Thanks guys, and thank you Redhot I think you are kinda right. I think that we'll probably wait a while but I'd like to still keep chatting to people and perhaps make some friends (well as friendly as possible while still keeping alittle anonimity) so that when we do come to do it (if we don't change our minds) we're not at the same place but more informed etc etc. I think we'll still look for a female for her as she's quite adiment about that and is a lot less nervous about it too, but we'll probably wait a little while for that also.
Thanks guys for all your help and understanding, Thanks especially to Redhot and Kiss_me. Looking forward to chatting to y'all ;-)
mrbusyhands, i think the thing you need to accept first and foremost, is that not every meet you go on will be a success. it's almost inevitable that some will be disasters, or if not disasters, less successful than you'd hoped for, for a million and one different reasons?
you can analyse all the possible scenarios in advance, but sometimes, just when you think you've got everything figured out, something comes up you've never thought of, and it completely throws you. you have to accept that that will happen at some point, and it's how you deal with it at the time and afterwards that decides whether you'll still get something useful from a bad experience? they can be the very things you learn the most from?
i suppose in the end there's no point worrying about it, cos 9 times out of 10, it's not till you're in a situation that you're gonna know how you feel about it, and what you plan to do? a social meet first, and escape strategies if things aren't working out for you are always a good idea?
neil x x x ;)
I have never had a bad experience whilst swinging, there is no such thing(in my opinion), I find everyone interesting even if I don't get on with them and each new experience is enlightning.
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Gem. x 
