lol, me and you sound very alike heln!!!
I hate conflict, and will try to keep out of it in real life. I'm a smoother-overer, and it seems that my main goal in real life is to stop other people's arguments - that was one of my unofficial roles in work.
But I must say, it does feel easier on here to actively step up and defend someone who I feel is being unfairly treated. Probably because I know the protagonist is not going to come round to my house and give me grief!
I like to start or post on interesting (to me at least) and at times controversial topics. So if that makes me a troll then growl. The disclaimer to that being is the fact that I hate cyber bullies. I cant be arsed with the arguements that happen. I have let myself become part of very few and of those I have i haven't enjoyed.
I enjoy debate and the reading of peoples ides and opinions. I certainly dont enjoy the repeated questioning and nipping at a poster twisting the meaning and tenor of a post and it's intentions. Whilst more than likely Knowing what it is in the first place. Hiding behind the idea its ok posting whilst not "quite" going against AUP is crap. There is intent by some to ridicule and deride and that is a shame. It ruins other peoples enjoyment i'm sure. Whilst i suppose giving the perpetrator a perverse kick I guess.
This is a good topic for discussion though it cannot really be fully debated as that would mean name and shame with quote upon multiple quote with enphasis and stuff ad infinitum. And that would be truly awful.
I dont post serious stuff anymore. In the end it aint worth it, Some people just want to exploit others in the wrong manner. I believe there is a most definate 'old school' network on the forums. Christ I really hope I never wear the tie.
I enjoy the lightweight stuff in here though and there are a lot of really quite lovely people who I enjoy so much. I am in chat as i am in forum the same as I am in life, Gobby and opinionated definately. But, I hate bullies, it really is the one thing that gets me seething regardless of it being cyberspace or not, it has a knock on effect into my real world. My head cant quite disassociate from one before moving into the other. I wish it could.
I have made the odd faux pas in forum i know. In fact i've been made to know. Thats ok i just back off a bit re-group and start over. Trouble is i'm addicted to the place.
i hate arguements in real life and online and hate to think im the cause of them although if ca topic comes up that gets my goat i will put my opinion in
ok i read all of this thread thinking the whole time , what has this got to do with booking flights over the internet. yes i need to wear my glasess more often lol
ive been here a few years now, ive met a few of the forum users and those who go into the chat rooms.
i hope im always true to myself in here as i woud be in real life. Maybe due to the fact i dont only use this site as a internet thingy, but meet people who use the site, then i would never say things thinking its safe to do so as i never have to face them.
i have read controversial threads and kept out of them but enjoyed them as it allows me to open my mind and see things from other peoples view point.
i did once raise a subject that was NOT a personal slur but sadely was taken that way and i was villafiled (sp)in pms.
i am now cautious about posting in threads those ppl post in.
i do feel there are some very arrogant members who do just post to get a reaction, much like children who want attention.
one thing i like about this place is i can come here anon on days i want to feel company but not have to talk. if that makes any sense?
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I have been on a lot of different forums for many many years and have come up with a reason for why many of these auguments seem to happen.
It is down to forum content and people needing to feel involved.
When a forum is based on a subject that has a good scope for questions and answers there is no problems. ie . I can not get blue tooth working on my phone, or how do I can SQL working on Linux.
When you have a forum where there are not many really questions to be asked, it is mostly just peoples thought and ideas it becomes more of an issue. Someone will put down a topic, such as how they feel on something and because it is not really a question to be answered it becomes more about peoples feelings. Because people what to feel involved they will try and get involved in a topic.
Sorry I do not think I have explained my thoughts very well..
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