We asked for advice and are so very pleased we got it. Thank you all for your kind words.
Having read your intuitive messages we’ve had a rethink. We decided that the point raised about playing with friends is too important for us to ignore. Having thought through all of the possible connections if things went wrong, we realise it was too risky. It’s clear we hadn’t thought this through properly and we need to slow down.
We’re having a proper ol’ natter about what it is we’re doing this for and what we do want and don’t want to see happen. The big idea is for us to have great times with each other and the truth is we’re having that right now just by reading and thinking about you horny buggers.
We’ll take things a bit more steadily and make sure we know what each step means to us as a couple. When we talked through all of your messages last night we realised that there are several important points we haven’t discussed fully. As long as we can learn from you all and ask each other the right questions we’ll be alright.
We’ve postponed Friday night for now (Sorry to anyone who was looking forward to the gory details:-) ).
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gezntez
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Straight Female, 58
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Top class considerate replies, thank you and hello. There really is an awful lot of warmth on this forum.
There’s no doubt about it, a big dilemma I have is "what happens when it’s time for another fella to get involved." I’m pretty sure I’ll be fine, no I’m not, yes I am, no I’m not, yes I……….
I genuinely do like the idea and think I’ll be fine if and when an mfm (mffm?) happens but how can I tell for sure? I’ve great confidence in our relationship but the fact is we’ve never done anything like this before.
Our friend lives some way from us now and we see her only occasionally. I know it may seem callous to risk the friendship but tez thinks it’ll be fine and it seems much easier to begin with someone we both know and find attractive, rather than trying to find someone new.
I hope I don’t sound like too big a wimp, I’m really not usually, but with so little time I wanted to put my questions out here and take the best advice I can before, erm, taking the plunge.
P.S. I will definitely come back to let you know what happens, de-briefing or not.
Gez
There’s no doubt about it, a big dilemma I have is "what happens when it’s time for another fella to get involved." I’m pretty sure I’ll be fine, no I’m not, yes I am, no I’m not, yes I……….
I genuinely do like the idea and think I’ll be fine if and when an mfm (mffm?) happens but how can I tell for sure? I’ve great confidence in our relationship but the fact is we’ve never done anything like this before.
Our friend lives some way from us now and we see her only occasionally. I know it may seem callous to risk the friendship but tez thinks it’ll be fine and it seems much easier to begin with someone we both know and find attractive, rather than trying to find someone new.
I hope I don’t sound like too big a wimp, I’m really not usually, but with so little time I wanted to put my questions out here and take the best advice I can before, erm, taking the plunge.
P.S. I will definitely come back to let you know what happens, de-briefing or not.
Gez
Hi all,
I've been lurking on here for a little while and am now breaking my forum virginity, cos I may be about to break my swinging virginity.
Recently, my darling wife and I began a tentative conversation about how we both felt about swinging. We’ve been together for more than 20 yrs and are childhood sweethearts (aaaahhh (rarely aaaargh)). The conversation remained fairly neutral but ended with us having some of the best sex we have had in a long time.
A few days later I went looking for some info on the web and discovered this most excellent website. It’s been a real eye-opener finding so many like minded people and your postings have helped me to continue the conversation. I even printed some of the stories for us to read and enjoy. Our Sex life has been fantastic over the last few weeks.
This week I’ve received an enormous shock. My wife has gone ahead and arranged for a friend of ours to come to our house this Friday night with the intention of us both having fun with her. Just like that.
The friend is a gorgeous little thing and great fun. I’ve always known that she is a bit lively and believe she has some group sex experience. I never expected to get this opportunity and I didn't expect things would move so quickly. I’m very nervous and tremendously excited.
This is such a big step for my wife and I, one part of me says we may be going too fast whilst another part of me says we might as well just go for it. I’m taking nothing for granted and don’t even know if we should or will go through with it.
Would anyone care to offer any advice or pointers to help ensure the evening goes well? TIA.
Gez
P.S. I feel a bit cheeky asking for help in my first post but promise to contribute back to the site when I can.
I've been lurking on here for a little while and am now breaking my forum virginity, cos I may be about to break my swinging virginity.
Recently, my darling wife and I began a tentative conversation about how we both felt about swinging. We’ve been together for more than 20 yrs and are childhood sweethearts (aaaahhh (rarely aaaargh)). The conversation remained fairly neutral but ended with us having some of the best sex we have had in a long time.
A few days later I went looking for some info on the web and discovered this most excellent website. It’s been a real eye-opener finding so many like minded people and your postings have helped me to continue the conversation. I even printed some of the stories for us to read and enjoy. Our Sex life has been fantastic over the last few weeks.
This week I’ve received an enormous shock. My wife has gone ahead and arranged for a friend of ours to come to our house this Friday night with the intention of us both having fun with her. Just like that.
The friend is a gorgeous little thing and great fun. I’ve always known that she is a bit lively and believe she has some group sex experience. I never expected to get this opportunity and I didn't expect things would move so quickly. I’m very nervous and tremendously excited.
This is such a big step for my wife and I, one part of me says we may be going too fast whilst another part of me says we might as well just go for it. I’m taking nothing for granted and don’t even know if we should or will go through with it.
Would anyone care to offer any advice or pointers to help ensure the evening goes well? TIA.
Gez
P.S. I feel a bit cheeky asking for help in my first post but promise to contribute back to the site when I can.
