i know lots of single men who do well on here, if you want to get meets you have to make a effort and i dont mean send out mail after mail i mean a real effort, get youtself known, go to socials get out there lol i think (and this is only my opinion) a lot of single men are just after sex and dont want to make the effort to go to socials etc cause they not getting a shag at the end of it, but when i'm looking to meet a single guy i will look to be meeting someone i have met b4 at a social etc, had a drink and a chat to, someone i already know i like and am attracted to and hopefully they are attracted to me too but if they have already met me they will know if they are and if they dont like me can say no thanks and save wasting a night meeting someone you dont even know you like, plus if they make a effort to go to socials you can pretty much be sure they will turn up, all the single guys i know who do well on here go to the socials and are happy to meet you for a drink without the expectation of playing.....i works in the long run and these guys usualy end up with regular play mates out if it
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naughtynymphos1
Over 90 days ago
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not sure how i would deal with that, personally speaking my children was not allowed out alone at 8 so its not a situation i would have ever been in at that age, saying that they are teenagers now and do go out with their m8s, if i cought them smoking i would hit them where it hurts most and take their pc, mobile etc off them because i know for a fact my kids would rather get a clip round the ear hole than loose their mobiles for a month so theres no fun in that lol
Quote by Freckledbird
i think this site alone has plenty you shall not do this you shall not do that, all manner of breaches of the AUP that can get you removed from here for the safety of others, and the ability to carry on swinging in a safe enviroment, yet still we have this SPC of turning a blind eye to what has been sugested as the most serious form of unsafe play...i wont put some little lol characters here as i fail to see the funny side at all in the consequences.
So what do you suggest should happen then? The site tell everyone they have to play more safely or be banned? Ban those who refuse to play safely, in the name of safety of other members? There's not really a lot that can be done is there?
People are aware (probably more aware when threads such as this arise) of the risks - it's still down to personal choice, how they play. If you know someone doesn't play as safely as you would like, you avoid them - it's that simple. If enough people shun them, they'll get the message and either play more safely or they'll have to stop.
if you even tried to do that all you would get is a situation where more people say they play safe when they don't
Quote by MikeNorth
i think it does yes, we have a lot of couples look down their noses at us cause we meet as singles as well, for some reason people think if your a couple who both swing you should only meet together and we have on many occasions had the male half of couples say to my hubby.....i wouldnt allow my mrs to go out meeting alone :shock: well most guys wouldnt let their mrs go out shagging at all, i find a lot of people who swing and i have to say mainly couples have so many opinions on how swinging should and shouldnt be done, the fact is there is no right or wrong way its simply what works for you
I agree totally NN, very well put. Another thing is the people who ONLY want to meet with people long-term, and look down their noses at people who have one-off meets.
oh i've had that too lol cause i said to someone in the chat room once, again a couple, that i didnt like to have sex with people i got to friendly with, dont know why but it just dont feel right to me to shag people i consider as friends so i said that i'd rather meet as one offs and not get to close to the people i have sex with and this person said arnt you worried you'll get a bad name :shock:
Quote by Mr-tickle
Hi there folks, on certain adverts I see that people are either looking for, or are professionals. Does this mean that they go to work suited and booted, have managerial or executive jobs and don't get their hands dirty or does it mean that they class themselves as professionals in there chosen profession and have reached this position through time, commitment and qualifications.
it means they snobs lol
i was turned down once cause of my job the couples who said they was professional said they only met like people, ask what my hubby did so i told them and he was working in IT at the time and they seemed happy with that asked me what i did so i said i worked in a nursing home and they asked if i was a nurse so i said no im a care worker and they turned me down flat saying they only met people who could hold a conversation :shock: funny thing was id been holding a conversation with them for about a week prior to this and they obviously liked me as they was asking for a meet but cause i only did care work instead of being a nurse they cut me off dead, does it really matter what people do for a living? we not after a relationship or someone to pay our morgage i dont really care if people dont work at all so long as they nice and i get on with them.
i think it does yes, we have a lot of couples look down their noses at us cause we meet as singles as well, for some reason people think if your a couple who both swing you should only meet together and we have on many occasions had the male half of couples say to my hubby.....i wouldnt allow my mrs to go out meeting alone :shock: well most guys wouldnt let their mrs go out shagging at all, i find a lot of people who swing and i have to say mainly couples have so many opinions on how swinging should and shouldnt be done, the fact is there is no right or wrong way its simply what works for you
well i joined weight watcher at the end of last year and have lost 6 stone so far going from a size 22 to a size 12 i would like to loose about another two stone but i have to admit i feel 100 times better for it so far, thats not me saying thinners better just for me it is what ever your comfy with is better for you.
Quote by Mallock2006
I think some people who dont use them say they do as it still allows them the chance to play with those who always use them .....
Sounded better in my head but you get my drift :lol2:
i think you have hit the nail on the head there m8, at least if your honest about what you do people can have a real choice of who they meet, i may admit to not always using condoms, and by that i dont mean i will meet and shag anyone unprotected i am selective about who i have unprotected sex with, my body my choice, but i give you a real view of my life so you can make a real choice of if you want to meet unlike the ones who do the same as me yet call others for it so couples, singles who dont meet people who dont always use condoms will agree to meet them based on the lies they tell, based on that whos really in the wrong? honesty is always the best way if you dont want people knowing you have unprotected sex either dont do it!!
Quote by wild rose and the stag
interesting replies, time for me and rose to sit back and take a good look at our lifestyle, lots of things for us to think about even
though we thought we had it reasonably sussed before I started this thread, we have chatted lots since this started trying to wiegh up odds and so on, looking at our last twelve months and seeing the risks we have taken..now we have to look to the future, our future regarding who with and how we play.... and if. we understand there are risks in all walks of life, we can play completely safe, we have in the past, now we need to resolve the issue of if we go back to that way is it going to satisfy us or is it just not worth it? I've never valued my life as much as since I met rose, I don't want it to be thrown away on the back of a fun night on our bed with an extra friend or two and taking one of the lower risks we currently take then being unlucky!
saying that we have had some fantastic fun in the past , so right now I dunno.
maybe it will turn out to be a wake up call for us as much as anyone else, maybe it always was.
to be continued lOl
staggy
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i do understand what you are saying but the simple fact of the matter is noone who is having sex is 100% risk free, people can protect themselves the best they can but accidents happen where condoms split, come off etc and not all std's are actually passed thro penatrive sex, we just have to do what we feel is best for us and hope its enough, as adults we know the risks we take the question is are you willing to take them?
I have a couple of times gone in the chat room late afternoon and asked if any guys want to meet that evening have got ready and gone met them, however when meeting as a single female i think you run a level of risk so if i do quick meets i will only go to clubs to play where i feel its safe.
I think swinging heaven has given a lot of women more confidance, a lot of women i have spoken to have said when joining they didnt think they would do well because they felt they was to old or to big to be of any interest and suddenly realise people do want to meet them, for me personally its helped be make a lot of good friends and i mean friends not someone to have sex with, i have met many many people i have never had sex with who are still happy to chat and meet for a drink, i guess thats when you know they like you and not what they can get out of you 
its very good worth watchingyet again i read the condom thread and have to chuckle to myself at a couple of comments made by people showing utter disgust at the though of having sex without condoms when i know damn well that they dont always use them :shock: i never understand this subject if you have unprotected sex why do you feel the need so lie about it? or if you do feel what you have written is true then why have unprotected sex? just seems a bit like double standards when people that i know damn well dont use condoms look down their noses at other!!! i dont always use them but as always i admit it so it makes me laugh when people we have played with without protection belittle other for doing what they have done ;)
Quote by mdr2000
The only advice I can offer is stay clear of latex free ones...
These nasty 'wanna be condoms' are so prone to spliting at the very sight of action they should be bannedOnce went through a whole pack of 6 in one go... and no not a marathon session lol... by the time we had finished I recon I had spent more time without one in safe place apart from the elastic strangulation around my shaft.....Ouch!!!
Sorry lol... Latex allergy and no play sorry lol.
Just my findings so far... xx
Mike
i quite like the latex free ones, never had a problem with splitting yet, i must just be more active than me lol
I have to say the best razor i have tried is the Gillette Fusion, they are quite expensive and the blades are a bit pricey too but since i started using mine i have never got a rash or anything and i just use shower gel to shave with, they really do leave you soft and smooth gotta be worth a go :thumbup:
Quote by TimandLene
I do agree that when it comes to a one to one meet a couple can control what they want etc.
i would have though anyone can control what they want when it comes to meets, people seem to have this idea that couples call the shots and the single guys just go along with what they want, surely when it comes to meeting its a mixture of whats wanted by both sides? when i meet single guys i dont expect then to just go along with what i want i think i would find it very off putting if a guy felt he needed to 'respect my limits' without giving me any feed back on what he was looking for too, tho i have to say reading thro the thread it does give a lot of single guys a bad name and yes i know i have added a comment or two about them but it has to be said usually the most arrogant people in the chat rooms (in my opinion) are the male halfs of couples
when it comes to daft, pushy and abusive comments in the chat room men are men single or not lol i have had my fair share of couples being just as rude as single guys. Quote by SuperDave
Hi all
Am I the only person on earth who hates this mindless torture with a vengeance?
nope i think its crap i hate the programme with a passion to the point i dont even allow my children to watch it downstairs if they want to watch the crap they have to lock themselves away in their bedrooms :lol2: i dont wonna hear a load of no lifers bitching and arguing all the time cause they bored of being locked up with a bunch of people they dont even like
Quote by Dlep
:giggle: u must get whispers from the same guys as me lol
why do men think cause your on web cam you have to show everyone everything god gave you? surely genuine men after real meets would be more interested in the whole you and a bit of a chat rather that what colour your nipples are and if you shavenbut i could be wrong there lol as i said in my last post men who pester you to get naked (in my experiance) arnt after real meets at all just a image to wank over so asking to see me bent over and showing you my 'chocolate starfish'
will get you nowhere at all with me and yes i know that makes me a crap nymphos :lol2:
Damn....the ilusion is broken :cry:
:giggle:
awww i'll always make exceptions for special people ;)
Quote by Marya_Northeast
This is in no way an exaggeration, honestly.
Prime example of the flow of conversation in the chatroom when i'm on cam:
(sm=single male)
sm1: Hi Marya
Marya: hism1
sm1: how are you?
sm2: nice tits, Marya
Marya: good thanks sm1, you?
Marya: lol cheers sm2
sm3: hi Marya where are you?
sm1: ok thanks, can i whisper?
sm4 whispers: show me your tits, i want to cum for you
Marya: no, please don't whisper.
Marya: Teesside, sm3
<sm1 leaves the chatroom>
<sm3 leaves chatroom>
sm2 whispers: you like phone fun?
sm5: nice cam Marya
sm6: you giving us a show Marya?
Marya: thanks sm5 20 quid in pcworld lol
sm2
Marya: sorry sm6. no show. what you see is what you get.
< sm6 and countless other one handed surfers leave chatroom>
:giggle: u must get whispers from the same guys as me lol
why do men think cause your on web cam you have to show everyone everything god gave you? surely genuine men after real meets would be more interested in the whole you and a bit of a chat rather that what colour your nipples are and if you shaven
but i could be wrong there lol as i said in my last post men who pester you to get naked (in my experiance) arnt after real meets at all just a image to wank over so asking to see me bent over and showing you my 'chocolate starfish' will get you nowhere at all with me and yes i know that makes me a crap nymphos :lol2: Quote by Sarah
Do ladies still wear stockings for going out?
Yes
And they roll down at times
that drives me nuts lol
I dont usually wear stockings to be honest, i will wear them if i go to a club and i make the effort to dress up, i dont really think i have the legs for stockings and i feel a bit silly if i wear them but we have to make the effort sometimes lol
im the female half of a couple and tho we dont as a rule meet single guts together i do meet single guys alone, but i am very choosy about the men i meet and i dont mean choosy as in looks etc i mean in the person themselves, i dont meet men who can not hold a conversation that does not involve sex, its a swingers site we know we are here for sex that dont mean thats all you can talk about tho, i dont meet men who think that every time you talk you have to be naked on web cam or watching them wank for you!! in my experiance guys who want to see you naked on cam every time you log on are just after a cheep thrill and not after real meets at all, so my advice is get a porn film lol i dont meet guys i feel are trying to pester you into a meet b4 your ready, meeting as a single female is risky we only have your word for it that your safe and not a nutter, so why would i give my address out to a guy or agree to get in a car with him after 5 mins of chatting? i will only agree to meet someone after i have spoken enough to them to feel resonably safe and then only in a public area such as a pub, verbaily bullying me into a meet dont work, nor does calling me a time waster if i dont agree to meet you on demande lol
I think basically like most women i'm looking for normal every day guys who can hold a conversation with you and treat you like a person instead of a lump of meat with a hole, im not just looking for a quick shag i'm looking for friends with extras as if we get on i'd like to maybe meet again as i find sex with people you like and get on with better than a string of one night stands with guys who dont really know what you like, but most guys on here i find are just after a meet as soon as possable and dont really care what the women gets out of it, thats my views anyway
i must admit i have had bad experiances also from guys i have turn down offen being told im fat and ugly anyway and that they can do better, i had one guy who told me i should be grateful of his offer as he was very god looking and could get any woman he wanted some guys get very offensive when you say no to them and the top and bottom of it is it does put you off talking to guys, i suppose cause ive been doing this for a long time now and have met a lot of very nice single guys (as well as my fair share of nutters lol) im experianced enough to know this is not typical of single men but for new commers to the site i think think it is very off putting and would put a lot of new couples off talking to single men at all.
I think basically like most women i'm looking for normal every day guys who can hold a conversation with you and treat you like a person instead of a lump of meat with a hole, im not just looking for a quick shag i'm looking for friends with extras as if we get on i'd like to maybe meet again as i find sex with people you like and get on with better than a string of one night stands with guys who dont really know what you like, but most guys on here i find are just after a meet as soon as possable and dont really care what the women gets out of it, thats my views anyway
Quote by TimandLene
From my own experience I have had one single guy go a bit postal on us when we didn't accept his advances. He even complained about us to the ops which resulted in us being banned from the site. It took us a couple of days to have our account reinstated by admin and the ban revoked. (it was the weekend) After that I decided I would stay well clear of single guys in the chatrooms.
i must admit i have had bad experiances also from guys i have turn down offen being told im fat and ugly anyway and that they can do better, i had one guy who told me i should be grateful of his offer as he was very god looking and could get any woman he wanted
some guys get very offensive when you say no to them and the top and bottom of it is it does put you off talking to guys, i suppose cause ive been doing this for a long time now and have met a lot of very nice single guys (as well as my fair share of nutters lol) im experianced enough to know this is not typical of single men but for new commers to the site i think think it is very off putting and would put a lot of new couples off talking to single men at all. 