HHHmm can't think your sexual orientation can make you boring - and don't see how you can change it.
For shynewbie>>> here is the spellchecker
I am a bi woman and have been for at least 10 years and yet only 1 of my closest friends knows this why? Because when I told another friend whom I would of considered to be my “Best Friend†(I hate that term!) she freaked out about it, told me I was disgusting, shouldn’t be allowed to work with children (I was a nursery nurse at the time) and if I ever came near her again she would call her husband! Now why did she react like this? In the 6 years I had known her I had never “hit†on her or any of her friends. At the time it shocked me and I became very very guarded over what I did in public in case someone else guessed. For a while I was very afraid of what she would tell people and what rumours would start spreading. She did in fact say nothing to anyone but kept her children away from me and moved with in 6 months (nothing to do with me) Still it was some time before I got my confidence back and thought sod this it’s my life and I will do as I please. My husband has known from day one that I am bisexual and is happy with it. 2 years ago I went out with my 5 closest friends for a girls night out. We got hammered so drunk we couldn’t remember our names! Well in the cab on the way back home it got down to just me and my friend Lisa and she was as drunk as I was and some how we started kissing and having a fumble as you do when your drunk lol Next thing was we got to her house she got out and went in and I went home. The next morning I was full of guilt and remorse for what had happened and I had no idea how to bring the subject up with her. She phoned me and to start off no mention of the incident took place. But after 10 minutes or so she asked me if I remembered what had happened and I said yes and took a deep breath, she then said she need to know was it just the drink or was it something more? So what should I of said? I told her the truth that it was just the drink but yes I am bisexual and waited for the fall out. None came she just said that by the way I kissed her she knew that I must of kissed women before (how??????) and that she was OK with it as long as I promised that I wouldn’t try hitting on her when we are sober lol I told her that I loved her deeply as a friend (which is true) but to get over herself she wasn’t my type lol and that’s how things stand she knows I’m bisexual and is still as good a friend as ever before, I have discussed with her the possibilities of telling the other 4 girls in our very close group and she agrees with me that 3 of them would have no problems with it the other 1 would big time. So my decision has been that if and when I’m ready I will tell the others with Lisa’s help and if the 1 friend whom we think might have a problem with it freaks then so be it, I’m older and wiser and what’s the worse that could happen?
Personally, i think its down to the situation and whoever you are with, that makes it good or bad, not necessarily the kind of sex you are having, kinky straight whatever.
Im a bi fem but prefer men to be honest, but recently went to a spa with hubby and we played with another lovely couple, and guess what, the highlight of the evening was playing with her and her playing with me! Just goes to show that what you think you may prefer, may not always be the case..... :notes:
Both my parents never knew and they have passed away now. But telling my brothers and sisters was ummm interesting to say the least! I am the youngest of 8 kids there’s 20 years difference between me and my oldest sibling! Now I was worried how the older ones would take it but they were fine “so what†“who cares?†is what I got from them but my youngest brother (43) was very put out with it lolol He just wanted to make sure I never brought any “girlfriends†to family occasions lololol I said to him Paul I’m married with kids do you think I’m going to inflict this family on to some other poor soul? Wasn’t it enough that I dragged Simon in to it! Simons brother and sister know about it but his parents don’t.
sexymale21 got off to a bad start with this post yesterday by hijacking my post in "Lets Meet Up", but that was yesterday, and today's another day.
I'd like to say that I think his post has now developed into a very interesting exchange of comment and opinions, albeit we do all chase our tails around at times, so there's always a danger that we'll all become anally retentive!!
However, I do think it's a shame that, having triggered the thread, he hasn't followed through by participating in the debate. Of course there could be any number of good reasons for this, but I sincerely hope that it's not down to him feeling that he met a hostile reception here on SH.
I find it hard to believe this is the reason, but then perhaps it should remind all of us that even if this isn't the case,people's sensibilities can be fragile things. Mine have hardened off over the years so, although I'm still a sensitive person underneath, I've also developed the ability to shrug off things that formerly would've upset me.
At the end of the day life is very much a matter of subjective perspective for each one of us. The message in that, folks, being that (to a large extent) you can make it whatever you want it to be.
So sexymale21, if you're still following the thread from your original post, it'd be nice to have your thoughts on the contributions that have been made in this forum.
Thanks all for reading this.
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.Judy
