Do you come here often?

20 Dec 2004

I got to thinking, as I donâ€™t frequent the place as much as I would like to, about what you all want from The CafÃ©.
Do you come here to make friends and enjoy a bit of friendly banter? passionkiss

Do you come here to meet people and possibly further relationships? hump

Do you come here to read the mindless drivel that we sometimes love and sometimes hate? :doh:
Do you come here to make as many posts as possible in order to be top biller? Not any more you donâ€™t! rotflmao

Do you come here to have a pop at others? If so piss off. poke

I have seriously sat and thought about what attracts me to the CafÃ© and have found, if I am honest with myself, that I come to see if old friends are here and to find out whoâ€™s new in town. I love the threads that kick off into full-scale arguments because they are so entertaining. I love to watch people post those threads that are â€œpoor me, I need sympathy, please be my friendâ€ because I find them quite sad in a funny sort of way. The threads that are just bloody ridiculous, like ping pong, have had their day but were fun at the time. There are classics old and new, it comes with the territory so I take it all for what it is.
I donâ€™t have the time to write long posts anymore and so the odd quip here and there to let friends know Iâ€™m still alive (Fredâ€™s under the patio) innocent

is all I can manage. (poor me, I need sympathy, please be my friend) : :rotflmao:
Iâ€™ve watched this place for some time now. People come and people go and the dynamics change. I take all sorts of things from the cafÃ© (whilst Sarge isnâ€™t looking) I only wish I could put more back.
So sit and ponder a while and tell me why you come here.
Love
Wilma
x x x x

20 Dec 2004

Quote by WilmaFlintstone
Fredâ€™s under the patio

Yes, but is the hot tub on top of him biggrin

C'mon woman priorities rolleyes

Jas
XXX

20 Dec 2004

I come here becuase i believ the cafe can really get up to being the fantastic place it used to be. i used to love coming here evry day and seeing who was on and what we could talk about. that all changed a little while back and i was lucky if i felt the inclination to log on once a week. However, i am more or less back to every day now, as, apart from the last few days where a few things have got heated, i feel the cafe getting back to its fun, humorous state, with a few of the old regs coming back once in a while. TBH, its not even about the swinging anymore, its more about talking to other people about their views on life.

20 Dec 2004

Quote by Jas-Tim
Fredâ€™s under the patio

Yes, but is the hot tub on top of him biggrin

C'mon woman priorities rolleyes

Jas
XXX
Oh yes the tub is here!!!! :happy:
I had to shag the 6 guys who came to install it and they gladly agreed to bury the poor chap underneath. Now it's all mine!!! Fancy a dip?
Love
Wilma
x x x x

20 Dec 2004

Fred echos from the thread next door >>>>>
"OUCH"
Wilma . I come to the cafe because I enjoy the company, the banter and the earwiggin that goes with it smile

Fred (but not your's)

20 Dec 2004

I come in here because I love the bantering that goes on between the people here.....despite some of the shit, we have fun and this might sound a bit strange but this place has changed my life and I have fun here and it makes me feel positive and I get to go to Munches....
Does that make sense? LoL....

20 Dec 2004

I come here for a bit of friendly banter and chit chat.
If I make some friends here, so much the better.
I don't really come here looking to shag other forum members as I know that's highly unlikely whilst I'm still single.

20 Dec 2004

Two reasons:
1) I come here to be with the most beautiful, gorgeous, alluring, erotic, sensuous woman I know. I shall refrain from naming her - because I know she wouldn't want that. (yes - I mean you wink

)
2) TBH, its not even about the swinging anymore, its more about talking to other people about their views on life. TM Dazandlou
3) Outrageous flirting, banter, zany humour, wild and wacky moments.
4) Learning to count.
lhk
Kat

20 Dec 2004

Quote by KitKat
Two reasons:
1) I come here to be with the most beautiful, gorgeous, alluring, erotic, sensuous woman I know. I shall refrain from naming her - because I know she wouldn't want that. (yes - I mean you )
Kat

It's okay Kate I'm not shy lol

Love
Wilma
x x x x

20 Dec 2004

Hi Wilma
Funny that - but I still haven't received my munch badge. Is it in the post dear? :P
I come here almost every day. Sometimes I post, sometimes i don't 'cos on those occasions I don't feel the need to reply to what's going on.
When I first came here it was to get a feel for the life I was just entering. The cafe seemed full of really nice people, prepared to let a newbie swinger in to ask questions and not seem like a total newbie. And I got out of it waht I really needed at the time.
I am still relatively new, but I'm not so shy anymore - and a lot of my questions have been answered. So now I come here for the same reasons I pop into my local gay pub - to meet with like-minded friends that I can just relax with, be myself, have a laugh, have a serious discussion -do whatever takes my fancy really.
In my view - the Cafe emulates my pub experiences to a "T". People laugh, people fall out. Friends leave and then come back. soem leave and don't come back. The landlords are criticised and loved (where would be without them anyway). New people are welcomed and some become friends.
The only difference is that in this "pub" people have funny names and I have to type my words - whcih actually helps sometimes 'cos my mouth has a way of activating itself before consulting my brain. Bit like my typing really!
dunno

:color:

20 Dec 2004

Rainbow, I love the analogy of this place being like a pub.
Mines a double and your badge will be returned but only in person and of course a repeat performance wink

Love
Wilma
x x x x

20 Dec 2004

Quote by WilmaFlintstone
I got to thinking, as I donâ€™t frequent the place as much as I would like to, about what you all want from The CafÃ©.
Love
Wilma
x x x x

coffee white 3 sugars please!
I chat here to pass the time and make new friends! and to open a few hornets nests from time to time!
oh and make brilliant polls that everyone hates.... thats a point do i do another bum one! lol lol
JGL

20 Dec 2004

Quote by JGL
I got to thinking, as I donâ€™t frequent the place as much as I would like to, about what you all want from The CafÃ©.
Love
Wilma
x x x x

coffee white 3 sugars please!
I caht her to pass the time and make new friends! and to opne a few hornets nests from time to time!
oh and make brillianpolls that everyone hates.... thats a point do i do anther bum one! lol lol
JGL
I think you need a strong black coffee to sober up JGL lol

20 Dec 2004

If I'm honest with myself, we've no intention of using the Cafe to get sex - that's what the photo ad section's for *. And Mrs Cueball and I are a bit on the shy side so we'll not be coming to any munches in the near future (but we haven't ruled it out yet wink

)
The Cafe gives me somewhere to unwind. There's no other place I've found (either physical or virtual) where such a diverse and tolerant bunch of people get together. No subject is (apart from those that I have absolutely no interest in) and a discussion is guaranteed to attract views and opinions that I would never have been exposed to before. I'm an adult and I enjoy having adult discussions with like-minded people.
And despite previous posts to the contrary, I've not seen any sign of a clique or "munch-bunch" mentality. I've always been welcomed with open arms (or legs Polo Lady :smile smile

and only been smackbottom

or

a couple of times lol

Bottom line - I'm addicted!
* Obviously if there are any single women out there who would be interested in getting together we wouldn't say no. Just PM us. :wink:

20 Dec 2004

Quote by WilmaFlintstone
Rainbow, I love the analogy of this place being like a pub.
Mines a double and your badge will be returned but only in person and of course a repeat performance
Love
Wilma
x x x x

Rainbows rushed off to see if Wilma is going to Leics Munch - and check if she has put her name down yet!!!!!!

20 Dec 2004

Quote by WilmaFlintstone
I got to thinking, as I donâ€™t frequent the place as much as I would like to, about what you all want from The CafÃ©.
Love
Wilma
x x x x

coffee white 3 sugars please!
I caht her to pass the time and make new friends! and to opne a few hornets nests from time to time!
oh and make brillianpolls that everyone hates.... thats a point do i do anther bum one! lol lol
JGL
I think you need a strong black coffee to sober up JGL lol

point taken!!!
i know i'm not the best spell in the world! maybe we should ask for a spell checker in SH!
one thing that drags me back to SH every night is the light hearted humor! there are some nights where you are just hitting the F5 key cause a thread is rolling round that fast
JGL

20 Dec 2004

Hello Wilma
If I dont speak to you before then merry christmas to you and Fred!!!!!!!!! and I am sure there was something being arranged so badges could be returned hahahahahaha. I do spend less time here these days and therefore get to enjoy it more when I am here!
I love where I am in my life at the moment and I am so happy most of the time biggrin

:D :D This place has seen me blossom and I hope occasionally I have gifts that I can share with others ...................... oh and the occasional bodily fluid (well snog at least hahahaha) .... you never know one day eh........................................................
Love Corriexxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

20 Dec 2004

JGL - I do hope you took it in the spirit it was meant, I rarely mean to offend.
Love
Wilma
x x x

20 Dec 2004

Quote by WilmaFlintstone
JGL - I do hope you took it in the spirit it was meant, I rarely mean to offend.
Love
Wilma
x x x

its impossible to offend me! i take everything in jest!
i'd be in depression if i took everything i heard to heart!!!
Wilma give me a snog next time we meet and i'll forgive ya!
JGL

20 Dec 2004

Quote by cu3b4ll
IAnd Mrs Cueball and I are a bit on the shy side so we'll not be coming to any munches in the near future:

Don't let your shyness stop you from going to a munch! I am DREADFULLY shy!!! I know of one other on here that is also shy(hi JGL wave

). I have been to one munch - and yes I walked in quivering! But not for long!! Okay - so I wasn't out there on the dance floor (spent a proportion of my time hovering on the stairs if I remember correctly) or getting invloved in too much, but I WAS made to feel welcome - and did make a huge difference to returning to the cafe. Suddenly I actually KNEW people. And I am sooo looking forward to the Essex and Scots munches!!
Trust me - Munches are nice ways of meeting people - whether you just stand on the stairs or not.
Hope to see you at one soon kiss

20 Dec 2004

Mmm, add me to the list of fairly shy people smile

20 Dec 2004

Quote by WilmaFlintstone
I have seriously sat and thought about what attracts me to the CafÃ©
Iâ€™ve watched this place for some time now. People come and people go and the dynamics change. I take all sorts of things from the cafÃ© (whilst Sarge isnâ€™t looking) I only wish I could put more back.
So sit and ponder a while and tell me why you come here.
Love
Wilma
x x x x

I've been dropping in most days here for nearly a year now - I'm not always sure why, but somehow or other I'm still here. I enjoy the banter and the wit in here, have made one or two friends here, used to indulge in swinging and still do occasionally at a club, but have never swung or shagged with anyone here from SH, as I'm somewhat on the fringe of things in here.
I sit here and read the posts, making a few contributions here and there. I don't think I've ever poured my heart out here in the cafe, I'm one of the quieter ones, but I notice and remember what other people write, and feel I've got to know some people well from their posts.
So, what do I get from here? Amusement, entertainment, understanding, knowledge, friendliness, and hopefully putting something of each of those back in.
Mike.

20 Dec 2004

I enjoy the banter, the humour, the thought provoking and the heart warming threads. There are some posters on here whose threads I would not want to miss and that is why I log on almost everyday. I don't always contribute, although I usually find a thread or two that I can really get my teeth into.
The occasional idiot or troll gets on here sometimes, although they are swiftly dealt with by the Mods.
I don't swing, well not yet anyway. I have not used this site for that purpose. If I make friends here, I will be happy. If I swing in the future, that will be a bonus.

20 Dec 2004

I have only found two forums where I feel at home, this is one of them. I can banter, flirt, talk and share experiences which is fantastic. I am satisfying my curiosity about lots of things which I wondered about in the past, and found out things I had never known before! I'm not aiming to shag anyone I talk to but if something happens in the future then what may be may be!

20 Dec 2004

I, although new, like the place because it has atmosphere! real atmosphere. It's thoughy provoking with individuals who are different on one hand and very similar on the other and that makes for good karma biggrin

J

20 Dec 2004

Wilma, great thread, why am I here, to let go in the more intelligent threads out there. (Like this one). To relate to people who I respect and hopefully earn theirs. On other nights it is to kick back the heels and chill, driving the armour plated wheely bins of nutty humour with sarge (or others) at the helm through a night of total escapism...
Yet other nights deep debates are raging on all sides, then time for deep thought and working to creatively put my point across...
Lets not forget the friends I have made here, including some very special relationships. The list goes on, the cafe (and yes I often think of it as a bar) is just a big old boiling pot of the worlds best n worst bits (mostly best). When I can find time to be on, there is always something to tickle my fancy, and (shameless plug) I am currently having fun re-reading threads suggested for the SH Awards 2004.
Long may the ride continue, it has its ups n downs but the journey is a good one...

21 Dec 2004

I originally came here on a journey of discovery ...... it had been suggested by hubby that we consider swinging and I wasn't convinced (my "thing" being bdsm). I fell across the site accidently and almost immediately got hooked ...
The people, the tolerance, the normality of sex, fetish and sexuality was refreshing and I sppreciated the total honesty ... people weren't offended by a dirty joke or a rude word. Adult humour with adults.
I got hooked quite quickly made some friends, attended a munch, felt "at home" and stayed. I never came here looking or sex ... I came to learn and I have and now I stay because the humour, flirting, teasing, compassion. tolerance and understanding is a shining example! The sort of community I wish could exist offline but it doesn't.
I find the banter, and people are great company ...
C xx

21 Dec 2004

i love to come read and chat amongst friends
sorta flirt a lot
tend to do lotsa one liners but im not into shareing my life on a board

21 Dec 2004

I come for the avatars..... silly

hwoar: :twisted:
I honestly don't know why I'm here (bit too deep for me at 9:25 on a Tuesday morning).......oh you mean on the site.. :doh: lol

:lol: :lol:
Well we don't swing, or dog, or go to clubs so I've no idea. dunno

A few months ago I would have said we're here because it's a great fun, uplifting place to visit after (or even during) a crap day at work, but recently we've been posting less and less (Countess has stopped because she really doesn't want to get involved in any arguments, but I'm not as bright as her... :doh: ).
I still visit almost every day and still enjoy some of the posts, but I just can't seem to find anywhere near as much to sink my posting teeth into (the ones I had at the Notts Munch). Maybe I'm just getting used to the place and it's loosing it's sparkle for me a little :dunno: but I'll keep coming because of the banter I share with the friends I've made here, even if I don't post on the open forum as much.

21 Dec 2004

Quote by WilmaFlintstone
Two reasons:
1) I come here to be with the most beautiful, gorgeous, alluring, erotic, sensuous woman I know. I shall refrain from naming her - because I know she wouldn't want that. (yes - I mean you )
Kat

It's okay Kate I'm not shy lol

Love
Wilma
x x x x Ah Wilma, you know me too well. Vague as I tried to be, you knew exactly whom my words were intended for. Your beauty and vivaciousness are matched only by your insight and your wisdom. I should of course have said:
1) I come here to be with the most beautiful, gorgeous, alluring, erotic, sensuous and shy woman I know. :twisted:
lhk
Kat