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I could be all philosophical and deep about this but I don't think anyone can hack it at this time of the morning. I personally can understand what Wonder errm errm said. Intimate is the word I would use and I definitely expect it in a swinging situation. If I can't bring myself round to passionately kiss the person or vice versa, than the person is not someone I am prepared to have sex with.
As for your name, Wonder.......
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Interesting question - the 'intimacy' thing. If it is a bit of an orgy where people are swapping around all over the place then intimacy would be out of place - kind of two people excluding the others there. If it is a straight swap between two couples then I guess there is a place for it depending on the realtionship between the couples. But usually you'd expect it to be the preserve of a one on one, which occurs less frequently in the context of swinging.
Does your name mean that you are a Knobhead, who wonders a lot or that the head of your knob is a source of wonder? Just wondering.
Does your name mean that you are a Knobhead, who wonders a lot or that the head of your knob is a source of wonder? Just wondering.
For us there has to be intimacy otherwise we aren't interested. The idea of orgies and parties where it is all random people and random body parts being played with doesn't really appeal as we are more interested in making a certain level of emotional connection to the other people as well as the physical. I mean, we actually want to like who we are having sex with and if we - and they - dont' feel comfortable kissing and being intimate then it would bemuch less of an experience. So saying, we fully intend trying a party or a club so this view may change!
Romance is an entirely different thing though... But does that mean you can't make love to someone you are not romantically involved with or is intimacy and friendship all that is necessary?
If you are looking for intimacy then, Monsieur le bouton de la tête miracle, you sound like the kind of guy we would be looking for - if we were looking for a guy like you, that is!
Romance is an entirely different thing though... But does that mean you can't make love to someone you are not romantically involved with or is intimacy and friendship all that is necessary?
If you are looking for intimacy then, Monsieur le bouton de la tête miracle, you sound like the kind of guy we would be looking for - if we were looking for a guy like you, that is!
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I personally can understand what Wonder errm errm said. Intimate is the word I would use and I definitely expect it in a swinging situation. If I can't bring myself round to passionately kiss the person or vice versa, than the person is not someone I am prepared to have sex with.
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For us there has to be intimacy otherwise we aren't interested. The idea of orgies and parties where it is all random people and random body parts being played with doesn't really appeal as we are more interested in making a certain level of emotional connection to the other people as well as the physical. I mean, we actually want to like who we are having sex with and if we - and they - dont' feel comfortable kissing and being intimate then it would bemuch less of an experience.
Well said, couldn't agree more :thumbup:
Fee
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For us there has to be intimacy otherwise we aren't interested. The idea of orgies and parties where it is all random people and random body parts being played with doesn't really appeal as we are more interested in making a certain level of emotional connection to the other people as well as the physical. I mean, we actually want to like who we are having sex with and if we - and they - dont' feel comfortable kissing and being intimate then it would bemuch less of an experience.
Well said, couldn't agree more :thumbup:
Fee
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That's why you are our kind of gal, Fee! :P
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For us there has to be intimacy otherwise we aren't interested. The idea of orgies and parties where it is all random people and random body parts being played with doesn't really appeal as we are more interested in making a certain level of emotional connection to the other people as well as the physical. I mean, we actually want to like who we are having sex with and if we - and they - dont' feel comfortable kissing and being intimate then it would bemuch less of an experience.
Well said, couldn't agree more :thumbup:
Fee
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That's why you are our kind of gal, Fee! :P
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But is 'love' a big in the swinging world?
Love is different surely to Romance or Initmacy. These words represent an attraction or some interaction, where as love is a commitment.
John
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There must have been some who have fallen in love. Its not unknown or impossible.
There is a lot that are in love already, and many have been for a long time, are you perhaps talking about a person getting between an established couple?
John
Think of cult groups who have sex as part of the group, who are genuinely in love with each other. Polyamory is one expression. Although there may be many who may have individual or collective interpretations of the expression.
It is not unknown for a couple to form a triplet. Not a sex partner but a genuine partner.
It is not unknown for a couple to form a triplet. Not a sex partner but a genuine partner.
Well.. Im glad that at least a few on here... kind of get the point (and agree) with what I probably didnt describe very well....
Recently I was at a club, with my swinging partner and we were approached by another couple who asked if we wanted to 'play'.. we agreed and found a room. There was no passion, interaction, teasing or foreplay (beyond the perfunctory) just essentially a suck and a shag. That, for me at least, was disappointing.. because that encounter could have been so much more..
Whereas, with a another couple, at their house, we must have spent ages just sat together around a table.. touching and watching and talking.. exploring both bodies and minds... and ended up sharing a bed and pretty much spending the next 12 or so hours having a wonderfully and mutually intoxicating experience..
I suppose its horses for courses..
Recently I was at a club, with my swinging partner and we were approached by another couple who asked if we wanted to 'play'.. we agreed and found a room. There was no passion, interaction, teasing or foreplay (beyond the perfunctory) just essentially a suck and a shag. That, for me at least, was disappointing.. because that encounter could have been so much more..
Whereas, with a another couple, at their house, we must have spent ages just sat together around a table.. touching and watching and talking.. exploring both bodies and minds... and ended up sharing a bed and pretty much spending the next 12 or so hours having a wonderfully and mutually intoxicating experience..
I suppose its horses for courses..
