Woman Doggers, How Common Are They?

4 Oct 2005

Quote by lusty_modesty
However it would have nice to find at least one couple admitting that their sex life was stagnating and to have claimed that dogging can work. No answer but it doesn't matter...

Well it must matter as you fetched it up again rolleyes

I am only guessing here but the main reason I think you can't find a couple to admit that dogging saved a stagnated marriage is because you are talking utter bollox biggrin

4 Oct 2005

4 Oct 2005

Quote by Dawn_Mids
However it would have nice to find at least one couple admitting that their sex life was stagnating and to have claimed that dogging can work. No answer but it doesn't matter...

Well it must matter as you fetched it up again rolleyes

I am only guessing here but the main reason I think you can't find a couple to admit that dogging saved a stagnated marriage is because you are talking utter bollox biggrin

Yeah right, the bullocks that the media has fed the public to believe. A TV documentary definitely mentioned something about stagnating sex life but thanks for rectifying that fact once and for all. Couples with stagnating sex life, so dogging is definitely no, no, no for them then...that's one answer more than enough

4 Oct 2005

Quote by Dawn_Mids
However it would have nice to find at least one couple admitting that their sex life was stagnating and to have claimed that dogging can work. No answer but it doesn't matter...

Well it must matter as you fetched it up again rolleyes

I am only guessing here but the main reason I think you can't find a couple to admit that dogging saved a stagnated marriage is because you are talking utter bollox biggrin

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4 Oct 2005

Quote by lusty_modesty
A TV documentary definitely mentioned something about stagnating sex life but thanks for rectifying that fact once and for all.

Ahh! I see . . . it *must* be true that we've all taken up dogging to help our flagging sex lives because *it's been said so on the telly* :!:
I remember now . . . everything on the TV is true, espeically those bits you wish to be true. Bet some people even think Eastenders is real life too rolleyes

:dry:
Tracy-Jayne

4 Oct 2005

Quote by RedHot

A TV documentary definitely mentioned something about stagnating sex life but thanks for rectifying that fact once and for all.

Ahh! I see . . . it *must* be true that we've all taken up dogging to help our flagging sex lives because *it's been said so on the telly* :!:
I remember now . . . everything on the TV is true, espeically those bits you wish to be true. Bet some people even think Eastenders is real life too rolleyes

:dry:
Tracy-Jayne
Strangely we often get TV production companies answering our ads asking us for guidance;-) They are binned just as the spammer who is advertising a Blackpool Hotel today and targeting the accounts we use here;-)
oldcouple

4 Oct 2005

Quote by oldcouple
Strangely we often get TV production companies answering our ads asking us for guidance;-) They are binned just as the spammer who is advertising a Blackpool Hotel today and targeting the accounts we use here;-)
oldcouple

You should report them.

4 Oct 2005

Quote by lusty_modesty
Believe me, I agree with you entirely with the marriage stuffs you quite correctly pointed out but it sure as hell stinks when people keep coming to you and tell you they tried Relate and all the conventional stuffs and it still doesn't work. I was trying my best to be broad minded enough to come to accepting that pershaps swinging and dogging may be the way forward for such couples but I'm not so sure anymore. Maybe you're either a swinger/ dogger or not, maybe it's just as easier for some couples to be Born Again Christian as I have seen in few troubled marriages.

I don't think I'm understanding this correctly .....I've made part of it bold in particular. Are you asking these questions in a professional capacity to determine potential avenues for couples with marital problems to explore? or as a friend looking to offer advice to a couple?

4 Oct 2005

Quote by Serendipity
Believe me, I agree with you entirely with the marriage stuffs you quite correctly pointed out but it sure as hell stinks when people keep coming to you and tell you they tried Relate and all the conventional stuffs and it still doesn't work. I was trying my best to be broad minded enough to come to accepting that pershaps swinging and dogging may be the way forward for such couples but I'm not so sure anymore. Maybe you're either a swinger/ dogger or not, maybe it's just as easier for some couples to be Born Again Christian as I have seen in few troubled marriages.

I don't think I'm understanding this correctly .....I've made part of it bold in particular. Are you asking these questions in a professional capacity to determine potential avenues for couples with marital problems to explore? or as a friend looking to offer advice to a couple?
I don't get it either :confused:
How many times have we read on this site that swinging will not necessarily help re-stabilise an already rocky marriage?
I know of at least three couples who have tried swinging to help them over a problem in their relationship, only to find that after a very short while, the relationship goes tits up, as it was always going to do at some point anyway confused

Successful swinging is an act done within a very stable relationship. It should not be a last stab to try and save something which is no longer there. This will be doomed to fail every time and then everyone says *swinging drove my marriage apart* rolleyes

Bollocks! If the marriage is stable, swinging is an enhancement of a successful sex life and relationship overall. It is not the glue which keeps it all together regardless :roll:
Tracy-Jayne

4 Oct 2005

Most of the couples (if not all) that I have known in dogging use the extra sex as an addition to their life together and not as a support or replacement.
Surely most people can see that if your relationship is f**ked. then shagging around is hardly likely to help salvage it ?
Maybe the reason behind the original post isn't as simple as it seemed ?

4 Oct 2005

Quote by RedHot

A TV documentary definitely mentioned something about stagnating sex life but thanks for rectifying that fact once and for all.

Ahh! I see . . . it *must* be true that we've all taken up dogging to help our flagging sex lives because *it's been said so on the telly* :!:
Tracy-Jayne
There you go, at least you've sorted out the misconception of view held out by the wider public. And so if there are couples out there whose sex life is stagnating and are considering dogging (after they've tried Relate etc), then the message coming from your side is 'don't do it'because ordinary people just don't have what it takes...to do dogging.
Actually (and thank god) I'm very relieved to find this fact out that there really is a massive difference between people who do dogging (maybe swinging) and people who just can't (haven't got it in them), therefore shouldn't be doing it.
Media therefore has given false hope to couples with stagnating sex life...and false image of dogging people who never had any problem whatsoever. I hope we understand each other now.
Jokingly (and half meaning it), I might have recommended a 'stagnating couple' to try out dogging but now I know I shouldn't because of what I've come to learn. I hope the clarity has helped sort out couples' perception seriously misled by the media.

4 Oct 2005

Quote by jomu
Most of the couples (if not all) that I have known in dogging use the extra sex as an addition to their life together and not as a support or replacement.
Surely most people can see that if your relationship is f**ked. then shagging around is hardly likely to help salvage it ?
Maybe the reason behind the original post isn't as simple as it seemed ?

We often find couples go dogging as a starter and the main course is when they get home and in comfort.
oldcouple

4 Oct 2005

Quote by lusty_modesty

Ahh! I see . . . it *must* be true that we've all taken up dogging to help our flagging sex lives because *it's been said so on the telly* :!:
Tracy-Jayne

then the message coming from your side is 'don't do it'because ordinary people just don't have what it takes...to do dogging.
Media therefore has given false hope to couples with stagnating sex life...and false image of dogging people who never had any problem whatsoever. I hope we understand each other now.

Not quite sure what you mean by *ordinary people*. Jon and I are very ordinary people. We work, have a family, friends etc, it's just that we enjoy swinging and dogging.
If you mean ordinary people, as in, those who believe all the crap the media produce, then no we're not confused

It's a shame that you believe something you have read in some seedly little tabloid about how swinging or dogging can help a stagnant sex life sad

Do you also believe the other stuff they say about swingers and doggers? That we're all depraved sexual deviants who will shag anything with a pulse?
I sincerely hope not. After all, l if that is true about us, like the rest of the media tripe is assumed to be, then how come there are so many guys on here moaning about the lack of women rushing to shag them the minute they join the site?
Think about it logically. One minute the media say one thing about us. The next it's something else quite different. You simply can't believe what you read as if it's the Gospel. That's just idiotic in the extreme and makes you appear to be very gullible rolleyes

Tracy-Jayne

4 Oct 2005

lusty_modesty why are you so interested in this subject and what the media says about it?
Do you have some kind of issue going on here or motive that we don't fully understand dunno

Out of curiousity, what do you do for a living :dunno:

4 Oct 2005

Quote by RedHot
Think about it logically. One minute the media say one thing about us. The next it's something else quite different. You simply can't believe what you read as if it's the Gospel. That's just idiotic in the extreme and makes you appear to be very gullible
Tracy-Jayne

Quote by Dawn_Mids
Out of curiousity, what do you do for a living

or a reporter or researcher for a tv programme. :!:

4 Oct 2005

Quote by RedHot

A TV documentary definitely mentioned something about stagnating sex life but thanks for rectifying that fact once and for all.

Ahh! I see . . . it *must* be true that we've all taken up dogging to help our flagging sex lives because *it's been said so on the telly* :!:
I remember now . . . everything on the TV is true, espeically those bits you wish to be true. Bet some people even think Eastenders is real life too rolleyes

:dry:
Tracy-Jayne
Lusty also believes things that are said on the dreaded daytime telly, like Vanessa Feltz sob stories. confused

4 Oct 2005

i once went to see a complete idiot at relate, hadnt got a clue about relationships, or sex for that matter ,i reckon she just worked there for the gossip, did nothing for me or my ex, in fact id go as far as saying she would have done well to come on here and ask a few questions .......
mind you there is nothing worse than busy bodies that offer advise about subjects they dont have a clue about.
staggy
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4 Oct 2005

Quote by lusty_modesty
What are the people who provide the sex show inside their car called?

Happy :swingingchair:
Thanks for your totally judgemental, inaccurate, and naive take on the relationships of swinging and dogging couples dunno

... I think an apology would be in order right about now... don't you think?
So, how much more info do you need to write your story???? rolleyes

4 Oct 2005

Quote by wild rose and the stag
i once went to see a complete idiot at relate, hadnt got a clue about relationships, or sex for that matter..........did nothing for me or my ex
staggy

I do appreciate you admitting that Relate was crap. I heard they're so fucking useless that as soon as you start talking about problems relating to sex, they don't wanna know.....
Maybe the more expensive fee paying sex therapists are better but not all people have that kind of money.
Dogging works for you because you have found the right partner but you know it wouldn't have worked with your ex wife.

4 Oct 2005

Sorry but I had to do it, I couldn't stop myself redface

4 Oct 2005

Quote by Dawn_Mids
Sorry but I had to do it, I couldn't stop myself

Oooooooooooo banned? :shock:

4 Oct 2005

Quote by bluexxx
Thanks for your totally judgemental, inaccurate, and naive take on the relationships of swinging and dogging couples ... I think an apology would be in order right about now... don't you think?

Was there one, nope rolleyes

Quote by freckledbird
Oooooooooooo banned? :shock:

Don't look surprised biggrin

If an apology turns up then I can unban...........if I can be arsed

4 Oct 2005

hooray. Thanks Dawn
Bye Bye modesty
Can we all go back to our totally shallow and screwed up lives and go and have sex with random strangers now and not have to worry about wether we have sad and inadequate sex lives biggrin

Love
Jackie and Ben
-x-

4 Oct 2005

Quote by lusty_modesty

i once went to see a complete idiot at relate, hadnt got a clue about relationships, or sex for that matter..........did nothing for me or my ex
staggy

I do appreciate you admitting that Relate was crap. I heard they're so fucking useless that as soon as you start talking about problems relating to sex, they don't wanna know.....
Maybe the more expensive fee paying sex therapists are better but not all people have that kind of money.
Dogging works for you because you have found the right partner but you know it wouldn't have worked with your ex wife.
if only we had known you i am sure i would have managed to work things out with my ex , you know so much about me you have all the answers, oh wow i could have had another 20 years of shit sex no fun and little love, but at least we would be together, instead im totally in love the sex is fantastic and its fun fun fun all the way,
btw we never talked about sex at relate, although that was the one thing they wanted us to discuss, i had made an agreement with my ex that we wouldnt touch on the subject for her sake, relate knew nothing about relationships believing sort the sex out and the rest would follow, maybe a job opportunity for you lusty..............
now as for telling me where i have gone wrong or right why dont you go fluck your self
see i dont hide insults

4 Oct 2005

4 Oct 2005

Quote by Big_Dave_telford

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dave we are taking notes here of your contribution to the forum, things will have to get better than this...... smackbottom

4 Oct 2005

Quote by wild rose and the stag

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dave we are taking notes here of your contribution to the forum, things will have to get better than this...... smackbottom

just thought id lighten the mood in the room thats all
biggrin

6 Oct 2005

A bi girlfriend and I would be more than happy to be among those hallowed & feinted "female doggers"....that is,if we had ever witnessed anything at our local sites other than twatty teenagers and single men who just sit on their tod and don't give any signal that there's anyone there until you see them spark up a cigarette.
Ho Hum.....Still,we sit nattering in the darkness with a cheesecake or two,having a giggle and at least it gives us something other than "him indoors" and the mountainous laundry pile to complain about!

6 Oct 2005

Quote by BarefootAnjel
A bi girlfriend and I would be more than happy to be among those hallowed & feinted "female doggers"....that is,if we had ever witnessed anything at our local sites other than twatty teenagers and single men who just sit on their tod and don't give any signal that there's anyone there until you see them spark up a cigarette.
Ho Hum.....Still,we sit nattering in the darkness with a cheesecake or two,having a giggle and at least it gives us something other than "him indoors" and the mountainous laundry pile to complain about!

you eat cheesecake, god you are so posh down south , we eat chips..............but we natter with the lights on, ner ner ner ner ner cool