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This being the second issue
Heaven Magazine, we've
had some letters from
our readers - some of
them giving us feedback
about Issue 1(most
welcome!), and others
with problems and
queries to answer...
Firstly, let me thank you so much
for the first issue of the magazine. It's
brilliantly put together and, whle we have
the website and our friends, it's great to
have a hard copy to pick up and read, that
so well reflects our lifestyle.
We have a question, though.Would it
be possible for the contact ads to be put
into categories i.e. geographical region and
what people are looking for?
John and J (Leicester)
Absolutely. As you will see from this issue,we
have categorised the ads in the way we felt
was most helpful for respondents.
I liked the editorial of Issue 1...
but I was a bit disappointed with the lack of
erotic pictures. Now that the law has
changed, can't you publish more explicit
photos - I know there's something about
so-called 'pink bits' - but what does that
Peter (South Wales)
SH Magazine is a life-style publication, in
which we intend to write about issues that are
part and parcel of, or associated in some way
with, the swinging scene. It is our aim to
produce well written and informative
editorial that is backed up with 'soft' images.
'Hard' images are available through many
other top-shelf publications and via the
internet. Being a porn mag is not what we are
about at all. Regarding the 'pink bits'; yes your quite correct the law has changed in
the UK and licensed outlets can now sell
hard-core porn. 'Pink bits' refer to things such
as erect penises, open pussies, visible
penetrative sex (vaginal, oral and anal) full
cum shots and other similar images that you
would expect in hard-core. These products
are categorised as 'R18' as opposed to the
slightly tamer '18'. Most DVDs and photo
shoots cover both categories, and the
resulting images are used in one form or
another.While we review 'R18' material,we
will not publish it.
I have 'swung' with my husband
on about a dozen occasions but only with
close friends whom we've known for many
years. I guess you call it 'soft swinging'.
I know that my husband loves it and I do
too and we'd really like to let loose and go
to a real club and just see what happens
with strangers. My problem is that I am size
16 and I don't feel that confident. I have
had some bi experiences, but all of the
other women were much slimmer than me.
If we went to a strange club, would I just be
avoided and would people say 'what's that
elephant here for?'- or what? I've lost two
stone to get to size 16 - I just can't get any
I can understand where you're coming from.
We are all image-conscious and it's easy to
lack confidence. But my instinct is to say, 'You
silly woman!' In sexual matters, other than for
underfed magazine models, size really, really
does not matter at all.What does matter is
the sexual desire and, in effect, the horniness
of a person.You have said that you swing with
your friends - both male and female - and
they obviously enjoy sex with you or it
wouldn't happen at all. Just be confident in
yourself - easy to say, not easy to do, but just
try. Go to a club and wear things that make
you feel good - a nice outer layer and great
underwear and just know in your own mind
that you are desirable, sexy and up for it.You
will definitely not be the biggest girl there.
Size 16 is not big, and the larger woman is often a damn sight sexier than the
versions. Many men, and women too, prefer a
bigger body to hold, cuddle, play with and be
held by. Most sexually active people, men and
bi women,would much prefer to nuzzle up to
Marilyn Monroe (size 16++) than a bony,
undernourished model-8 stick insect.
Go to the club of your choice, feel
confident - and I promise you will not be
disappointed. Neither will your hubby or the
guys and girls that you meet.
You probably can't answer this.
My wife won't swing.We're both 48 and have
been married for 22 years.We have been to
a few ordinary house parties where some
overt swapping has taken place, including
open sex three - and four-somes, but we
have never joined in.When we've got home
we've talked about it and my wife admits
that watching really turned her on and it
has led to some great sex between us.
However, she says that she could never get
involved herself. I would really like to try it
and I would really love her to as well.
Our chauvinistic office lackey suggested 'Get
her really pissed or get a new wife'.He was
pilloried for these stupid comments and made
to buy the first two rounds at our local that
Friday for being so palpably stupid. (It's the
penalty for the daftest remark of the week.)
You are both clearly turned on by
watching and the thought of swinging.Your
wife obviously doesn't want to indulge at the
moment.You seem to have a good sex life
together - many couples wouldn't even
discuss the matter.You are a very, very lucky
man.You have a sexy wife who is devoted to
you. Do not try and force anything on
someone so close. Respect her wishes.Why
not try getting hold of some hard-core DVDs
and watching them together and discussing
what turns you both on and what doesn't? As
with all matters sexual, communication is the
most important thing.You may find some
role-playing examples a good substitute for
direct swinging. That way you could be
swinging with an image while still with your same
partner in private.
If you feel brave enough, try
going to a swinging club.You don't
have to swing when you're there -
just do what a lot of couples do, enjoy
the atmosphere and maybe just have
exhibitionist sex with each other.
Remember, 'No' means 'NO!' in such
Again, don't try to force your wife into
doing something that she doesn't want to do, and
be happy with the open closeness that you have
together.You never know, maybe one day she will
want to give it a try.
I am a wannabe bi-girl -
actually. I'm 37 and have fantasised since my
teens about having sex with a woman - but have
never done so. My sex life with my husband is
great but I really want to try with a woman and
want to 'try out' the first time when he is not
around. Maybe later we could have threesomes.
He is away in Europe on business for about a
quarter of the year, so I have the opportunity but
not the knowledge of what to do or where to go.
I won't answer contact ads as I want to stay
anonymous. Pippa (London)
The easiest and most comfortable way to take the
first step is to visit a gay and lesbian bar.You say
you're from London, so there are many to choose
from and the sheer variety and size of London
virtually guarantees your anonymity.You don't
have to make the first move. Just have a couple of
drinks, soak in the ambience, smile a lot and a more
experienced person will approach you. If it's a quiet
night and no one does - don't worry, next time
Or, you could cut straight to the chase and go
as a single girl to a swinging club where, being
single, you will have no end of opportunities to
indulge in what you fancy and start 'tipping the
velvet'. Most swinging clubs grant entrance to
single girls at very low prices - some are even free.
If it's something that you've wanted to do for 20
years, just take the plunge now. There is more
detailed advice for you in the article ' Swinging for
Girls' on page 4 of this issue.