Quote by kentswingers777
I`m reminded of something Homer Simpson said ...
"If something`s hard to do .......it`s not worth doing"
In other words ...
"My headstrong, fourteen year old daughter is difficult to control.....so I`ll not bother "

With all due respect... my parents never ever took that attitude. I was the one who had to be in the earliest out of all my friends. I was the one who, when grounded, was not let away with anything. My folks did a pretty good job considering the shite I threw in their direction. I'm not saying I was a model child, I've already said I knew sod all but regardless of the discipline or the rules that were there, I broke them in whichever way I could. It's not something I'm particularly proud of. It's not something I necessarily regret though. The experiences I've had throughout my life have made me who I am and I can honestly say that my parents are proud of me.
I was one of the lucky ones. I never went home pregnant, I never caught an STI and I was never taken home by the police. None of that was through smartness on my part... it was mostly just fluke.
But my parents aren't to blame for my rebellion. I am. I'm not saying that woman was right or wrong, what I am saying is that I can understand. I know me. I know me incredibly well however I cannot say, hand on heart, that I would do as she did. I also cannot say, hand on heart, that I wouldn't.
Just as a question. If you was like that and of course you know a lot of what you did was wrong, I presume that you would do everything you could to stop your own child from doing the same to you, as you did to your own parents? :dunno:
Obviously I do not know you but have only read what you have said in the forums. Of course some kids will do what they can get away with, thats nature but....to allow ones child to do something they KNOW to be wrong, is well not being a real parent at all.
Your own parents did everything they could and still you went off the rails so to speak but....imagine how much worse it would have been had you had a parent like this Mother, and was allowed to do anything. The things you said you did not bring home, I wonder if that would still have been the case. :dunno:
There are many arguements here about the Mother, but I feel her motives stink, and until the law acts and is tough with this kind of thing, it will continue to breed parents like this.
At least you know you was wrong and as you say, your parents are proud of you so you must have turned out an ok adult.
:thumbup: to both of you.
I did exactly the same as DG, and my parents were exactly that- good parents- they did everything by the book, it wasn't them that made me rebel...(what they didn't know...)
But yes, Kent, if it was my daughter- no way in hell would she be doing that.
I can see the fact that a 14 yr old girl can and will do that whether you like it or not, but i can also see that in my eyes, she has failed as a mother by letting her do that openly.

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