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is being straight boring?
Sex God
Ah, I see you've decided to stop hijaking Eagerslut's thread. Good on you!
Anyways, as I said on that thread, if you or anyone else prefers straight sex, that's fine. I'm not slagging off heterosexuals or their lifestyles, I'm just saying that some people prefer sex a little more kinky..... what is wrong with that? You like straight sex, other people don't. Life would be boring if we are all the same. Personally I find straight sex, 121, with no kinks, OK at best but usually quite boring. That is my choice. If you want straight sex, that is up to you - go for it!
Anyways, as I said on that thread, if you or anyone else prefers straight sex, that's fine. I'm not slagging off heterosexuals or their lifestyles, I'm just saying that some people prefer sex a little more kinky..... what is wrong with that? You like straight sex, other people don't. Life would be boring if we are all the same. Personally I find straight sex, 121, with no kinks, OK at best but usually quite boring. That is my choice. If you want straight sex, that is up to you - go for it!
Sex God
Quote by sexymale21
yea just want to see other ppls opinions
Glad you're looking in the right place.
Be lucky!
Sex God
Quote by sexymale21
according to some it is? i dont think so? what do you lot think? im up for having a male involed in someway but just not doing anything sexually with me is that ok because some people seem to think thats boring?
Sexual preference is not, I firmly believe, a matter of choice and I'm certain nobody would oppose their own personal nature just because they were bored. If I found straight sex boring, I wouldn't experiment with gay sex because I'm simply not that way inclined, so the question doesn't apply to to straight people.
Hey - in my "world" straight sex is kinky.
Nah -seriously - it's only boring if you wanna fall asleep half way to an orgasm you kow just isn't coming - and I can assure you - I've been there before in non str8 sex!
We're al differnt - and I think that's great.
Personally - str8 vanilla sex isn't my first choice when making a sexual decision - but that's just me. :color:
But then I'm considered a little "out of the ordinary" in my circle 'cos I openly state that the best sex I've had has been in a 3-some (all women - sorry guys).
We are who we are. Thank god!
Nah -seriously - it's only boring if you wanna fall asleep half way to an orgasm you kow just isn't coming - and I can assure you - I've been there before in non str8 sex!
We're al differnt - and I think that's great.
Personally - str8 vanilla sex isn't my first choice when making a sexual decision - but that's just me. :color:
But then I'm considered a little "out of the ordinary" in my circle 'cos I openly state that the best sex I've had has been in a 3-some (all women - sorry guys).
We are who we are. Thank god!
You are who you are. No need to be ashamed of that. You should do what you want to do & not feel pushed to do things that you don't want or are not ready for. I am mostly straight, & I say that because during the last threesome I had, I joined in when the wife was sucking her husband's cock. I may do it again, or I may not. And I'm happy with that.
I feel barely a flicker for any male I've ever met/seen compared to the raptures I 've felt for just isn't there in my make-up - I can see something of it in David Bowie,in REM's Michael Stipe,that kind of androgynous figure - Michael Hutchence was well cool too bless him - but women..just amaze me all the time.
"Straight" sex is Heaven on Earth for me - but only if it is for HER as well..
Not that there is a her at the mo' :cry:
And..did I spell ANDROGYNOUS right?..probably not..
"Straight" sex is Heaven on Earth for me - but only if it is for HER as well..
Not that there is a her at the mo' :cry:
And..did I spell ANDROGYNOUS right?..probably not..
Sex God
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I feel barely a flicker for any male I've ever met/seen compared to the raptures I 've felt for just isn't there in my make-up - I can see something of it in David Bowie,in REM's Michael Stipe,that kind of androgynous figure - Michael Hutchence was well cool too bless him - but women..just amaze me all the time.
"Straight" sex is Heaven on Earth for me - but only if it is for HER as well..
Not that there is a her at the mo' :cry:
And..did I spell ANDROGYNOUS right?..probably not..
Being a bi male I love and adore women and can get involved emotionally with them. With a guy it's pure carnal sex and I like to explore my fem side. No emotional involvement and I don't fancy men for their appearance either. Just like the things they seem to like doing to me!!
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Orgasminator
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I still dont like designer stubble and beards though, especialy on my women.
Judy
mmmmmmhhhh i think ive had a that feeling some sunday mornings
:D We've 'had' straight guys. Ya know, someone who did not really want to touch or be touched by another guy. However, when I asked one to... hmm... share the same location as Reese, he happily obliged. I love two in one, bucket that I am, and Reese says there's nothing quite like another cock sliding against your own in such close surrounds.
Said guy later went on to be a helping hand to Reese as well as me, himself, everyone at once... He's still straight, mate. Just enjoyed a good time and, hopefully now, will not be so afraid of his own attitudes to anyone or anything that is not 'text book' stuff.
Said guy later went on to be a helping hand to Reese as well as me, himself, everyone at once... He's still straight, mate. Just enjoyed a good time and, hopefully now, will not be so afraid of his own attitudes to anyone or anything that is not 'text book' stuff.
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Being a bi male I love and adore women and can get involved emotionally with them. With a guy it's pure carnal sex and I like to explore my fem side. No emotional involvement and I don't fancy men for their appearance either. Just like the things they seem to like doing to me!!
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ummmmm, can I say that works on the femail side as well, I dont class myself as Bi, because I much prefer men to women, as mates and lovers, However, on the carnal side of things, a woman can do things to me that no man has yet managed.... maybe I dont train them right :twisted:..
Orgasminator
me and baz have always been str8, and the single guy,s we,ve metwere the same, it can never be boring if there,s plenty of variety baz would never turn but has nothing against any one who is bi. i,ve kissed women and don,t mind it :D but since being into this scene and chatting to other couples i,m beginning to get curious 
i think in time and the right person i,ll have an experimental period ( with meaning), who knows maybe i,ll enjoy it, like everything thoigh your first experience has to be good or you could be put off,our first ever 3some was awesome and that,s why we got into this scene,and we still meet him when we can, hope this makes sense 
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baz would never turn but has nothing against any one who is bi. i,ve kissed women and don,t mind it :D but since being into this scene and chatting to other couples i,m beginning to get curious i think in time and the right person i,ll have an experimental period ( with meaning), who knows maybe i,ll enjoy it, like everything thoigh your first experience has to be good or you could be put off,our first ever 3some was awesome and that,s why we got into this scene,and we still meet him when we can, hope this makes sense :D Hey Sexyann,
Yip - you gotta enjoy that first time otherwise you come away thinking "hmm -what was all the fuss about?"
It is interesting though that it does seem that women are a lot more open to at least experimenting with someone of their own sex. Or is it just that women are more open to verbalising that? And woudl more men be open to verbalising it if our society just got with it and actually started feeling comfortable with sexuality - homosexuality, bisexuality, heterosexuality (whatever sexuality) - instead of holding onto some outdated Victorian ethos?
(PS - please will someone invent a spell checker for this thing please! - my typing is terrible!)
Yip - you gotta enjoy that first time otherwise you come away thinking "hmm -what was all the fuss about?"
It is interesting though that it does seem that women are a lot more open to at least experimenting with someone of their own sex. Or is it just that women are more open to verbalising that? And woudl more men be open to verbalising it if our society just got with it and actually started feeling comfortable with sexuality - homosexuality, bisexuality, heterosexuality (whatever sexuality) - instead of holding onto some outdated Victorian ethos?(PS - please will someone invent a spell checker for this thing please! - my typing is terrible!)
Orgasminator
Tahanks for your reply shynewbie, i agree with you totally baz like any other bloke mind watching me with another woman and i,ve even suggested that he could do a swop with another couple but he seems to be happy with the mfm meets at the moment, i don,t think he,d mind if we met a bi guy as long as he did,nt touch baz 
( bless him (
( bless him ( Orgasminator
Tahanks for your reply shynewbie, i agree with you totally baz like any other bloke mind watching me with another woman and i,ve even suggested that he could do a swop with another couple but he seems to be happy with the mfm meets at the moment, i don,t think he,d mind if we met a bi guy as long as he did,nt touch baz ( bless him ) 
i,m letting him move along at his own speed , maybe i,m moving that little bit quicker :happy: 
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( bless him ) i,m letting him move along at his own speed , maybe i,m moving that little bit quicker :happy: :? 
Sex God
I love kinky sex with several people at once etc.. but I also have some great 'straight' sex 1-2-1 with my partner.. thats how we usually do it.. I think if I did the kinky thing on a very regular basis.. I'd get bored (I'm one of these people where novelty wears off really quickly!!)
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I suppose the bit that gets folks in a flap is the idea that 2 is "normal" ,3 is kinky,4 or more is !!!!..If it stems from goodness,desire,playfulness,sharing then what does it matter,its a lovely thing,a gift we all have..
..oh dear ,I'm getting myself all wistful again,sorry!
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Normal? your telling me 2 is normal? after the time spent on here, I was sure I was abnormal!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!woooooohooooo Im normal! :angel: with a bit of !!!! thrown in :giggle:
Orgasminator
I agree with everyone so far, since we,ve been having "kinky sex", our own 1-2-1 sex life has become more interesting because even at our age we,ve learned new things from other people we,ve met and we,ve practised them on our own i learned something new about myself and baz learned how to do it ... :happy:
and we,ve practised them on our own i learned something new about myself and baz learned how to do it ... :happy: Orgasminator
H i sexymale21, this has been a cracking thread evryone seems to be baring their soles without getting heavy :) i feel i,m getting to know people a bit more .Thanks
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evryone seems to be baring their soles without getting heavy :) i feel i,m getting to know people a bit more .Thanks:happy:
Sex God
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While I take Ice Pie's point about not being that way inclined, I'd add that the only way to be sure you are not missing out on something you didn't know you would like is to try it at least once!
Certain enjoyable practices are an acquired taste!
I don't need to wonder whether I would enjoy it because I am not sexually attracted to men, and your implication that that makes me somehow deficient isn't going to change that. I am perfectly happy with my sexuality and just because you might like to try something doesn't mean everyone else should. I do not suggest that homosexuals are "missing out" by not getting it on with members of the opposite sex, and I wouldn't presume to know better than them or anyone else about their own sexuality.
Tolerance and respect for other people's various ways is what I thought this place was all about - I don't think that means placing yourself above those who don't actually participate in those various ways.
Sex God
Quote by sexymale21
according to some it is? i dont think so? what do you lot think? im up for having a male involed in someway but just not doing anything sexually with me is that ok because some people seem to think thats boring?
A bit limiting, perhaps, but not necessarily boring. Everyone has their own personal preferences and limits, and all of these deserve respect without being labeled in a negative way.
As for the limiting aspect, swinging offers an incredibly diverse palette of sexual exploration, and adamantly-straight males are simply closing themselves off to a lot of the possibilities. It certainly gives the guys something to do when the girls are "otherwise engaged" during the course of MFMF foursomes! Also, they're missing out on the profound effect that being a bi-male seems to have on women!
To each their own, though, and if it's not something you're psychologically comfortable with, then it certainly wouldn't make for an enjoyable physical experience, either. The most power sexual organ, by far, is the human brain - if that's not turned-on by the thought of same-sex play, the rest of your body likely wouldn't be either (although men are at a slight disadvantage here due to the "responsiveness" of their physiology).
Speaking from a much shallower, purely physical perspective, what's the big difference? Penetrative coital sex is one thing, but what about oral and manual? As far as those two activities are concerned, if you're on the receiving end of things, both men & women have fundamentally the same hardware...which was no doubt demonstrated quite effectively during the BJ game at Blue's party! Again, it all seems to come down to psychology.
What I find really strange is that a good portion of straight males I've known are intrigued and highly stimulated by the possibility of woman-on-woman sex, and, even in the swinging community, it almost seems as if female bisexuality is expected! However, turn the tables on these same males by suggesting the possibility of a man-on-man encounter, and they'd be revolted (however, you probably wouldn't notice the revulsion, as they'd have already punched your lights out)!
Am I being sexist? I don't know. Are females just more secure in their sexuality, and therefore not repulsed by the consideration of physical intimacy with another woman? And, conversely, are males really that insecure that they have to aggressively defend their "straightness" when the topic of male-male sexuality crops up?! It is nice, though, to find that there's far more tolerance for male bisexuality by single, straight males within the swinging community.
Hmm...what if we told these straight males just how much of a turn-on male bisexuality is for women?! :grin:
~Reese!
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