Can understand how annoying univited whispers are and no matter what you do it will still happen sadly.
There are many times when I've switched rooms and then had to log out for the same reason.
Have run own room and it's only if people in there let you know they getting whispers can the room host warn and then take appropriate action if it persists. Had the odd choice word whispered when warned person. Helps if hosting a room to periodically let new roomies know the rules in a pleasant way.
Even stating on room title No whispers/Directing is no guarantee against uninvited whispers
One way I have found which sometimes works though sadly not always is to reply to a whisper in open room. However tend to keep those replies brief that way with luck person will stop or join in the room conversation.
Gives the person a chance to ask or accept you do not want to private message with them.
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The other night we was whispered 6 times, and on each occasion asked him to stop. He then got quite abbusive and I went onto the forum, and asked bi welsh for help.
She came into the room, and I copied and pasted his rather gross reply to us, and bi welsh banned him for it.
Of course ignoring whispers is the correct way of doing things, but sometimes when they are persistant it can be hard.
One the first whisper ignore, on the second, post no whispers, on the third post in the room, after that search in the forum for a mod, and let them deal with it. This has worked well for us many times
What I don't like about the whispers is it is ALWAYS single men. They don't want to chat, they aren't interested in anything other than sex.
That's not to say we aren't into it, but it would be nice to get to know people before they suddenly make a move on us.
We're a young couple, very new to the forums and still trying to learn our way around. But I think there should be some way of segregating the serious swingers from the lonely single guys who nobody is really interested in.
I also am driven mad with unwanted whispers even though I have made it plain in my profile that this is unacceptable to me ... but hey who actually reads the words? Its like a comic cartoon, they only look at the pictures. However Horny I have found that the best way to solve the problem is a) find out who the room owner is and let them know when the problem becomes unacceptable or b) become the room owner then, by keeping a warning about directing and whispers on permanent cut and paste, as the OP's do, then you are able to remind the room frequently and also add someones name to the warning, thereby fufilling SH rules by warning before kicking offenders. Yes you do get more abuse as a room owner but I find this is offset by the fact that you can control the situation without having to leave the room to find an OP to deal with it.
Question to OP's tho .... if someone in the room is abusive either to me or another roomie do they have to be warned before being booted or is an automatic boot justified? By abusive I mean foul language and threats.
