) The three of us would sit down and have a chat, perhaps over a few drinks, and all get to know each other. During the course of this chat, we'd be certain to broach the topic of past and current relationships. If the woman gave any indication of being involved in a relationship with another - whether married or not - we'd ask to set up a future meet where all four of us could get together. If she refused, that would be that. I don't even care if she has "consent", I'd want to hear it from her partner.
3) Provided she was truly single, we'd take her home and fuck her. However, if it turned out she have a partner (and all of the requirements for a meet with both of them were met, etc), we'd take them home and fuck them both.
~Reese
Reese!
Ive watched your posts and have the greatest of respect for you!
and i agree that we are all individuals.
My generalistion is because i so often soo that people are looking for singel females!
It does make sense that if a single female did "happen along" and was "available" then i very much doubt if the "interview" would be half as severe as if it was for a single male! married or not!
Sexpert
Quote by Calista
I'd suggest losing the capitalised words (it's taken as shouting) and the overexagerated punctuation, and the image you have that all swingers have no boundaries - we are a diverse bunch and one person's drink is another persons poison.
I agree! - and i know the rules about "shouting". i don't think i need english lessons either!
My image of swingers is not what you think! I'm merely trying to make apoint that males are treated differently to females on here! which is something that no-one has adressed yet!
I actually agree with a lot of what you have said!
Sexpert
Quote by foxylady 123
Oh not this one again!!
Only one comment, what gives any of us the right to make (moral) judgements about someone elses relationship?
Can anyone whos in a long term relationship honestly say they have never witheld the truth form their partner, never sneeaked a new pair of shoes into the house hoping he wouldnt notice, never said they were working late and gone to the pub, never used the credit car and hoped she wouldnt look at the statement?
Whats the diference ?
I know i said one thing but i do think there is a tendancy , on here, to treat married men like little boys, not old enough to make their own decissions.
Anyway , some of them are bloody good fucks!!
well said foxylady!
Sexpert
Quote by GenHertsCpl
Dont agree - hijacking is just plain selfishness!
Because the hijacker hasnt got anything intelligent to say!
Sorry Sarah - but if normal service is to be hijacked - then i will keep quiet!
Gailen, dont worry this is just harmless fun on this occasion. Sarah and Myself got carried away on one of Lep's threads and was told off for hijacking, hence why Leprechaun is getting his revenge this time!
Just good old fashioned larking about. :lol: And Leprechaun, it was a quote not copying! Im an original, I create my own footprints ty
OK - i satnd corrected - apologies all round
Sexpert
Quote by Calista
If married people (men OR women) have partners who have no interest in a sexual relationship then that's their problem to deal with ~ cheating just makes it worse. If the desire to have sex is so great then the least they could do is explain it to their partners or try to help sort the problem.
Trust me ........ cheating and getting caught is a whole different kettle of fish and could involve another person (quite innocently).
If people are happy to play with "single" married people without talking to the partner then that's upto then .. I don't want to judge.
However, for those who aren't happy to play then they should ask these questions and I do believe the majority would ask male or female.
OK - maybe i misread your message! BUT i think you are misreading mine!
WHAT ABOUT - the married guy who dearly loves his wife? - wouldnt hurt her for the world? BUT - she has no interest in sex - in any way shape or form? (this may be alien to some of you people - but bear with me!). For what ever reason - he will not leave her because he loves her! - JUST what is he supposed to do? (and ladies are in this position too!)
NOW! - you people who are swingers - and will have sex with almost (repeat ALMOST) anyone - seem to think that you are holier than thou by saying that you wont have sex with a married man (if he is so called cheating). I still maintain that you would not be so discriminatory if a female was invlolved?????
I repeat the phrase i made earlier " hi - id like to fuck your brains out!*
OK - but are you married or single? does your husband know? do you have his permission? -
I dont think anyone on here would bother!!!!
*and please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! im only trying to make a point - not having "a GO" at anyone in particular!*
Sexpert
Quote by Calista
Can you give me proof of this? Can you show me any posts where people have confirmed this theory ... "single" bi females are available they are just careful at protectng their anonymity for some obvious reasons. There are married bi females who play alone (with partners consent) as well.
I have seen no evidence of the accusations you have made .. .yes married men get bad press but you can hardly blame people for not wanting to get involved and married females don't come on and advertise themselves so readily. The married females I do know on here have non interested partners who know they swing!
So what about the married males who have partners who show NO INTEREST ? - different story HUH?
Sexpert
Quote by Calista
It might be a swingers site and yes we go in for fucking other people but it doesn't mean that you leave ALL your morals at the door! Your making it sound like people do .. .tempted with a naked/willing female that people won't ask questions first!
C x
Yes i am making it sound like that! Because thats how i believe it is! - SO many couples are looking ofr the elusive bi single female that i really belive if one cam along - NO questions would be asked! Totally the opposite for single guys (married or otherwise)
Sexpert
Quote by rogerthedragon
If I was approached out of the blue by a lady wanting sex | would either be looking for the cameras or wanting to know how much she charged. :shock: :shock:
But Roger - it happens! nad if and when it does - would any guy really honestly ask questions first???
*sorry - i know you want to fuck my brains out - but can i ask you a couple of questions first?*
Cant see it myself- sorry!
Sexpert
Quote by fabio grooverider
i can honestly say i have only played with married women who have consent to play, i don't want to be any part of any deceit....if i play in clubs and partys i ask both people if it is okay... if it private meets i talk to both.. especially if i am meeting her on my own...
like i said my conscience is clear and i have seen what adultery does to people first hand.... my mum was on the receiving end of it from my dad.......
sean xxxxxxxxxx
I can believe the bit about the clubs! - But if you were approached by a lady - whereever - you would enter into a question and answer session to find out if she was married????????????????
