Is this the time to start the condom debate that results in personal attacks and 'holier than thou' attitudes?
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:D :D :D It doesn't surprise me to be honest, everyone is quick to judge the young kids because they are normally targeted in STI stats but to be honest I think there are (and clearly there are) a lot of more mature people out there who think they're invincible.. the 'it won't happen to me' attitude.
The government ploughs so much into sexual health for young people (Every Child Matters etc) but maybe needs to return and readdress older people? Or maybe as adults we should know better?
Doesn't make for good reading does?
The government ploughs so much into sexual health for young people (Every Child Matters etc) but maybe needs to return and readdress older people? Or maybe as adults we should know better?
Doesn't make for good reading does?
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I think we all need to read this
Is this the time to start the condom debate that results in personal attacks and 'holier than thou' attitudes?
Well here we go again with another so called study. May I quote this from the study?
" In total, 4,445 infections were detected in older people, with genital warts accounting for almost half of these diagnoses".
Now whilst that is a large ammount of people how many " older people " are having sex ffs? :shock: Once again the scaremongers amongst us have risen.
They seem to pop up every now and again and we get the " holier than thou " issues. We are swingers and think we are used to the " holier than thou " brigade enough. :lol: Our motto is...stay safe..stay in control.
obviously kent these are figures based on those that have been tested. There are many, many more that are simply not getting tested because they are invincible(as jaymar said)
If you were to ask Swingers who both use and don't use condoms you will have a very small minority who actually get tested. (that is not an invite to those who are about to declare that they get tested)
If you were to ask Swingers who both use and don't use condoms you will have a very small minority who actually get tested. (that is not an invite to those who are about to declare that they get tested)
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obviously kent these are figures based on those that have been tested. There are many, many more that are simply not getting tested because they are invincible(as jaymar said)
If you were to ask Swingers who both use and don't use condoms you will have a very small minority who actually get tested. (that is not an invite to those who are about to declare that they get tested)
Surely though splendid if people thought they had any problems " down there " they would seek medical advice? :shock:
If they do not and then continue to have sexual liasions then that is well out of order. I would like to think the people that get tested feel there is a problem..that being the case that figure is very very low. For people who think there is something wrong....get tested straight away.
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Surely though splendid if people thought they had any problems " down there " they would seek medical advice? :shock:
Forgive me for snippety snipping there Kent, but can I just correct you on one thing.... Chlamydia... shows no signs for many years, lies undetected.
It's the fastest growing STI to date because of it's 'silent' symptoms therefore no one would show any signs therefore in their own minds have nothing to worry about. Quite often this STI can get detected when a woman is having difficulty in conceiving. Men and women can carry this STI for 10 years without knowing.
Pee in the Pot!
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Surely though splendid if people thought they had any problems " down there " they would seek medical advice? :shock:
Forgive me for snippety snipping there Kent, but can I just correct you on one thing.... Chlamydia... shows no signs for many years, lies undetected.
It's the fastest growing STI to date because of it's 'silent' symptoms therefore no one would show any signs therefore in their own minds have nothing to worry about. Quite often this STI can get detected when a woman is having difficulty in conceiving. Men and women can carry this STI for 10 years without knowing.
Pee in the Pot!
Forgiven Jaymar. :lol:
If honest I dont know too much about that one.
The thing is you can meet someone then have sex with them. Not straight away but maybe after a few meetings. How would you know if they were carrying this? Would people have to get each other checked beforehand? I could never see that happening.
I suppose trust is a big thing but if someone does not know they are carrying this, then they will not get themselves tested, putting the other person at risk too. :lol:
Sounds like a catch 22 situation, hence why it is spreading maybe.
Quote by kentswingers777
Surely though splendid if people thought they had any problems " down there " they would seek medical advice? :shock:
Forgive me for snippety snipping there Kent, but can I just correct you on one thing.... Chlamydia... shows no signs for many years, lies undetected.
It's the fastest growing STI to date because of it's 'silent' symptoms therefore no one would show any signs therefore in their own minds have nothing to worry about. Quite often this STI can get detected when a woman is having difficulty in conceiving. Men and women can carry this STI for 10 years without knowing.
Pee in the Pot!
Forgiven Jaymar. :lol:
If honest I dont know too much about that one.
The thing is you can meet someone then have sex with them. Not straight away but maybe after a few meetings. How would you know if they were carrying this? Would people have to get each other checked beforehand? I could never see that happening.
I suppose trust is a big thing but if someone does not know they are carrying this, then they will not get themselves tested, putting the other person at risk too. :lol:
Sounds like a catch 22 situation, hence why it is spreading maybe.
Simple answer? you wouldn't know... would people have to get checked? yes.
The thing is, like I said earlier, some older generation think they are invincible and that STI's are something that would never happen to them.
I have to say though, as swinger adults we are probably more aware of safe sex and STI's than a lot of vanilla adults.
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Surely though splendid if people thought they had any problems " down there " they would seek medical advice? :shock:
Forgive me for snippety snipping there Kent, but can I just correct you on one thing.... Chlamydia... shows no signs for many years, lies undetected.
It's the fastest growing STI to date because of it's 'silent' symptoms therefore no one would show any signs therefore in their own minds have nothing to worry about. Quite often this STI can get detected when a woman is having difficulty in conceiving. Men and women can carry this STI for 10 years without knowing.
Pee in the Pot!
Forgiven Jaymar. :lol:
If honest I dont know too much about that one.
The thing is you can meet someone then have sex with them. Not straight away but maybe after a few meetings. How would you know if they were carrying this? Would people have to get each other checked beforehand? I could never see that happening.
I suppose trust is a big thing but if someone does not know they are carrying this, then they will not get themselves tested, putting the other person at risk too. :lol:
Sounds like a catch 22 situation, hence why it is spreading maybe.
Simple answer? you wouldn't know... would people have to get checked? yes.
The thing is, like I said earlier, some older generation think they are invincible and that STI's are something that would never happen to them.
I have to say though, as swinger adults we are probably more aware of safe sex and STI's than a lot of vanilla adults.
Prefere strawberry myself. :lol:
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It's so easy to get tested, quick and can be anonymous if you want, we do it twice a year, just to be sure, peace of mind etc, never had symptoms, but you can't always see em (Chlamydia!)
Also - bonus - you can grab the years supply of free condoms while you're there
ill go grab my pack of three soon then... :confused2:
what you did say a years supply lol
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Casanova
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So very funny but do you think it has doubled cause there are more people getting divorce or cause swinging is more common :shock: :shock:
So very funny but do you think it has doubled cause there are more people getting divorce or cause swinging is more common :shock: :shock:
Thanks for the thread splendid, people do need to know what's going on out there...
Not going into detail, but have had experience... and the clinic I went to was really good - and it is anonymous. They don't judge you, and are only interested in your safety and welfare.
I would honestly recommend a trip if you're worried at all, and like others have said, you don't always know what's going on in your body... and did you know if you have had warts it can be dangerous? I won't go into detail.. google or wikipedia it... If you spot anything amiss.. see your doctor or go to the clinic please!
I thank you x
Not going into detail, but have had experience... and the clinic I went to was really good - and it is anonymous. They don't judge you, and are only interested in your safety and welfare.
I would honestly recommend a trip if you're worried at all, and like others have said, you don't always know what's going on in your body... and did you know if you have had warts it can be dangerous? I won't go into detail.. google or wikipedia it... If you spot anything amiss.. see your doctor or go to the clinic please!
I thank you x
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do you think it has doubled cause there are more people getting divorce or cause swinging is more common :shock: :shock:
I think it has doubled because twice as many people are bonking as used to bonk in the good old days :giggle:
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do you think it has doubled cause there are more people getting divorce or cause swinging is more common :shock: :shock:
I think it has doubled because twice as many people are bonking as used to bonk in the good old days :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx :giggle: :giggle: :giggle: :giggle: :giggle:
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Whatever happened to the femadom??
Wasn't that supposed to help things too or did females not like wearing them or did they not work?
Wasn't that supposed to help things too or did females not like wearing them or did they not work?
Sex God
Why target under 25s? It could be said that under 25s become over 45s. However as we all know an old lesson is soon forgotten.
What is the lesson? Sex has risks. We are rubbing each others fluids over our bodies, yes we are. Kiss, body fluid. Finger, body fluid. Ejaculate, body fluid. Male condom, body fluid on balls.
That fact is sex is enjoyable, it is the only act we would tolerate such wet contact. So if we play we should want to feel safe...ish, and we have a duty to reduce the risk to others. That does not mean stopping, just stopping when we are infectious. How do we know? We get tested. That is no use to other, unless we act on the test results. Which means there needs to be support for those who find they have a positive result.
My guess is the normal result of receiving a call to say 'Do you remember me, I have an STD.' is horror and anger. By making an STD less of an issue we could be making it easier for some to discover they have one.
Does thank make sense?
Travis
What is the lesson? Sex has risks. We are rubbing each others fluids over our bodies, yes we are. Kiss, body fluid. Finger, body fluid. Ejaculate, body fluid. Male condom, body fluid on balls.
That fact is sex is enjoyable, it is the only act we would tolerate such wet contact. So if we play we should want to feel safe...ish, and we have a duty to reduce the risk to others. That does not mean stopping, just stopping when we are infectious. How do we know? We get tested. That is no use to other, unless we act on the test results. Which means there needs to be support for those who find they have a positive result.
My guess is the normal result of receiving a call to say 'Do you remember me, I have an STD.' is horror and anger. By making an STD less of an issue we could be making it easier for some to discover they have one.
Does thank make sense?
Travis
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just a point why do they never report the story that 99,960 out of a 100000 do not have an std
Because the researchers would all be out of work Kryps.
There is a question I would like to ask though....In porn films and I have seen it at swingers clubs too, the girl gives a guy a long blow job, then he puts a condom on. :shock: Surely a guy can leak a bit when aroused so surely the other person is taking in her mouth semen? :shock: Also if a guy goes down on a fem she can also leak fluids?
Now I dont know how much it takes to pass something on but...I would have thought only a very small ammount is needed. That being the case if you really want to be safe then use a condom with a blow job too? Just a question.
Sex God
I think porn actors/actresses are regularly tested and use a condom simply to show that condoms for penetration are a must
I may be wrong and frequently am so I may have just used expensive electricity on writing total bollox :lol2:
I may be wrong and frequently am so I may have just used expensive electricity on writing total bollox :lol2:
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just a point why do they never report the story that 99,960 out of a 100000 do not have an std
Because the researchers would all be out of work Kryps.
There is a question I would like to ask though....In porn films and I have seen it at swingers clubs too, the girl gives a guy a long blow job, then he puts a condom on. :shock: Surely a guy can leak a bit when aroused so surely the other person is taking in her mouth semen? :shock: Also if a guy goes down on a fem she can also leak fluids?
Now I dont know how much it takes to pass something on but...I would have thought only a very small ammount is needed. That being the case if you really want to be safe then use a condom with a blow job too? Just a question.
thats true swingers do stand a high risk,met a couple few weeks ago in the club who dont involve in oral sex or kissing,they are hardcore swingers in the swing clubs every saturday
Orgasminator
Its interesting that the greatest incidence of transmitted infections is of genital warts – the one which could have been prevented by the Gardasil vaccine, but not by the Cervarix vaccine which the NHS chose to give to teen girls. Although their remit was probably just to reduce cervical cancers, it’s a shame they were unable to look at the “bigger” picture.
