you both seem lovely.
maybe its the age thing? i know alot of couples closer to each other in age will only play with people close to their ages? with you being a few years apart maybe ones to young or the others to old for some people?
make sure you have not ticked a preference for those who can message you that conflicts with what you are after. theres a section in he mail thingy that can block mesages from females etc.
umm when you say no cum shots , do you mean pics of or when you are playing? maybe the male is scared incase a drop of cum drops somewhere?
or maybe they as a couple like to cum on body of their partner but think you dont want to see this?
this is all guessing really, i think you look lovely and seem to be mixing well, im sure if you were looking for single guys you would be overrun.
xxx fem xxx
quick edit thingy, do you view ads yourself and make that first move? some people place an ad , but wait to be contacted, and dont actually make first moves themselves.