Hi,
I'm not quite as new as you might think but this is my second attempt to get started. We have been posting as a couple but my proper lover (PL) has been doing most of the posting - quite a lot joint but very few from just me.
Well, I thought that there is stuff I'd like to post without PL knowing about it especially as we have had a threesome (an extra man) for nearly three months now and it's driving me mad. I'm in love with two men and there's nobody I can tell about it. I want to hold on to boy friend (BF) and I don't want to upset PL. It's driving me crazy keeping all this just to myself.
It's driving me mad. I can't talk to my mother - she'd freak. My daughter, who seems fairly promiscous to me, is a great pal in other ways but I can't see her accepting her mother sharing a bed with two men - and it always is a threesome, never one on one. My friends wouldn't accept what I'm doing but, worse, one or two might think PL is now on the market. He isn't.
So, not the most computer literate person in the world, I worked for days setting up a secret identity so that I could get all these things off my chest. Flushed with excitement, I made my first post - and got deleted!!! Blown out of the water. I wa suspected of being a banned person trying to get back onto the site.
So any mod reading this and thinking maybe I shouldn't be here - please talk amongst yourselves first because one of you knows who I am.
For the rest of the site I want to stay anonymous for a while.
Life is so exciting.
GG
xxx
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Not all of us know who you are GG! You seem to be in a very deep situation there,a lot of it to do with the pressures of people around you and their disapproving of your lifestyle no easy answer to it, of luck if the three of you are happy,and,if you ever have to cross those bridges lets hope its won't be quite as bad as you fear it could be.
Warming the Bed
GG
Your thread sounds pretty reasonable to me. Having said that I'm sort - of a newbie as well so who am I to say what's reasonable or not.
I guess it's not the most pleasant to be in ur situation. I guess u need to talk to people but hey ...that's what were here for 
Your thread sounds pretty reasonable to me. Having said that I'm sort - of a newbie as well so who am I to say what's reasonable or not.
I guess it's not the most pleasant to be in ur situation. I guess u need to talk to people but hey ...that's what were here for Warming the Bed
Oh .... so sorry 
Me brains and eyes have go face-on with each other. ignore me
U can tell us anything u want . As u can tell , there's always somebody with a different opinion. :silly:
Me brains and eyes have go face-on with each other. ignore me
U can tell us anything u want . As u can tell , there's always somebody with a different opinion. :silly:
Sex God
Somebody here must be wondering.......?
Bluddy hell who was that in bed with us the other night?
:lol: :lol:
Gotta say - it all sounds fascinating - tell us more!!
Bluddy hell who was that in bed with us the other night?
:lol: :lol: Gotta say - it all sounds fascinating - tell us more!!
Sex God
OMG the suspense is killing me!
Sex God
:arrow: TO BE CONTINUED only on...........swininging heaven
Hi,
Should have thought there would be a bit of mickey taking. It's just that things are going so well and I have nobody to talk it all over with. I think all three of us are happy with it but there's nobody to be pleased with me. There's nobody I can have a coffee and gossip with.
When I met the PL a few years ago I could talk about it and get a great deal of pleasure from just talking. With this relationship, nearly three months old, I've got to keep it to myself and I'm bursting with it.
Be pleased for me = please
GG
x x x
Should have thought there would be a bit of mickey taking. It's just that things are going so well and I have nobody to talk it all over with. I think all three of us are happy with it but there's nobody to be pleased with me. There's nobody I can have a coffee and gossip with.
When I met the PL a few years ago I could talk about it and get a great deal of pleasure from just talking. With this relationship, nearly three months old, I've got to keep it to myself and I'm bursting with it.
Be pleased for me = please
GG
x x x
Sex God
sorry hun only joking ya got us all in suspense cant wait to see how it unfolds but ya very lucky
Yeah, it's crossed my mind more than once that we will lose him eventually but we've got him now and we all seem very happy with it. As for truth, well, in all honesty I can't see my mother benefitting from the truth. She would probably be supportive if I was having an affair but I don't think she'd be very happy about me sharing a bed as we do.
And the truth for my daughter. Well, I think she would see it as being OK for her to be a bit promiscuous but she wouldn't benefit from the knowledge that I'm not being promiscuous but sleeping,at the same time, with two men. I'm sure she that in the past three months she has had more partners than I have - I've had just the two.
What I wanted to do - and I've put a lot of effort into it - was do what we all do at emotional times and share it. I don't feel able to share it with anyone at home and I hoped I could share it here. Some people are supportive and some aren't.
But, hey, critiicism I've had and support I've had.
Sorry, I see there's more than one post to answer. Luvtolick - up to now we have gone out for a few drinks on Friday evenings and come back here to stay the night. . No great hero but a very happy time for the three of us.
GG
xxx
And the truth for my daughter. Well, I think she would see it as being OK for her to be a bit promiscuous but she wouldn't benefit from the knowledge that I'm not being promiscuous but sleeping,at the same time, with two men. I'm sure she that in the past three months she has had more partners than I have - I've had just the two.
What I wanted to do - and I've put a lot of effort into it - was do what we all do at emotional times and share it. I don't feel able to share it with anyone at home and I hoped I could share it here. Some people are supportive and some aren't.
But, hey, critiicism I've had and support I've had.
Sorry, I see there's more than one post to answer. Luvtolick - up to now we have gone out for a few drinks on Friday evenings and come back here to stay the night. . No great hero but a very happy time for the three of us.
GG
xxx
Sex God
GG from reading this I think that your initial post has been somewhat misunderstood. Let me see if I have this straight.......
You are very happily involved with a "long term partner" and the two of you have a regular "other man" that you see together. You're in love with both of them, and they are both aware of that?
I think the confusion has come into it because you mentioned about wanting to post stuff without your long term partner knowing. Does this mean that he isn't aware that you're in love with the second man?
I understand your need to share the fact that you're so happy with your lot though. Us girls do like to talk about things, and being in love is a great thing to talk about
I personally wish you the very best, and long may your situation last :cheers:
You are very happily involved with a "long term partner" and the two of you have a regular "other man" that you see together. You're in love with both of them, and they are both aware of that?
I think the confusion has come into it because you mentioned about wanting to post stuff without your long term partner knowing. Does this mean that he isn't aware that you're in love with the second man?
I understand your need to share the fact that you're so happy with your lot though. Us girls do like to talk about things, and being in love is a great thing to talk about
I personally wish you the very best, and long may your situation last :cheers: Thanks Angel. Pretty well everybody has been supportive. I didn't think anyone wouldn't be.
This is a bloody awaful time to be out of bed but I realised ithat in my last post I had identified myself to the boys if to nobody else. Had to edit it.
But yes, you/ve put your finger on exactly how I feel. I want to tell people and I don't have the people to tell.
Now going back to bed - I'll offer myself for questions in thr emorning.
Now I've got to edit this one as well - no I/ve got to add to it.
There is nothing I want to keep from either of them. It's just that I want to be able to gossip about it.
This is a bloody awaful time to be out of bed but I realised ithat in my last post I had identified myself to the boys if to nobody else. Had to edit it.
But yes, you/ve put your finger on exactly how I feel. I want to tell people and I don't have the people to tell.
Now going back to bed - I'll offer myself for questions in thr emorning.
Now I've got to edit this one as well - no I/ve got to add to it.
There is nothing I want to keep from either of them. It's just that I want to be able to gossip about it.
A new day.
I'd thought I would get responses from other threesomes but it seems we are not as normal as we thought we were. I thought there'd be lots of people saying things like "This is how it was for us ..." Are stable threesomes so uncommmon?
So, thanks to the guys who PMd with support and questions and I'll answer any questions anybody has - either here or by PM.
Briefly, Proper Lover and I have been together for more than eleven years and about three months ago we started a threesome with another man. There must have been some affection to start with or it wouldn't have started at all but over this short time it has grown into an emotional relationship as well as the obvious which I will keep to myself. We haven't had problems with, for example, jealousy but we are aware that we might have and we have prepared ourselves for it.
We havent't prepared ourselves for it ending but probably we must in the light of somebody who burst my bubble a little. . At least I will have somebody's arms to cry in this time - I didn't when my marriage broke up.
The reason I set up a separate identity so I could talk about this was not to hide anything from the boys but because I thought it would be a bit like gossipping over a coffee with my friends.
Oh, we've been on the site for a while and some of the people I expected to respond have not done so. Don't know what to make of that; expect that maybe I'm not a good judge of people when I'm not face to face with them.
GG
x x x
I'd thought I would get responses from other threesomes but it seems we are not as normal as we thought we were. I thought there'd be lots of people saying things like "This is how it was for us ..." Are stable threesomes so uncommmon?
So, thanks to the guys who PMd with support and questions and I'll answer any questions anybody has - either here or by PM.
Briefly, Proper Lover and I have been together for more than eleven years and about three months ago we started a threesome with another man. There must have been some affection to start with or it wouldn't have started at all but over this short time it has grown into an emotional relationship as well as the obvious which I will keep to myself. We haven't had problems with, for example, jealousy but we are aware that we might have and we have prepared ourselves for it.
We havent't prepared ourselves for it ending but probably we must in the light of somebody who burst my bubble a little. . At least I will have somebody's arms to cry in this time - I didn't when my marriage broke up.
The reason I set up a separate identity so I could talk about this was not to hide anything from the boys but because I thought it would be a bit like gossipping over a coffee with my friends.
Oh, we've been on the site for a while and some of the people I expected to respond have not done so. Don't know what to make of that; expect that maybe I'm not a good judge of people when I'm not face to face with them.
GG
x x x
Sex God
So long as it's fun, enjoy it while you can.
Come in and tell us all about it, we do love nothing more than a good old gossip but you will know that already as you have already been a member of SH.
It will end in tears though.
G x
Come in and tell us all about it, we do love nothing more than a good old gossip but you will know that already as you have already been a member of SH.
It will end in tears though.
G x
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Oh, we've been on the site for a while and some of the people I expected to respond have not done so. Don't know what to make of that; expect that maybe I'm not a good judge of people when I'm not face to face with them.
GG
x x x
It may just be they dont know who you are...
I dont feel anybody has the right to judge you on your situation.......Maybe offer advise yes but not to judge...
There may well be pitfalls ahead for you or maybe there wont......Who knows....
I think if all concerned know of the feelings that have been aroused then there is at least a level playing field for all...
Many would say live life for now.........Only you can say whether its right for you and as long as all are happy and content with the situation then where's the problem..
*still trying to work out if I know who this person is*
I hadn't thought that people might be worrying about who I am. Maybe I shouldn't have said that I'm already here as somebody else. Makes people uncomfortable maybe. I think I'll probably dismantle this identity soon. But all the people who have PMd me will know who I am because I'll tell lthem. Thanks for everything.
Most of the useful stuff I've been given has been by PM but it's been nice just being me and I think I will continue posting as an individual rather than as a couple.
And I'm still pleased with our threesome and I want it to carry on.
GG
x x x
Most of the useful stuff I've been given has been by PM but it's been nice just being me and I think I will continue posting as an individual rather than as a couple.
And I'm still pleased with our threesome and I want it to carry on.
GG
x x x
Warming the Bed
Good mornin all
It seems like everybody has their own point of view. I personally say that u do what u feel is right. After all we only live once. About your previous identity thingy, i guess it's normal human nature to be curious. After all this, i suspect u'll end up without having the answer u seek.
It seems like everybody has their own point of view. I personally say that u do what u feel is right. After all we only live once. About your previous identity thingy, i guess it's normal human nature to be curious. After all this, i suspect u'll end up without having the answer u seek.
Sex God
Well I've been reading this thread, and I gotta say GG, you lucky thing!!! Especially if everyone is happy with the situation. Live for today and enjoy it!
Especially if everyone is happy with the situation. Live for today and enjoy it! Warming the Bed
GG
Well in that case, I'm honestly happy for you. May the good times last (on n on n on n on). I wish that my situation was better Anyways , is there any more juicy gossip that u wish to disclose
Well in that case, I'm honestly happy for you. May the good times last (on n on n on n on). I wish that my situation was better
Anyways , is there any more juicy gossip that u wish to disclose Wow what a situation to be in! I can understand you not wanting to tell people who wouldn't understand, good idea to come and chat to us! I'm not really sure if you want advice or what I could say really, I think what you are doing is just an extension of couples bringing in a 3rd person to enhance their sex life.
It may or may not work out, that depends on the 3 of you feeling the same way. Does your PL feel the same way about your other lover? Do they know you are in love with both of them? I think those are the sort of questions you need to ask to see if it will last or whether there may be complications in the long run. It sounds like you feel your other lover could run away at some point, would your PL understand you being upset if that happened?
I dunno maybe I'm talking out of my arse lol but WOW I love two men at the same time so is it ok if I pretend to be you when I fantasise? :twisted:
It may or may not work out, that depends on the 3 of you feeling the same way. Does your PL feel the same way about your other lover? Do they know you are in love with both of them? I think those are the sort of questions you need to ask to see if it will last or whether there may be complications in the long run. It sounds like you feel your other lover could run away at some point, would your PL understand you being upset if that happened?
I dunno maybe I'm talking out of my arse lol but WOW I love two men at the same time so is it ok if I pretend to be you when I fantasise? :twisted:
