Quote by AndyS-NE
With only 2 posts under your belt, that's not likely.
My advice to you is get involved in the forums, have a laugh, get to know everyone, get invited to a munch or two and then maybe you'll get lucky...
I don't post here regularly, but I've been using this site for over a year.
I am getting really tired of all the sanctimonious postings of people such as you who take it upon yourselves to be the "moral" guardians of site or to answer on behalf of other people.
Just because someone has only a small number of posts or is a single guy (another favourite target of the forum police) does not mean that they are the devil incarnate. I have been to a few "spas" and I have found them to be incredibly cliquey and despite all the advice about striking up a conversation and being polite (which I am) most often than not my good manners are met with extreme rudeness. This forum seems to be populated by many like-minded individuals such as those of my experience at spas.
So my question to these people is this ? Were you never "the new kids on the block" ? Did you manage to suddenly insinuate yourselves into a clique ?
Give the newer or more reticent among us a break - don't tar us all with the same brush, don't jump on us when we happen to post - unless your motive is to keep this forum as a closed shop - and don't presume to answer for someone else. It's rude if nothing else.
S.
Buts thats the point Stu - yes we were all Newbies at some point - but how do you think people got known - they posted in the blloody cafe and got involved with the threads - i am in a simailr boat - i still consider myself a newbie but i am now in regular contact with 3 people via pm - fair enough i doubt it'll lead to anything - but i don't particually want that at the moment!!!
I know it seems as though there is a new poster police about and i admit to playing a small part of it, but alot of the new posters don't do themselves any favours by posting one liners!!
You will always find "cliques" in any walk of life but the only way to break down barriers is to get yourself known!!!
Reverse the situation if you were at a Spa with a group of friend / aquantices and someone just started to strike up a conversation would you just invite them over - especially when you think of the bad name single males have!!
Remember you are at a disadvantge falling into the single male category and unfortunatly you will at some point have to stand out from the rest -again how do you do that? Get your self known, peeps will remember you if they like you!!
The reason you feel tarred with the same brush is becasue you have done exactly the same as the vast majority of first time posters!!! Some people on here have seen literally hundreds of similar posts - so can you blame them for thinkiing what they do?
Can you see the sense in this??
GET YOURSELF KNOWN!! and you'll stand a better chance of getting what you want!!
Right i am off my soap box!!
The reason you feel tarred with the same brush is becasue you have done exactly the same as the vast majority of first time posters
OK - exactly what have I done other than address the concerns of new posters ? You know nothing about me or anything I have done.
There is a definite anti-newbie attitude on this forum and I personally think it is appalling. I accept that there will be those who think this is an easy way to score, I'm not one of them and I resent the implication. Like I already said, and I am pleased to see some others support it, you all had to start somewhere - didn't you ?
S.
