ive sent loads of emails, no i havnt sent winks or one liners and ive got my face on my profile. i try and send witty not soundind desperate emails. and iv had 1 reply!! what am i doing wrong, im genuine just want to have some fun and good inteligent, open minded company. thanks for reading. m xx
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any tips? help me im a single guy!
Sex God
Good things come to those who wait. ;)
Seriously, patience is a virtue in swinging. What makes you different? What can you offer and what kind of thing do you want in return? Etc... tons of questions and being here two posts in and joining in June... today being the 5th... I hasten to point out that you've really not been here that long. As swinging is based on trust and mutual enjoyment... I'd say give it time and you'll be more sucessful. After all youre a good looking youngish single guy.
I wish you the best of luck!
Gem. x
Seriously, patience is a virtue in swinging. What makes you different? What can you offer and what kind of thing do you want in return? Etc... tons of questions and being here two posts in and joining in June... today being the 5th... I hasten to point out that you've really not been here that long. As swinging is based on trust and mutual enjoyment... I'd say give it time and you'll be more sucessful. After all youre a good looking youngish single guy.
I wish you the best of luck!
Gem. x 
Your profile says you only joined this month!! and as its only the 6th, just, I'd firstly say, have patience!! 
I'm assuming though that you've been using the ads - and the only things I can say to that are (a) dont come into the Cafe whinging about how crap another part of the site is and (b) you are just 1 in god knows how many thousand single blokes all looking for the same thing.
On a more positive note, I love the face pic - big thumbs up there....... :thumbup:
but the one thing I find really really offputting about your ad & profile is that you say 'dont waste my time' over and over - so, either you've had a pretty shit time of it so far and have stumbled on a couple of timewasters ..... OR, and this is what I personally dont like , it makes you sound pushy. I wouldnt dare message you in an attempt to say hello/ get to know you/ find out more, in case my idle chit chat/ pm tennis had me branded a timewaster. I dont like pushiness and wouldnt respond to you purely on that basis.
IMO It comes across like you expect people to message you because they should have already decided whether they want to shag you, and that anything less is just timewasting. Honey, it really really doesnt work like that, and if you want to get anywhere on this site with the fems here, you'll learn that pretty damn quick
I'm assuming though that you've been using the ads - and the only things I can say to that are (a) dont come into the Cafe whinging about how crap another part of the site is and (b) you are just 1 in god knows how many thousand single blokes all looking for the same thing.
On a more positive note, I love the face pic - big thumbs up there....... :thumbup:
but the one thing I find really really offputting about your ad & profile is that you say 'dont waste my time' over and over - so, either you've had a pretty shit time of it so far and have stumbled on a couple of timewasters ..... OR, and this is what I personally dont like , it makes you sound pushy. I wouldnt dare message you in an attempt to say hello/ get to know you/ find out more, in case my idle chit chat/ pm tennis had me branded a timewaster. I dont like pushiness and wouldnt respond to you purely on that basis.
IMO It comes across like you expect people to message you because they should have already decided whether they want to shag you, and that anything less is just timewasting. Honey, it really really doesnt work like that, and if you want to get anywhere on this site with the fems here, you'll learn that pretty damn quick
Sex God
I personally like to get to know someone socially before we get intimate, I like to be wined and dined if you get my meaning. But as far as the general sumosise goes get yourself known at some of thesocial events to let people get to know you better
S :wink:
S :wink:
for one don't post that you not getting any action :doh: too late!
Just HAVE FUN!!!
If your in the chatroom please be polite at all times!
Remember! just as in 'real life' you may not be everyone's cup of tea, the same thing will apply here!
Whats more if the 'social graces' in 'real life' are somewhat lacking nothing is going to change your fortunes just because your profile is now on a web site!
There is no rule to say anyone has to shag anyone so always respect that!
Be persistent... So many peeps say that on SH.. but I cant be bothered personally :dry:
If you don't get a reply its mainly coz the company you seek WILL have a bulging mailbox!
Jeez I was out playing with an fb on this site last night & she had nearly 800 unread emails in her in box - your unread msg may be in there too! :shock:
Now you know why I don't bother sending pm's!!!
There's no fantastic reason why you should post but it's a damn good way to join in another facet of SH as long as you dont use it to moan about not getting a shag
Dude you can get out what you put in & if you think your paying your dues by sending pm's to every female that pops up in your search criteria then you will be sooooo very far off the mark!
Sit back... chill... have a brew... Just HAVE FUN!!!
Just HAVE FUN!!!
If your in the chatroom please be polite at all times!
Remember! just as in 'real life' you may not be everyone's cup of tea, the same thing will apply here!
Whats more if the 'social graces' in 'real life' are somewhat lacking nothing is going to change your fortunes just because your profile is now on a web site!
There is no rule to say anyone has to shag anyone so always respect that!
Be persistent... So many peeps say that on SH.. but I cant be bothered personally :dry:
If you don't get a reply its mainly coz the company you seek WILL have a bulging mailbox!
Jeez I was out playing with an fb on this site last night & she had nearly 800 unread emails in her in box - your unread msg may be in there too! :shock:
Now you know why I don't bother sending pm's!!!
There's no fantastic reason why you should post but it's a damn good way to join in another facet of SH as long as you dont use it to moan about not getting a shag
Dude you can get out what you put in & if you think your paying your dues by sending pm's to every female that pops up in your search criteria then you will be sooooo very far off the mark!
Sit back... chill... have a brew... Just HAVE FUN!!!
Casanova
I am afraid the only tip I can give you is.......................if it's a Pinot Grigio then it's got to be a large chilled one. I won't have it any other way 
Quote by Darkfire
but the one thing I find really really offputting about your ad & profile is that you say 'dont waste my time' over and over - so, either you've had a pretty shit time of it so far and have stumbled on a couple of timewasters ..... OR, and this is what I personally dont like , it makes you sound pushy. I wouldnt dare message you in an attempt to say hello/ get to know you/ find out more, in case my idle chit chat/ pm tennis had me branded a timewaster. I dont like pushiness and wouldnt respond to you purely on that basis.
That would put us of also... we all hate time wasters so no need to express it to that extent
Tony
Sex God
sort of what the others said, with your posting history and time on the site you'll be lucky to be noticed in the crowed of oversexed onehanded single male typists. so step 1 is to relax and read & forget about getting your leg over, post where you feel comfortable and get yourself known then when you do decide to PM people you've got an excellent chance of being noticed in the 100's of PM some women get, as a fair amount of these will be winks and cock shots a well constructe 'hello, i'm xxxxx i really enjoyed reading your thread on xxxxxxx tonight and just thought i'd say hi' can go a long way to starting a future friendship (just don't follow it up with a cock shot ), i've got quite a lot of my friends off the sites from sending or receiving PM's like this.
other than that just take your time and try to get to a munch in a few months, a lot of people only meet up with someone they've met or seen at a munch.
good luck, time for me to sit back and wait for the shocked comments about me being helpful and not taking the piss (i'm soooooo missunderstood you know)
), i've got quite a lot of my friends off the sites from sending or receiving PM's like this. other than that just take your time and try to get to a munch in a few months, a lot of people only meet up with someone they've met or seen at a munch.
good luck, time for me to sit back and wait for the shocked comments about me being helpful and not taking the piss (i'm soooooo missunderstood you know)
Sex God
Quote by Darkfire
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something you'd like to say Miss D?
Sex God
spose you think i'm a piss taking, gobshite pervert :cry:
Quote by meat2pleaseu
spose you think i'm a piss taking, gobshite pervert :cry:
and are you saying you arent?
i have no answers to this, this is a subject that is best left to those that are more involved, as can be seen by the amount of posts i have here, im not that well known yet, but as has been said by others, all good things come to those who waits, and im a patient man, and the riches here are greater than anything camelot can offer......
Quote by Darkfire
Your profile says you only joined this month!! and as its only the 6th, just, I'd firstly say, have patience!!
but the one thing I find really really offputting about your ad & profile is that you say 'dont waste my time' over and over - so, either you've had a pretty shit time of it so far and have stumbled on a couple of timewasters ..... OR, and this is what I personally dont like , it makes you sound pushy. I wouldnt dare message you in an attempt to say hello/ get to know you/ find out more, in case my idle chit chat/ pm tennis had me branded a timewaster. I dont like pushiness and wouldnt respond to you purely on that basis.
IMO It comes across like you expect people to message you because they should have already decided whether they want to shag you, and that anything less is just timewasting. Honey, it really really doesnt work like that, and if you want to get anywhere on this site with the fems here, you'll learn that pretty damn quick
Thats exactly what I thought too when I looked at your profile.
Never mind the fact that you have a nice body and r good looking, I wouldnt even thinking about messaging you as you havent even been a member for a week and you posted a thread about how you aint getting any! lol
Plus, I never message someone who goes on about time wasters. For me personally, I want to get to know somebody first before I meet someone. I prospect of meeting someone who I dont know for a fuck does not turn me on one bit. And, on meeting that person, no matter how far they've traveled, I want to feel that I could back out at ANY time should I feel uncomfortable.
I've not been a member on here so long myself, But I have learned a lot from these guys.
Hope you do find what your looking for.
Curvy xxx
Quote by meat2pleaseu
time for me to sit back and wait for the shocked comments about me being helpful and not taking the piss (i'm soooooo missunderstood you know)
:giggle:
btw, Hi Pinot
lots of sound advice above. Just stick around, get yourself known and be patient. Even as a single fem it took me about 2 months to lose my swinging virginity 
Just don't be in such a rush to shag anything with a pulse Quote by poshkate
I personally like to get to know someone socially before we get intimate, I like to be wined and dined if you get my meaning.
.... gets out the yellow pages and books a fancy meal for two.....
I just read his profile and I aggree that the "hi thanks for reading my profile. now dont bloody well mess me around, im sick of timewaisting!!" is a huge turnoff even perhaps scary! :shock:
Sex God
Quote by meat2pleaseu
spose you think i'm a piss taking, gobshite pervert :cry:
Yes... amongst other things... now get ye to my inbox! :rascal: :twisted:
Sex God
didn't you get enough yesterday 
Sex God
Quote by essex34m
didn't you get enough yesterday
obviously not.....
His standards must be slipping!
Either that or I'm a greedy girlie!?? :shock::gagged:
Sex God
Quote by little gem
didn't you get enough yesterday
obviously not.....
His standards must be slipping!
Either that or I'm a greedy girlie!?? :shock::gagged:
i'm guessing you've got the uberhorn this week, should i bring my handcuffs :rascal:
Sex God
Quote by meat2pleaseu
i'm guessing you've got the uberhorn this week, should i bring my handcuffs :rascal:
ops: :oops:*declares hikack over*
Sex God
Quote by pinogrigio in his ad
bigger turnoff to me than a thick women
So it's OK for them to have to put up with you?
women=plural
woman=singular
So, there's no such thing as 'a' thick women.
This is littered with mistakes:
Quote by pinogrigio
ive sent loads of emails, no i havnt sent winks or one liners and ive got my face on my profile. i try and send witty not soundind desperate emails. and iv had 1 reply!! what am i doing wrong, im genuine just want to have some fun and good inteligent, open minded company. thanks for reading. m xx
Sex God
Quote by little gem
i'm guessing you've got the uberhorn this week, should i bring my handcuffs :rascal:
ops: :oops:*declares hikack over*
OMG, i've finally managed to shut her up :giggle:
Quote by Kiss_Me
I personally like to get to know someone socially before we get intimate, I like to be wined and dined if you get my meaning.
.... gets out the yellow pages and books a fancy meal for two.....
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Make that 3 :twisted:
splendid! 3 it shall be! :twisted:ummmm did you mean splendid33??? that makes 4 x x x x
:lol: 