No I’m not just a swinging virgin, I am an actual 100% genuine virgin I’m not proud of it but I believe in being honest.
I thought when I came across this site that I might stand a good chance of finding someone interested in helping me out, not because all women on here are easy but because I thought that you liked sex so may consider me, however no-one is interested in me except one woman who said they were then cut off all contact for some reason which I don’t know.
Is it because I’m a virgin that no one is interested or is it something else?
I’m not disfigured in any way and I wouldn’t say that I was terribly bad looking but messages that I send usually get ignored even though I send a face picture.
Or is it my ad that puts people off?
I could really do with advice, and before someone says to go out and get a life, I don’t like pubs and clubs which is why I am here.
I’m probably going to get slagged off and flamed now the flaming commence.
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A virgin who needs help
Hi Chaos
:welcome: to SH
There are a lot more single guys on here than there are females or couples, so it can be difficult.
I would think about what it is you really want as swingings a big step for anybody - you might be trying to run before you walk so to speak
I hope this doesn't come across as patronising. It's not meant to be.
This thread is a good read from the perspective of a single bloke
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/20451.html
or there's a link to the a more humorous one in my signature.
Good luck :thumbup:
:welcome: to SH
There are a lot more single guys on here than there are females or couples, so it can be difficult.
I would think about what it is you really want as swingings a big step for anybody - you might be trying to run before you walk so to speak
I hope this doesn't come across as patronising. It's not meant to be.
This thread is a good read from the perspective of a single bloke
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/20451.html
or there's a link to the a more humorous one in my signature.
Good luck :thumbup:
Sex God
Hi chaos, firstly welcome to the site.
secondly I have just looked at your ad & feel that I personally would not be interested in you as you don't say anything about YOU just that you want to loose your vaginity to anyone who is willing.
I can't speak for other women on here but why do you think that you could loose your vaginity on a site like this when there are plenty of women out there (off site) that enjoy sex too?
Don't want to have a dig & just want to say good luck.
secondly I have just looked at your ad & feel that I personally would not be interested in you as you don't say anything about YOU just that you want to loose your vaginity to anyone who is willing.
I can't speak for other women on here but why do you think that you could loose your vaginity on a site like this when there are plenty of women out there (off site) that enjoy sex too?
Don't want to have a dig & just want to say good luck.
Welcome :welcome:
As odd as it sounds it could be true. Some people still live with their parents when they are grown up - i.e. if his parents were sick for example. Although the weekend thing is still puzzling me - maybe they do longs hours at the weekend.
Quote by da69ve
your ad says you cannot accomodate and only do week days......now that sounds very suspect?.....if your single shouldn't you be able to do weekends or even have your own place?
As odd as it sounds it could be true. Some people still live with their parents when they are grown up - i.e. if his parents were sick for example. Although the weekend thing is still puzzling me - maybe they do longs hours at the weekend.
First off, welcome to SH chaos 
I doubt anyone will flame you though now you've asked, you'll get plenty of advice on here. A few reasons why you've not had much luck could be:
Your ad only says what you like and not what you can offer. As a single male looking for a single female, you're in competition with the majority on here so your profile and ad really needs to stand out from the rest.
You have to get the women interested and the first place they look is the profile so you might want to write something in there.
Cock shots are ok but best kept for the private gallery. Salami pics from different angles isn't going to get them beating down your door I'm afraid. Face pic if you want to show it or a torso or ass shot is best for the public gallery.
Single men outnumber single women by 10-1 ( may even be higher than that ) plus you have couples and bi fems after the same thing.
Just think 'needle in haystack' but you have to attract the needle to you :thumbup:
Good luck
I doubt anyone will flame you though now you've asked, you'll get plenty of advice on here. A few reasons why you've not had much luck could be:
Your ad only says what you like and not what you can offer. As a single male looking for a single female, you're in competition with the majority on here so your profile and ad really needs to stand out from the rest.
You have to get the women interested and the first place they look is the profile so you might want to write something in there.
Cock shots are ok but best kept for the private gallery. Salami pics from different angles isn't going to get them beating down your door I'm afraid. Face pic if you want to show it or a torso or ass shot is best for the public gallery.
Single men outnumber single women by 10-1 ( may even be higher than that ) plus you have couples and bi fems after the same thing.
Just think 'needle in haystack' but you have to attract the needle to you :thumbup:
Good luck
Quote by 36openminded
Welcome :welcome:
your ad says you cannot accomodate and only do week days......now that sounds very suspect?.....if your single shouldn't you be able to do weekends or even have your own place?
As odd as it sounds it could be true. Some people still live with their parents when they are grown up - i.e. if his parents were sick for example. Although the weekend thing is still puzzling me - maybe they do longs hours at the weekend.
i don't doubt that people are still living at home at that age.....my brother in law is still at home and he is nearly forty......its just that if this guy is desperate to loose his viginity....he would have to be more flexible.....with his times and places!.....hence not being availible at the weekends.
Sex God
forgot to say change your pics most of the ladies on here prefer the more sexy pose than cock shots
Quote by da69ve
your ad says you cannot accomodate and only do week days......now that sounds very suspect?.....if your single shouldn't you be able to do weekends or even have your own place?
ok maybe i should have explained better.
I live with parents, yes sad but true and as for week days only.........i work weekends
thanks for all the constructive posts so far i appreciate it.
Quote by chaos
your ad says you cannot accomodate and only do week days......now that sounds very suspect?.....if your single shouldn't you be able to do weekends or even have your own place?
ok maybe i should have explained better.
I live with parents, yes sad but true and as for week days only.........i work weekends
thanks for all the constructive posts so far i appreciate it.
F*ck, I'm a mind reader! :shock: I'm in the wrong job.
Welcome Chaos
I'd suggest going to a munch. It's a social event and you'd get to talk to others and ask any questions you might have.
Another option is opening a chat room and entitling it - virgin in need of experience
Get some non-cock pics on your profile and make it less clinical.
Hope that helps and good luck. Don't rush it, relax and chill out.
As for me... I am a born-again virgin every time lol
xxxx
I'd suggest going to a munch. It's a social event and you'd get to talk to others and ask any questions you might have.
Another option is opening a chat room and entitling it - virgin in need of experience
Get some non-cock pics on your profile and make it less clinical.
Hope that helps and good luck. Don't rush it, relax and chill out.
As for me... I am a born-again virgin every time lol
xxxx
Erhm, I better do a proper post...
Welcome :welcome:
I feel for you mate - it's not an easy place to be. I too was a late starter - sometimes things in life just get in the way and it means you don't get to do things at the same point as others.
In my case my first sexual partner was an even later starter so I can't offer any advice other than keep at it and don't let it get you down.
36
Welcome :welcome:
I feel for you mate - it's not an easy place to be. I too was a late starter - sometimes things in life just get in the way and it means you don't get to do things at the same point as others.
In my case my first sexual partner was an even later starter so I can't offer any advice other than keep at it and don't let it get you down.
36
I agree with what other people have written, but also - most messages that single ladies get say words to the effect of:
"Hi, I fancy you loads. fancy a shag?"
I always answer these with a "thanks, but no thanks".
So - you need to make any messages you send stand out from the crowd. Maybe comment on the lady's avatar, or something you have particularly agreed/disagreed with in a post on the forum. Something that shows a personality behind the willy.
Just my opinion, but I hope this helps.
"Hi, I fancy you loads. fancy a shag?"
I always answer these with a "thanks, but no thanks".
So - you need to make any messages you send stand out from the crowd. Maybe comment on the lady's avatar, or something you have particularly agreed/disagreed with in a post on the forum. Something that shows a personality behind the willy.
Just my opinion, but I hope this helps.
Quote by de_sade
Nice body, nice sized cock, and a virgin!
What have you been playing around at? :shock::D :D :D
Oh yes, and welcome
Hey, HLB...
And then there were two...................................................
:twisted:
I know, but like I said, you need to try and restrain yourself De Sade.
Play it cool. You don't want him to think you're desperate.
Hi Chaos.. Welcome x
I realise you are a man but honestly, do you not think your virginity is special and should be kept for that special moment... then go swinging??? Of course you could meet a lovely lady here and keep that moment for her, but then the whole site would know about it! Sorry, it's just my opinion but I think virginity is special.
I realise you are a man but honestly, do you not think your virginity is special and should be kept for that special moment... then go swinging??? Of course you could meet a lovely lady here and keep that moment for her, but then the whole site would know about it! Sorry, it's just my opinion but I think virginity is special.
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Hi Chaos.. Welcome x
I realise you are a man but honestly, do you not think your virginity is special and should be kept for that special moment... then go swinging??? Of course you could meet a lovely lady here and keep that moment for her, but then the whole site would know about it! Sorry, it's just my opinion but I think virginity is special.
Why should the whole site know about it? I would like to think that anything that happens on this site is kept between the parties involved unless they wanted the details known.
Orgasminator
The Only Virgins I normaly know are Rocky Horror Virgins 
Quote by Cherrytree
Hi Chaos.. Welcome x
I realise you are a man but honestly, do you not think your virginity is special and should be kept for that special moment... then go swinging??? Of course you could meet a lovely lady here and keep that moment for her, but then the whole site would know about it! Sorry, it's just my opinion but I think virginity is special.
Why should the whole site know about it? I would like to think that anything that happens on this site is kept between the parties involved unless they wanted the details known.
I actually meant the fact he has advertised he is a virgin...
I think chaos is being very honest and upfront ( no pun intended ) by admitting he's a virgin and I'm sure the girl he loses that virginity to will be grateful for that honesty.
I've never been with a virgin ( only in the swinging sense ) but I'd rather know he was than expect him to be experienced.
It's a bit like being behind a learner driver I guess. Everyone seems to forget they were that driver at some time in their life.
Good luck chaos :thumbup:
I've never been with a virgin ( only in the swinging sense ) but I'd rather know he was than expect him to be experienced.
It's a bit like being behind a learner driver I guess. Everyone seems to forget they were that driver at some time in their life.
Good luck chaos :thumbup:
