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12 Mar 2007

well, it might just be me, but it appears SH is having one of its 'cycles' again ... rolleyes

sometimes it does this....people stay away, go back to normality for a bit...have 'other stuff' going on, whatever that may be....get a bit disillusioned with the whole thing or just generally bored/ pissed off/ full on flounced off in a fit of huffyness lol

...threads dont run with much enthusiasm and the forum particularly feels like a bit of a chore. Am I wrong? dunno

Less people = quiet forum/ site = not much happening = boredom sets in = people get fed up and lose their posting boots or just get on with vanilla/other stuff that's been mounting up for months ...decorating/ paperwork/ vanilla mates/ work / ironing etc etc...
but, with two good Munches coming up, it probably wont be long before we're up and running at full steam ahead again....but, where are you now? what are you up to if you're not spending time here (god I'm nosey) and are you feeling the tumbleweed too, or is it just me? (incidentally, I havent had a shag me pm in over a fortnight so I know things are bad rotflmao

:lol: )
Me, I'm buried under the biggest mound of paperwork, preparation for Ofsted inspections and uni coursework - up to my neck in it actually :scared: but still lurking around waiting for the SH black cloud to fook off and the sun to come out :lol:
check in here :thumbup:

12 Mar 2007

have had loads of mini disaster to contend with includeing work and business

12 Mar 2007

stop it with the bloody pm's then, it wasnt a subtle hint, ya bastards lol

answer the damn questions :lol:

12 Mar 2007

i did both :P

12 Mar 2007

It's me innit?
Ive thrown a dampener on things... I knew it, Iknew it!
>sulk<
lp

13 Mar 2007

Hellooooo

I'm still here and abouts. Been busy with the poorly one and sorting out PP3 ( fab night, thanks girls :thumbup:
) and I've not been tit perving honest innocent

13 Mar 2007

Uni work for me hun... I'm up to my eyes in it.. but still cannot quite help myself popping in and bleeting on about nowt! hehe lol

13 Mar 2007

All forums, no matter the subject matter go though the same thing I find.
I find it happens in the real word too with groups I used to run.. fits and starts, life gets in the way, sun comes out, study etc.....I just go with the flow, usually settles down again. smile

xanaisx

13 Mar 2007

:thumbup: Anais
its funny you should say that actually, I've noticed the same stop start stop start absence of anything substantial thing too with other 'group' & community type stuff I'm involved in in the vanilla world...
but its particularly noticeable here at the mo - so, those who are here, where did you leave your posting boots? i hope they're insured! lol

and to those who're taking an unannounced sabbatical... get your arses back in here! i'm bored! biggrin

13 Mar 2007

Quote by Darkfire
:thumbup: Anais
its funny you should say that actually, I've noticed the same stop start stop start absence of anything substantial thing too with other 'group' & community type stuff I'm involved in in the vanilla world...

Great stuff, my fav subject :thumbup:
I specialised in community studies (fascinating stuff) at Uni. As part of my studies I once did an assignment on virtual and real communities (my arguement was they would be basically be the same). I found that the majority of stuff etc that happen in the real world, happen online too.. mmmm must dig it out again, re-read it and see if I still agree with it all!

13 Mar 2007

Im rushing around like a loon trying to get some well over due diy stuff done, managed so far to fix two toilets and unblock a sink my son decided to empty the full contents of his hamster cage down excluding the hamster tho banghead

repalce a broken curtain rail,trying to mend and rehang my 13ft x 7ft driveway gates that were ripped off in the winds abit back mad

replaceing my kitchen unit doors that have been sitting around for months redface

Trying to get house ready for the arrival of my first grandson whom is due this friday :happy: ,tho im hoping will be late as i have a full weekend including attending a swing party sat night lol

Off to york wednesday to pick up a cot i bought online and forgot i have moved and now live 2 1/2hrs away :doh:
Just re-made contact with my mother and auntie that i found a couple of years ago after 27yrs,and my mother has now been dry for a year so may go meet her again....didnt like her much when i met up with her last time but might be diffrent now shes off the booze dunno

Breath out, so im a bit of a headless chicken at the moment but grinning from ear to ear!
So guess ive been a little distracted from SH ect tho still checking in most days to keep up with forums ect but hasnt been much to grab my attention tbh.
Cant wait to hold my grandson and spend a couple of weeks chilling from the diy biggrin

Nicky

13 Mar 2007

were here - i am sure i will find my posting boots soon.
things very busy at home! potty training the oldest, making special dietry meals for youngest, cat is on call (she on the pill so dunno why :shock: rolleyes

), housework needs doing, home improvements planned too!
congrats swing_fun_cpl on your upcoming event!
in edit just noticed this was post number 69!
sal xx

13 Mar 2007

I have cut down slightly, although you'd never notice :lol2:
I'm up to my eyes in uni assignments. Ian has been working longer hours which means I'm doing more in the house and with the kids. Listening to reading and helping them with homework. The kids have more work on because one is heading for GCSE's and the other two have extra revision work every night for SATS.
We are also in the middle of stripping the hall, stairs and landing for decorating.
In my opinion, there have also been some under currents and a few posters that have niggled me, as does happen at times, but it does mean I am less inclined to hang around confused

I don't know if I should say this but fLuck it, I don't find the forum so user friendly under the new format. It is quite possible that I need my eyes tested again though :?

13 Mar 2007

Quote by Darkfire
a bit disillusioned with the whole thing and just generally bored/ pissed off

Been feeling like that about the forum for a couple of months I suppose.

Quote by Darkfire
but, where are you now? what are you up to if you're not spending time here

I do tend to check in a inspect the level of tumbleweed lol

every day, but now I spend a lot more time in the adverts section or on MSN or on other sites. When I'm not working/living/shagging of course!
Anyway, I'm here. :thumbup:

13 Mar 2007

sorry but i just find it all dead boring at the moment, the threads arent particularly inspiring to make me wanna read them let alone post on them but i am also finding this elsewhere too, not just on SH.
kiss tried to lighten it with her moan free zone
thing is i cant even think of anything to start a thread about either so cant really knock the one or two people that are starting the uninspiring ones.
even forum chat isnt what it used to be
i have spent most of my time in the north east chat room instead, or studying.
Earthy xx

13 Mar 2007

I have been following earthy around and making feeble attempts at chatting her up. wink

There have been brief moments of inspiration... which I have laughed at/joined in/ observed.
Generally I have become a watcher and a chatter... essentially I am here to have sex so the forum has served it's purpose (in my eyes) to educate me about swinging, from others' perspectives. Now I can get on and have sex.
splendid

13 Mar 2007

Quote by splendid_
I have been following earthy around and making feeble attempts at chatting her up.
There have been brief moments of inspiration... which I have laughed at/joined in/ observed.
Generally I have become a watcher and a chatter... essentially I am here to have sex so the forum has served it's purpose (in my eyes) to educate me about swinging, from others' perspectives. Now I can get on and have sex.
splendid

i wouldnt say feeble :twisted:
i found the forums helpful and informative when i first joined, but i have always been more of a forum person and enjoy the forums, i wouldnt leave them permanently thats for sure
Earthy xx

13 Mar 2007

Im here

But I have seen a marked decline in “ funny” posts over the last 3 or 4 month’s . as I come on to have a giggle with you lot it’s kind of stunted my post’s really. I did try 2 or 3 weeks ago to bring some humour back into the forum , it worked for all of 1 night . I put pic’s in the “ film caption comp” every so often but people don’t seem to go for it anymore dunno

Still like being here though . think we just need to get are sense of fun back that’s all :thumbup:
and my " shag me" PM's have been few and fare between too Dark :cry: :grin:

13 Mar 2007

Quote by splendid_
Generally I have become a watcher and a chatter...

I joined the site as more of a chatter, then I signed up in the forums to make some posts, became a chatroom OP so mostly chatted, then some threads got me hooked on the forum but chatting soon took over some evenings when regular people started to make an appearance. I then became a Mod so the forum took over, the cams grew on me so I chatted more...........you can see where I'm going with this can't you :lol2:
As for the rest of your post splendid :gagged:

13 Mar 2007

This is a melancolic thread.
I'm sorry that peole aren't enjoying the forum as much as they did. I'm not sure what sort of thread is required to get people going but why don't we try a few and see what happens. biggrin

13 Mar 2007

Quote by Darkfire
(incidentally, I havent had a shag me pm in over a fortnight so I know things are bad )

Oh go on then.........
Fancy a shag??
Alternatively a coffee would be good babes.......lol
Gimme a shout when you have a bit of spare time and we'll get something arranged.
Back to the subject matter now......Yes, I've been guilty of being in the "busy/can't make the effort" ilk.
It does happen every so often, usually after things have been pretty hectic on the home front. I will be making more of an effort to get back into regular posting though as it seems ages since I was doing 15-20 posts a day........lol
Chin up Dark, it'll pick up soon and you'll have plenty more people to growl at........ :twisted: :twisted:
Catch you soon.
Marcuso
xx xx

13 Mar 2007

I'm back!! biggrin

Have been away for the weekend so my posting boots were merely having a well earned rest! lol

What I want to know... is how do you get the funky font in your posts??! I want it!! And the font! :giggle:
Seriously... it's the same everywhere I guess... we all have real life stuff going on and I'd imagine that takes priority for most people. I'm just pretty good at multi-tasking! :lol:
Am sure it will pick up again soon... I hope so else who am I gonna bounce off with my bollocks?
DGxx

13 Mar 2007

I must admit I don't feel very inspired to post much in here at the moment.
I know that every so often this same point comes up again, but I really do think that having one's post count displayed beside every post encourages a few people to post any old thing just to increase their tally.
It's quality that counts, not quantity.

13 Mar 2007

There was once a time i couldn't wait to read the formum (be it because i was quite new to the forums or that i found things more interesting or even just the banter) dunno

Lately, some things have really been OTT and yes there has been an undercurrant and at times, outright rudeness - is it my imagination? again, :dunno:
On saying that, i do go in to chat often, as said previously, this does not seem the same either.
Im glad that you did this thread Dark hun, I now realise it is just a cycle and it will come full circle again, where we can enjoy the banter and debate, even heated at times, whilst having our morning coffee wink

My posting boots - although only small - are temporarily lost i think, but life is also busy at the moment and i am coming on here for air lol

13 Mar 2007

I too have noticed the decline in regular forum postings. I was just getting to know some of you and then you all buggered off. Something i said dunno

:giggle: Seriously though, i miss you all :cry: . Please come back.
Louise xx

13 Mar 2007

Occasionally when laff is quiet I'll ask him why ??
His standard reply -
"I only speak when I actually have summat to say!"
Could it be that the posters on SH have run out of summat to say?
Have all the bases been covered?
Have all the topics been exhausted?
Are there no more opinions?
Have the rages been vented?
Is there no-one in need of a little support or encouragement?
No amusing stories to pass on?
OR
perhaps everyone is getting down to having fun, and so we/they don't have the time or energy left to think and write up our thoughts so that others can scrutinise, critisise and belittle them.
OR
has the humour and fun been drained out of us all by the ever demanding trials and tribulations of living in the vanilla world?
OR . (and I'd like to think this is the one)
maybe this is just a temporary hiatus as we all take our collective breath and gather our strength before another onslaught of wit, barbs and support for each other.
theres gotta be some light at the end of the tunnel - all say together -
"WE BELIEVE!"
"WE BELIEVE IN SWINGING HEAVEN!"
"WE BELIEVE IN HONESTY AND OPEN-NESS IN OUR SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS!"
Yeah, so they aint catchy, but it's as good a way to rejoin the fray as any.
not sure if this could be used as a chant outside woolies as per this thread - lol
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/123911.html
ffs I hope this has inpsired at least one or two of ya with an idea!!

13 Mar 2007

Were here.... we just dont use the forums much... but as previously mentioned in another thread, we are going to make more of an effort!
Promise!
biggrin

13 Mar 2007

i am busy busy busy,
work is really hectic, home is falling down round our ears as tonguey does " renevations" :shock: , am planning a wedding, a honeymoon and two recepetions, and to top it off hvaing big child problems.
to be honest, when i have a spare 5 mins i tend to have a nap rather than post on here, but i will keep trying to make the effort. biggrin

xxxxxx

13 Mar 2007

I'm here

Like most busy with RL stuff, and end of year accounts are looming :shock:
Dawnie go get your eyes tested, I did, and need glasses for close work! and yes I am wearing them now.
And as some of you know I have struggled with my hearing in my left ear, so at the end of Jan asked my doctor to refer me for a hearing test which he did.
Had relevant tests at Stoke Manderville hospital, the senior audiologies (sp?) agree with my my left ear is deaf and I need a hearing aid, but then the completely knocked me for six by saying my right ear is not good either so I need a hearing aid for that one as well :shock:
So TBH I have not really felt like posting much.
Now darkfire want a shag???? :twisted:

13 Mar 2007

We are due to move sometime in the next six weeks, but as yet have no firm date, so we’re living in a bit of limbo at the moment and feeling very restless and unsettled. The Forum has been having one of its low times and to be honest it has been a bit of an effort to join in for the last few months due to some real world issues. Perhaps with spring well and truly on its way now and the evenings getting lighter, we may see the forum blossoming again. One things for sure though, I’ve been as randy as hell for the last week or so, so the sap is rising with me at least.