I found this thread very interesting, it never occured to me to send another pm after it was read. To me that would be just plain rude if they are interested they will reply.
Or as DD mentioned a guy sending out 20+ winks in the hope that something might happen, that stikes me as desperation. A friend of mine was single and not had sex for about 18 months and even I could see he had a metaphorical tattoo on his forehead saying shag me im desperate and of course all the girls left him alone.
We advertise occasionally for single guys and to be honest we only reply to those that appear of interest. In other words 95% of mails to us do not get a reply.
This may seem unduly unfair to the single guys who have made the effort to reply to us but if you are a couple advertising for single guys you will know just how many responses you try to deal with.
From our point of view we look first at the picture and then at the text. The very best reponses in our view would have a good clear face pic and a full body naked shot. If we like the look of the pic we will read the text and anything with a bit of humour and obvious reference to our ad and profile would stand a good chance of getting a reply - but generally the vast majority fall down at the first stage which is the picture. Many may say that they don't want their face picture being seen for this or that reason, but there are guys who do and they get ahead of the pack immediately.
It is an unfortunate fact that if your picture shows you to be unkept, scruffy, fat, skinny or generally just looking a bit odd (to us) then we just delete the reply.
Mr Hot reckons that if he were single he would compose a really good standard response with a bit of saucy humour in it - not too pusy and not too desperate and use it as the basis for all of his replies adding a few personal touches at the beginning and end to show that the ad and profile had been read and fully understood.
By the way - I can't speak for other couples - but we get a huge number of clearly bogus reponses with fake pictures (stills from films) and occasionally where the pictures don't even match up. This is why we act so abruptly in dealing with replies. We would always ask any guy to send a picture to our private email holding up the days newspaper, or displaying a pre-agreed gesture.
If you are a good and normal guy with a reasonable sense of humour looking for threesome fun with a couple then you ought to be able to find it on here if you are patient and ddon't take no replies personally - just persevere. We have met a couple of times off here from guys who responded to our ad - and intend to do more - !!
When I send a PM I always include a pic but it has my face slightly masked but enough to get an idea, if they are intersted then I would happily send the full one, as is said you have to send out a lot of PM's to get a result as a single guy so would rather not have that many of me out there.
Well unfortunately, the way of the world is that men are seen to be sexually predatory and the vast majority of fake identities on this web site whether they be male, couples or female - will actually be men looking for some kind of weirdo gratification.
We regard any male or couple who join us for a bit of intimate fun as doing us a favour and if we doing them a favour too then so much the merrier.
Don't wish to sound patronising, but standing the high moral ground and standing by your principles means that you will probably never get the opportunity to change the wording in your profile from 'no experience' to 'experienced.' Sometimes you need to go the extra yard to get what you want and just consider the fears, worries and apprehenions of the people you are trying to connect with.
BTW - the newspaper thing is not about doing us a favour - it is basic security precautions. Pictures on this site can come from anywhere. But, if as part of our response to their reply, we ask someone to send us a picture to our private email holding up three fingers, or the days paper or similar then we are only verifying that the guy is real - especially if the picture matches the SH profile picture - and amzaingly it doesn't always!!
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