Blind Date

25 Apr 2007

:shock:
I have been set up by a friend (yes I actually have one) on a blind date this coming Saturday. blink

Now my problem is that I have never actually been on a blind date before and am beginning to get a tad nervous, no sorry, more than a tad, a lot, a hell of a lot. :confused:
I am not sure why this is, after all, it's not like I haven’t been on a date before.
So, does anyone have any advice for me? How do I approach Saturday? What do I do if she is, errr how do I say, not my type? dunno

How do you know if I am not hers? :dunno:
Is there a special etiquette for blind dates? :dunno:
Heavens, I have absolutely no idea, so any advice would be warmly received.
:notes:

25 Apr 2007

if she turns out to be 'not your type' doesnt stop you having a pleasant evening together, unless of course you really dont hit it off
just relax, be yourself and enjoy it. its only like talking to someone new at a munch or social, but at least you should have lots to talk about, as you dont know each other you will have to find everything out.
just enjoy yourself
Earthy xx

25 Apr 2007

I've only ever been on one blind date and as Earthy says relax and enjoy your night, if worst comes to worst and you don't connect at least you will have had a nice night.

25 Apr 2007

Just say "I'll have number three Cilla".
Whoops, sorry!
bolt

25 Apr 2007

Quote by MikeNorth
Just say "I'll have number three Cilla".

You Sod Mike!
biggrin

:D :D :D
Tea and screen moment!
Earthy, Mar, thank you. So this relax thing, I presume that means I will have to practise my deep breathing exercises.
Fingers crossed all will be well
redface

25 Apr 2007

Having met you, I don't think you have anything to worry about at all smile

Just look at it as though it's a social meet with one of us lot (although probably best not to talk about the site, you might frighten her off bolt

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Just be yourself, I'm sure you'll know by the end of the date (if not well before) whether there's any chemistry between you.
Have a great time biggrin

25 Apr 2007

If she doesnt fancy you she wont be able to do anything but like you so at worst you will have a pleasant evening out....
Have fun and dont forget to report back on Sunday smile

25 Apr 2007

Quote by Manolishi
So, does anyone have any advice for me? How do I approach Saturday? What do I do if she is, errr how do I say, not my type?

You go to the toilet and dont come back wink

Quote by Manolishi
How do you know if I am not hers? :dunno:

She will go to the toilet and not come back redface

Quote by Manolishi
Is there a special etiquette for blind dates? :dunno:

Try and squeeze out every last drop of wee right before you leave. If you need to go whilst on the date she might think your doing the old going to the toilet and not comming back trick and bugger off herself :lol2:

25 Apr 2007

You'll be fine, as most other people have said just be yourself and enjoy the evening.
Is there any special etiquette for blind dates? No, not on any I've been on, you don't have to carry a carnation and a copy of Jane Ayre - inless you really want to.
I hope you have a fun evening.
H.x

27 Apr 2007

My worries are over. biggrin

My friend sent the lady a picture of me, net result she cancelled! :shock:
Maybe she didn’t fancy the idea of climbing out the toilet window as per Tweeky’s advice. confused

So, back to the drawing board for me. :notes:
At least I may get some gardening done this weekend now
:cheers:

27 Apr 2007

Awwwwww

Perhaps the moral of the tale is that your friend should have sent the pic before setting up the date lol

At least you're seeing the funny side wink

27 Apr 2007

Tell her all about swinging and ask if she ever drips bum water after rinsing out for anal - that should break the ice and get the chatter going wink

27 Apr 2007

PL - Varca
I am confused, it ain't happening now, as per my update :shock:
Else PL, without a doubt your sugestion would probably have been the second question I would of had. And when she asked why the hell are you are asking that, my reply would have been, well PL told me to biggrin

:D :D

27 Apr 2007

Quote by Manolishi

PL - Varca
I am confused, it ain't happening now, as per my update :shock:
Else PL, without a doubt your sugestion would probably have been the second question I would of had. And when she asked why the hell are you are asking that, my reply would have been, well PL told me to :D :D

Trust me, the dripping bum water question is a winner wink

27 Apr 2007

Quote by PoloLady

PL - Varca
I am confused, it ain't happening now, as per my update :shock:
Else PL, without a doubt your sugestion would probably have been the second question I would of had. And when she asked why the hell are you are asking that, my reply would have been, well PL told me to :D :D

Trust me, the dripping bum water question is a winner wink

I am trusting you PL, thats why I have made a note of it.:notes:
I wonder who slaps me first at the next munch banghead

Hey, you never know, I may actually get an honest answer from someone :shock:

27 Apr 2007

Quote by Manolishi
Hey, you never know, I may actually get an honest answer from someone :shock:

Now you are pushing it! lol

28 Apr 2007

Quote by Manolishi
My worries are over.
My friend sent the lady a picture of me, net result she cancelled! :shock:
Maybe she didn’t fancy the idea of climbing out the toilet window as per Tweeky’s advice.
So, back to the drawing board for me. :notes:
At least I may get some gardening done this weekend now
:cheers:

Awwww what a shame but then surely you wouldnt want to be on a date with someone so shallow that she judges you on a photo!
Better off in the garden you never know what you might dig up! lol

28 Apr 2007

Quote by helnheaven
Awwww what a shame but then surely you wouldnt want to be on a date with someone so shallow that she judges you on a photo!

Although it is a shame I dont think this woman should be judged because she saw the photo and wasnt attracted to him. You cant be attracted to everybody and face it most of the time there does have to be a little bit of attraction at first. So I think calling her shallow was a bit much seeing as no-one knows her.
Louise xx

28 Apr 2007

Quote by louise_and_joe

Awwww what a shame but then surely you wouldnt want to be on a date with someone so shallow that she judges you on a photo!

Although it is a shame I dont think this woman should be judged because she saw the photo and wasnt attracted to him. You cant be attracted to everybody and face it most of the time there does have to be a little bit of attraction at first. So I think calling her shallow was a bit much seeing as no-one knows her.
Louise xx
Have to agree with you Louise.
Apart from anything else, there could be a multitude of reasons why she decided not to meet. This could range from the fact that she felt absolutely no attraction to maybe that she could not miss Casualty on a Saturday night and her VCR was bust biggrin

You just never know. Unless you have all the facts, you cant make an informed decision hence make a judgement.
Re the garden Hel, damn right, It's got to be either Roman pottery, Long John's Pirate booty, or possibly just weeds .........
:D

28 Apr 2007

Quote by louise_and_joe

Awwww what a shame but then surely you wouldnt want to be on a date with someone so shallow that she judges you on a photo!

Although it is a shame I dont think this woman should be judged because she saw the photo and wasnt attracted to him. You cant be attracted to everybody and face it most of the time there does have to be a little bit of attraction at first. So I think calling her shallow was a bit much seeing as no-one knows her.
Louise xx
hmmm, have to agree and disagree with this one.
i recently met a young lady off this site and I have to honestly say (as I told her at the time) her picture did absolutely nothing what so ever for me, in fact I found her quite unattractive, I also found her profile a bit of a turn of as it seemed a bit “me me” but as this was just a social / drinks and a meal type meet I went ahead anyway.
Thank the lord that I did, the lady in question was absolutely stunning to the eye and her personality was enough to melt any guys heart.
In conclusion, pictures tell lies, and never ever judge a book either by its cover, or even the prologue. So yes, shallow I think may well fit the bill on this occasion, sorry dunno

28 Apr 2007

Quote by Pete_sw

Awwww what a shame but then surely you wouldnt want to be on a date with someone so shallow that she judges you on a photo!

Although it is a shame I dont think this woman should be judged because she saw the photo and wasnt attracted to him. You cant be attracted to everybody and face it most of the time there does have to be a little bit of attraction at first. So I think calling her shallow was a bit much seeing as no-one knows her.
Louise xx
hmmm, have to agree and disagree with this one.
i recently met a young lady off this site and I have to honestly say (as I told her at the time) her picture did absolutely nothing what so ever for me, in fact I found her quite unattractive, I also found her profile a bit of a turn of as it seemed a bit “me me” but as this was just a social / drinks and a meal type meet I went ahead anyway.
Thank the lord that I did, the lady in question was absolutely stunning to the eye and her personality was enough to melt any guys heart.
In conclusion, pictures tell lies, and never ever judge a book either by its cover, or even the prologue. So yes, shallow I think may well fit the bill on this occasion, sorry dunno

Of course you are entitled to your opinion. From my perspective, I dont judge a book by its cover but you dont have to meet someone that you find unattractive just to not be shallow.
Louise xx

28 Apr 2007

She may have done you a favour, she might have been very unfanciable herself!! Personally, i think she was a bit shallow, cos she may have had a brilliant evening out anyway whether or not there was a physical attraction!
Suze

28 Apr 2007

Quote by Pete_sw
In conclusion, pictures tell lies, and never ever judge a book either by its cover, or even the prologue.

:thumbup:
I have met people at munchs who I have seen many pics of and even some extensivly on cam and they look fluck all like it when you see them. One particular person who I had seen on cam many times I even had to be shown who they were I would have never found them on my own lol

28 Apr 2007

Quote by louise_and_joe

Awwww what a shame but then surely you wouldnt want to be on a date with someone so shallow that she judges you on a photo!

Although it is a shame I dont think this woman should be judged because she saw the photo and wasnt attracted to him. You cant be attracted to everybody and face it most of the time there does have to be a little bit of attraction at first. So I think calling her shallow was a bit much seeing as no-one knows her.
Louise xx
Supposing, just supposing it was a bad photo? It does happen, not everyone is photogenic. I still think it was making a judgement. IMO fancying someone isnt just all about looks

29 Apr 2007

Quote by helnheaven

Awwww what a shame but then surely you wouldnt want to be on a date with someone so shallow that she judges you on a photo!

Although it is a shame I dont think this woman should be judged because she saw the photo and wasnt attracted to him. You cant be attracted to everybody and face it most of the time there does have to be a little bit of attraction at first. So I think calling her shallow was a bit much seeing as no-one knows her.
Louise xx
Supposing, just supposing it was a bad photo? It does happen, not everyone is photogenic. I still think it was making a judgement. IMO fancying someone isnt just all about looks
Ok. You are all right about bad photos, being phototgenic etc, but I still IMHO think this woman should not be labelled shallow. Maybe she is, who knows. None of you know her, you dont know her reasons for declining the blind date.
As said above, if you dont have all the facts, how can you make an informed decision, make a judgement.
Of course this is just my opinion and we shall agree to disagree because you all have your own opinions too.
I definately would not like to be labelled something by someone I dont know.
Then again if they dont know me, who cares what they think.
louise xx

29 Apr 2007

Quote by helnheaven
Awwww what a shame but then surely you wouldnt want to be on a date with someone so shallow that she judges you on a photo!

Quote by Suze43
She may have done you a favour, she might have been very unfanciable herself!! Personally, i think she was a bit shallow, cos she may have had a brilliant evening out anyway whether or not there was a physical attraction!
Suze

What is the big deal about being shallow? dunno

Do people choose to be shallow or is it just what happens to be important for them as a starting point?
Would the woman be a better person if she turned up knowing full well it was a non-starter and pretending?
Some people are not so socially desperate for a night out that they will go along just for the sake of it, get what they can and then do a runner (sorry - make their excuses). My spare social time is precious to me - I have trouble fitting everything I want to do into it already, so for me the idea of 'going along anyway - just to get a night out' is total pants!
Can people really cast their pointing finger at her to label her as a bad (sorry – shallow) person when you know fuck all of the reasons behind her pulling out?
If it is a choice between shallow but honest and an assuming judgemental - I'll take the shallow person every time!

29 Apr 2007

I have enjoyed several blind dates and I find they are most fun if you move fairly quickly through the initial formalities to the more provoking topics of conversation. If you overstep the mark, then you can retreat with humour, and then you've got something to laugh about all evening. And if you haven't overstepped the mark, well .... biggrin

:D

29 Apr 2007

Quote by Manolishi
My friend sent the lady a picture of me, net result she cancelled! :shock:

People are questioning the reason this lady may have cancelled but it was written quite clearly as you can see above.
Personally I think yes it is a shallow theres no harm in a night out anyway but as Louise said each to thier own. I was set up with Mrs Tweeky, I had met her previously around 2 years before. I rememberd her as being the odd hyperactive one with funny eyes. That didnt appeal to me at all but I went anyway and here we are what must be some 11 years later now married with a kid. Turns out she's really the quiet one with sexy eyes biggrin

29 Apr 2007

Quote by tweeky

My friend sent the lady a picture of me, net result she cancelled! :shock:

People are questioning the reason this lady may have cancelled but it was written quite clearly as you can see above.

And also added...

Quote by Manolishi
Apart from anything else, there could be a multitude of reasons why she decided not to meet.

29 Apr 2007

Quote by PoloLady

My friend sent the lady a picture of me, net result she cancelled! :shock:
This is a factual statement

People are questioning the reason this lady may have cancelled but it was written quite clearly as you can see above.

And also added...

Quote by Manolishi
Apart from anything else, there could be a multitude of reasons why she decided not to meet.
This is just Manolishi's opinion, all we actually know is she saw a picture she cancelled.