From a bloke's point of view, you can't be too careful about a subject like this. After all, you girls don't like it when we make less than flattering comments about your waistlines... nuff said.
On the other hand, don't go do far round the block to avoid offence, that he hasn't a clue what you're really talking about.
So don't bother with a big meal beforehand then say, 'we've got to talk', otherwise he'll think you're dumping him.
Just sit him down, no distractions, and say you're not happy, why you're not happy, and why you think the root reason is. Then tell him you love him, and want to stay with him. This is important to make him emotionally secure.
One last thing. If he hints the problem might be yours, don't hit the roof and assume he's trying to start a fight. he may even have a point, so keep an open mind.
Good luck!
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hotrod39
Over 90 days ago
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Totally spot-on, Pololady... lovely story, beautifully told :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup:
I'll add my own.
This goes back a few years, in the days when there was such a place as the Soviet Union. I was a kid, on a criuse-ship full of kids that was sailing for Leningrad (now St Petersburg). A couple of days before we docked, we were joined by some Russian teachers :jagsatwork: :jagsatwork: to tell us about the USSR.
They told us that when we docked, there would be some speeches of welcome on teh quayside by 'volunteer' Russian kids. :welcome: Were there any volunteers amongst us to make speeches in reply? They got a couple of girls, who spoke Russian, but no guys. So I thought I'd have a go.
"How much Russian do you speak?" asked one of the Russians.
"Not a word," I replied. She gave me a funny look. :confused: So she wrote out a speech for me in phonetic English. All I had to do was read what was on the card.... easy...
So the ship docked, with what looked like half Leningrad on the quayside to welcome us, oompah band, the lot. And there was a podium with microphones... too late to back out now... One swift change of underwear later, I trooped off the ship with the girls and climbed on to the podium. Then it was my turn to speak... 1,000 people hanging on my every word...
The speech was an unqualified disaster. :embarrased: :embarrased: :embarrased: I mangled the poor Russian language but completely. But I carried on and finished... somehow.
When I got back on board, I asked my friends how they thought it went... Turned out that they never understood a word that was said, in English or Russian :confused: :confused: :confused: ... the Soviet PA equipment was so crap, it turned everyone's speech into gibberish.
I headed for the nearest alcoholic drink - I needed it.
I'll add my own.
This goes back a few years, in the days when there was such a place as the Soviet Union. I was a kid, on a criuse-ship full of kids that was sailing for Leningrad (now St Petersburg). A couple of days before we docked, we were joined by some Russian teachers :jagsatwork: :jagsatwork: to tell us about the USSR.
They told us that when we docked, there would be some speeches of welcome on teh quayside by 'volunteer' Russian kids. :welcome: Were there any volunteers amongst us to make speeches in reply? They got a couple of girls, who spoke Russian, but no guys. So I thought I'd have a go.
"How much Russian do you speak?" asked one of the Russians.
"Not a word," I replied. She gave me a funny look. :confused: So she wrote out a speech for me in phonetic English. All I had to do was read what was on the card.... easy...
So the ship docked, with what looked like half Leningrad on the quayside to welcome us, oompah band, the lot. And there was a podium with microphones... too late to back out now... One swift change of underwear later, I trooped off the ship with the girls and climbed on to the podium. Then it was my turn to speak... 1,000 people hanging on my every word...
The speech was an unqualified disaster. :embarrased: :embarrased: :embarrased: I mangled the poor Russian language but completely. But I carried on and finished... somehow.
When I got back on board, I asked my friends how they thought it went... Turned out that they never understood a word that was said, in English or Russian :confused: :confused: :confused: ... the Soviet PA equipment was so crap, it turned everyone's speech into gibberish.
I headed for the nearest alcoholic drink - I needed it.
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Stone me - did I see the same 'King Kong' everyone else saw and hated???
This was brilliant :thumbup: - Peter Jackson really knows how to get his actors to put in performances that aren't drowned by the special effects. I mean - you try staring into thin air and look terrified! :eeek: :eeek:
Jackson was faithful to the original, but he got his own message across - that the Depression made beasts of people. That was my take on the significance of the opening shots of the soup kitchens in Central Park.
Still, Jackson wisely glossed over the sillier parts of the story - I mean, how did a handful of survivors get ten tons of gently snoring gorilla :taz: out of the cave and onto the ship? :confused: :confused: :confused: :confused:
This was brilliant :thumbup: - Peter Jackson really knows how to get his actors to put in performances that aren't drowned by the special effects. I mean - you try staring into thin air and look terrified! :eeek: :eeek:
Jackson was faithful to the original, but he got his own message across - that the Depression made beasts of people. That was my take on the significance of the opening shots of the soup kitchens in Central Park.
Still, Jackson wisely glossed over the sillier parts of the story - I mean, how did a handful of survivors get ten tons of gently snoring gorilla :taz: out of the cave and onto the ship? :confused: :confused: :confused: :confused:
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Quote by raunchyrabbits
You've got that completely arse-about-face, you should ONLY attempt swinging if you ARE 100% happy with each other and you DO love each other 100%, otherwise you are going to run into BIG problems (not just big cocks).
Too right, Mr & Mrs Rabbit. Unfortunately, you do come across couples who have very different agendas - trying to shore up a shaky marriage, or where the husband has bludgeoned his unwilling and unhappy wife into something she detests.
That's why I always take time to find out people's motives when I meet them for the first time - hopefully without sounding like Inspector Morse.
It isn't just single males who can be timewasters, I'm afraid. :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
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...and that's a very good plan, SurreyNewbie. I'm fairly new myself (although I'm far from being a swinging virgin), so I am still getting myself known.
The problem all us single blokes have is that there are far too many timewasters / fantasists / wannabees / pic collectors out there, so we are all tarred with the same brush - guilty unless proven innocent. It's tough, but that's the way it is.
All I can say is, keep plugging away - they're bound to run out of men at some stage...
The problem all us single blokes have is that there are far too many timewasters / fantasists / wannabees / pic collectors out there, so we are all tarred with the same brush - guilty unless proven innocent. It's tough, but that's the way it is.
All I can say is, keep plugging away - they're bound to run out of men at some stage...
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I reckon wbchris is thinking of himself rather than his wife (sorry girls - that's us blokes all over 
) - so what he really wants to know is - would his wife leave him if she discovered how good it is with a big cock inside her???
Hmmmm
If his wife is like the vast majority of women I know, she'll cum for the big cock but stay for the personality...
so it's up to you, old son - do you reckon you are such a loveable human being your wife will stay with you, even if some guy with a big cock gives her the ride of a lifetime???
Your call... :rascal:
) - so what he really wants to know is - would his wife leave him if she discovered how good it is with a big cock inside her???Hmmmm
If his wife is like the vast majority of women I know, she'll cum for the big cock but stay for the personality...
so it's up to you, old son - do you reckon you are such a loveable human being your wife will stay with you, even if some guy with a big cock gives her the ride of a lifetime???
Your call... :rascal:
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If you want to fit in and really get yourself accepted by the locals, make sure to ask for a deep-fried Mars bar to accompany your pint of Newcastle Brown.
Oh, yes - the wind that whips in from the North Sea comes straight from Siberia. So make sure you're wearing your fur-lined knickers, otherwise Mrs. Rabbit is going to be a very frustrated little bunny up there... :taz:
Have fun
Oh, yes - the wind that whips in from the North Sea comes straight from Siberia. So make sure you're wearing your fur-lined knickers, otherwise Mrs. Rabbit is going to be a very frustrated little bunny up there... :taz:
Have fun
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Hi Rob
Good question - cock shots? Yesss, it's all so passé, dahling.. :yawn:
It should not be too hard to get a photo that shows something of your personality as well as your physical appearance, but security is important.
My view is that any photo published on the net is in the public domain, no matter how secure or private the website might be. So the rule (as I see it) is simple: if you don't want your boss / customers / mother-in-law to see it, don't publish.
A head 'n' shoulders shot isn't compromising, nor is a 'look what I've got between my legs' shot (artistically, that's another matter :embarrased: ); but full frontal, legs spread and say 'cheese' for the camera... I'd say you should think very carefully.
But why is it always men that get it in the neck? Look at the photos for couples / single women, and there's enough loving closeups there for a gynaecologists' convention. Isn't sauce for the goose sauce for the gander???
Good question - cock shots? Yesss, it's all so passé, dahling.. :yawn:
It should not be too hard to get a photo that shows something of your personality as well as your physical appearance, but security is important.
My view is that any photo published on the net is in the public domain, no matter how secure or private the website might be. So the rule (as I see it) is simple: if you don't want your boss / customers / mother-in-law to see it, don't publish.
A head 'n' shoulders shot isn't compromising, nor is a 'look what I've got between my legs' shot (artistically, that's another matter :embarrased: ); but full frontal, legs spread and say 'cheese' for the camera... I'd say you should think very carefully.
But why is it always men that get it in the neck? Look at the photos for couples / single women, and there's enough loving closeups there for a gynaecologists' convention. Isn't sauce for the goose sauce for the gander???
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I'm fairly new to SH as well, so with that 'health warning' firmly in mind..
I endorse Steph's advice - put yourself about a bit in the forums.
I'll add what others have already said: that the key is to get to know people socially first. As you've swung already, you'll know why. Try to get on the munches and other social events. Problem is, the munches get booked up yonks in advance... could be a long wait... :taz:
Anyway, keep your eyes peeled, and enjoy... it seems to be a lively crowd here
David
I endorse Steph's advice - put yourself about a bit in the forums.
I'll add what others have already said: that the key is to get to know people socially first. As you've swung already, you'll know why. Try to get on the munches and other social events. Problem is, the munches get booked up yonks in advance... could be a long wait... :taz:
Anyway, keep your eyes peeled, and enjoy... it seems to be a lively crowd here
David
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Hi
Just like to say I went along to the lunch - had a great time, meeting fellow SHers.
As I'm new to SH, it was the perfect way to start to get to know people... and that's what it's all about, isn't it?
Thank you, Chardonnay, for organising it - power to your elbow!
Happy Christmas, everybody!
Just like to say I went along to the lunch - had a great time, meeting fellow SHers.
As I'm new to SH, it was the perfect way to start to get to know people... and that's what it's all about, isn't it?
Thank you, Chardonnay, for organising it - power to your elbow!
Happy Christmas, everybody!
