I blame porn-- yep definitely oops sorry Let me explain how sex has now become a pain in the arse. Im a 55yr old straight Guy married 30 yrs and still have a great sex life with the wife min twice a week, on a good week its nightly however in my early years there was just viewing porn and watching very enthusiastic ladies getting arse fucked and enjoying it As my own sexual experience has grown so has wanting to try new things courage usually came with the beer but so did heavy handedness and poor aim trying to get my cock into my wife's arse usually ended up in a flop and more annoying was the feeling of upsetting the good lady trying things that she didnt want to do . Bashing about her two holes, just made her sore, frustrated and uptight. So when I was on my own I planned to use her dildo on my own arse , easing into it , to see why she didnt like it and how I could squeeze in hers without too much hassle Out came the gel ,in went the dildo - I videoed it to see how far it had gone in – all of it 7” as I worked it up and down , the gel lubed the tract and the unusual pleasure pain feeling became more pleasure than pain, my cock not stiff but dribbling precum - I didnt want to get too sore the first time – so leaving it in I finished my wank and shot more cum than I usually did . After a few solo trys – I brought it into our lovemaking (not every time) hoping the sight of actually fucking my arse with her dildo would encourage her to let me have her arse I have had her a couple of times and we both agree its not for her , however the dildo still comes out to play ,well actually its my own dildo and she has her toys so there you have it sex is a pain in my arse and I blame porn next step a threesome and perhaps the real cock my arse.