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Oh I feel an essay coming on! 
Cuppa anyone?!
Too vanilla to be a swinger?
I've questioned this often, I think I'm definitely too "something" to be vanilla and sometimes I think I'm a little too naive to call myself a swinger. I agree that it's definitely a mindset or a lifestyle rather than anything else and I defintely feel way more comfortable around people who are on the same wavelength as me, even if some are more extreme than me in their sexual tastes. Everyone is different and I'm naturally quite curious so find myself asking a lot of questions about things, whether I'd do them or not.
Since arriving in this scene and meeting people and talking as freely and as openly as we all do I think that has helped me a whole load. I too feel that sometimes I'm too outrageous in vanilla world and yet here I feel like a total novice on occasion. I have learned a lot about myself and what I like, surprising myself (quite a lot) along the way. I'm much more comfortable about pushing my boundaries and seeing which direction I want to go next. I find it much easier to discuss things that have only previously gone on in my head. I don't feel at all embarrassed to come out with something that pops into my head which I know my vanilla friends would be weirded out by, yet you lot aren't at all fazed by.
I do know that I couldn't go back now... only six months into this and maybe one day I'll settle down and have a vanilla type relationship, maybe not but I do know that I'll never be able to close the door on the kinks and things I've found here, they're way too much fun! :rascal:
Cuppa anyone?!
Too vanilla to be a swinger?
I've questioned this often, I think I'm definitely too "something" to be vanilla and sometimes I think I'm a little too naive to call myself a swinger. I agree that it's definitely a mindset or a lifestyle rather than anything else and I defintely feel way more comfortable around people who are on the same wavelength as me, even if some are more extreme than me in their sexual tastes. Everyone is different and I'm naturally quite curious so find myself asking a lot of questions about things, whether I'd do them or not.
Since arriving in this scene and meeting people and talking as freely and as openly as we all do I think that has helped me a whole load. I too feel that sometimes I'm too outrageous in vanilla world and yet here I feel like a total novice on occasion. I have learned a lot about myself and what I like, surprising myself (quite a lot) along the way. I'm much more comfortable about pushing my boundaries and seeing which direction I want to go next. I find it much easier to discuss things that have only previously gone on in my head. I don't feel at all embarrassed to come out with something that pops into my head which I know my vanilla friends would be weirded out by, yet you lot aren't at all fazed by.
I do know that I couldn't go back now... only six months into this and maybe one day I'll settle down and have a vanilla type relationship, maybe not but I do know that I'll never be able to close the door on the kinks and things I've found here, they're way too much fun! :rascal:
Sex God
vanilla with some sprinkles on top is me 
Quote by 36openminded
Last weekend, HungryPussy69 brought some vanilla tea bags, and I had vanilla cheese cake - scary ain't it :shock:
If the scene does something for you - i.e. you enjoy it - then I wouldn't worry about the details, just enjoy.
36
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Sshhhh.......I`m not a vanilla just cos I like vanilla tea!! Snitch!!
lp
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Quote by Freckledbird
Maybe too vanilla to be a swinger, but also too swinger to be a vanilla now.
I was only pondering this t'other day...
I thought i'd google the definition of a swinger. The online dictionary i looked at gave two definitions, the first was about someone who swings sports implements the other was:
2. swinger - a person who engages freely in promiscuous sex.
From that alone i don't think it matters if you don't see yourself as very kinky in your sexual exploitations. Just the fact your having sex openly with various people.
Whether you have sex with them all at the same time is completely upto you
2. swinger - a person who engages freely in promiscuous sex.
From that alone i don't think it matters if you don't see yourself as very kinky in your sexual exploitations. Just the fact your having sex openly with various people.
Whether you have sex with them all at the same time is completely upto you
Quote by Shireen
Too vanilla to be a swinger??
A couple of ladies and myself were chatting at a social event about 4 months ago and one of the ladies said that she felt as though she and her husband were too "vanilla" to be swingers.. When she was explaining what she meant by that I said that was exactly how I felt as well... That we dont enjoy spanking, the long long sessions, but opted for more a traditional outlook on sex....
I am trying very hard to explain myself here but I cant think of the words I want to say
Does anyone else feel that they are not kinky enough to be a swinger or is it just myself and the other very gorgeous lady?? :dunno:
I hope she comes along and explains it better than I have :giggle:
I did not even know what "vanilla " meant until last week!
I did the kinky test on one of the threads n here....I got 36%!
We meet single guys only,the extra fun that meets with them gives, is probably as about as kinky as I will ever be!
I like to think of myself as naughty and adventurous, so that for me in my comforttable cosy little way is kinky!
I always thought "proper" swinging was when the couple swopped with another couple, that I have learnt if not the case either!
Its all good fun.......
Lucys post.
