Hi all !
I've had a few replys to my ad, and one of them, I'm not sure if its genuine. I'm not going to state the details on here in case the person is genuine. The strange thing about the reply is that it seems completely non personal, like a standard message or bot written.
Basically, it doesn't include my name, anything referring to my photos or what I wrote. I've no intention of replying if its fake, but if its a genuine person, then I feel bad not at least giving them a yes or no.
Anyone able to give me any advice !
Thanks !
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takingitslow
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 55
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I really don't think I have much to tell. I came here just over a year ago, met up with a couple in newcastle. It was pretty odd. I didn't come here for a long time. Then curiousity got the better of me. I never used to post before (not that I can remember anyway) and kind of wish I hadnt now.
I probably shouldnt have asked so many questions as it seems to have really upset people. Sorry ! I never even thought about journalists being a problem
I think it might have been better off to lurk. I'm sorry if I'm not your average newbie, it seems that not being a typical single male and one who appears above radar early on is a really big mistake. Way to burn bridges during my first few days ! Yeah ! Go me !
I probably shouldnt have asked so many questions as it seems to have really upset people. Sorry ! I never even thought about journalists being a problem
I think it might have been better off to lurk. I'm sorry if I'm not your average newbie, it seems that not being a typical single male and one who appears above radar early on is a really big mistake. Way to burn bridges during my first few days ! Yeah ! Go me !
Thanks for that naughtynympho, thats another aspect I hadnt thought of. I'd never considered the fact that there may be some attraction of bisexual guys to women who are not partners.I'd always assumed the eroticism came from the fact you were seeing you partner engage in the act.
Wow, I realise I know so LITTLE about this lifestyle. I think the level of trust that must exist must be really high and that you must have to have a strong relationship with a lot of love, but I guess the rewards for both partners must really enrich the relationship ! (if that made sense !)
Steve
Wow, I realise I know so LITTLE about this lifestyle. I think the level of trust that must exist must be really high and that you must have to have a strong relationship with a lot of love, but I guess the rewards for both partners must really enrich the relationship ! (if that made sense !)
Steve
I don't mean tips on posting, or "getting some" as I have read from a lot of guys. I mean in a more serious emotional pit falls to watch out for. Certain types of advert that might seem interesting to me but start alarm bells ringing for you guys ?
What sort of encounters were your first ? Do you think you got in too heavy or too shallow? How would you have liked them to have gone.
What about encounters you have regretted ? If there have been any obviously. And is it possible to find situtions that are erotic and charged rather than just sex. By this I mena tension and excitement. I guess thats what I am looking for, but am not sure how to start off !
Thanks all !
Steve
BTW, thanks for all the friendly advice I have been given so far - you guys and girls are very open, honest and willing to share !
What sort of encounters were your first ? Do you think you got in too heavy or too shallow? How would you have liked them to have gone.
What about encounters you have regretted ? If there have been any obviously. And is it possible to find situtions that are erotic and charged rather than just sex. By this I mena tension and excitement. I guess thats what I am looking for, but am not sure how to start off !
Thanks all !
Steve
BTW, thanks for all the friendly advice I have been given so far - you guys and girls are very open, honest and willing to share !
Dont mind me Nigel, I'm jsut thinking out loud. Thinking too far into the future and all ! Its inspiring to see so many posiitve stories on here . One thing I have noticed is that a lot of couples seem to find it hard to find bisexual women to join them.
Is this that most bisexual woman are in couples and they dont usually swing alone, or is the fact that not many single bisexual women visit SH so the choice is limited for couples looking for mff ?
Is this that most bisexual woman are in couples and they dont usually swing alone, or is the fact that not many single bisexual women visit SH so the choice is limited for couples looking for mff ?
Thats something, I had not thought of... one half of the couple wanting to go it alone. I had kind of assumed if you told your other half it was all or nothing. I'd never really thought about the woman wanting some time to herself so to speak.
I guess that sounds kind of sexist, but its just niavety. So much to learn still... sigh. A lot on here still confuses me.
I guess that sounds kind of sexist, but its just niavety. So much to learn still... sigh. A lot on here still confuses me.
I've just been browsing through the forum and I read a few similar questions by others. It's not that I'm after anyone in particular at the moment, or with someone, but I couldn't live a lie by not persuing this or hdiing it from them.
I was once with a couple who seemed pretty unsure if they wanted to go ahead. I thought I would be the nervous one,but thats not how it worked out. The whole evening seemed to be about humiliating the boyfriend and following the girlfriends wishes.
I actually got the feeling though that he had been a swinger for sometime and had been doing it without her knowlegde ( she was about ten years younger). I felt she was trying to humilate him as a form of revenge for what his dishonesty.
They were a pretty strange couple, and I have no idea wether they stayed together, or continued swinging. I do know I don't want to be stuck in the middle of such a situation again !
I was once with a couple who seemed pretty unsure if they wanted to go ahead. I thought I would be the nervous one,but thats not how it worked out. The whole evening seemed to be about humiliating the boyfriend and following the girlfriends wishes.
I actually got the feeling though that he had been a swinger for sometime and had been doing it without her knowlegde ( she was about ten years younger). I felt she was trying to humilate him as a form of revenge for what his dishonesty.
They were a pretty strange couple, and I have no idea wether they stayed together, or continued swinging. I do know I don't want to be stuck in the middle of such a situation again !
Mainly, I'm aiming this at people who have partners who were not met on here. Did you get into swinging before you met your partner, or whilst you were with said person ? Are they now part of your lswinging life or do you hide it ?
I can't imagine hiding it, but then again, if you are in a long term relationship and havnt revealed it - how did you go about it ? I cant imagine its very easy to introduce a loved one to this sort of lifestlye. I'm glad I don't have to deal with this at the moment, but I can see a time when I might be with someone who I wouldn't want to hide this from.
Anyway...
Would love to here all you veterans comments, and any non painful anecdotes you may have. Oh, and if this is a relaly obvious or stupid question then please ignore more !
I can't imagine hiding it, but then again, if you are in a long term relationship and havnt revealed it - how did you go about it ? I cant imagine its very easy to introduce a loved one to this sort of lifestlye. I'm glad I don't have to deal with this at the moment, but I can see a time when I might be with someone who I wouldn't want to hide this from.
Anyway...
Would love to here all you veterans comments, and any non painful anecdotes you may have. Oh, and if this is a relaly obvious or stupid question then please ignore more !
Hi everyone,
I've only just joined, although I've been lurking for a while. I've had one sucessful meetup under my old name / advert, and have finally plucked up the courage to return ! I know that it is very hard to for a single male to get any responses, but can anyone give me some advice about a good level for newbie encounters.
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I guess what I'm trying to say, in a rather long winded way, is that munches and clubs are a bit too much for me at this stage. I'm not here to "get laid" or just go for the first thing that comes my way. I'm perfectly willing to settle in and take my time.
In conclusion, has anybody got any tips for the type of stuff its good to start out with ?
Thanks all !
I've only just joined, although I've been lurking for a while. I've had one sucessful meetup under my old name / advert, and have finally plucked up the courage to return ! I know that it is very hard to for a single male to get any responses, but can anyone give me some advice about a good level for newbie encounters.
: I guess what I'm trying to say, in a rather long winded way, is that munches and clubs are a bit too much for me at this stage. I'm not here to "get laid" or just go for the first thing that comes my way. I'm perfectly willing to settle in and take my time.
In conclusion, has anybody got any tips for the type of stuff its good to start out with ?
Thanks all !
