I think scars are enhancing when you are already attracted to someone.
As an example, I have a female friend who is very attractive to me and probably the most intelligent and successful person I know and she has a long scar down her upper arm with stitch marks. When I saw the scar and fiound out it was an action scar she just went up in my estimation.
For what it is worth womens scars of giving birth also have to be a badge of honour too?
They ar ealso a good talking point if you are meeting someone new?
Shay
my only scar is under my eyebrow - I thought I was lucky it didn't show but I am having second thoughts................no, its not worth shaving them off I might have to comb them over my head in the future.
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Sexlightened
Yes, its probably not a big problem but an enormous problem if it happens to you.
I definitely got put off years ago on a couple of occasions when the offer of unprotected sex seemed calculated rather than lustful. I don't think I made a bad decision, saying no, but I did miss out and that is kind of difficult. Have to say that health concerns were an issue too as it was time of the Aids virus coming to the fore when little was known about its transmission. That helped the decision greatly.
Its also a problem for me as I am married but more on health grounds than financial - as she has all the money!
Just a small extra, the one deception I have ever made to women is to make light of how much money I used to earn when I first meet them. It was never a lot but to gold diggers a home and secure job can be everything - after all my sister made much out of a council house.
Oh and another thought, I was also a sperm donor - no guarantee that I became a 'dad' and they only use your sperm for a maximum of ten goes but ten law suits, ten weddings to fund, ten green bottles.......I am supposed to be safe from discovery but with adoption laws changing it presumably would not take much to ruin my life.
Shay
I definitely got put off years ago on a couple of occasions when the offer of unprotected sex seemed calculated rather than lustful. I don't think I made a bad decision, saying no, but I did miss out and that is kind of difficult. Have to say that health concerns were an issue too as it was time of the Aids virus coming to the fore when little was known about its transmission. That helped the decision greatly.
Its also a problem for me as I am married but more on health grounds than financial - as she has all the money!
Just a small extra, the one deception I have ever made to women is to make light of how much money I used to earn when I first meet them. It was never a lot but to gold diggers a home and secure job can be everything - after all my sister made much out of a council house.
Oh and another thought, I was also a sperm donor - no guarantee that I became a 'dad' and they only use your sperm for a maximum of ten goes but ten law suits, ten weddings to fund, ten green bottles.......I am supposed to be safe from discovery but with adoption laws changing it presumably would not take much to ruin my life.
Shay
Sexlightened
Well I have a few things that must be done before I go but on the whole (perhaps I am not ambitious) I am fairly content with my life so far.
Probably like most people here, we took a positive step in joining this web site to further the opportunities of life and become more fulfilled. We are therefore choosing the way our lives go forward and how we do it - regardless of the past!
So don't lament the past, we are all 'young' enough to have time to do lots of things - move to the future and power to your elbow!
(sorry if this sounds a little evangelical - I am feeling alot better now I am off the painkillers!)
Shay
Probably like most people here, we took a positive step in joining this web site to further the opportunities of life and become more fulfilled. We are therefore choosing the way our lives go forward and how we do it - regardless of the past!
So don't lament the past, we are all 'young' enough to have time to do lots of things - move to the future and power to your elbow!
(sorry if this sounds a little evangelical - I am feeling alot better now I am off the painkillers!)
Shay
Sexlightened
Hi,
Sounds like your sensible, have the experience and are thinking it through carefully - go with what you feel you want to do!
I also think it's important not to lose any thing from your life out of choice. Keeping life together and feeling good are particularly important for mum, keep happy and everything is going to be good. Why change the pleasurable things in life?
You also have your man to deter those possibly short of brain cells to make a fuss??
Have fun
best wishes,
Shay
Sounds like your sensible, have the experience and are thinking it through carefully - go with what you feel you want to do!
I also think it's important not to lose any thing from your life out of choice. Keeping life together and feeling good are particularly important for mum, keep happy and everything is going to be good. Why change the pleasurable things in life?
You also have your man to deter those possibly short of brain cells to make a fuss??
Have fun
best wishes,
Shay
:lol: :lol: Sexlightened
Hello,
I was staggered a few years ago, when I worked in a hospital, whilst in a committee meeting, talking about something related to young people, a senior nurse and head of department announced that she had just read that 25% of people under 35 had tried anal sex... i said I wouldn't minute that!
She would not give her source but said it was "with authority" that she could give the figures.
Probably more telling was that no-one in the meeting (ages 25-ish to 60) did anything but smile and make light of it - some kind of acceptance I suppose or a case of what else could you follow that with? :)
Shay
I was staggered a few years ago, when I worked in a hospital, whilst in a committee meeting, talking about something related to young people, a senior nurse and head of department announced that she had just read that 25% of people under 35 had tried anal sex... i said I wouldn't minute that!
She would not give her source but said it was "with authority" that she could give the figures.
Probably more telling was that no-one in the meeting (ages 25-ish to 60) did anything but smile and make light of it - some kind of acceptance I suppose or a case of what else could you follow that with? :)
Shay
Sexlightened
Hi,
Sorry to hear the news and I have to say well done to be brave and speak about it. I hope its only an infection that can be more easily cleared up? Do you know the cause of it yet?
At least they have identified the problem and despite everything you might read about the NHS you are in good hands.
Wishing you a speedy recovery!
best wishes,
Shay
Sorry to hear the news and I have to say well done to be brave and speak about it. I hope its only an infection that can be more easily cleared up? Do you know the cause of it yet?
At least they have identified the problem and despite everything you might read about the NHS you are in good hands.
Wishing you a speedy recovery!
best wishes,
Shay
Sexlightened
Strange but true?My ticks are based on experience and whishes - not all the experience is my own. My life doesn't fit into a box on the grounds that I think you should be who you are and not fit into a box made by someone else. That's the main reason for being on this site folks.
Winchwench - If you read the last comment made it says"some have ticked everything...go figure!" take your own chill pill.
(Apologies for posting twice as there was a difficulty in posting - it wasn't intended)
best wishes,
Shay
Winchwench - If you read the last comment made it says"some have ticked everything...go figure!" take your own chill pill.
(Apologies for posting twice as there was a difficulty in posting - it wasn't intended)
best wishes,
Shay
Sexlightened
Well the point was that some people can defend a blank profile and others want to slag it off. I don't care either way I just think that individuals have reasons for what they do and I very much believe that is the way it should be.
Another point is that the whole mediium of communicating through the net is anonymous and it would be reasonable to introduce yourself, it also reduces the number of ads to check out?
To H-x the reason for the comment about ads was that the profile of a poster here stated the member had no adverts but the poster quoted they had an advert - a technical error of the site perhaps?
To da69ve -- I have not ticked everything but I have ticked what I am interested in. MY PROFILE SAYS WHAY IT DOES FOR A REASON it is accurate. If you can't stick to sensible discussion don't try scoring points by making up arguments - it just makes you look stupid?
Thanks to all comments apart from da69ve
shay
Another point is that the whole mediium of communicating through the net is anonymous and it would be reasonable to introduce yourself, it also reduces the number of ads to check out?
To H-x the reason for the comment about ads was that the profile of a poster here stated the member had no adverts but the poster quoted they had an advert - a technical error of the site perhaps?
To da69ve -- I have not ticked everything but I have ticked what I am interested in. MY PROFILE SAYS WHAY IT DOES FOR A REASON it is accurate. If you can't stick to sensible discussion don't try scoring points by making up arguments - it just makes you look stupid?
Thanks to all comments apart from da69ve
shay
Sexlightened
Well the point was that some people can defend a blank profile and others want to slag it off. I don't care either way I just think that individuals have reasons for what they do and I very much believe that is the way it should be.
Another point is that the whole mediium of communicating through the net is anonymous and it would be reasonable to introduce yourself, it also reduces the number of ads to check out?
To H-x the reason for the comment about ads was that the profile of a poster here stated the member had no adverts but the poster quoted they had an advert - a technical error of the site perhaps?
To da69ve -- I have not ticked everything but I have ticked what I am interested in. MY PROFILE SAYS WHAY IT DOES FOR A REASON it is accurate. If you can't stick to sensible discussion don't try scoring points by making up arguments - it just makes you look stupid?
Thanks to all comments apart from da69ve
shay
Another point is that the whole mediium of communicating through the net is anonymous and it would be reasonable to introduce yourself, it also reduces the number of ads to check out?
To H-x the reason for the comment about ads was that the profile of a poster here stated the member had no adverts but the poster quoted they had an advert - a technical error of the site perhaps?
To da69ve -- I have not ticked everything but I have ticked what I am interested in. MY PROFILE SAYS WHAY IT DOES FOR A REASON it is accurate. If you can't stick to sensible discussion don't try scoring points by making up arguments - it just makes you look stupid?
Thanks to all comments apart from da69ve
shay
Sexlightened
I've followed this thread through and a thought that occurred to me is that when checking out womens profiles, a lot are blank. I understand why that might be... but it doesn't help the poser of the original question or anyone else get an answer as to why women are on site.. Men are castigated in various postings for not having profiles and info generally but women are there ...just because they are?? Can anyone explain why any member of the site gets away with no profile even if it says I do not choose to have a profile?
Also I have only just realised that some people do have adverts but they are not connected to their profile. This might also help men like me who want to connect to like minded people, send realistic proposals to women they think might be suitable?
Shay
Also I have only just realised that some people do have adverts but they are not connected to their profile. This might also help men like me who want to connect to like minded people, send realistic proposals to women they think might be suitable?
Shay
Sexlightened
Hello,
I could do better than a book if you really want to know what was the point of this dream but you will have to give more than hamsters as a clue!
Lots of animals have symbolic meanings but the point of them in a dream is what meaning you , personally, give the hamsters beyond that is anyones guess.
If you don't want to reveal the whole dream and answer a few questions you could pm me with them and I will be happy to help out - in confidence too?
happy slumbers!
Shay
ps any one who is troubled by a dream and would like it interpreting please drop me a line - I am rarely stumped for an answer - but be honest about it, don't make it up!
I could do better than a book if you really want to know what was the point of this dream but you will have to give more than hamsters as a clue!
Lots of animals have symbolic meanings but the point of them in a dream is what meaning you , personally, give the hamsters beyond that is anyones guess.
If you don't want to reveal the whole dream and answer a few questions you could pm me with them and I will be happy to help out - in confidence too?
happy slumbers!
Shay
ps any one who is troubled by a dream and would like it interpreting please drop me a line - I am rarely stumped for an answer - but be honest about it, don't make it up!
Sexlightened
Hello,
If you want a day trip out from London you could enjoy walks using cheap day return train tickets to get out to Singles Outdoor Club walks (Naturist - Non-sexual) Plenty of really quiet get away from it all places with great scenic views/ feeling part of the countryside? Se their website?
Plenty of unspoilt coastlines too with a little research? Kent and the south downs are quiet too.
Northumberland is really great if you get off the track and the beaches/dunes are unbeatable but the same kind of weather as Scotland.
lincoln and the nearby Wolds are interesting and attractive
North Wales, castles mountaind rivers etc
I'm rabbitting. There's so much to go at - want to narrow the field and tell us what kind of thing you are looking for?
Just go and stay off the motorways and beaten track and you could find yourself in real britain
best wishes, Shay
(more ideas if you want)
If you want a day trip out from London you could enjoy walks using cheap day return train tickets to get out to Singles Outdoor Club walks (Naturist - Non-sexual) Plenty of really quiet get away from it all places with great scenic views/ feeling part of the countryside? Se their website?
Plenty of unspoilt coastlines too with a little research? Kent and the south downs are quiet too.
Northumberland is really great if you get off the track and the beaches/dunes are unbeatable but the same kind of weather as Scotland.
lincoln and the nearby Wolds are interesting and attractive
North Wales, castles mountaind rivers etc
I'm rabbitting. There's so much to go at - want to narrow the field and tell us what kind of thing you are looking for?
Just go and stay off the motorways and beaten track and you could find yourself in real britain
best wishes, Shay
(more ideas if you want)
Sexlightened
I'm with Sheddy on the beauty for now and brains for living with but I think I may be getting to an age where neither is important, just whether we get along fine! - sad??
For others, does it depend on how they see themselves as to whether they want the same.
I get turned on by brains as well as beauty but to be more serious on the beauty side and to explain my first comment, it is often the undefinable but essential element of anothe, the je ne sais quoi,r that makes tthem so desirable.- not always their resemblance to stereotypes?
Shay
For others, does it depend on how they see themselves as to whether they want the same.
I get turned on by brains as well as beauty but to be more serious on the beauty side and to explain my first comment, it is often the undefinable but essential element of anothe, the je ne sais quoi,r that makes tthem so desirable.- not always their resemblance to stereotypes?
Shay
Sexlightened
Hi,
Got to agree with the original poster that the effect is upon those reading/ viewing hte material not necessarily with the models themselves.
When the laddies are reading this and egged on into believing every woman is getting their tits out for them 'personally' is it any wonder that they have scant regard for women.
I think a point here, that is often missed, is the language used in articles associated with the women in magazines and porn sites. It is the violent nature of the language that is abusive to women rather than the scantily clad women that causes the denigration of women.
Think of it this way: It is perfectly possible to tell someone to "get los"t in a variety of different ways by the intonation of your voice and the speed and volume of the delivery - you may smile or not. Try it with other phrases and you can see that its the hidden aggression that is really at fault not a naked image IMHO
Shay
Got to agree with the original poster that the effect is upon those reading/ viewing hte material not necessarily with the models themselves.
When the laddies are reading this and egged on into believing every woman is getting their tits out for them 'personally' is it any wonder that they have scant regard for women.
I think a point here, that is often missed, is the language used in articles associated with the women in magazines and porn sites. It is the violent nature of the language that is abusive to women rather than the scantily clad women that causes the denigration of women.
Think of it this way: It is perfectly possible to tell someone to "get los"t in a variety of different ways by the intonation of your voice and the speed and volume of the delivery - you may smile or not. Try it with other phrases and you can see that its the hidden aggression that is really at fault not a naked image IMHO
Shay
Sexlightened
Well the problem with sex education is that at school it is never at the right time. My two boys have had different serious discussions at different times from 7 onwards and it is clear from their friends that some know or better, understand more at earlier rather than late ages. (Not the right place to discuss my childrens funnies regarding morality here, unfortunately)
I have always thought that year 7 sex education is aimed at catching those that have no sex education and/or are at risk of creating pregnancy through ignorance.
Can schools really explain anything other than biological reproduction? How could schools explain emotions and various sexual practices that yield nothing but pleasure?
I have always thought that year 7 sex education is aimed at catching those that have no sex education and/or are at risk of creating pregnancy through ignorance.
Can schools really explain anything other than biological reproduction? How could schools explain emotions and various sexual practices that yield nothing but pleasure?
Sexlightened
Well I suppose, bigan, its an opportunity to clarify the differences between nudist (enjoyment of being naked) naturist ( which implies being nude at least some of the time, but part of a wider lifestyle) and swinger which is sexual and may not need th e removal of all your clothes at all.
just to clarify: My naturist fun yesterday involved a ten mile hike, largely nude, and didn't involve any sex. Still had a good time though.
good luck with your search for fun though!
best wishes, Shay
just to clarify: My naturist fun yesterday involved a ten mile hike, largely nude, and didn't involve any sex. Still had a good time though.
good luck with your search for fun though!
best wishes, Shay
Sexlightened
Four years ago my job started to affect my heath and I always said that I would give up if it got that bad and I did just that - took my ball home saying I am not playing.
For now its probably best to know what you have to find financially to keep things going and settle for that whilst you perhaps find what is going to be best. It suits me to be self employed on less money and have more time for me and kids whilst they are growing up but you have to find what suits you and be happy with that.
As far as finding a job a friend of mine once sent out 50 e-mails to friends asking them if they or friends of theirs had some kind of job and what he was really interested in - kind of pyramid job application and it worked a treat.
Best wishes for your searches - remember there are lots of people who have done this before and keep chatting to friends to keep you on the straight and narrow.
Shay
For now its probably best to know what you have to find financially to keep things going and settle for that whilst you perhaps find what is going to be best. It suits me to be self employed on less money and have more time for me and kids whilst they are growing up but you have to find what suits you and be happy with that.
As far as finding a job a friend of mine once sent out 50 e-mails to friends asking them if they or friends of theirs had some kind of job and what he was really interested in - kind of pyramid job application and it worked a treat.
Best wishes for your searches - remember there are lots of people who have done this before and keep chatting to friends to keep you on the straight and narrow.
Shay
Sexlightened
Good idea, following the suggestion of casual conversation, is to ask, even your friends if you want, to find out what fantasies they like, attraction to film stars other people etc,. Sometimes you get a smile and a polite refusal to say but sometimes you are allowed a secret! Maybe that is worth developing?
Also, it is tempting to discuss your wishes to see the others reaction but really you want them to be fulfilled too? Perhaps finding their wishes and allowing them to go there gets you and your wishes? My problem was there was almost no common ground!
Shay
Also, it is tempting to discuss your wishes to see the others reaction but really you want them to be fulfilled too? Perhaps finding their wishes and allowing them to go there gets you and your wishes? My problem was there was almost no common ground!
Shay
Sexlightened
Hello,
Sorry Dawn_Mids, I had a bit of a headache today - not the best day for posting - all i could do to pose the question.
having read a lot about clubs, without any opportunity to go I just wondered what I moght be missing. I understand the difference between watching sport on TV and participating and I figure that is the main difference. However, I was also curious to know if people meet for the first time more at SH or clubs. Seems that most people are already teamed up at clubs?
Thanks for the replyPoloLady, I am not unshockable and usually I prefer to know, so don;t be coy, cos someone will tell me. It might as well come from you?
Thanks lets_kiss and flidais-media for an the information, especially the write-up lets_kiss - so enthusiastic!
Hopefully I will get a few more replies?
Shay
Sorry Dawn_Mids, I had a bit of a headache today - not the best day for posting - all i could do to pose the question.
having read a lot about clubs, without any opportunity to go I just wondered what I moght be missing. I understand the difference between watching sport on TV and participating and I figure that is the main difference. However, I was also curious to know if people meet for the first time more at SH or clubs. Seems that most people are already teamed up at clubs?
Thanks for the replyPoloLady, I am not unshockable and usually I prefer to know, so don;t be coy, cos someone will tell me. It might as well come from you?
Thanks lets_kiss and flidais-media for an the information, especially the write-up lets_kiss - so enthusiastic!
Hopefully I will get a few more replies?
Shay
Sexlightened
Hello,
Never been to a club so I wondered if the more experienced members could tell me what is similar and what is different with chatrooms?
What also prompted me to write was the fact that certain rooms seemed to attract a hectoring group of males co-ercing women to get their kit off which might not happen face to face?
Also there seemed to be some debate about men and women masturbating on cam in the same room - does that happen in clubs?
Anyway, whatever you think - educate me!
best wishes,
Shay
Never been to a club so I wondered if the more experienced members could tell me what is similar and what is different with chatrooms?
What also prompted me to write was the fact that certain rooms seemed to attract a hectoring group of males co-ercing women to get their kit off which might not happen face to face?
Also there seemed to be some debate about men and women masturbating on cam in the same room - does that happen in clubs?
Anyway, whatever you think - educate me!
best wishes,
Shay
Sexlightened
I've not seen a lot of cams here as I have only just started watching the cams to see how things work here but there seem to be some very dark corners in some of the views.......
I appreciate we don't want to sit in the full glare of floodlights but perhaps moving the candles round a bit might help some people/ Have you ever shone a torch under your chin when its dark?
I agree though that people that are out to be offensive should be reported. Everyone I've seen is here for the good intention of enjoying themselves and meeting others it's not necessary to be rude.
Shay
I appreciate we don't want to sit in the full glare of floodlights but perhaps moving the candles round a bit might help some people/ Have you ever shone a torch under your chin when its dark?
I agree though that people that are out to be offensive should be reported. Everyone I've seen is here for the good intention of enjoying themselves and meeting others it's not necessary to be rude.
Shay
Sexlightened
Not often I am dumbstruck but it nearly happened..
Current photo on driving licence yielded several obscure names but prominent was Billy Graham...
to balance there was, later in the list, George Clooney, Cary Grant and Hulio Inglesias phew !
but more..
A picture from 6 years ago yielded Kirk douglas kevin Spacey, Arnie and Jim Carey so it was worth one more picture from 20 years ago...
Ronaldo, Peter Fonda, Pablo Casals, Anthony Hopkins and Kris Kristofferson (and I never had a beard!
now I have got an identity crisis..............thanks!
perhaps there is a little fame in all of us?
Shay 
Current photo on driving licence yielded several obscure names but prominent was Billy Graham...
to balance there was, later in the list, George Clooney, Cary Grant and Hulio Inglesias phew !
but more..
A picture from 6 years ago yielded Kirk douglas kevin Spacey, Arnie and Jim Carey so it was worth one more picture from 20 years ago...
Ronaldo, Peter Fonda, Pablo Casals, Anthony Hopkins and Kris Kristofferson (and I never had a beard!
now I have got an identity crisis..............thanks!
perhaps there is a little fame in all of us?
Shay
Sexlightened
Hello again,
More information - perhaps?
Just to clarify the comment on gays - I have gay friends and they would mostly agree with me that they are a more obvious first sign that the original idea of a naturist beach has been lost.
Secondly, even at the famous Studland beach naturists are advised to avoid the gay area at one end becasue of what goes on there..
The Meerkat problem is another issue and the problem here is that they need to be reported to police, naturists have also taken this on board and try to co-operate with police - again this is to try and preserve what few places naturist families can go. We all have a need to feel safe whatever we do and wherever we go?
As light relief an anecdote: Sydney harbour beach (naturist) enjoying a happy fun time with family when a million pound police "gunboat" arrives close offshore. Shortly followed by four pedestrian officers. ( incl one detective and one a woman) to suggest this was not a place to bring my children or really for anyone associated with me to be.
I pointed out politlely that if there were perverts at the end of the beach perhaps they should do something about it. As well as doing something about the tourist boats that came to allow the 'ordinary public' to photograph the men who pose and perform on the rocks or perhaps the public members on a coastal path behind the beach who pose for pictures with the nudes on the beach as a background. They were very persistent but left when I accused them of harassment if they continued with the same mantra.
Bizarre! Great way to finish an Australian adventure.
We can lose what tolerance people have if we don't understand the cause and effect?
Keep the comments coming it is really interesting to me anyway!
More information - perhaps?
Just to clarify the comment on gays - I have gay friends and they would mostly agree with me that they are a more obvious first sign that the original idea of a naturist beach has been lost.
Secondly, even at the famous Studland beach naturists are advised to avoid the gay area at one end becasue of what goes on there..
The Meerkat problem is another issue and the problem here is that they need to be reported to police, naturists have also taken this on board and try to co-operate with police - again this is to try and preserve what few places naturist families can go. We all have a need to feel safe whatever we do and wherever we go?
As light relief an anecdote: Sydney harbour beach (naturist) enjoying a happy fun time with family when a million pound police "gunboat" arrives close offshore. Shortly followed by four pedestrian officers. ( incl one detective and one a woman) to suggest this was not a place to bring my children or really for anyone associated with me to be.
I pointed out politlely that if there were perverts at the end of the beach perhaps they should do something about it. As well as doing something about the tourist boats that came to allow the 'ordinary public' to photograph the men who pose and perform on the rocks or perhaps the public members on a coastal path behind the beach who pose for pictures with the nudes on the beach as a background. They were very persistent but left when I accused them of harassment if they continued with the same mantra.
Bizarre! Great way to finish an Australian adventure.
We can lose what tolerance people have if we don't understand the cause and effect?
Keep the comments coming it is really interesting to me anyway!
Sexlightened
Hi,
I recently responded to somones ad for a suggested naturist beach to have a swinging time. I am not against this -why would I be here otherwise and I particularly enjoy outdoor sex but I think we do no one any favours by going to designated or recognised naturist beaches. I wanted to give others the chance to comment on this view as I mught be out of step here - so educate me?
My reasons are these:
The naturists who establish these places are not all about sex. They were set up as places that anyone, including children, can enjoy the liberties and sensualness of being naked in a 'safe' environment.
When beaches get overrun by those who think it is a sexual free for all (gays take particular note) naturist places get a bad press and bring down the heavies of the church, local authorities and then the police (who often don't want to be brought in but are forced to act)
This leaves the naturists with nowhere to go and a reduced chance of getting nudity on beaches accepted - this is bad for us all.
Naturists only have 11 official beaches in the UK, Ireland has none and then there are the other non-official but recognised sites. The total length of shoreline is probably less than 30 miles out of a total coast of 3500- 4500 miles! Is it too much to ask not to ruin the few small areas for everyone to use? Surely we can find other rendezvous purely for swinging games. Anyone care to organise a beach party in another forum?
Thanks for reading this long (could have been longer post) - let me know??
Shay
I recently responded to somones ad for a suggested naturist beach to have a swinging time. I am not against this -why would I be here otherwise and I particularly enjoy outdoor sex but I think we do no one any favours by going to designated or recognised naturist beaches. I wanted to give others the chance to comment on this view as I mught be out of step here - so educate me?
My reasons are these:
The naturists who establish these places are not all about sex. They were set up as places that anyone, including children, can enjoy the liberties and sensualness of being naked in a 'safe' environment.
When beaches get overrun by those who think it is a sexual free for all (gays take particular note) naturist places get a bad press and bring down the heavies of the church, local authorities and then the police (who often don't want to be brought in but are forced to act)
This leaves the naturists with nowhere to go and a reduced chance of getting nudity on beaches accepted - this is bad for us all.
Naturists only have 11 official beaches in the UK, Ireland has none and then there are the other non-official but recognised sites. The total length of shoreline is probably less than 30 miles out of a total coast of 3500- 4500 miles! Is it too much to ask not to ruin the few small areas for everyone to use? Surely we can find other rendezvous purely for swinging games. Anyone care to organise a beach party in another forum?
Thanks for reading this long (could have been longer post) - let me know??
Shay
Sexlightened
Hello,
This is my first post and I am going to sound a real prude but please listen to a plea - don't go to a nudist beach! Find another secluded or not so secluded beach for your activities as you prefer.
Naturists get a little upset by too much of this activity going on as they fight for the right to go nude on beaches etc only to have a lot of people, notably gay men treating it as a free for all zone - if this happens the beach gets "cleaned up" by religous zealots and authorities alike. If you do not care for this attitude then please remember there are few places that families can go and be nude - again they tend to go to recognised if not authorised beaches.
I like sex (out of doors especially) but please respect family friendly nudity zones - they are few and far between.
Happy to discuss further in a different thread if anyone is interested.
I hope you find a nice place for your weekend! We have nearly 4000miles of coastline have fun exploring and let us know where we can go to do the same
best wishes,
Shay
Shay
This is my first post and I am going to sound a real prude but please listen to a plea - don't go to a nudist beach! Find another secluded or not so secluded beach for your activities as you prefer.
Naturists get a little upset by too much of this activity going on as they fight for the right to go nude on beaches etc only to have a lot of people, notably gay men treating it as a free for all zone - if this happens the beach gets "cleaned up" by religous zealots and authorities alike. If you do not care for this attitude then please remember there are few places that families can go and be nude - again they tend to go to recognised if not authorised beaches.
I like sex (out of doors especially) but please respect family friendly nudity zones - they are few and far between.
Happy to discuss further in a different thread if anyone is interested.
I hope you find a nice place for your weekend! We have nearly 4000miles of coastline have fun exploring and let us know where we can go to do the same
best wishes,
Shay
Shay
