After a couple of days I raised the subject of "our new buddies" and Danielle said I must be telepathic because she had a call from Stella on the way back from work. Hearing of her interest in antiques Stella invited her to a fair the next day, Alex was too busy soting out their move to Germany. Danielle said it was short notice to take holiday but would check in the morning and call her back. It was around ten the next morning when she called me at work to say they were on their way to the fair.When she got back she said had a fantastic time and said "wait till you hear this." She and Stella had really hit it off and when Danielle asked her if it had been hard living apart a lot of the time Stella had said "not really." She went on to explain that she was bisexual and had been since college days. She had a relationship currently in Germany with Lisi. Alex had known this right from the start, they were completely honest with each other about everything. Stella loved Alex deeply but she had never thought he would marry her knowing she needed to be free to have affairs with other women. So in fairness Alex would have his needs and she was ok with that. Danielle was right I was gobsmacked to even be somehow involved in this hedonistic scenario. She asked me if I could have been ok with something like that, meaning two women. I said I did n't know. She said she could understand that a lot of men liked watching two women, but your wife in a relationship? I surprised her by saying as long as our relationship was not endangered I would respect her individual freedom to have other friends or even relationships. If new situations were beginning to replace ours I would have to think of moving on. I then added the bit that I could not have said even a few weeks ago, that whether it was another woman or another man it would be ok as long as we were ok. She inferred that this must mean I was looking to have freedom to see other women. I assured her that nothing could be further from the truth but that could conceivably change over time. I asked her if Stella had hit on her and she said of course not, she seems to be very happy with this Lisi. She then could not resist asking "Do you really mean that you would allow me to have a friendship or even more with another man?" I said having the freedom is the most important, whether you act on it would be dictated by circumstances, I wasn't talking about putting it about just for the sake of it. I added that in some ways it could make sure people did not take each other for granted. She went silent so I returned to the Stella situation and asked her if she was repulsed by the thought of two women having sex. She said that she wasn't and Stella had asked her the same question, going on to say to Danielle that the two sexual situations with a man or another woman were both very enjoyable but very different and she did not feel one better than the other. Practical issues overtook this erotica when Danielle said Stella was returning at the weekend to get their temporary apartment up to scratch while Alex was staying for another week to settle in his new deputy in the UK. I asked Danielle if she was going clubbing again with the girls and she wasn't sure. I checked the e mails again and She had received several from Alex asking when they could see each other again. He had told her that he could get her started on a good photography course if she wanted as he was intending to go when he was back in the UK twice a month. It was very awkward for Danielle, despite our previous conversation to tell me about this but I said this was a great way to further this interest she always had. I also relieved her by saying that I knew she found him attractive and that should not stop her. I said if you find you want more then I won't object if we are going to be OK. She asked if I was absolutely sure. I asked if she did want more. There were tears forming in her eyes so I said that was an answer in itself. I said the most important answer for me was that we would be ok, and if that were the case I could even get aroused about the idea of her having an affair. She said "Richard, I really, really don't know what to say and I can't deny I am excited, but I love you and if you will say that you will still love me as much afterwards as you do now I will go to the photography class" I took her mobile and gave it to her and told her to ring Alex to tell him we had had this conversation, and it was ok for them to date whenever he was back in the UK. She was quivering with excitement when she told him and he obviously assumed I was not there, suggesting that evening, she turned and I nodded. I have not been able to talk to friends or family about this so it has been a relief of sorts to write it down for someone to read. I am happy as thigs stand, our relationship has re-discovered its spark and Danielle is deliriously happy that she has two men adoring her. Our sex has no hang ups anymore but some things are best kept secret. If there is more to write about in the future then I probably will.