Finally.....

18 Sep 2007

Now as most of you know....I've always had a problem with describing myself as bi sexual......in that I'm not bi sexual because I wouldn't have a relationship with another woman.
I've just always found it hard to put myself into a category.....but I've just been out for a drink with a few friends and think I've worked it out.
I'm not bi sexual, but I am sexually bi!
I've tried to find my old thread about this but the search button doesn't like me tonight.

19 Sep 2007

I can see that. I think that Mrs Lost would say the same thing. Think you might have something here with good reason.

19 Sep 2007

*scrabbles around for a label*
situationally bi? emotionally straight? perhaps? confused

i.e. in the right circumstances, with the right people, at the right time, you might be bent as a ten bob note, but generally speaking, it's pretty much heterosexual as far as long term partners go? confused

*throws hand up in air?*
i tend to call meself bi, cos it seems more honest, cos i can't get away with straight. obviously i'm not really all that straight, cos i have these little tendencies, occasionally, but truth of the matter is, i'm not straight, i'm not bi, i'm not gay, i'm not CD, or whatever else, even though i occasionally do all the lot of 'em. truth is, i dunno what to call meself anymore? dunno

none of the labels seem to fit all that well, or particularly accurately? confused

there isn't an established label for "enjoys sex regardless of gender, but don't you try and pin me down daddio!" confused

n x x x ;)

19 Sep 2007

Quote by neilinleeds
you might be bent as a ten bob note,
n x x x ;)

Oh Neil

, you're probably too young to remember, but ten-bob notes were perfectly legit ... the expression was "bent as a nine-bob note". :thumbup:

19 Sep 2007

I can see this too. I wouldn't ever have a relationship with a woman I love men too much but I love to enjoy the intimacy with a woman when we have meets.
I used to think I was just plain strange confused

19 Sep 2007

Quote by jaymar
I used to think I was just plain strange

You are, or you wouldn't enjoy our company! But we love ya still wink

I think the label 'situationally bi' is the nearest I'd use to describe my sexuality, IF I had to give myself a label. I don't know if I could have a relationship with another woman, outside of swinging.
rotflmao

@ Neil - ten-bob note!

19 Sep 2007

I've said it before, but to me the prefixes are nothing but a pain on the arse.
I am sexual.:thumbup:

19 Sep 2007

I'm straight :smug:
PK, fancy a snog :giggle:

19 Sep 2007

im a raving lezzer....trapped in a mans body

19 Sep 2007

Quote by DeeCee
im a raving lezzer....trapped in a mans body

>>>>>>>>Runs off to find a huge strap-on to use on DeeCee>>>>>>

19 Sep 2007

Quote by winchwench
im a raving lezzer....trapped in a mans body

>>>>>>>>Runs off to find a huge strap-on to use on DeeCee>>>>>>
:shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:
TAXI.......... bolt

19 Sep 2007

Quote by winchwench
im a raving lezzer....trapped in a mans body

>>>>>>>>Runs off to find a huge strap-on to use on DeeCee>>>>>>
me next
splendid

19 Sep 2007

Quote by splendid_
im a raving lezzer....trapped in a mans body

>>>>>>>>Runs off to find a huge strap-on to use on DeeCee>>>>>>
me next
splendid
yer....go and penetrate the luuurverlry Splendid with that thing....
ill get the taxi driver to turn round and bring me over to watch!!!!
on my way!!!!!

19 Sep 2007

kate,
mine is a similar situation. Sexually I am bi. Infact I love having sex with men (now) they are fascinating and are like a new toy to me.
Romantically,sexually, emotionally and mentally I can only have a relationship with a woman... I toyed with whether I could actually extend my new found 'bi-ness' to a relationship with men. I just don't think that I can for all sorts of reasons. (this is a generalisation and I apologise in advance for any offence) but men have a different attitude to 'you' when they have had sex with you and it leaves me cold. Men do seem to be unable to switch between how I am in bed (in my case) filthy and anything goes. To how I am out of bed. I am very open but dislike crudities (I am not talking things off the starter menu as I love them- Crudités)
The majority of my very very bestest friends are men though.
I am struggling to put it into words.
In bed I am bi. Out of bed I am a lesbian through and through.
that said all of the people in my life know about my lifestyle so I am hiding nothing.
I have waffled enough.
splendid

19 Sep 2007

Quote by Freckledbird

I used to think I was just plain strange

You are, or you wouldn't enjoy our company! But we love ya still wink

I think the label 'situationally bi' is the nearest I'd use to describe my sexuality, IF I had to give myself a label. I don't know if I could have a relationship with another woman, outside of swinging.
rotflmao

@ Neil - ten-bob note!
:thumbup: :giggle:

19 Sep 2007

Quote by poshkate
Now as most of you know....I've always had a problem with describing myself as bi sexual......in that I'm not bi sexual because I wouldn't have a relationship with another woman.
I've just always found it hard to put myself into a category.....but I've just been out for a drink with a few friends and think I've worked it out.
I'm not bi sexual, but I am sexually bi!

I think you've hit the nail ... and sum it up nicely, and precisely.
When the opportunity is there, it's fun to share ... all round!

19 Sep 2007

Good thread Kate. Hmm this discusssion of what constitues being bi...
Before we started swinging, many of my fantasies were about women, the thought of being with another woman turned me on wildly and even now to get me over that cum threshold I often think of the last girl girl contact I had. Now the reality of swinging a year in, I would probably say I am situationally bi (tm Neilinleeds) (and even then when it suits me) as I find it hard to fancy women yet men silly

hwoar: are just so damn easy to fancy wink

Another Dawnie phrase of being 'boobie-bi'is quite relevant for me too, I'm still reticent to dive in head first (so to speak):lol2:
As for the serious stuff of relationships, no never could I have one with a woman, only men for me (well one man actually :inlove: )
As a society we do love to label and categorise, which I have to say is rather pratcial when choosing from a menu:
Fish
Meat
Vegetables
Straight
Bi-curious
Bi
:lol2:
pink x

19 Sep 2007

Quote by Dawnie
PK, fancy a snog :giggle:

YES.......and I'll hold you to that one Mrs :lol2:

19 Sep 2007

Quote by poshkate

PK, fancy a snog :giggle:

YES.......and I'll hold you to that one Mrs :lol2:
No, I'll hold her- you concentrate on the snogging :rascal:

19 Sep 2007

Don't fight over me ladies :giggle:
PK, be gentle with me rotflmao

19 Sep 2007

When is the next time I see all you people again??
lol

Be afraid, very afraid!

19 Sep 2007

Hi folks, this subject has been on my mind for a while now. dunno

Whilst I don't class myself as bi I do like a little bi oral play in the heat of the moment. I've just asked Couplemanchestr the same question then read this post. Thanks Poshkate, you've just "hit the nail on the head". wink

19 Sep 2007

no label = open to suggestion
redface

lp

19 Sep 2007

Good point! smile

19 Sep 2007

Quote by Sarah
When is the next time I see all you people again??

Be afraid, very afraid!

That will be ages yet innocent

19 Sep 2007

Quote by Dawnie
When is the next time I see all you people again??

Be afraid, very afraid!

That will be ages yet innocent

Can you define ages for me?? :giggle:

19 Sep 2007

Quote by Dawnie
I'm straight :smug:
PK, fancy a snog :giggle:

Ya mean to say I've been propositioned by a straight woman blink

now I have even more cause to be smug :smug:
Luv ya Dawnie kiss

Oh and I'm sexually bi too :thumbup:

19 Sep 2007

Quote by neilinleeds
*scrabbles around for a label*
situationally bi? emotionally straight? perhaps? i.e. in the right circumstances, with the right people, at the right time, you might be bent as a ten bob note, but generally speaking, it's pretty much heterosexual as far as long term partners go?

Yes it's pretty much that I am only heterosexual when it comes to long term partners go. But it's not that I only find women attractive when in bed, in fact thinking about it I probably see more women walking down the street that I find attractive, than I do men dunno

See now I start thinking about it again, I start confusing myself again confused

But there again maybe it's just because women are generally the more attractive sex confused

Quote by neilinleeds
i tend to call meself bi, cos it seems more honest, cos i can't get away with straight. obviously i'm not really all that straight, cos i have these little tendencies, occasionally, but truth of the matter is, i'm not straight, i'm not bi, i'm not gay, i'm not CD, or whatever else, even though i occasionally do all the lot of 'em. truth is, i dunno what to call meself anymore? none of the labels seem to fit all that well, or particularly accurately?
there isn't an established label for "enjoys sex regardless of gender, but don't you try and pin me down daddio!"
n x x x ;)

I think the key to all this is that it's very hard to put oneself into one label, and after being convinced last night that I'd sorted it in my own head.....now I'm not so sure.....maybe I should just accept that I'll never fit into one particular label and stop worrying about it :lol2:

19 Sep 2007

Quote by splendid_
kate,
mine is a similar situation. Sexually I am bi. Infact I love having sex with men (now) they are fascinating and are like a new toy to me.

dunno why but that's just tickled me chick :giggle:

Quote by splendid_
Romantically,sexually, emotionally and mentally I can only have a relationship with a woman... I toyed with whether I could actually extend my new found 'bi-ness' to a relationship with men. I just don't think that I can for all sorts of reasons. (this is a generalisation and I apologise in advance for any offence) but men have a different attitude to 'you' when they have had sex with you and it leaves me cold. Men do seem to be unable to switch between how I am in bed (in my case) filthy and anything goes. To how I am out of bed. I am very open but dislike crudities (I am not talking things off the starter menu as I love them- Crudités)
The majority of my very very bestest friends are men though.
I am struggling to put it into words.
In bed I am bi. Out of bed I am a lesbian through and through.
that said all of the people in my life know about my lifestyle so I am hiding nothing.
I have waffled enough.
splendid

Yeah I think we're pretty similar only the other way round, if that makes sense.....although generally I tend to get on better with men as friends as well, so may be that's got nothing to do with the sexuality thing dunno

19 Sep 2007

Hi Kate, I know exactly where you are coming from hun. I love women and the way they look, feel and sound. I love all the little lady bits and bobs and the way they sound when they orgasm etc etc etc. However if I did not have Stormy and was ever ready again for a full relationship I know that it would be a man that I would see in this role. The nearest I can get to an explanation is that a man would satisfy my emotional needs more than a woman could. I like to feel protected and looked after and something in my psyche tells me that a man can do this for me more than a woman.
Also although I love sex with women I would still need sex with a man so I think the balance would be tipped towards a man for the full relationship.
Did that make sense? I'm tired and need to sleep redface