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Orgasminator
Sorry Sussex - I have AOL 9 on Broadband. We had a problem a little while back (not related) and completely reformatted the hard drive and installed everything new but it's still the same.
Orgasminator
Methinks this thread has been well and truly hi-jacked!
Thanks for the support Tune, Debbiewebs and Ice - you are in the group of people who make this site worth visiting! I must admit I did nearly give in and stop posting but I'm now offically addicted so I can't stop even if i want to!
I'm hoping to attend a Munch sometime depending on finances, so I hope to meet all the people I've had contact with on here.
:inlove: to you.
Thanks for the support Tune, Debbiewebs and Ice - you are in the group of people who make this site worth visiting! I must admit I did nearly give in and stop posting but I'm now offically addicted so I can't stop even if i want to!
I'm hoping to attend a Munch sometime depending on finances, so I hope to meet all the people I've had contact with on here.
:inlove: to you.
Orgasminator
Hello..... This is probably a pointless thread but I NEED help!
When I go to shut my system down sometimes I get a message saying that is not responding. I then have to click on end task to make the system shut down. Does anyone know why this happens and how I can get rid of it? It's really annoying!
I have Windows XP and (obviously) I use AOL as my ISP.
If you'd rather PM than clog up the Cafe with this pointless thread (it's obviously not something everyone wants to read)....please feel free to do so.
Thanks,
Kelly
Just to add that I've searched Google for an answer but haven't found anything!
Oh and also it only started happening since I got Broadband.
When I go to shut my system down sometimes I get a message saying that is not responding. I then have to click on end task to make the system shut down. Does anyone know why this happens and how I can get rid of it? It's really annoying!
I have Windows XP and (obviously) I use AOL as my ISP.
If you'd rather PM than clog up the Cafe with this pointless thread (it's obviously not something everyone wants to read)....please feel free to do so.
Thanks,
Kelly
Just to add that I've searched Google for an answer but haven't found anything!
Oh and also it only started happening since I got Broadband.
Orgasminator
I'm relatively new to this site compared to a lot of others.
I found it a little intimidating at first what with all the cliques etc - obviously some people are going to get on with others and some arn't but it is a little off putting when none of the regulars answer threads or they stick to their own threads.
This isn't a dig at anyone - it's just the way I saw things when I first started out.
I still feel a little like a newcomer and that I have to "prove" myself and my worth when starting threads which is why I don't tend to start many - I always worry that something has been said before or it won't appeal to anyone. When I do start a thread, a lot of thought goes into it but I much prefer to join in with already established topics or just watch from the sidelines - it's safer that way!.
I found it a little intimidating at first what with all the cliques etc - obviously some people are going to get on with others and some arn't but it is a little off putting when none of the regulars answer threads or they stick to their own threads.
This isn't a dig at anyone - it's just the way I saw things when I first started out.
I still feel a little like a newcomer and that I have to "prove" myself and my worth when starting threads which is why I don't tend to start many - I always worry that something has been said before or it won't appeal to anyone. When I do start a thread, a lot of thought goes into it but I much prefer to join in with already established topics or just watch from the sidelines - it's safer that way!.
Orgasminator
Benz2502 wrote:
LOL.....Chill Benz..... I like to keep some mystery about myself!
Ok.... I'd ultimately love to do a skydive but failing that I'd like to get even with a few people who have made my life uncomfortable! Is that better?
Good point..... that's what I do.... Pessimism, I think, is good in some respects because if you think the worst then usually you are nicely surprised when things go right...if they go wrong then it doesn't matter because you thought the worst anyway! Not the healthiest way to live though.
Cmon everyone has some dream of what they would like to aspire too!!! Hell I would love to join the mile high club,,, problem being they couldn't fit two in the cubicle if I was there!!!!
What about shagging some superstar hero or shit!!! cmon "Onlyme" you must wanna do something!!!! even if it's as straight foward as kicking some prick in th nuts for getting on your nerves!!!
I know i would like to convert my boss over the rugby posts sometimes!!!
LOL.....Chill Benz..... I like to keep some mystery about myself!
Ok.... I'd ultimately love to do a skydive but failing that I'd like to get even with a few people who have made my life uncomfortable! Is that better?
onlyme1981 wrote:
Now now Sarge....the same could be said for MOST men!
I try not to set myself targets as I end up failing miserably!
sussexguy wrote:
So if you set yourself the target to fail miserably at everything you would do really well at everything
Good point..... that's what I do.... Pessimism, I think, is good in some respects because if you think the worst then usually you are nicely surprised when things go right...if they go wrong then it doesn't matter because you thought the worst anyway! Not the healthiest way to live though.
Orgasminator
Now now Sarge....the same could be said for MOST men!
I try not to set myself targets as I end up failing miserably!
I try not to set myself targets as I end up failing miserably!
Orgasminator
I have an opinion on this party - I've not posted for a little while because I was abstaining! But I felt I needed to say something.
I don't know SurreyCouple, indeed I've never met anyone from the Forum but I don't think it's fair to advertise for beautiful people only.
Fair enough everyone has their own preferences but how do you think it makes the "average" or dare I say it (?) "ugly" person feel? Not to mention those who may be good looking but are on the larger/balder/whatever side.
I'll tell you - it makes you feel worthless. There is enough concentration on looks in today's society as it is and personally I am trying to overcome any feelings of inadequacy I have as are others on this site.
Your point about other meet's with Bi Fems only etc not being picked on doesn't really wash as I'm sure there are people who go to them who are all shapes, sizes and looks. I know you were stating that people have preferences but they don't normally go as far as vetting what people look like.
If beautiful people are your preference then maybe you should advertise privately? There have been many discussions on the Forum regarding looks and body image etc so maybe if you read them then you'd see where people are coming from?
I may be biased as I'm not one of the so called "beautiful" people but this is my own opinion.
Maybe you could be a bit more sensitive to other users in future? I know you've had a lot of stick over your previous locked thread but it may well be justified.
I hope you find what you're looking for and that all you beautiful people have fun - but remember, there are other people less fortunate than yourselves in the looks department but that doesn't make them any less of a person.
I don't know SurreyCouple, indeed I've never met anyone from the Forum but I don't think it's fair to advertise for beautiful people only.
Fair enough everyone has their own preferences but how do you think it makes the "average" or dare I say it (?) "ugly" person feel? Not to mention those who may be good looking but are on the larger/balder/whatever side.
I'll tell you - it makes you feel worthless. There is enough concentration on looks in today's society as it is and personally I am trying to overcome any feelings of inadequacy I have as are others on this site.
Your point about other meet's with Bi Fems only etc not being picked on doesn't really wash as I'm sure there are people who go to them who are all shapes, sizes and looks. I know you were stating that people have preferences but they don't normally go as far as vetting what people look like.
If beautiful people are your preference then maybe you should advertise privately? There have been many discussions on the Forum regarding looks and body image etc so maybe if you read them then you'd see where people are coming from?
I may be biased as I'm not one of the so called "beautiful" people but this is my own opinion.
Maybe you could be a bit more sensitive to other users in future? I know you've had a lot of stick over your previous locked thread but it may well be justified.
I hope you find what you're looking for and that all you beautiful people have fun - but remember, there are other people less fortunate than yourselves in the looks department but that doesn't make them any less of a person.
Orgasminator
1. To find a man and be as happy as most of the couples seem on here
2. To have healthy children
3. To finally find a job I really enjoy and get paid reasonably well for it
4. To do a Skydive (organising one at the moment!)
5. To gain some decent qualifications and actually work my brain - I'm quite intelligent really! lol
Not in any particular order!
2. To have healthy children
3. To finally find a job I really enjoy and get paid reasonably well for it
4. To do a Skydive (organising one at the moment!)
5. To gain some decent qualifications and actually work my brain - I'm quite intelligent really! lol
Not in any particular order!
Orgasminator
I've mostly always had something go wrong on Friday the 13th. I'm not sure if it's because it's Friday 13th or because the incidents stay in my memory because of the dreaded day!
Previous Friday 13th crap days have been (obviously not all on the same day - I really would have something to worry about then):
As a teenager I was caught smoking and got grounded for 3 months!
My bag was stolen - even though it was on my shoulder at the time!
I got punched in the face at a pub by some maniac who'd had a few too many.
I fell over in the middle of the road.
And today (actually yesterday at the time of writing this) - I crashed my bloody car.
Is that enough evidence that Friday 13th is BAD?!?! (or maybe I'm just a clumsy idiot and very unlucky!)
Previous Friday 13th crap days have been (obviously not all on the same day - I really would have something to worry about then):
As a teenager I was caught smoking and got grounded for 3 months!
My bag was stolen - even though it was on my shoulder at the time!
I got punched in the face at a pub by some maniac who'd had a few too many.
I fell over in the middle of the road.
And today (actually yesterday at the time of writing this) - I crashed my bloody car.
Is that enough evidence that Friday 13th is BAD?!?! (or maybe I'm just a clumsy idiot and very unlucky!)
Orgasminator
I only ever wear Thongs or G-Strings. I really don't like the way knickers go up your bum or give you VPL! A lot of people say thongs do too but I don't agree.
I like the look of French knickers but I'd look too bad in them to even contemplate wearing them!
I like the look of French knickers but I'd look too bad in them to even contemplate wearing them!
Orgasminator
Erm.....
Day 1. I'd tell all my creditors that they can stick their final demands etc where the sun don't shine!
Day 2. I'd go wild and have a massive party - I'd invite all those I've ever known or ever chatted to etc
Day 3. The party would still be going on at this point!
Day 4. I'd have a massive hangover but I'd go somewhere I've only dreamed about going to.
Day 5. I'd make sure all my special personal belongings went to special people
Day 1. I'd tell all my creditors that they can stick their final demands etc where the sun don't shine!
Day 2. I'd go wild and have a massive party - I'd invite all those I've ever known or ever chatted to etc
Day 3. The party would still be going on at this point!
Day 4. I'd have a massive hangover but I'd go somewhere I've only dreamed about going to.
Day 5. I'd make sure all my special personal belongings went to special people
Orgasminator
Hello,
Thank you all for your advice. I have now spoken to my insurance company and I don't have to pay the excess as I'm not going to claim. The 3rd party can claim on their insurance and my company will reimburse her insurance company. It just means my premium will go up next year by a small amount.
I'm ok so thank you for your concern. I was very shaken up as this is my first accident. I'm not hurt - well only by the comments the 3rd party made!!
I'm so relieved I don't have to pay the £400 as I don't know where i'd get it from - I have enough money troubles as it is at the moment!
Thank you again - it's comforting to know people care
Thank you all for your advice. I have now spoken to my insurance company and I don't have to pay the excess as I'm not going to claim. The 3rd party can claim on their insurance and my company will reimburse her insurance company. It just means my premium will go up next year by a small amount.
I'm ok so thank you for your concern. I was very shaken up as this is my first accident. I'm not hurt - well only by the comments the 3rd party made!!
I'm so relieved I don't have to pay the £400 as I don't know where i'd get it from - I have enough money troubles as it is at the moment!
Thank you again - it's comforting to know people care
Orgasminator
Hello,
I had a car accident today (not looking for sympathy btw).
I have a £400 excess on my insurance policy and I'm not sure how I'm going to pay it!
The other party wants it to go through the insurance even though there's not much damage. So if she goes through the insurance but I get my repairs done privately will I still have to pay the excess on my policy?
Not sure if anyone knows about this kind of thing but thought I'd ask anyway.
Thanks,
Kelly
I had a car accident today (not looking for sympathy btw).
I have a £400 excess on my insurance policy and I'm not sure how I'm going to pay it!
The other party wants it to go through the insurance even though there's not much damage. So if she goes through the insurance but I get my repairs done privately will I still have to pay the excess on my policy?
Not sure if anyone knows about this kind of thing but thought I'd ask anyway.
Thanks,
Kelly
Orgasminator
I'd like to come please.... this would be my first Munch! It's gonna be a long old drive but I'm sure it'll be worth it! Can I have details of hotels etc please?
Thank you!
Kelly
Thank you!
Kelly
Orgasminator
Quote by Lovecommando
That is so true! Liked the bit about, "I am the type who is liable to snipe you
With two seconds left to go", that's me that is!
LC
Oooh LC - That's so unfair! That always happens to me and it's bloody annoying especially if it's something I really really want! It is rather funny when it happens to others though!
Kelly :0)
Orgasminator
Ok, I'd be either WBB coz she sounds great, Bluexxx because she gets up to so much, or Misschief because she is very wise and seems like a really nice person!
Failing that I'd be all of you because you all sound interesting to me.
Failing that I'd be all of you because you all sound interesting to me.
Orgasminator
Hello and welcome..... it's easy to get addicted to this site..... you have been warned!
Have fun!
Have fun!
Orgasminator
Hello,
I don't know where you are referring to but wanted to answer your thread anyway - It's horrible when no-one answers!
I guess you're new here - Welcome!
I don't know where you are referring to but wanted to answer your thread anyway - It's horrible when no-one answers!
I guess you're new here - Welcome!
Orgasminator
Quote by surreycouple2003
If you dont mind my asking, what type of job are you going for?
It's for a client account administrator - for a Recruitment agency - much better prospects than what I'm doing at the moment!
It may not seem very high profile (people have told me so) but it's what I want to get into and I really want it!
Orgasminator
Ok, this is quite possibly the longest post I've done so apologies! I wanted to thank you all personally as you've obviously gone to effort to give your advice.
Thank you Sarge, I have now compiled a list of various questions I'd like to ask. I'm sure there will be more added as the interview progresses but I've made a start!
SlydeWHOOSH wrote:
Thanks Whoosh, I did the practicein front of the mirror this morning and must say I felt a complete prat but I know how to handle myself now.
PaulnSusie wrote:
Than you Paul, I've looked on their website and although it's still under contruction I've now found out a bit more about the company. They are part of a bigger group so I looked at their website too so I have a bit more background knowledge!
harry_n_wendy wrote:
Thank you Harry, I've tried this technique on several occasions but it doesn't seem to work for me. I don't have a problem with this in everyday life just when I'm nervous so if I ever get to a Munch.... you'll all know who I am!
triptix wrote:
Thank you for that! I've been told to do that one before and have only managed it on one occasion! Good tip though!
LoverOfOlderLadies wrote:
I'm going to do this one - There is a lovely park near to where the interview is so I'll have a nice short walk, then I'll be ready!
foxylady 123 wrote:
Thank you, I have asked for a bit of time before answering a question in a previous interview but it felt wrong to do so and I got a few funny looks! I've always steered clear of doing it again but maybe it's because they were old battleaxes who didn't know how to interview anyone! I've now read the advertisement with an expert eye and I know exactly what they are looking for and I know I fit the job!
Chris148 wrote:
Thanks Chris- I'm now taking all this advice very seriously and I'm going to be fully prepared. I suppose being wirth my current company for 4 years shows I have loyalty and I've decided I'm not going to be negative about why I'm leaving as that will show me in a bad light.
neilinleeds wrote:
lol Neil - Thank you. I'll try it but I'm not sure I'll stick to it. I'll probably get it all muddled up and start slating myself! hehehe
Crosspatch - Thank you and I agree with all you said and I'm going to try my hardest to look, think and act confidently!
lincskate - Thanks, In a way I am glad I'm nervous as it's something I really want and hopefully that will show through in the interview!
Silk and Big G - I'll be wearing a proper suit for a change so no chance of me wearing the top I have on in my Avatar! Anyway I wouldn't want to attract attention in that way seeing as though the interviewer is a lady and I'm not into that! If I was though....... lol
Thank you to you all for your great advice - it is very much appreciated. I'm going to follow all the suggestions - I'll let you know how I get on!
Quote by Sgt Bilko
Make a list of what you want to say or ask. It ensures you don't forget anything and will impress them that you have gone to the trouble of preparing for the interview.
Thank you Sarge, I have now compiled a list of various questions I'd like to ask. I'm sure there will be more added as the interview progresses but I've made a start!
SlydeWHOOSH wrote:
Make a list & maybe practise in a mirror about presenting yourself, better still get a friend to sit with you & ask you questions about the job, prospects etc.
The better prepared you are the more confident you will feel & hence look
Thanks Whoosh, I did the practicein front of the mirror this morning and must say I felt a complete prat but I know how to handle myself now.
PaulnSusie wrote:
One thing i'd definately add is to find out as much information about the place where you want to work as possible.
If they have a website.... find out as much as you can.... All employers value staff that make an effort to know their company etc....
Than you Paul, I've looked on their website and although it's still under contruction I've now found out a bit more about the company. They are part of a bigger group so I looked at their website too so I have a bit more background knowledge!
harry_n_wendy wrote:
wen you are going to speak and you stutter
try this
before you actualy say anyhting take one instant deep breath then speak
i think you will find that may work
any time u feel a stutter comming on just do it
one instant quick deep breath
Thank you Harry, I've tried this technique on several occasions but it doesn't seem to work for me. I don't have a problem with this in everyday life just when I'm nervous so if I ever get to a Munch.... you'll all know who I am!
triptix wrote:
There is of course the idea of picturing the interviewers naked to help with nerves, but I've always found that it distracts me and I stop paying attention to the questions
Thank you for that! I've been told to do that one before and have only managed it on one occasion! Good tip though!
LoverOfOlderLadies wrote:
Whenever I go for an Interview I go out for a nice walk beforehand, collect all my thoughts, put into my head what I want to say, but I don't overanalyse
I'm going to do this one - There is a lovely park near to where the interview is so I'll have a nice short walk, then I'll be ready!
foxylady 123 wrote:
From an employers perspective.................
Explain to the interviewer, that you stutter when nervous and ask them to "bear with you"Any reasonable interviewer will understand. Interviewing is not an easy process and it could be that the other person is just as nervous as you are.
If your are asked a question and your not sure how to answer say, "just give me a second to think about that" and pause till you compose yourself.
This shows you are giving the matter serious thought and arnt hasty.
Before you go to the interview make sure you understand the job description fully and get someone else to help you stage a mock interview, this will help your nerves on the day.
Thank you, I have asked for a bit of time before answering a question in a previous interview but it felt wrong to do so and I got a few funny looks! I've always steered clear of doing it again but maybe it's because they were old battleaxes who didn't know how to interview anyone! I've now read the advertisement with an expert eye and I know exactly what they are looking for and I know I fit the job!
Chris148 wrote:
(Fail to prepare = prepare to fail)
Remember, you have been in your current job 4 years which is a massive 'tick in the box' for potential employers.
Thanks Chris- I'm now taking all this advice very seriously and I'm going to be fully prepared. I suppose being wirth my current company for 4 years shows I have loyalty and I've decided I'm not going to be negative about why I'm leaving as that will show me in a bad light.
neilinleeds wrote:
now repeat after me, all the way to the interview, and while you're sat waiting to go in . . . .
"i am a confident, articulate woman. i am the best woman for the job!"
lol Neil - Thank you. I'll try it but I'm not sure I'll stick to it. I'll probably get it all muddled up and start slating myself! hehehe
Crosspatch - Thank you and I agree with all you said and I'm going to try my hardest to look, think and act confidently!
lincskate - Thanks, In a way I am glad I'm nervous as it's something I really want and hopefully that will show through in the interview!
Silk and Big G - I'll be wearing a proper suit for a change so no chance of me wearing the top I have on in my Avatar! Anyway I wouldn't want to attract attention in that way seeing as though the interviewer is a lady and I'm not into that! If I was though....... lol
Thank you to you all for your great advice - it is very much appreciated. I'm going to follow all the suggestions - I'll let you know how I get on!
Orgasminator
Hello, I'm in need of some advice!
I'm due to go to an interview on Friday for a new job. I haven't been to one for quite a while as I've been with the same company for 4 years although I've had a few in that time.
I know all about dressing smart to make a good impression etc but I get really really nervous when going to interviews. I'm not very good at praising myself and I stutter and can't seem to get words out. It makes me look so stupid and I'm not but I can't get accross what I want to say.
Does anyone have any tips that will help me to stay calm and not feel so stupid? I've tried deep breathing exercises but that doesn't help.
I really want this job and know I can do it but I need to make a good impression.
Thank you in anticipation!
K
I'm due to go to an interview on Friday for a new job. I haven't been to one for quite a while as I've been with the same company for 4 years although I've had a few in that time.
I know all about dressing smart to make a good impression etc but I get really really nervous when going to interviews. I'm not very good at praising myself and I stutter and can't seem to get words out. It makes me look so stupid and I'm not but I can't get accross what I want to say.
Does anyone have any tips that will help me to stay calm and not feel so stupid? I've tried deep breathing exercises but that doesn't help.
I really want this job and know I can do it but I need to make a good impression.
Thank you in anticipation!
K
Orgasminator
I was just wondering what everyone's favourite genre of music is?
Personally I couldn't live without music, I've always had an interest. My mum says it's because I was a little bugger when i was a baby and wouldn't go to sleep without music so she used to leave the radio on.
I love watching new or established bands playing live.... i love the feeling you get when you see them performing. I really wish I'd taken up an instrument when I was younger or that I could sing...... I (try to) sing in the car on the way to work, people must think I'm mad!
I listen to all sorts but these days it's mainly metal/rock though I love a good tune you can sing to! I have so many cd's of every genre and it really does depend on my mood as to what music I want to listen to. I have my entire CD collection in my car as thats where I listen to most of my music so if my car ever got stolen I'd be devastated!
Anyway, the original question is: What is your favourite genre of music?
I apologise if this thread is a repeated one..... I did have a look to see if I was duplicating!
K xx
Personally I couldn't live without music, I've always had an interest. My mum says it's because I was a little bugger when i was a baby and wouldn't go to sleep without music so she used to leave the radio on.
I love watching new or established bands playing live.... i love the feeling you get when you see them performing. I really wish I'd taken up an instrument when I was younger or that I could sing...... I (try to) sing in the car on the way to work, people must think I'm mad!
I listen to all sorts but these days it's mainly metal/rock though I love a good tune you can sing to! I have so many cd's of every genre and it really does depend on my mood as to what music I want to listen to. I have my entire CD collection in my car as thats where I listen to most of my music so if my car ever got stolen I'd be devastated!
Anyway, the original question is: What is your favourite genre of music?
I apologise if this thread is a repeated one..... I did have a look to see if I was duplicating!
K xx
Orgasminator
Ok.... there are too many valid points to quote here (I had enough trouble last time I did that!) but you are all correct in my opinion. There are a lot of tossers out there but you have to wade through them to find the right one - and it is worth it at the end. I'm not going to let these people get me down - I'm better than that.
So thank you all for your wise words and your encouragement - I think I'm going to give up the internet dating though as it is a bit of a cattle market out there!
I'm going to try speed dating instead! I've heard it's really good fun and although I'm not the most outgoing person in the world it'll get me used to meeting new people ready for the Munch I'm hoping to attend!
I think I need a bit of experience with meeting new people so I think this is the thing to do for now.....until I get bored again!
K x
Thank you again and sorry I couldn't be bothered to quote you all and add my replies but I'd just mess up if i did that!
So thank you all for your wise words and your encouragement - I think I'm going to give up the internet dating though as it is a bit of a cattle market out there!
I'm going to try speed dating instead! I've heard it's really good fun and although I'm not the most outgoing person in the world it'll get me used to meeting new people ready for the Munch I'm hoping to attend!
I think I need a bit of experience with meeting new people so I think this is the thing to do for now.....until I get bored again!
K x
Thank you again and sorry I couldn't be bothered to quote you all and add my replies but I'd just mess up if i did that!
Orgasminator
Oooh can't remember it was so long ago!
I think the most romantic and nicest thing a loved one has done for me is run me a bath after a long, crap day........ surely it's gotta get better than that? hehehe
I think the most romantic and nicest thing a loved one has done for me is run me a bath after a long, crap day........ surely it's gotta get better than that? hehehe
Orgasminator
Oh no..... I've missed my 100th post birthday!
I'd just like to say: Thank you to all of you for welcoming me to the site and for replying to my posts with honesty, great advice and humour!
This is the best site I've been part of or indeed seen so well done to all the Mods and the users.
I look forward to another 100 posts and beyond!
I'd just like to say: Thank you to all of you for welcoming me to the site and for replying to my posts with honesty, great advice and humour!
This is the best site I've been part of or indeed seen so well done to all the Mods and the users.
I look forward to another 100 posts and beyond!
