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Depending on who looks after the dyspraxic/DCD children in your area, a referral to your local paediatric physiotherapist or occupational therapist would be a good idea. They should provide a programme of activities and strategies for home and school that will help your child. Your GP should be able to refer you.
Your school should be able to refer you to the Educational Psychologist that covers their locality. If they are resistant, you can contact the Special Educational Needs Team at your local Department of Education and Leisure Services.
If you want to know more on the physio/OT front, feel free to PM me...
Your school should be able to refer you to the Educational Psychologist that covers their locality. If they are resistant, you can contact the Special Educational Needs Team at your local Department of Education and Leisure Services.
If you want to know more on the physio/OT front, feel free to PM me...
Quote by Shireen
Dyspraxia is common with children that are on the Autistic spectrum
We spent 8 years convinced we were a littlebecause we always knew there was something wrong but couldn't explain what it was...
Oh Shireen, how I can echo that sentiment!
Our youngest son was diagnosed with Dyspraxia at age 8 years after we had spent literally five years going round the bend - knowing there was something wrong, but unsure of what.
Unfortunately, that was all it amounted to - a diagnosis. The school he attended was hopeless in helping him and he never had any extra help or guidance
He was picked out at any opportunity for ridicule by both staff and children for his clumsy and inattentive behaviour.
At age 15 he was diagnosed as Aspergic, but we were told since he was due to leave school within a few months, it was not worth the Education Authority time or effort to give him any special help
Fire, you may need to fight for the help needed, but as others have said, a parent's instinct is more often than not, correct.
I hope you can gain some positive advice on Monday and wish you all the best
TJ
Quote by anais
my son has dyspraxia and cross laterality put together makes a very clumsy child and he has just been diagnosed with ADHD this situation is not to be laughed at and very serious to a child. not a illness easibly cured
Hiya...
I used to work with young people who had ADHD and it was extremely hard work.. I only worked with these young people for 2 or 3 hours at a time, occasionally all weekend.
Im not sure how I would cope if one of my own children had it. Im sure I would be tearing my hair out at times.....
Its quite different from being able to walk away at the end of a day and going home, to living with a young person 24/7 with ADHD.
You have my utmost respect..
xanaisx
thanks for your kind words, many people do not realise how difficult a child with ADHD amongst other problems can be for the simple reason as, they just see hyper child
a child who cant sit still etc, when in reality that is the smallest of problemsthings are slowly getting easier for me the biggest problem was i had to realise it wasnt bad behavoiur and so not to punish him for it quite difficult in some situations
I`m not accident prone ...... until I`m put in a tractor and flailmower 
My list of incidents include:-
taking the tops off 12 concrete fence posts (newly installed fence of course)
taking the top off a gate end (same site as above)
backing into an electric post and cutting through a cable, shutting half of the village off
lost count of how many telephone cables I`ve broken
put 26 holes in an artificial cricket wicket mat with a spiking machine
and my best one .......
put a four foot square hole in a grade 2 listed brick wall with a front loader bucket
Little wonder I`ve been taken off th machine,I hope not for too long though!
My list of incidents include:-taking the tops off 12 concrete fence posts (newly installed fence of course)
taking the top off a gate end (same site as above)
backing into an electric post and cutting through a cable, shutting half of the village off
lost count of how many telephone cables I`ve broken
put 26 holes in an artificial cricket wicket mat with a spiking machine
and my best one .......
put a four foot square hole in a grade 2 listed brick wall with a front loader bucket
Little wonder I`ve been taken off th machine,I hope not for too long though!
Quote by Jags
Hope it does help - and be happy cos if there is a problem at least you are now aware of it. I've seen too many children brought down and laughed at and ridiculed because they are clumsy when in fact there are so many things able to be done to help them.
Awareness is more than half the battle.
Excellent post Jags. I have BPPV (benign paroxysmal positional vertigo) which can sometimes suddenly make me feel as though I'm losing my balance. For years I thought I was just (at times) bad at balancing, awkward, etc. One more example where it shows that often there is an actual physical condition causing so-called "clumsiness" or other types of physical awkwardness, whether it's in kids or adults.
Quote by dekntan
my son has dyspraxia and cross laterality put together makes a very clumsy child and he has just been diagnosed with ADHD this situation is not to be laughed at and very serious to a child. not a illness easibly cured
Hiya...
I used to work with young people who had ADHD and it was extremely hard work.. I only worked with these young people for 2 or 3 hours at a time, occasionally all weekend.
Im not sure how I would cope if one of my own children had it. Im sure I would be tearing my hair out at times.....
Its quite different from being able to walk away at the end of a day and going home, to living with a young person 24/7 with ADHD.
You have my utmost respect..
xanaisx
thanks for your kind words, many people do not realise how difficult a child with ADHD amongst other problems can be for the simple reason as, they just see hyper child
a child who cant sit still etc, when in reality that is the smallest of problemsthings are slowly getting easier for me the biggest problem was i had to realise it wasnt bad behavoiur and so not to punish him for it quite difficult in some situations
Your welcome Dekntan
I have to admit that working with a whole group of young people with ADHD really exhausted me, they were practically climbing the walls and so was I and other staff. I used to end up feeling tired, angry and drained and not wanting any of them near me.
It took one 12 year old to actually make me sit down and rethink how I (and other staff) worked, spoke and reacted to behaviour issues. His words had a huge effect on me, it was more a plea for acceptance, patience and most of all understanding. He‘d been excluded from school yet again, and nowhere else to go. We were really his last chance to achieve anything.
He explained how: *he* felt when he was totally hyper, taking mmed, he dealt with it and how *we* the staff could help and support him. It wasn’t perfect all of the time but it helped us to have more understanding and knowledge, plus side was it made a difference to this young lad‘s life…
WIsh your son all the best in the future...
Quote by anais
my son has dyspraxia and cross laterality put together makes a very clumsy child and he has just been diagnosed with ADHD this situation is not to be laughed at and very serious to a child. not a illness easibly cured
Hiya...
I used to work with young people who had ADHD and it was extremely hard work.. I only worked with these young people for 2 or 3 hours at a time, occasionally all weekend.
Im not sure how I would cope if one of my own children had it. Im sure I would be tearing my hair out at times.....
Its quite different from being able to walk away at the end of a day and going home, to living with a young person 24/7 with ADHD.
You have my utmost respect..
xanaisx
thanks for your kind words, many people do not realise how difficult a child with ADHD amongst other problems can be for the simple reason as, they just see hyper child
a child who cant sit still etc, when in reality that is the smallest of problemsthings are slowly getting easier for me the biggest problem was i had to realise it wasnt bad behavoiur and so not to punish him for it quite difficult in some situations
Your welcome Dekntan
I have to admit that working with a whole group of young people with ADHD really exhausted me, they were practically climbing the walls and so was I and other staff. I used to end up feeling tired, angry and drained and not wanting any of them near me.
It took one 12 year old to actually make me sit down and rethink how I (and other staff) worked, spoke and reacted to behaviour issues. His words had a huge effect on me, it was more a plea for acceptance, patience and most of all understanding. He‘d been excluded from school yet again, and nowhere else to go. We were really his last chance to achieve anything.
He explained how: *he* felt when he was totally hyper, taking mmed, he dealt with it and how *we* the staff could help and support him. It wasn’t perfect all of the time but it helped us to have more understanding and knowledge, plus side was it made a difference to this young lad‘s life…
WIsh your son all the best in the future...
thanks hun
it is very frustrating at times and very demanding he is still quite a young age so telling us what the problem is is still hard for him we get lots of "i dont know why mam" patience is the best medicine in cases step away take a deep breath relax and start again many times i felt like 
and felt like i had failed as a mother in so many ways but things did get easier as i learned to chill out around him and take things a step at a time sometimes taking 3 steps back if needs be Ahhhh clumsiness. 
I have dyspraxia. It kind of goes hand in hand with the fact I have Aspergers Syndrome. So not only do I not understand what the feck you are saying, I'm likely to bump into you or smash one of your treasured ornaments too!
Interestingly although I'm a total clutz, when I pick up a guitar or sit down at the drums I become so ultra co-ordinated and graceful even.
I have dyspraxia. It kind of goes hand in hand with the fact I have Aspergers Syndrome. So not only do I not understand what the feck you are saying, I'm likely to bump into you or smash one of your treasured ornaments too!
Interestingly although I'm a total clutz, when I pick up a guitar or sit down at the drums I become so ultra co-ordinated and graceful even.
Ive been known to drop the odd clanger!
the last one caught its seem in an effort escape... pulling a thread and unraveling as it sped for an area of lower gravity...
the poor thing...
Though my sympathy soon waned when I saw the mess it was stuffed with.... got everywhere it did... and took an age to clear up...
and the staiiinssss!!!!
fretting about redwine on white shagpile?... believe me, you aint seen nothing!
I wont even go into the stench
lp
the last one caught its seem in an effort escape... pulling a thread and unraveling as it sped for an area of lower gravity...
the poor thing...
Though my sympathy soon waned when I saw the mess it was stuffed with.... got everywhere it did... and took an age to clear up...
and the staiiinssss!!!!
fretting about redwine on white shagpile?... believe me, you aint seen nothing!
I wont even go into the stench
lp
Quote by dekntan
my son has dyspraxia and cross laterality put together makes a very clumsy child and he has just been diagnosed with ADHD this situation is not to be laughed at and very serious to a child. not a illness easibly cured
Hiya...
I used to work with young people who had ADHD and it was extremely hard work.. I only worked with these young people for 2 or 3 hours at a time, occasionally all weekend.
Im not sure how I would cope if one of my own children had it. Im sure I would be tearing my hair out at times.....
Its quite different from being able to walk away at the end of a day and going home, to living with a young person 24/7 with ADHD.
You have my utmost respect..
xanaisx
thanks for your kind words, many people do not realise how difficult a child with ADHD amongst other problems can be for the simple reason as, they just see hyper child
a child who cant sit still etc, when in reality that is the smallest of problemsthings are slowly getting easier for me the biggest problem was i had to realise it wasnt bad behavoiur and so not to punish him for it quite difficult in some situations
Your welcome Dekntan
I have to admit that working with a whole group of young people with ADHD really exhausted me, they were practically climbing the walls and so was I and other staff. I used to end up feeling tired, angry and drained and not wanting any of them near me.
It took one 12 year old to actually make me sit down and rethink how I (and other staff) worked, spoke and reacted to behaviour issues. His words had a huge effect on me, it was more a plea for acceptance, patience and most of all understanding. He‘d been excluded from school yet again, and nowhere else to go. We were really his last chance to achieve anything.
He explained how: *he* felt when he was totally hyper, taking mmed, he dealt with it and how *we* the staff could help and support him. It wasn’t perfect all of the time but it helped us to have more understanding and knowledge, plus side was it made a difference to this young lad‘s life…
WIsh your son all the best in the future...
thanks hun
it is very frustrating at times and very demanding he is still quite a young age so telling us what the problem is is still hard for him we get lots of "i dont know why mam" patience is the best medicine in cases step away take a deep breath relax and start again many times i felt like and felt like i had failed as a mother in so many ways but things did get easier as i learned to chill out around him and take things a step at a time sometimes taking 3 steps back if needs beYour welcome...
As adults we find it hard at times to describe how we feel or why we do things, must be confusing for him being at a young age.
The parents of the young people we worked with set up a local support group and invited school teachers/ LEO's/youth workers to attend meetings. It opened lines of communication and created more understanding of how difficuilt it could be at home for parents.
The parents were able to support one another too... as a worker I used to attend and it gave me so much more insight and access to some much needed training. The big plus for me was to actually meet parents...something that didnt always happen in my line of work.
Are they any groups by you that you can attend/call to get support and information from?
xanaisx
I dont know if I can put this down to clumsyness or just me and bad luck...
On a packed bus with loads of shopping, tried to struggle through the crowd to get to door for my stop. I finally mananged to get their just they started to close so I shoved my arms out to stop the doors closing.
It didnt, the doors closed and the bus drove off for another two stops whilst I had my arms stuck outside the bus doors with all my shopping hanging off it.
Driver couldnt hear me shouting to stop and everyone else was laughing to much to help me...
xanaisx
On a packed bus with loads of shopping, tried to struggle through the crowd to get to door for my stop. I finally mananged to get their just they started to close so I shoved my arms out to stop the doors closing.
It didnt, the doors closed and the bus drove off for another two stops whilst I had my arms stuck outside the bus doors with all my shopping hanging off it.
Driver couldnt hear me shouting to stop and everyone else was laughing to much to help me...
xanaisx
Quote by anais
...the doors closed and the bus drove off for another two stops whilst I had my arms stuck outside the bus doors with all my shopping hanging off it.
Driver couldnt hear me shouting to stop and everyone else was laughing to much to help me...
Anais, of course I am concerned as to whether you are ok or not - but as you posted this I am guessing you are!
Therefore can I please do something I really want to do?...
Quote by anais
I dont know if I can put this down to clumsyness or just me and bad luck...
On a packed bus with loads of shopping, tried to struggle through the crowd to get to door for my stop. I finally mananged to get their just they started to close so I shoved my arms out to stop the doors closing.
It didnt, the doors closed and the bus drove off for another two stops whilst I had my arms stuck outside the bus doors with all my shopping hanging off it.
Driver couldnt hear me shouting to stop and everyone else was laughing to much to help me...
xanaisx
I too hope your ok, but i really needed that.
louise xx
