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Just wanting to know more about people who like fat men and women. I understand that BBW's are very opular and the male equivalent is a BHM. Are these quite so popular? Anyone who knows anything about this or has any interest please get involved. I am a fat 21 yr old guy and i would like to get some info if at all possible. Cheers guys,
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well a guess like most guys in a pub do, that would be they anit gonna admit it rolleyes
MikeC
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i thought this was do i enjoy
pizza indian chinese kebabs, if so yes i do cool
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paying for what?
not that desperate yet - but by the way things are going on here, i might just have to pay for it!
Cute - didnt understand ur first post...?
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paying for what?
not that desperate yet - but by the way things are going on here, i might just have to pay for it!
Cute - didnt understand ur first post...?

Is Mikec paying for a takeaway is what she meant. I think cutepussys first post meant that even if some do like bbw etc they might not like saying so. Why? i do not know.
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Personally, I like the whole package, the wrapping is definately not my main concern.
Bit pointless having fancy wrapping if the contents are horrible, but then again, horrible wrapping, can hide lovely contents. So much easier to look at the whole package and then make a decision. lol
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why do I feel like you're thinking that people would only be interested in you if they have a 'fat fetish' ? dunno
I dunno about 'popularity' - some BBW's are popular because they're great people and there's a perception that fat = bubbly, fun, good company etc. On the flip side there's also the fat = easy, cos we're desperate rolleyes
Step away from the 'size issue' hun and be YOU - there's a difference between being honest with folk about size, and projecting yourself as 'fat and no one wants me'. The first option is far more attractive wink
Sweet_pea
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Quote by Darkfire
why do I feel like you're thinking that people would only be interested in you if they have a 'fat fetish' ? dunno
I dunno about 'popularity' - some BBW's are popular because they're great people and there's a perception that fat = bubbly, fun, good company etc. On the flip side there's also the fat = easy, cos we're desperate rolleyes
Step away from the 'size issue' hun and be YOU - there's a difference between being honest with folk about size, and projecting yourself as 'fat and no one wants me'. The first option is far more attractive wink

I might be wrong here, but as new BBW on here i am definitely low in confidence about meeting up and maybe this is their way of trying to get in touch with people who wont make them feel ugly. I am confused sometimes why someone would be turned on looking at me naked!
sexkittenhfx
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sweetpea, sexy is a state of mind not a body shape, i firmly beleive that.
im big girl but i dont class myself as a BBW, i dont class myself as anything - im me.
i agree with darkfire that some do see BBW as an easy target, and that BBW is fetishized (new word there...) in some minds - i wouldnt leave myself open to either. im happy sharing my sexyness with people who think im sexy, fat or not lol
however, the BBW rooms in chat are great, loads of gorgeous women in there, of all sizes (bloody hell ive seen women half the size of me in there calling themselves BBW...thats a whole other story) and loads of good banter. im pretty sure ive seen you in there before sweetpea?
relax and go at your own pace, concentrate on your positives and feel sexy, thats the most important thing hun kiss
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Like a lot of people, I don't go for a specific body type. Depending, I can be attracted to various sizes, heights amongst other things.
If the circumstances are right, then why not is all I have to say....:twisted:
Darkfire
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sweetpea, sexy is a state of mind not a body shape, i firmly beleive that.
... im happy sharing my sexyness with people who think im sexy, fat or not lol

that's what I mean :lol: - now that is attractive! and she does it so well too kiss
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sweetpea is right - its sometimes hard when you look at some of the people on here to see why anyone would be interested in meeting up for fun. I know i have a nicer and more interesting personality than probably 75% of people on here - but we are talking about sex here, and people are not attracted to bodies like mine. I don't understand why so many people like BBW and yet noone seems to like BHM. :cry:
Anyway, the thing is, I know that everyone always says its whats inside that counts, but u dont see that on any of the ads, its always, "slim, vwe, attractive guy needed..." I just wondered if anyone knew of a specific site or group where people who appreciate the larger build can go to meet...
sexkittenhfx
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Quote by Darkfire
sweetpea, sexy is a state of mind not a body shape, i firmly beleive that.
... im happy sharing my sexyness with people who think im sexy, fat or not lol

that's what I mean :lol: - now that is attractive! and she does it so well too kiss

awww thanks redface you aint bad yourself chuck biggrin
Dlep
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Quote by sexkittenhfx
sweetpea, sexy is a state of mind not a body shape, i firmly beleive that.
... im happy sharing my sexyness with people who think im sexy, fat or not lol

that's what I mean :lol: - now that is attractive! and she does it so well too kiss

awww thanks redface you aint bad yourself chuck biggrin
I can vouch for the two above notables.....surprisedops:
Tart? Me? Thinking of someone else you are....:shock:
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Anyone have a fat fetish

I have a fat cat.
I think he sneaks in to the house of one of the olds in the street and they feed him up, then the greedy bastard comes home here for his tea.
But seriously Dude (or Duddette - I've not looked redface ) - just be you. Somebody will love you for you. And somebody will want to fuck you. For you.
:thumbup:
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just be you. Somebody will love you for you. And somebody will want to fuck you. For you.
:thumbup:

Does that include me then? :shock:
Bloody hell! :giggle:
sexkittenhfx
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Quote by bigboy282820
sweetpea is right - its sometimes hard when you look at some of the people on here to see why anyone would be interested in meeting up for fun. I know i have a nicer and more interesting personality than probably 75% of people on here - but we are talking about sex here, and people are not attracted to bodies like mine. I don't understand why so many people like BBW and yet noone seems to like BHM. :cry:
Anyway, the thing is, I know that everyone always says its whats inside that counts, but u dont see that on any of the ads, its always, "slim, vwe, attractive guy needed..." I just wondered if anyone knew of a specific site or group where people who appreciate the larger build can go to meet...


bigboy, i dont know of any such groups but have you googled it? im sure there must be sites out there. how about opening a chatroom on here one night? ive seen more women on here say they like big strapping men rather than skinny ones like me lol
i do understand where your coming from - i myself do really fancy slim men, but not exclusively, i just like men in general and if we click then ill shag him, regardless of his waist size. pretty simple really lol
i think with the ads, alot of the time people are looking for the ideal, the fantasy, the dream extra person...maybe chatting, using the forum and even getting involved in the social side might suit you better - people then have the chance to make an assessment based on more than looks alone :thumbup:
Sweet_pea
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sweetpea, sexy is a state of mind not a body shape, i firmly beleive that.
im big girl but i dont class myself as a BBW, i dont class myself as anything - im me.
i agree with darkfire that some do see BBW as an easy target, and that BBW is fetishized (new word there...) in some minds - i wouldnt leave myself open to either. im happy sharing my sexyness with people who think im sexy, fat or not lol
however, the BBW rooms in chat are great, loads of gorgeous women in there, of all sizes (bloody hell ive seen women half the size of me in there calling themselves BBW...thats a whole other story) and loads of good banter. im pretty sure ive seen you in there before sweetpea?
relax and go at your own pace, concentrate on your positives and feel sexy, thats the most important thing hun kiss

BBW rooms in chat? I am new, joined this week although my bf has been a member for a while. I took the plunge to come and chat today just to start talking to people and finding out more.
I love feeling sexy and being sexy but do not have the confidence right now to do that with people I don't really know.
Dlep
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Quote by Sweet_pea
I love feeling sexy and being sexy but do not have the confidence right now to do that with people I don't really know.

It's been said before, but going at your own pace is what's needed. There's plenty of time biggrin
sexkittenhfx
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Quote by Sweet_pea
BBW rooms in chat? I am new, joined this week although my bf has been a member for a while. I took the plunge to come and chat today just to start talking to people and finding out more.
I love feeling sexy and being sexy but do not have the confidence right now to do that with people I don't really know.

yup theres a BBW room on chat server 1 i think, the people in there are really friendly and they have socials too where you can meet for a drink without any pressure to play at all, go have a look hun! the rooms not there 24/7 so just keep your eye out.
and as dlep rightly said, go at your own pace, build your confidence. theres so much more to swinging than simply getting naked with strangers, beleive me wink
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Quote by sexkittenhfx
theres so much more to swinging than simply getting naked with strangers, beleive me wink

There is? No bugger told me.....:shock:
:giggle:

(sorry, have reverted to the hijacking Gobshite I've always been.....lol )
Sweet_pea
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Thankyou biggrin
This was the kind of advice i needed on here. I feel less nervous just for sitting here in chat. Although I can't stay all day.
But with no experience it does sometimes seem like swinging is about nakedness and sex, glad to hear there is more to it!
Dlep
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Quote by Sweet_pea
Thankyou biggrin
This was the kind of advice i needed on here. I feel less nervous just for sitting here in chat. Although I can't stay all day.
But with no experience it does sometimes seem like swinging is about nakedness and sex, glad to hear there is more to it!

On a serious point, for the first year and a half I've been in the community, I concentrated almost solely on the social side of things. I think for me that was a better thing. It enabled me to work out what I wanted (to a degree....even though I'm not entirely sure what I want - I may be greedy and want everything :giggle: )
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For me it is about the person not the size that they are...although admittedly I DO prefer a larger man, but I think that's cause I'm large myself...but I have played with slim men and larger men and its just about their personality and whether I click with them or not...
Just be yourself, people will like you for YOU regardless of what size you are. I used to think that nobody would ever fancy me cause of my size, and although I'm trying to lose weight I'm not doing it to get a man...I'm doing it cause it's healthier for me...but anyway, just join in the forums and chat and get to know us and let people get to know you... smile
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im in the mood for posting today...
im interested in sexy people, end of.
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sue33
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Hi all wave ,
My fella & I are both BBW's.
Personally, I love all shapes & sizes, but have to admit to a soft spot for the larger fella
(Especially Johnny vegas and Robbie coltrane) :twisted: lol :twisted:
Would just say, don't worry about what you look like. I've never had any problems finding relationships. Do think that due to the media and fashion industry influence, there is an influence to see thin as beautiful banghead :fuckinghell: .
However, from my lurking in the background redface & reading posts, you are in good company here and people seem to be more interested in personality rather than looks which is the most important thing.
Just take your time and don't look too hard, love etc shows up when you least expect it :inlove:
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Hi bigboy
Please don't make the mistake I made when I was about your age, thinking that people ought to adjust their behaviour to accept me instead of me adjusting my weight to fit into society.
Fat is bad for your health, if not now, in the long run. It is impossible for you to visualise it now and you'll probably hate me for being so blunt but please try to understand that you are talking to a very big lady here who has been through hell and back because of her weight.
At 21 you are still young enough for your skin to recover from massive weight loss without the need for surgical intervention. My advice is, instead of looking for women who like fat men, do something to lose some weight. Then you will be able to date any woman YOU like. And it is not mutually exclusive that while you are slimming you can't meet the woman of your dreams who will appreciate you for you and not for your looks.
So chin up, self respect and all the best in the life that you have just begun! (And if you need any slimming advice, PM me.)
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...If the circumstances are right, then why not is all I have to say...

I'm with Dlep on this one... it's gonna be confidence & personalty that does it for me every time!
but then my tastes in women are very eclectic & I do feel it very strange to find the term BBW classed as a fetish?
This is what happens when people attempt to define something by compartmentalising something... life is too fecking short!
Yes... some ladies do prefer a more portly male!
Whatyalike2do
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I don't think it's a fetish at all personally. I see it more as a personal choice, like a lady prefering a man with a large penis or one who is very tall (the man, not the penis lol )