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Forgive me if something along these lines has been posted before.. I did a search and couldn't find anything ..
I am still shaking from a near miss on the M40 on the way back from London.. We had just gone past Hillingdon, and I looked down to see someone driving and sending a text message at the same time. The roads were wet, and there was a lot of crosswind... I sat there holding my breath as the car got closer and closer.. Luckily nothing happened. But it scared the living daylights out of me. While we were in London, someone stuck in traffic was sending one, not as dangerous, but still not good.
We got back to Oxford, and as we got off the bus, someone stationary in a car at traffic lights was sending a text.. not watching the lights..
I really am worried about someone causing an accident while using their mobile.. especially on the motorway.. what do you guys think? mad
Quote by Misskitty_2008
Forgive me if something along these lines has been posted before.. I did a search and couldn't find anything ..
I am still shaking from a near miss on the M40 on the way back from London.. We had just gone past Hillingdon, and I looked down to see someone driving and sending a text message at the same time. The roads were wet, and there was a lot of crosswind... I sat there holding my breath as the car got closer and closer.. Luckily nothing happened. But it scared the living daylights out of me. While we were in London, someone stuck in traffic was sending one, not as dangerous, but still not good.
We got back to Oxford, and as we got off the bus, someone stationary in a car at traffic lights was sending a text.. not watching the lights..
I really am worried about someone causing an accident while using their mobile.. especially on the motorway.. what do you guys think? mad

The thing I hate about bad driving is when they cause an accident, it is always the innocent party that gets hurt.
If these morons were to have an accident, and the police found out they were texting, then I am sure a prison sentence would be given.
No wonder the police get so annoyed with innocent people sometimes, they probably just come from a bad accident, where people do unbelievable things behind the wheel.
Catch them and throw away the key, but there does not seem to be many police out there to catch them now.
Sadly I was involved in a fatal accident.I would like to point out that the police investigations of such incidents are very thorough and include a comprehensive review of youir mobile phone records.
Using your mobile phone whilst driving is just not worth the risk. However would you forgive yourself if it contributed in anyway whatsoever to a fatality?
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Sadly I was involved in a fatal accident.I would like to point out that the police investigations of such incidents are very thorough and include a comprehensive review of youir mobile phone records.
Using your mobile phone whilst driving is just not worth the risk. However would you forgive yourself if it contributed in anyway whatsoever to a fatality?

Ahh but it's fine. I am a fully paid up member of the 'it will never happen to me - I'm a great driver' club.
Seriously, I would never use my mobile while moving.
I have ssen worse - in my rear-view mirror thank goodness. A woman putting mascara on with a mobile to her ear with the other hand. Those few chaps who have never tried their wife's mascara should try it and imagine doing that while driving. It's suicidal.
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Sadly I was involved in a fatal accident.

I have to say you're looking well regardless.
Must be the preservatives in the food we eat.
Quote by Peanut
Sadly I was involved in a fatal accident.

I have to say you're looking well regardless.
Must be the preservatives in the food we eat.
And not funny to those involved confused :?
I really do get cross when I see people using mobiles whilst driving, really gets my goat! I'm afraid that's when my usual polite self turns into a raging pedestrian and shouts at silly person driving!
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Sadly I was involved in a fatal accident.

I have to say you're looking well regardless.
Must be the preservatives in the food we eat.
And not funny to those involved confused :?

The dead ones?
Quote by Peanut
Sadly I was involved in a fatal accident.

I have to say you're looking well regardless.
Must be the preservatives in the food we eat.
And not funny to those involved confused :?

The dead ones?
You know exactly what I meant :?
Quote by anais
Sadly I was involved in a fatal accident.

I have to say you're looking well regardless.
Must be the preservatives in the food we eat.
And not funny to those involved confused :?

The dead ones?
You know exactly what I meant :?
rolleyes
Quote by Peanut
Sadly I was involved in a fatal accident.

I have to say you're looking well regardless.
Must be the preservatives in the food we eat.
And not funny to those involved confused :?

The dead ones?
You know exactly what I meant :?
rolleyes
:roll:
Dangerous driving due to things such as have been mentioned is bad and should be stopped, of course, if at all possible. However what i do notice is that I have days where my driving is better than on other days. Sometimes mood can have dramatic effects on driving, I would even say at times possibly to a greater effect than a few mgs over the limit alcohol wise. Thats not to say i'm justifying drink drive, I am most certainly not.
I think that we all at some points make mistakes and cause consternation to other drivers of that i'm sure, we are all fallible. I say that its important to recognise this especially when we see something done wrong and get all stressed out swearing. fist shaking and shouting and stuff in our seats and through this maybe our own driving could be effected.
I try as hard as i can to be philosophical about mistakes i see on the road thinking that it maybe the only one they have made in a long time and they could be sitting in their seats cringing and apologising at their own mistake. I know i've done that. If I remain calm and chilled then that has got to be good for my own driving, and i know that i most definately am not the worlds best driver no, not by any means
Dave and I were driving on the M5 the other week, could see a car in the middle weaving about a little and when we got along side and passed, the guy had a book on the steering wheel, not sure if it was his diary or a novel but either way it shouldn't have been there....He causes an accident and drives on completely oblivious to what is happening around him!!! mad
Earlier this morning I walked to my local shop to get supplies for lunch, and someone drove past me lighting up a cigarette.. eyes down and another car was coming towards them.. lots of screeching tyres and beeping cars followed.. I know it's just not mobile phone users.. but they are the ones that frighten me more...
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Dangerous driving due to things such as have been mentioned is bad and should be stopped, of course, if at all possible. However what i do notice is that I have days where my driving is better than on other days. Sometimes mood can have dramatic effects on driving,

Sorry for snipping lost but I just wanted to say I completly agree with you on this point. Mood can have a huge impact on driving I think sometimes bigger than we all realise.
If I get in the car when im all stressed and angry I let other peoples driving get to me alot more and i'm much more likely to react with the two fingered salute and a few words than I would if I was in a good mood.
I do use hands free whilst i'm driving for talking on the phone but for the life of me I don't get how someone can drive and sent a text at the same time, I know I can multi task but i'm not that good...
I think it's interesting that it is illegal to text or use a mobile phone without a hands-free deivice, and yet I haven't heard of a single person who has been caught, fined, or prosecuted.
What logic is being used therefore when a man sitting in a stationary van, on his own, smoking a cigarette, is immediately arrested and fined?
mad
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I think it's interesting that it is illegal to text or use a mobile phone without a hands-free deivice, and yet I haven't heard of a single person who has been caught, fined, or prosecuted.
What logic is being used therefore when a man sitting in a stationary van, on his own, smoking a cigarette, is immediately arrested and fined?
mad

A frien of mine on the phone to me redface got caught and recieved a £60 fine and 3 penalty points on her license!. It does happen.
Quote by lyns
I think it's interesting that it is illegal to text or use a mobile phone without a hands-free deivice, and yet I haven't heard of a single person who has been caught, fined, or prosecuted.
What logic is being used therefore when a man sitting in a stationary van, on his own, smoking a cigarette, is immediately arrested and fined?
mad

A frien of mine on the phone to me redface got caught and recieved a £60 fine and 3 penalty points on her license!. It does happen.
Sorry to hear that hun, but too many still seem to get away with it. I remember being on a coach along the motorway and as I looked out of the window I noticed a woman, in a BMW, texting (?????????). She hardly looked up at all to see what was happening around her.
Quote by bbw_lover
A frien of mine on the phone to me redface got caught and recieved a £60 fine and 3 penalty points on her license!. It does happen.

Sorry to hear that hun, but too many still seem to get away with it. I remember being on a coach along the motorway and as I looked out of the window I noticed a woman, in a BMW, texting (?????????). She hardly looked up at all to see what was happening around her.
Im not sorry to hear it! People should be locked up for dangerous driving offences. I had a close realative killed because some idiot decided to drive down the wrong side of the M62 :shock: mad Two young children left without a Mum and Dad in hospital for months. Makes my blood boil!
My friend was killed because of a couple of cars playing chicken and she was a passenger. I know she was a bit silly being there but the drivers got away with not a sentence, point, fine no nothing.
Just seems more and more that people aren't punished properly and the more petty crimes are targeted sad
I think we are far to soft on driving offenders. A car is a good way to get from A to B but is also an efficient killing machine as we all know. Sorry to read that some of you have lost loved ones in this way.
I don't think that a £1000 fine is good enough. I'd be happier with a ban for life. That may seem a bit draconian but it might be the only way to deal with these people. Anyone who imperils others whether it's cos they're drunk, drugged, racing, texting or whatever doesn't deserve a driving license in my book.
There are times when people die, it can be just a lack of judgment. In those cases the driver should not be overly punished.
On the other hand, driving to fast, drunk, using a phone or something like that, it is not the death that is so bad. It is the fact that the driver was so reckless. It is the reckless behavior that should be punished. Punish the behaviour, reduce the number of times/people doing it and thus reduce accidents on rodes.
Travis
I met a guy once (not in the SH sense!) who had killed someone while driving drunk.
His family and almost all his friends had completely disowned him - he was really 'cast out' from his usual society.
I often wondered how I would continue to deal with someone close who killed someone that way: would I maintain the relationship and be forgiving or nonjudgemental or be so disgusted that I couldn't?
This one is quite a sensitive subject i think and i would have to agree with what has been said... the penalties for these driving offences are way too soft.. surprised A friend of ours is a crash investigator and always says the fatalities are always the worse and especially when the driver has not been concentrating and has caused the accident.
Myself i am a very bad passenger especially when travelling on the motorway and end up shouting at hubby constantly as so nervous of the other cars and lorries around me... god would be so much easier if we never had to use motorways! smile ! Am ok driving though just give them plenty or room! My mum has never learnt to drive and she is so glad as she often says there are enough nutters on the road :shock: pmsl
I think the penalties for dangerous driving are way to soft. Killing someone through reckless or dangerous driving in my opinion should be treated as manslaughter!.
Giving someone points, fines and a ban is quite simply not a strong enough punishment.
I also agree that once convicted the driver should be banned for life! however I understand that this is just not totally enforcable as the traffic cops are becoming far and few between.
I know someone who killed a young lad on a push bike. The lad didn't have any lights on or reflectors. It wasn't the drivers fault, yet it completly destroyed his life and he never drove again, he could not forgive himself even tho he had in effect don't nothing wrong it was an accident nothing more. Very sad for all involved.
There seems to be an awful lot of pious thinking in this thread.
The fact of the matter is that every person behind the wheel is a human and as such has human qualities and traits. Everyone of us in this thread (who drive) and every driver out there, at some point, will lose concentration, do stupid things and break the law whilst driving.
If you really think you're a safe driver (most people aren't as safe as they think) then may I suggest that you go , sign up for a course and realise just how bad your driving is.
And just for balance, yes I am an advanced driver, and yes I still make silly mistakes but due to the 2 week full time course I undertook for ambulance work I make less mistakes than the average motorist.
If, as this thread shows, people are so irate about it then don't just vent, do something about it. The more advanced motorist on the road the less accidents occur. In case anyone suggests that it's other people doing the stupid things, well all I can say is that you are obviously not an advanced driver. In advanced driving the whole point is safety and driving in such a way as to avoid the numpties on the road.
It is bad and partly while i feel the need not to drive
I have a family friend who was driving his car in south africa (he was working out there) and had his girlfriend in the car because of another driver they crashed and the girlfriend died
This was bad enough and the guilt he feels is tremendous,
The wife (who lived in england) didnt know about the girlfriend and found out about it after the crash this resulted in divorce
So its not just the actual crashes/deaths that can ruin lives its the fallouts that occur after it
I used to ride a motorbike, and have never learnt to drive a car. I know this might sound silly, but I felt more vunerable in a car.. wheras I had more control over my bike. I also ALWAYS wore the full amour kit when I went out.. and it served me well.
I got knocked off my bike by a drunk driver, but got straight back on my bike.. but had to go to casualty later as I didn't realise how injured I was. I was almost knocked flying by a bus, and a taxi driver on another occasion sending a text.
I now walk everywhere..that I can... as I am too scared to learn to drive now. Some drivers in Oxford and London where I go every week frighten me silly.. I will not tar everyone with the same brush, as there are some good drivers out there, but its the few that ruin things for everyone else.
I wish I could drive, would make things a lot easier..
I drive about 35,000 miles a year with work, I have all the contraptions, sat nav, bluetooth phone, blackberry etc.
All are distractions and I try not to use any when driving, especially the phone 'cos even on a good hands free set its very distracting.
My mates company have banned anyone from using a phone in the company car, hard to police, but I guess if the car was in an accident the driver cant say i was on a work call as an excuse.
Yes you do see all sorts on the roads and i still see wagon drivers on the phone. 44tonnes hurts when it hits you!
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I used to ride a motorbike, and have never learnt to drive a car. I know this might sound silly, but I felt more vunerable in a car.. wheras I had more control over my bike. I also ALWAYS wore the full amour kit when I went out.. and it served me well.
I got knocked off my bike by a drunk driver, but got straight back on my bike.. but had to go to casualty later as I didn't realise how injured I was. I was almost knocked flying by a bus, and a taxi driver on another occasion sending a text.
I now walk everywhere..that I can... as I am too scared to learn to drive now. Some drivers in Oxford and London where I go every week frighten me silly.. I will not tar everyone with the same brush, as there are some good drivers out there, but its the few that ruin things for everyone else.
I wish I could drive, would make things a lot easier..

sorry dont know how to quote the bit I want
Hubby is a bike rider and he has mentioned many times the car drivers that dont see the bike at junctions/roundabouts, its not often i go on the back but more recently I have started and I must admit there are times when I dont feel very safe ( not due to hubby's riding skills)
Quote by Peanut
There seems to be an awful lot of pious thinking in this thread.
The fact of the matter is that every person behind the wheel is a human and as such has human qualities and traits. Everyone of us in this thread (who drive) and every driver out there, at some point, will lose concentration, do stupid things and break the law whilst driving.
If you really think you're a safe driver (most people aren't as safe as they think) then may I suggest that you go here, sign up for a course and realise just how bad your driving is.
And just for balance, yes I am an advanced driver, and yes I still make silly mistakes but due to the 2 week full time course I undertook for ambulance work I make less mistakes than the average motorist.
If, as this thread shows, people are so irate about it then don't just vent, do something about it. The more advanced motorist on the road the less accidents occur. In case anyone suggests that it's other people doing the stupid things, well all I can say is that you are obviously not an advanced driver. In advanced driving the whole point is safety and driving in such a way as to avoid the numpties on the road.

I had an advanced driver drive up the inside of me when the lane went from 2 lanes to 1, he then went onto bleeping his horn all way down the road, when I turned round shrugging my shoulders very anoyed, he then went onto following me to my work place and giving me loads of verbal abuse and my manager had to get involved, he was very intimidating and was ranting on about how he was an off duty advanced driving instructor!!!
Not sure which advanced driving school he went to but I wonder if they learnt him the whole point of safety and driving in a way to avoid numpties on the road ( and no I wasnt the numpty lol )