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little__gem
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 44
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Well, gorgeously yours, I have strayed into the world of BDSM without a submissive bone in my body and did really badly at being submissive! To the point where I ended up sat with the group of dominants and switches who were testing out different equipment on each other to see what it would feel like on their submissives. It was done in such a way as it was like comparing different brands of chocolate for the taste. Quite a surreal experience but one that I really enjoyed. I think you have to be in the right head space to be able to take it seriously.
Due to formative experiences in my first sexual relationship which was BDSM and controlling (me sub, him dom) aged 18, which actually turned abusive and violent beyond all consent, I have issues with relinquishing control to a male telling me what to do sexually unless I deeply trust and love them. When we've tried it in the past in a wonderful relationship I've still ended up being the one in charge in spite of feeling like I could trust him with my life. It is something I have been interested in but I just don't think I have the will to go back to that kind of mindset. Then, from the people I've met in the BDSM scene, I encountered too many people who I thought were jumped up arseholes claiming to be a 'dominant' just to make themselves feel better and beat the shit out of someone for the sake, because they could. I've seen it happen and lived it too which makes me deeply uncomfortable, not something I want to repeat.
I found parts of the first book very difficult to deal with because of these experiences and am really struggling to understand why a lot of my vanilla friends are cooing over Christian Grey with all his ways. Maybe I'm just too independant for my own good or it's that my fingers were metaphorically burned badly in my own experience at the hands of a Grey kind of character? Who knows.
LG. x
Due to formative experiences in my first sexual relationship which was BDSM and controlling (me sub, him dom) aged 18, which actually turned abusive and violent beyond all consent, I have issues with relinquishing control to a male telling me what to do sexually unless I deeply trust and love them. When we've tried it in the past in a wonderful relationship I've still ended up being the one in charge in spite of feeling like I could trust him with my life. It is something I have been interested in but I just don't think I have the will to go back to that kind of mindset. Then, from the people I've met in the BDSM scene, I encountered too many people who I thought were jumped up arseholes claiming to be a 'dominant' just to make themselves feel better and beat the shit out of someone for the sake, because they could. I've seen it happen and lived it too which makes me deeply uncomfortable, not something I want to repeat.
I found parts of the first book very difficult to deal with because of these experiences and am really struggling to understand why a lot of my vanilla friends are cooing over Christian Grey with all his ways. Maybe I'm just too independant for my own good or it's that my fingers were metaphorically burned badly in my own experience at the hands of a Grey kind of character? Who knows.
LG. x
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Quote by Sexi_n_Bright
I've read the first two and am now on to the third. I'm beginning to be irritated by the overuse of certain words and ways she describes things,
Inner Goddess by any chance.......
The 'Inner Goddess' thing doesn't bother me so much as I imagine them being actual little characters like a mini demon and mini angel on her shoulders. It's more the constant use of 'mercurial', describing his grey eyes (yep, they're grey, I got it the first time in the first book), 'running his hands over my sex' what? Haha! A real laugh out loud moment there with that one but at least the words 'pussy' or 'fanny' weren't used. I'm sure as I get through the final instalment I will have added to that list of irritation.
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Quote by neilinleeds
I may have a copy kicking around here somewhere. A borrowed one I hasten to add.
You're welcome.
I've read the first two and am now on to the third. I'm beginning to be irritated by the overuse of certain words and ways she describes things, but I'm hooked into the storyline and almost desperate to know she lives happily ever after. To the point where I needed to know so much I've read the last page of the final instalment of the trilogy to see. I'm a sucker for needing to know what happens.
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Depends on how much I want the person and what the situation is.
I remember my first kiss with someone who I had wanted since I first laid eyes on them. It was passionate, hard, breathy, lots of pressing bodies against each other, running hands over one another to get hold of clothing & remove it, nibbling of lips, low growls. Hot. We continued having nights like that now and then that turned from gentle soft love making into hot and horny frantic growly sex occasionally and vice versa.
Other times it is slower and more sensual, lots of tippy tongues, gentle circles, lip sucks, gentle nibbles, hands running through hair & down the nape of the neck to the shoulders, caresses and teases. Neck nibbles and kisses are a winner.
Both are fab... well I think so.
I remember my first kiss with someone who I had wanted since I first laid eyes on them. It was passionate, hard, breathy, lots of pressing bodies against each other, running hands over one another to get hold of clothing & remove it, nibbling of lips, low growls. Hot. We continued having nights like that now and then that turned from gentle soft love making into hot and horny frantic growly sex occasionally and vice versa.
Other times it is slower and more sensual, lots of tippy tongues, gentle circles, lip sucks, gentle nibbles, hands running through hair & down the nape of the neck to the shoulders, caresses and teases. Neck nibbles and kisses are a winner.
Both are fab... well I think so.
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A bit of sunshine and knowing I have nowhere in particular to be for the next day or two.
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Whips, What a horrible experience and learning curve. Glad you got back OK.
SHrep does not account for lack of caring in other people and will not really replace gut instinct as to whether someone is going to be safe to meet or not. That is one of many reasons I do not have SHrep enabled.
LG.x
SHrep does not account for lack of caring in other people and will not really replace gut instinct as to whether someone is going to be safe to meet or not. That is one of many reasons I do not have SHrep enabled.
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Quote by paddy
:giggle: Made me smile too, thanks for posting that Paddy.
LG. x Sex God
Don't you lot dare to try to get Eurovision banned!
I love it.
Genuinely.
Would it be too much to admit I was at a Eurovision party with home made bunting and our very own score cards to rate or slate as you watch?
OK, I'll get my coat.
I love it.
Genuinely.
Would it be too much to admit I was at a Eurovision party with home made bunting and our very own score cards to rate or slate as you watch?
OK, I'll get my coat.
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Well, my gaydar is broken and I can't find any ball point pens...
Does this mean I'm fucked? (or not as the case may be?)
pst... GeeWizz, yes! Daydreaming is somewhat of a speciality of mine. :lol: I have the abilty to slip into some kind of time loop where I end up running behind schedule slightly, only slightly though and I'm never late
:angel:
Does this mean I'm fucked? (or not as the case may be?)
pst... GeeWizz, yes! Daydreaming is somewhat of a speciality of mine. :lol: I have the abilty to slip into some kind of time loop where I end up running behind schedule slightly, only slightly though and I'm never late
:angel:
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Quote by MidsCouple24
Some who say it doesn't matter in this thread are the same people who have said in other threads "no text speak" is that not a similar thing that they don't feel they would be in the same sort of social circle ?
Being in the same social circle and the same swinging circle can be two very different things for some people, depending on what they're looking for out of the scene. Social circles and swinging circles could be complete polar opposites, or could have a massive overlap depending on their interests, and a whole heap of other things.Yep, text speak in messages is quite often a "I have no idea what you're trying to say", as foxy just wrote. Personally, I feel the same about PM's. If I can't read what they're saying I am just going to junk it (only if it is truely terrible though, like they've just wiped their bum across the keyboard and then hit send!
). However, my specific point in the text thread was applied to the vanilla world and how it's especially un-nerving (for me particularly) when you get inappropriate messages or those typed in 'teenage style' text speak and how individuals reply to this. Especially when they're from someone you don't want to upset! LG. x Sex God
Completely agree Foxy. Any level of person can be either fabulous or not and this isn't always linked to CV.
Again, it's down to how people see others and how they form their views of what is or isn't interesting to them.
Regarding my comment about forums etc, I don't mind so much about spelling and grammar as the sentiment in what is written. Some people just aren't my kind of people. I guess that's what the Original Post was about, some things just don't float people's boat.
You only have to watch something like 'Take Me Out' on the telly to realise the complicated nature of attraction and what turns someone off can be something another may find trivial, still it's as valid to that particular person who has that as a turn off.
It's what makes people so darn interesting.
LG. x
Any level of person can be either fabulous or not and this isn't always linked to CV.Again, it's down to how people see others and how they form their views of what is or isn't interesting to them.
Regarding my comment about forums etc, I don't mind so much about spelling and grammar as the sentiment in what is written. Some people just aren't my kind of people. I guess that's what the Original Post was about, some things just don't float people's boat.
You only have to watch something like 'Take Me Out' on the telly to realise the complicated nature of attraction and what turns someone off can be something another may find trivial, still it's as valid to that particular person who has that as a turn off.
It's what makes people so darn interesting.
LG. x Sex God
Quote by Onthebeach_1
It seems to me that this site is littered with what could be termed Text speak. BBW, VWE or even VVWE where is the difference?
Quote by Onthebeach_1
but BBW or VWE are not acronyms they are initialisms surely, NASA, NATO, OPEC or QUANGO are. LOL is more of an acronym than BDSM.
So why did you ask then if you already swallowed the dictionary and Oxford definition of what's what? Hmmmm?
FYI - Initialisms are a specific form of acronym. Quote by Onthebeach_1
Are smileys txt spk?
I look forward to you answering your own question again. :giggle:
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This educated, not educated debate is one of the reasons I have always liked clubs. Their standard fluffy white towels and jaquzzi bubbles are such a leveller that people hardly ask what the other does for a living nor whether they have a degree in quantum physics from Harvard. It's just sex. Nothing more than a base physical attraction.
It's rather more complicated, of course, if you are one who is more turned on by cerebral gymnastics to gurn your loins. Then, being able to have a civilised conversation about something interesting, to all parts involved, is more central to the deal. Education can be important in this or not depending on what is being looked for; someone to make you laugh, a good story teller, an experienced traveller with worldly knowledge, a subject specialist who knows their stuff? Etc... Like the Meatball just wrote, some folk can have brilliantly interesting conversation skills from all kinds of backgrounds and all levels of education. Snobbery can also come from all levels of education and backgrounds.
I suppose it is all down to perspective and what someone is looking for at any given moment in time, what they want from this and how they usually look for their desires in order to fulfill them.
Personally, I don't rate SHrep, although I find it interesting. There is the who has verified whom; which would tell me lots about who I think the people are, where they've been and whether I'd/we'd like to be involved in that little bed notching claim. Same for the groups they've chosen to join and the adverts posted. Pictures tell me lots about what I think the person is like too, as do their posts in the forums or their banter in the chat rooms. Yes, the way someone posts in here can be deal breaker for us or a king maker where we wouldn't normally have looked.
LG. x
It's rather more complicated, of course, if you are one who is more turned on by cerebral gymnastics to gurn your loins. Then, being able to have a civilised conversation about something interesting, to all parts involved, is more central to the deal. Education can be important in this or not depending on what is being looked for; someone to make you laugh, a good story teller, an experienced traveller with worldly knowledge, a subject specialist who knows their stuff? Etc... Like the Meatball just wrote, some folk can have brilliantly interesting conversation skills from all kinds of backgrounds and all levels of education. Snobbery can also come from all levels of education and backgrounds.
I suppose it is all down to perspective and what someone is looking for at any given moment in time, what they want from this and how they usually look for their desires in order to fulfill them.
Personally, I don't rate SHrep, although I find it interesting. There is the who has verified whom; which would tell me lots about who I think the people are, where they've been and whether I'd/we'd like to be involved in that little bed notching claim. Same for the groups they've chosen to join and the adverts posted. Pictures tell me lots about what I think the person is like too, as do their posts in the forums or their banter in the chat rooms. Yes, the way someone posts in here can be deal breaker for us or a king maker where we wouldn't normally have looked.
LG. x Sex God
How can you loose a car? :shock: Not permanently! Good greif! I thought I had some dizzy moments, but blimey, you two make me feel like a professor!
Text speak... wrong! But especially wrong when my mother sends me text speak messages, including emails. She's one of the offenders with the jokes in messages where I cringe a lot and wince wondering how to tell her to stop. We fell out for a short time when I asked her to stop sending me emails that I found borderline offensive, she took umbridge and refused to speak to me for around a month. I'm just glad at her age she is techno-savvy, so try not to whinge too much. :lol:
Onthebeach.... The difference between acronyms and text speak is the 'BBW', 'VWE', 'BDSM', stand for the initials of the word, VWE = Very Well Endowed, where as text speak just contracts words to have a mixture of letters or symbols that make the same sound (ish) as the word, but it saves on space.
Knd v lke tis. ru getin wht i sy? Wht u doin l8r? Ru OK? CU sn.
LG. x
Text speak... wrong! But especially wrong when my mother sends me text speak messages, including emails. She's one of the offenders with the jokes in messages where I cringe a lot and wince wondering how to tell her to stop. We fell out for a short time when I asked her to stop sending me emails that I found borderline offensive, she took umbridge and refused to speak to me for around a month. I'm just glad at her age she is techno-savvy, so try not to whinge too much. :lol:
Onthebeach.... The difference between acronyms and text speak is the 'BBW', 'VWE', 'BDSM', stand for the initials of the word, VWE = Very Well Endowed, where as text speak just contracts words to have a mixture of letters or symbols that make the same sound (ish) as the word, but it saves on space.
Knd v lke tis. ru getin wht i sy? Wht u doin l8r? Ru OK? CU sn.
LG. x Sex God
Yeah, some of my friends do, and I still have a PAYG too.Guess I never really did use my mobile that much and still don't. Much to my friend's and family's dismay at times.
Three days is a long time to wait for a text reply! :lol:
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With all the information bombarded at us on a daily basis, the internet, work, emails, phone calls, text messages, status updates etc, are there certain things that make you feel a bit odd with the way it's sent?
For me, I find jokes awkward when sent to my phone. How on earth do you reply when you just simply either don't find them funny? Or, you laugh just one burst of incredulous 'oh dear, that was terrible' snorted laughter? And is it easier to reply when you do really belly laugh?
I don't feel odd or awkward when it's an email, because you can just ignore an email and not feel the slightest bit guilty nor bound to reply. However, it is another kettle of fish when it's not.
There is that whole personal thing of it being sent to your phone and the feeling that you have to give a reply, an approval, an acknowledgement of the other person bothering to send it to you, maybe even spending 8 - 14pence on the text to make you smile. Other than LOL (laugh out loud) what do you write without offending the sender?
'That wasn't funny.'
'Er... OK then.'
'Cheers.'
Is it just me that feels like this or am I being weird?
For me, I find jokes awkward when sent to my phone. How on earth do you reply when you just simply either don't find them funny? Or, you laugh just one burst of incredulous 'oh dear, that was terrible' snorted laughter? And is it easier to reply when you do really belly laugh?
I don't feel odd or awkward when it's an email, because you can just ignore an email and not feel the slightest bit guilty nor bound to reply. However, it is another kettle of fish when it's not.
There is that whole personal thing of it being sent to your phone and the feeling that you have to give a reply, an approval, an acknowledgement of the other person bothering to send it to you, maybe even spending 8 - 14pence on the text to make you smile. Other than LOL (laugh out loud) what do you write without offending the sender?
'That wasn't funny.'
'Er... OK then.'
'Cheers.'
Is it just me that feels like this or am I being weird?
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As a note... 'our kid' in Manchester is only used for family members and close friends you consider as family in an opening gambit while usually putting one's arm around them in a hug, usually in a sentance such as;
"y'alright ourkid?"
Or as a reference to asking something of someone, again usually a family member or close friend you consider as family;
"I'll ask ourkid if he's got one spare y' can borra"
LG. x
ps. I don't mind 'pet names' as long as it's polite and in context.
Patronising c*nts will be corrected to use my name and only my name, especially in work.
"y'alright ourkid?"
Or as a reference to asking something of someone, again usually a family member or close friend you consider as family;
"I'll ask ourkid if he's got one spare y' can borra"
LG. xps. I don't mind 'pet names' as long as it's polite and in context.
Patronising c*nts will be corrected to use my name and only my name, especially in work.
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Madonna - Justify My Love
Madonna - Human Nature
She did a whole raft of writhing around (now there's a change eh) and a ton of songs about sex/sexuality, but Human Nature is one of my favourites.
Actually, watching that video back, it seems she is wearing more clothes these days, contrary to popular belief, and the public thrusting she does these days is rather tame in comparison with her earlier 90's stuff.
Madonna - Human Nature
She did a whole raft of writhing around (now there's a change eh) and a ton of songs about sex/sexuality, but Human Nature is one of my favourites.
Actually, watching that video back, it seems she is wearing more clothes these days, contrary to popular belief, and the public thrusting she does these days is rather tame in comparison with her earlier 90's stuff.
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Marvin Gaye, Let's get it on.
LL Cool J - Hey Lover
East 17 - Deep
I can't believe nobody has put these yet...
Salt n Pepa - Push it
Salt n Pepa - Let's talk about sex
Hmmmm, OK, now that I've typed this out, I'm not surprised no-one listed these.
*hangs head in musical shame*
LL Cool J - Hey Lover
East 17 - Deep
I can't believe nobody has put these yet...
Salt n Pepa - Push it
Salt n Pepa - Let's talk about sex
Hmmmm, OK, now that I've typed this out, I'm not surprised no-one listed these.
*hangs head in musical shame*
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A sign of what? Madness?
So is having hairy palms. As is looking for them! ;)
So is having hairy palms. As is looking for them! ;)
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Yes, Skinny. Even my vibrators are pretty! ;)
You can get pink glittery sparkly ones these days!
Although my favourites are a purple glittery jelly vibrator and a slinky smooth opaque swirly silver vibrator. :lol:
LG. x
You can get pink glittery sparkly ones these days!
Although my favourites are a purple glittery jelly vibrator and a slinky smooth opaque swirly silver vibrator. :lol:
LG. x Sex God
I :love: the Gruffalo.
Brilliant children's book, fabulous TV animation.
Brilliant children's book, fabulous TV animation.
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Indeed, , the legendary HJ. Pops by now and then I am lead to believe.
Regards...
LG. x
Regards...
LG. x Sex God
Rediculous story. An orgy with three people? Since when?
Everyone who knows anything about anything would call that a threesome.
Skinny, your story is genuinely scary. I'm glad nothing worse happened and that you are left with just a cool story to tell.
Everyone who knows anything about anything would call that a threesome.
Skinny, your story is genuinely scary. I'm glad nothing worse happened and that you are left with just a cool story to tell.
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Quote by me, moi, myself, the waffler forumly known as Little Gem
Unlike some of the TV adaptations, I wish they'd just bury all the Bronte and Dickens adaptations for good. Why do we need 40 versions of 'pride & prejudice'? We don't. The books are bad enough.
I do believe I would lump 'Oliver Twist' into the above comment which I previously made. In room 101 it would be accompanied by Sense and Sensibilities, Emma, Great Expectations, Tess of the D'auberviles and little Women.
Although in a huge smack of irony, I really enjoy Downton Abbey. Although this doesn't count for this thread because it wasn't already a book before it was on screen.
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Bleeding EMO's... :giggle: OK, I shouldn't be thinking literally there, should I? Bad form. 
Anyway, we never went to the cinema to watch Twilight, it was on DVD. The new one hasn't been released yet on DVD, so you are correct that you appear to have escaped it. Although, you know you want to see Bella Swan get down and dirty with the vamp!
I found the end of time traveller's wife really difficult to watch, more so than the book I think. It was a tear jerking book and took me on an emotional roller coaster, but the film just made me feel really really sad.
Anyway, we never went to the cinema to watch Twilight, it was on DVD. The new one hasn't been released yet on DVD, so you are correct that you appear to have escaped it. Although, you know you want to see Bella Swan get down and dirty with the vamp!
I found the end of time traveller's wife really difficult to watch, more so than the book I think. It was a tear jerking book and took me on an emotional roller coaster, but the film just made me feel really really sad.
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Why thank you Fraser. 
It does have a fantastic sound track, not one can I pick out as a favourite over another because they all add something to the film.
*I am a pretty peice of flesh*
While I'm here... I was thinking about this wondering if there were any other book to film productions that I genuinely enjoyed and I couldn't not mention Harry Potter. I know it's devisive because some think it is all over-hyped bufoonery around a public school with added latin being thrown around in place of spells, but I did genuinely enjoy the films and the books.
Unlike some of the TV adaptations, I wish they'd just bury all the Bronte and Dickens adaptations for good. Why do we need 40 versions of 'pride & prejudice'? We don't. The books are bad enough.
*skips off to watch some films*
Tis snowing and housey weather don't you know!
It does have a fantastic sound track, not one can I pick out as a favourite over another because they all add something to the film.
*I am a pretty peice of flesh*
While I'm here... I was thinking about this wondering if there were any other book to film productions that I genuinely enjoyed and I couldn't not mention Harry Potter. I know it's devisive because some think it is all over-hyped bufoonery around a public school with added latin being thrown around in place of spells, but I did genuinely enjoy the films and the books.
Unlike some of the TV adaptations, I wish they'd just bury all the Bronte and Dickens adaptations for good. Why do we need 40 versions of 'pride & prejudice'? We don't. The books are bad enough.
*skips off to watch some films*
Tis snowing and housey weather don't you know!
