People come here for all sorts of reasons. But I was just wondering. Is it sensible to use this site as a dating agency?
I joined as a recently seperated male looking for a quick shag. I was soon disabused of that idea and settled into something more social. But i don't think I'm the only single person male or female whose done that.
So would you recommend finding a life long partner through this site or the many like it?
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There's always Heaven Dating if that's what you're after"
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No this isn't for me, it's about afriend - honest. No really a friend.
She seems to have met and fallen for a series of men from this site, who, I would best describe as bastards. But that's just me.
So is she looking in the wrong place or does she just fall for the wrong men?
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There's always Heaven Dating if that's what you're after"
:P
No this isn't for me, it's about afriend - honest. No really a friend.
She seems to have met and fallen for a series of men from this site, who, I would best describe as bastards. But that's just me.
So is she looking in the wrong place or does she just fall for the wrong men?
She's looking in the wrong place... certainly!
Sex God
Thats funny I was thinking along these lines the other day. I was wondering...like you do, what I would do if I no longer had Stormy. I can't imagine actually wanting another full on relationship to be honest as I would try to be brave and see how I get along with myself since I have never done that in my life. BUT a few years down the line..what if. I imagine that I wouldnt have left here and would have just changed my profile to widowed or old maid or something along those lines and said not looking on the profile. So I think that by then I would have made quite a few friends on here that I could probably trust and would have known long enough to know who was relationship material maybe and who was'nt.
So for me I think it possibly would work.....However thats not what I joined for and not what I would have joined for.
That did make sense to me...honest :P
So for me I think it possibly would work.....However thats not what I joined for and not what I would have joined for.
That did make sense to me...honest :P
its not what i joined for either but it has hapened to me twice now, and neither have worked and were both a mistake.
i do know people who have fell in love and some are even married now or on their way to be so it works for some but i think what needs to be remembered is what most people come to this site for, and if your friend is the kind that falls for people, as you say she has fallen for quite a few, they maybe swinging isnt for her never mind this site.
just my opinion
Earthy xxx
i do know people who have fell in love and some are even married now or on their way to be so it works for some but i think what needs to be remembered is what most people come to this site for, and if your friend is the kind that falls for people, as you say she has fallen for quite a few, they maybe swinging isnt for her never mind this site.
just my opinion
Earthy xxx
you should be joining this site to look for people who want to fuck and be friends.
Anyone who wants more than that is trouble from my experience and best sorted with a swift blow to the back of the head with a shovel and buried in your mothers garden one early morning
no but seriously, just talk to people and meet.
Make friends if you can but dont cross that line.
Anyone who wants more than that is trouble from my experience and best sorted with a swift blow to the back of the head with a shovel and buried in your mothers garden one early morning
no but seriously, just talk to people and meet.
Make friends if you can but dont cross that line.
Here's abroad generalisation - how does it sound to you?
Woman believe that if you have sex then there is some kind of emotional bond formed.
Men believe that if an emotional bond is formed then you will have sex.
So in a vanilla world men believe woman will have sex with anyone they have a bond with but woman think that there must be an emotional bond with anyone you have sex with.
Woman believe that if you have sex then there is some kind of emotional bond formed.
Men believe that if an emotional bond is formed then you will have sex.
So in a vanilla world men believe woman will have sex with anyone they have a bond with but woman think that there must be an emotional bond with anyone you have sex with.
I have met a few 
men off here. There have been quite a lot of them (perhaps 70%) who wanted more from me than just sex and I have even been called cold and unfeeling because I re-iterated that this is a swinging site.(before and after the sex)
I certainly don't need to have any emotional attachment to have sex. I do need to find the person attractive physically and mentally. That attraction is a few billion miles away from a 'relationship' though.
men off here. There have been quite a lot of them (perhaps 70%) who wanted more from me than just sex and I have even been called cold and unfeeling because I re-iterated that this is a swinging site.(before and after the sex) I certainly don't need to have any emotional attachment to have sex. I do need to find the person attractive physically and mentally. That attraction is a few billion miles away from a 'relationship' though.
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I joined this site to swing but I have found more friends here than I ever thot I would.
And none of them I have even swung with, I class people who I have never met as a friend and who even stay at the other end of the UK only because we click on here.
I have met people on purely a social side and made friends with them too.
So what I'm trying to say is I have more friends on here than I do swinging partners (checks his breath and under his armpits)
People get from this site what they don't expect sometimes, and that is friendship.
I have saw people post on here about things they wouldn't say anywhere else, family troubles etc mainly because it has in my opinion went beyond a swinging site and has now become a community.
And none of them I have even swung with, I class people who I have never met as a friend and who even stay at the other end of the UK only because we click on here.
I have met people on purely a social side and made friends with them too.
So what I'm trying to say is I have more friends on here than I do swinging partners (checks his breath and under his armpits)
People get from this site what they don't expect sometimes, and that is friendship.
I have saw people post on here about things they wouldn't say anywhere else, family troubles etc mainly because it has in my opinion went beyond a swinging site and has now become a community.
Sex God
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I think that it would be unwise to think that is what this site is for.
The fact is that many have found love here just goes to show it can appear in the strangest places.
I personally avoid anyone that is looking for more than a fuck.
Wise words splendid!
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its not what i joined for either but it has hapened to me twice now, and neither have worked and were both a mistake.
i do know people who have fell in love and some are even married now or on their way to be so it works for some but i think what needs to be remembered is what most people come to this site for, and if your friend is the kind that falls for people, as you say she has fallen for quite a few, they maybe swinging isnt for her never mind this site.
just my opinion
Earthy xxx
Couldn't agree more!
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Sex God
I came on this sight looking for sex, simple as that. I found sex and friends and, eventually, a lovely guy who is now my partner. I wasn't looking for lurve, but it happened. I have looked for relationships elsewhere and it always failed for one reason or another. To be honest, I think the one reason it always failed was because I was looking for 'a relationship' not a friend or partner.
So what am I driving at? Hang on - need to think.
I think I found a partner on here because I WASN'T looking for one. I was relaxed and open and only looking for fun and finding friends in the process.
So what am I driving at? Hang on - need to think.
I think I found a partner on here because I WASN'T looking for one. I was relaxed and open and only looking for fun and finding friends in the process.
Sex God
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I joined this site to swing but I have found more friends here than I ever thot I would.
And none of them I have even swung with, I class people who I have never met as a friend and who even stay at the other end of the UK only because we click on here.
I have met people on purely a social side and made friends with them too.
So what I'm trying to say is I have more friends on here than I do swinging partners (checks his breath and under his armpits)
People get from this site what they don't expect sometimes, and that is friendship.
I have saw people post on here about things they wouldn't say anywhere else, family troubles etc mainly because it has in my opinion went beyond a swinging site and has now become a community.
Not far off the mark for how i feel.
Sex God
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I came on this sight looking for sex, simple as that. I found sex
:shock: Ok where was it hidden, come on own up
lol Well, one night at Chams I looked down and there it was. :shock:
So of course I kept going back. :bounce:
I've pretty much given up on looking for anything. I can't look for a relationship on here without getting a lot of flack for it, rightly or wrongly, I can't look for a relationship on a dating site because I'm not looking for monogamy and I want a swinging partner. So, where should I look? It doesn't seem to matter what I put in an ad, I get the same response. I realise this sounds like a moan, that's cos it is. If anyone has some sensible advice - other than 'go to a dating site' - I'd welcome it.
H.x
H.x
Sex God
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I've pretty much given up on looking for anything. I can't look for a relationship on here without getting a lot of flack for it, rightly or wrongly, I can't look for a relationship on a dating site because I'm not looking for monogamy and I want a swinging partner. So, where should I look? It doesn't seem to matter what I put in an ad, I get the same response. I realise this sounds like a moan, that's cos it is. If anyone has some sensible advice - other than 'go to a dating site' - I'd welcome it.
H.x
Come and park Emma in our orchard, we won't be monogamous, we will swing and we'll be ya mates too.
Love
Fire xx
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I've pretty much given up on looking for anything. I can't look for a relationship on here without getting a lot of flack for it, rightly or wrongly, I can't look for a relationship on a dating site because I'm not looking for monogamy and I want a swinging partner. So, where should I look? It doesn't seem to matter what I put in an ad, I get the same response. I realise this sounds like a moan, that's cos it is. If anyone has some sensible advice - other than 'go to a dating site' - I'd welcome it.
H.x
Come and park Emma in our orchard, we won't be monogamous, we will swing and we'll be ya mates too.
Love
Fire xx
for goodness sake, there is no bloody stopping you two is there.
tartsthe pair of you.
( mean stormy and fire not you H-x
) Quote by firelizard
Come and park Emma in our orchard, we won't be monogamous, we will swing and we'll be ya mates too.
Love
Fire xx
You already are.
I'm just tired of finding that when the swinging musical chairs is over I'm on my own again but being told that I shouldn't be here looking for anything other than 'no strings fun'.
H.x
Sex God
Listen H. You use the site for whatever suits you. If it does'nt sit well with someone else then that's their problem not your's. No-one has the right to tell you whilst you are swinging that it's not ok to keep your eye out for for long term material. Lets face it there are loads of people on here doing just that, they perhaps may not be admitting though 
...Oh and another thing :!: Presumably when looking for a longer term relationship you may be looking for an open minded individual who would fit with your ideas that you would swing as a couple...well where better to find one of those than a swinging site???
Do what suits you and everyone else can do what suits them
...Oh and another thing :!: Presumably when looking for a longer term relationship you may be looking for an open minded individual who would fit with your ideas that you would swing as a couple...well where better to find one of those than a swinging site???Do what suits you and everyone else can do what suits them
Sex God
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I've pretty much given up on looking for anything. I can't look for a relationship on here without getting a lot of flack for it, rightly or wrongly, I can't look for a relationship on a dating site because I'm not looking for monogamy and I want a swinging partner. So, where should I look? It doesn't seem to matter what I put in an ad, I get the same response. I realise this sounds like a moan, that's cos it is. If anyone has some sensible advice - other than 'go to a dating site' - I'd welcome it.
H.x
Come and park Emma in our orchard, we won't be monogamous, we will swing and we'll be ya mates too.
Love
Fire xx
for goodness sake, there is no bloody stopping you two is there.
tartsthe pair of you.
( mean stormy and fire not you H-x
)Taught me well you did
Sex God
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I've pretty much given up on looking for anything. I can't look for a relationship on here without getting a lot of flack for it, rightly or wrongly, I can't look for a relationship on a dating site because I'm not looking for monogamy and I want a swinging partner. So, where should I look? It doesn't seem to matter what I put in an ad, I get the same response. I realise this sounds like a moan, that's cos it is. If anyone has some sensible advice - other than 'go to a dating site' - I'd welcome it.
H.x
Quote by H-x
I'm just tired of finding that when the swinging musical chairs is over I'm on my own again but being told that I shouldn't be here looking for anything other than 'no strings fun'.
H.x
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My sentiments exactly. I am slowly getting to the stage where I feel its time to get close to someone again, I belong to a couple of vanilla dating sites and, surprisingly as it seems, have had some success in getting meets :shock:
The problem is, I’m a swinger, it’s in my blood, its in my make up. I simply cannot see myself in a monogamous relationship anymore. So where do the likes of Hx and I go to find that special someone who understands all the complicated rules and emotions that go with the lifestyle?
I recently met a really lovely lady off a dating site, as soon as I realised that it might be getting serious I told her about the ‘real’ me, she was shocked but also a little curios but still had that same old cliché stock reply. “how can you want to share someone if you truly love them?” I tried my best to explain but to no avail.
We are still very good friends and even go out for the odd coffee and chat occasionally but that’s as far as it goes and I believe that it would be the same with every other vanilla person I meet, the age old prejudices will be there and being so deep seated, probably immovable.
So here’s a dilemma if ever I saw one, Primarily I’m here to swing, have fun and make friends. However I cannot say it better than Hx put it when she said :
“ I'm just tired of finding that when the swinging musical chairs is over I'm on my own again “
H I agree with previous posters, everyone is on here for their own reasons, you do your thing and let them do theirs and let the moaners whinge their lives away.
Good luck babes, you’re a gorgeous woman with so much more to give I just know you’ll hook up very soon :inlove:
Sex God
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Pete SW said......some waffle......and...
The problem is, its in my make up.
:shock:
You wear make up?
There's always one
Sex God
Actually there are two, but I missed the chance
Sex God
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Actually there are two, but I missed the chance
It had to be you
