Got to agree with a bit of"In the old days...."sometimes.I have and still do enjoy the frivolity of the cafe and have made some good friends through it, albeit the majority still remain cybermates,friends who have helped me in darker days when the subjects were more serious for there is room for all on a site such as this?
Lb
I know I am still a newbie around here - but one thing I do take as a positive about the Café is that it is as it is. It is a place where we singletons can learn rather than jumping in on the Meet up section and make a right prat of ourselves.
I know I don't post as much - or ever been in the chat room - but I do learn a lot from reading the threads/strings here. And, I do mean this with the utmost sincerity, with this place being free for those of us who cannot afford to use pay sites, I thank those who provide it. That includes those who offer real life experiences to chew over. So from me, all I can say is thank you.
i too must admit to be glad to see the back of the SH Clock and association thread .. I'll admit to being as guilty as most on the SH Clock but have been wondering what to point was just lately. The word association thread cost me two posts I think ... it was pure evil :twisted:
I'm very surprised only to have lost about 100 posts in total and haven't dropped any in the grand scheme of things ... so I'm not bothered in the slightest ...
Roger, it occurs to me that there is a third reason people post, and that is to be seen posting and bring up their number of postings,, pointless occupation to me.
I know wat is meant by the general trivia, hey its raining here today, type thread, again its so pointless.
The threads that really anoy me though are the so called, funnies, especialy the american ones that we have all had by email anyway!!
Yes, what Sarge, Misschief, Red and Ice said. There is quite a lot of meaningless shite around. There have been one or two worthwhile gems washed away in a sea of moronic fluid.
It might be worth the Mods posting a Sticky or adding to the Advice Board some more guidelines as to what sort of thing is to be encouraged (or discouraged). I don't think that is constraining free speech - it is just improving the quality of life. That way I think the Mods will not be onto a loser. It might even be worth putting up some draft guidelines for peoples' views on a thread by way of gaining consensus??
Just a thought.
What I've found with the frivolous threads is this....
Sense of humour and the chance to flirt. :twisted:
Somehow those pm's from someone you've had a flirt with on the board are more welcome than those unsolicitored (ok, before my ad went up they were unsolicitored) pms.
There are some threads which are of no interest to me at all, but those, I simply stay away from. SH is a diverse community. So one would expect the cafe threads to be so too.
OK - some really good points, how about if the Mods start to lock/delete threads that do not relate to swinging in some way? I know it has not been done "in the past" as I alluded to but would that improve the site for those people looking to actually swing?
If this was the case would people miss the opportunity to just generally chat? It seems to me that the popularity amongst the Mods/Regulars of the general chat threads depends on how well known the contributors are.
I would have said that to avoid the common allegations of 'cliques' and 'double-standards' the policy for Cafe threads needs to quite clear. I would say that either the Cafe becomes a place to discuss Swinging, Sex and similar issues exclusively or it stays as a free for all.
If it is going to be an 'On Topic' forum then off-topic threads should be locked regardless of the posters - This would include such things as Warwick's Marbles, People asking permission to go on holiday, games of ping-pong and most of the content of GFZ (The can I have a back rub and a pint type of thing)
If on the other hand it is to be free to the members in general to decide what they want to post then threads such as Word Association, "We'll meet again.." and the SH Clock have a place in that environment to enable new people to ease themselves in and also to enable people to flirt and chat.
My opinion is that if SH wants to continue to be an inclusive site and try move forward from the increased amount of "navel gazing" that has occured over the last few months, then maybe it is time to either consider some changes to the forum or for a clear statement of acceptable versus un-acceptable posts to be made.
Roger the Dragon.
(I intend to hang around either way BTW)
just talking about swinging and sex ?? well I do think there would not exactly be much activity after a week.....just think of the stupid but great threads.....The DaveDJ thread springs to mind where everyone dressed up as the others avatar.......yesterday the wheres WBB thread where people pretended to be on radios....I could go on....but the fact is the cafe is open to choose to post what you want about what you want....if the subject doesn't interest you, then don't post on it and don't read it.
Lets get a few things straight…..
I am slightly miffed at the deletion of certain threads, and what I see as over zealous moderating.
First, the word association thread was started by me, not to boost post counts (my contributions were minimal to the growth of the thread) but as a light hearted game… posted in what I perceive as the correct forum… the café, where all types of post, serious, swinging related, non related, humorous, bizarre etc can be posted. I see no justification for deleting it for these reasons.
The thread did have a large following; this can not be denied, as shown by the extraordinary large number of posts from a wide variety of contributors, new and old and it cannot be said that some of the associations were very funny, and well thought out. I see no justification for deleting it for these reasons.
To say if a thread is boring, is subjective, obviously close on 200 pages worth of contributors did not think it was boring. I see no justification for deleting it for this reason.
Forgive me if I am wrong, but when did the criteria of “if a thread has anything constructive and contributes to the future of the site†come into effect, looking at the range of topics currently in the café, if this was applied then there would only be one or two threads there. I see no justification for deleting it for these reasons
As a policing / monitoring exercise I can understand that if you may need to examine each post and evaluate if it fits with your criteria, this I accept would be time restrictive (But is a Mods job - if you are so hell bent on controlling everything so tightly). So, does this mean that we can only have threads that are short, with a content that keeps the attention of the Mods before they are deleted and cast into the trash bin! That, in my opinion is not an acceptable criteria, and again I see no justification for deleting it for this reason.
There was no explanation or debate to the deletion of this thread, I find this unacceptable.
A second word association thread has been locked, why? It appears that even Mark plays the game as he has contributed…. So the site inventor is also wrong?
Jackboots have been mentioned in the “has a thread been deleted between lastnight and now†thread, and yes I don’t like the term, but feel they have been worn on this occasion.
I feel that a bad and wrong decision has been made and seek a full and public explanation and reinstatement of both the SH Clock and Word Association Game threads.
Frogster