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helnheaven
Over 90 days ago
Bi-curious Female, 67
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Quote by Freckledbird
Just had a thought - I posted a thread a while ago and asked for it to be deleted. Not because of any problem with it here, or anything that was said on it - but for shenanigans elsewhere by a nasty old sock puppet and the chance that nastiness could be continued here.

lol
You do have a way with words
Quote by Warmer
holy guacamole I have to take my large one with my mush shut..good job i took contortionists for beginners..not to be confused with the gurners class,that was for the very lipflexy minority confused

Now thats what I call a flexible friend lol
Quote by woohoo
I really could do with a stiff one tonight after the week Ive had

Steps up to the plate cool 8-)
redface :giggle:
Want me to hold the stepladders?
Quote by TanKinky

I say NO benefits to any immigrant that has NOT contributed to this country for at least 6 months. Why do these people travel through 5 or 6 countries to get here? For the benefits we give them....free.

I have to agree boink
It used to be that after a period of time unemployed that your benefits were reduced in an attempt to encourage you back to work....
Is this still the case dunno
You are sanctioned now. If you refuse to go to interviews/work placements/training courses, in other words, refuse help and refuse to help yourself, JSA is stopped
If i dont attend a 6 monthly interview my benefits just stop, but there is a bit more to it than that,
The last one i got was for pm?? erm yeah ok cant do that and phones to change it they tell me another appointment is in the post. Get the appointment now for after id explaned anytime between 3 and 4 was difficult for the kids coming home from school fair enough point i thought.
Rings up to say cant make that one, gets told if i DO NOT attend this interview my benefits will be stopped. Your punished if you cant make silly appointment times. So what am i supposed to do, why just take my son out of school early or arrange someone to watch him :doh:
Dont get me wrong i agree with the interviews but i am at home all day long why send appointments when they know kids are coming home from school
I know its difficult when you have small kids Tan. The problem is, the way the system is structured it offers no leeway. When you 'sign on' you are declaring that you are available for work at any time. The office who deals with claims, takes this statement quite literally and expects you to be available for anythingat any time. You could try asking to speak the the Manager and explain the situation but in my experience, you wont get very far sad
Quote by Steve

I say NO benefits to any immigrant that has NOT contributed to this country for at least 6 months. Why do these people travel through 5 or 6 countries to get here? For the benefits we give them....free.

I have to agree boink
It used to be that after a period of time unemployed that your benefits were reduced in an attempt to encourage you back to work....
Is this still the case dunno
You are sanctioned now. If you refuse to go to interviews/work placements/training courses, in other words, refuse help and refuse to help yourself, JSA is stopped
Quote by winchwench

Baggy flares
or
skinny fit

Skinny fit
Croissants or Pain au Chocolat?
Pain au Chocolat
To be
or
Not to be?
Quote by kentswingers777
Kent ... just a hint what's the thread post lol

I know that suede, was playing. :lol: :lol: Well I should know....it's my bloody thread. biggrin
Ah so you do then :lol:
Quote by Zeddies
Unless Im very much mistaken, Mods are entitled to their opinions just like any other member here

So are bullies too....
confused rolleyes
Quote by Zeddies
I think there are enough bullies that form little gangs, if you disagree with their posts they and their friends bully you.
mad :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x

Ah you mean like you tried to with me a couple of nights ago when the thread was pulled???
I did not bully you.... or get anyone to bully you... I think this proves my point
Which is? You have a point? rolleyes
Quote by Sassy-Seren
I have it tattooed on mi forehead :gagged:

same here rolleyes
Tut n I thought I was unique lol
Quote by kentswingers777
I have it tattooed on mi forehead :gagged:

Have what? lol
:giggle:
Not telling innocent
Quote by Zeddies
I think there are enough bullies that form little gangs, if you disagree with their posts they and their friends bully you.
mad :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x

Ah you mean like you tried to with me a couple of nights ago when the thread was pulled???
Unless Im very much mistaken, Mods are entitled to their opinions just like any other member here
Quote by fabio
At risk of being controversial for the second time today.......................
There are without doubt people who regularly play and who are on this Site, but by the same token you only have to read the post history of some of the most prolific posters to see that there are some who are not 'players' but who regard this forum as a good adult chat room and no more. Verifying members will have the effect of 'outing' the prolific posters who offer opinions on every thread that is started but who are not actually Swingers.
If you knpow of the other two Swinging Sites - one internatonal and one more local then you will know that the verification and activity controls that they have in place means that you are far more likely to have success in meetings than on here but by the same token the Sites perhaps do not have the same commercial value that this one has because they keep theirs specific and relevant.
maybe if you viewed this Site simply as an adult site where you may well meet up with someone rather than a dedicated swingers dating site then you will not be disappointed.
Good luck and welcome - Love the bike by the way.

alarm bells here just went off all over the place
really................ oh boy where do i start without it looking like i am going to flame.....
I am sorry... but what you have written for the most part is a ton of tosh and most of what you said was true then why the hell would you be here, my god, it have really annoyed me!!!
so in the last week there are 5 pages of meets in lets meet up that have been posted..... and 2 pages of meets in the dogging section, so there must be something going on... and then add the ads on top of that...... hmmmmmm,
the bit in red........right, do you have any proof to back that up, because to make that kind of sweeping generalisation, it had better be 100% conclusive........
I am suggesting that while people may spend time on the forum, you could find people who spend as much time in the chatrooms, and because they don't leave a "lasting footprint" like the forums do, you wouldn't even think of making that assertion....
the bit in blue..... if you have read the various debates that have taken place here in the last couple of years about "varification" you would know that it is as much about privacy and discretion as anything else....the fact that people can pick and choose what they show, the fact that people who have been genuine reasons for cancelling, or may not have clicked, may be call timewasters...... there are a million reason,
I am suggesting that a whole lot more goes on behind the site that you or I will ever know about..... but because people don't advertise the fact that they have played with W,X,Y and Z, or are varified by A,B,C,or D, I wouldn't care to make assumptions about anyone......
:thumbup:
Thats kinda what I wanted to say but didnt want to look like a woman possessed lol
Quote by Too Hot
At risk of being controversial for the second time today.......................
There are without doubt people who regularly play and who are on this Site, but by the same token you only have to read the post history of some of the most prolific posters to see that there are some who are not 'players' but who regard this forum as a good adult chat room and no more. Verifying members will have the effect of 'outing' the prolific posters who offer opinions on every thread that is started but who are not actually Swingers.
If you knpow of the other two Swinging Sites - one internatonal and one more local then you will know that the verification and activity controls that they have in place means that you are far more likely to have success in meetings than on here but by the same token the Sites perhaps do not have the same commercial value that this one has because they keep theirs specific and relevant.
maybe if you viewed this Site simply as an adult site where you may well meet up with someone rather than a dedicated swingers dating site then you will not be disappointed.
Good luck and welcome - Love the bike by the way.

:shock:
What gives anyone the right to 'out' anyone for whatever the reason??? Some people like to be discreet about their activities.
So much for the swinging community being 'non judgemental rolleyes
Still, this lets others know who they can trust to be discreet and who they cant eh
Has it ever occured to you that just because someone doesent want to play that it may simply be because they dont want to at that particular time,or that they dont find a particular person/s attractive, or or that they simply dont want to play with people who may 'out' them
Quote by Steve
Well I saw it in time- bribes to PM box innocent

I know it anyway and I'm waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay cheaper than Winchy smile
How much cheaper? :giggle:
Almost free :whistling:
Almost ? :notes:
Quote by Steve
Well I saw it in time- bribes to PM box innocent

I know it anyway and I'm waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay cheaper than Winchy smile
How much cheaper? :giggle:
Quote by Toricat
Thats confirmed it!
There is NO sister site cos if there were Mrs FB would know about it :giggle:
Wish the O P would come back and enlighten us all.

Lol the sister site is xxxxxxxx xxxxxxxx and no it's not a dating site.
Thanks for the welcome everyone.
hmmmm interesting to read all your replies. As I said we've been swinging for 3 years and yes the site we're on operates a verification and a feedback system. Nobody ever slates anyone else because the comments made are vetted by the admin/moderator team before they appear on profiles. Although really, all we would want is to know that people are who they say they are. There are so many fake profiles around these days.
Oh well, it'll be down to us to use our experience and good old messenger to determine that on here.
Thanks for all your replies.
mwahxxxxxxxxxx Tori xxxxxxxxxx smile
Mod Edit: sorry we cannot advertise other swinging sites :lol2:
You are such a spoil sport!! So is it related to SH? I guess not eh?
Winchy what do you want? Name it, its yours!! lol
Thats confirmed it!
There is NO sister site cos if there were Mrs FB would know about it :giggle:
Wish the O P would come back and enlighten us all.
Quote by kentswingers777
Its the most un-sincerest word in the language.
Those that demand apologies Ive found are usually the most un-sincerest and arrogant of people.
Think about it, how many times a day do you say sorry and actually mean it?
Some stranger walks past and bumps into you and says sorry. Are they genuinely sorry? Are they hell, they just use the word cos they think its polite and it gets them on their way a bit quicker than an arguement if the person they have bumped into isnt in a very good mood. You ring up some customer service advisor with a complaint. They say "terribly sorry madam" are they sorry? Are they hell, they just want to get some moaner off the phone.
When a genuine apology is warranted, you can bet yer arse you aint gonna get one!

Ya old misery guts. lol :lol: :lol: xx
Nothing further from the truth. Its as I see it.
Quote by blonde
Sister Site? What Sister Site? confused

Where all the subs go - it's run my Mother Superior! :twisted:
Don't think it's Dating Heaven - is it?
.
Havent a clue Chooney. Didnt know SH had a Swinging Sister Site
If you find out ............ let me in on the secret! :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

It either dont exist or those who know, are remaining tight lipped rolleyes
If I find out, I'll give yer a nudge wink
I used to live in hope of finding 'the one' rolleyes
I gave up a long time ago. Im of the opinion if ya look ya dont find, so Ive given up looking
Quote by noladreams30
I don't know. Can you know? dunno
I mean in the past there has been an occasion where I thought I knew. Turns out I couldn't have been further from the mark... I was well and truly shafted and my heart broken.
I'm not so sure anymore. Maybe I'm just cynical. Maybe I'll change my mind and know the answer one day. I just don't envisage meeting someone and having that 'moment' of love at first sight.
Oh bugger it, I'm off to sit in a corner and be unromantic all by myself...
Rest of you carry on with the nice stuff! rolleyes

Room for one more?
Quote by westerross
Sister Site? What Sister Site? confused

Where all the subs go - it's run my Mother Superior! :twisted:
Don't think it's Dating Heaven - is it?
.
Havent a clue Chooney. Didnt know SH had a Swinging Sister Site
Its the most un-sincerest word in the language.
Those that demand apologies Ive found are usually the most un-sincerest and arrogant of people.
Think about it, how many times a day do you say sorry and actually mean it?
Some stranger walks past and bumps into you and says sorry. Are they genuinely sorry? Are they hell, they just use the word cos they think its polite and it gets them on their way a bit quicker than an arguement if the person they have bumped into isnt in a very good mood. You ring up some customer service advisor with a complaint. They say "terribly sorry madam" are they sorry? Are they hell, they just want to get some moaner off the phone.
When a genuine apology is warranted, you can bet yer arse you aint gonna get one!