me & snow_white were talking about having an orgy, but have only vague (though filthy) ideas about how to do it... we reckon we have a few friends who'd be up for it, so that side's covered, but we could do with a little expert advice on how to make it go with a, erm, swing?
so, any ideas? how do we get everyone in the mood? do we just get people to strip on the door & dive in, or have party games and canapes first? any pitfalls to avoid? obviously there's not necessarily any hard & fast rules, but i've found it's always best to learn from other people's experiences before leaping in head first...
dunno what the linking policy is here, so i'll break it... www. is worth the occasional ramble through... loads of shit on there, but some good stuff too.
i was reading somewhere freud's theory regarding kinky sex - 'fetishism is the eroticisation of the repression'... now while i don't believe it is necessarily true that everything freud says regarding fetishism is necesarily true (that fetishistic sex is in fact indicative an undeveloped, infantilised sexuality), it did occur to me that a good portion of pervs i know (myself included) come from strict religious backgrounds, where sex is generally seen as sinful and/or dirty.
while i'm not quite blessed with the self awareness to work out whether my own predilictions are a rebellion against my background, or indeed whether the disgust catholicism seems to feel about sex has in fact stunted & perverted my sexuality, i would be interested in knowing whether a religious upbringing is as common in the wider perv community as it is amongst the pervs i know - and how much influence people feel this has this had on their bedroom activities?
just curious...
hans
non-smokers spunk tastes better too.
apparently...
i used to have the same problem until friday night.
after that, i'd have to say it's down to technique.
<smug>
taschen have a wicked book of erotica through the ages called 'erotica universalis' (i think)... they do quite a lot of reasonably priced dirty pic books too.
for 50s pin ups though, it's got to be gil elvgren.
another vote for eric stanton here... basicly he has defined fetish art over the past 50 years. i have a massive book of his stuff, and some of the early stuff makes your eyes water more than the later...
probably all too busy shagging, don't you think?
you can tell your grandad's scottish... we are talking about the home of the deep-fried mars bar & pizza after all. :shock:
saying which, it sounds nice. might give it a go next year if i remember... the sweet/savoury combo is always a winner.
forums are definately the best places to get to know people on the web - you can build up a decent knowledge of peoples tastes & senses of humour etc before having to commit to anything at all...
as an afterthought, words mean different things depending depending on the people and communities using them - being a straight(ish) white boy, it would not be acceptable to use words like & queer - the same should also apply to pervert?
i'm glad the semi-serious nature of the thread has been noticed - my take on it is that people who are liberated sexually are more likely to be easy-going and relaxed in other ways simply through the processes the person has to go through to achieve liberation...
someone who is trusting enough to share themselves and their partner with other people must by their very nature be the same elsewhere - we all know how so many non-sexual hang ups and neuroses can spring from a sexual base, and how integral our sexuality is to our very personalities. It makes sense to me that the opposite is true, that those who are comfortable sexually are comfortable in the rest of their lives.
as for the word 'pervert', why can't it be claimed as ours anyway? if homosexuals can reclaim 'queer', and african-americans can reclaim ' ', then 'pervert' strikes me as ripe for the picking...
hans x
ahh, wanking, nipple clamps... feels like home already... :shock:
