Is it alright to pay for it ?

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When you reach the age for carpet slippers and cocoa and become all creased and crinkly and can't pull as much as a chain, but still feel the urge and can't keep it down, will it be alright to pay for it?
Or is it alright to pay for it at any time anyway?

Marya_Northeast

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Honestly - I don't see a big problem with it. It's not for me, but I don't condone anyone else for doing it.
You pay for everything else in life don't you?

duncanlondon

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I'm a punter, welcome to the club mate. You may take to it like ducks to water, or you may find you don't. Keep to decent establishments and get to know the regulars. My favourites are mature orientals, generally lovely ladies. They are always clean and welcoming, and most of them like mature British guys.
There will be some who frown on puntering for a variety of reasons. This is because they don't know how things work. There's no point discussing it with them.
As for paying? You may initially think its all a dreadful step into the unknown dark side of life etc. But its not. The people you meet are not animals to be abused etc. Like all of us they just need to survive. So be respectful and you'll get on fine.

Marya_Northeast

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Quote by duncanlondon
As for paying? You may initially think its all a dreadful step into the unknown dark side of life etc. But its not. The people you meet are not animals to be abused etc. Like all of us they just need to survive. So be respectful and you'll get on fine.

That's pretty much how I would view it. It's a job - not something I could ever do - but it's up the individual. It should be legalised over here.

Sarah

Sex God

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If that is what you want, you can afford it, and it is not causing anyone any problems, then why not.

Freckledbird

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Quote by Marya_Northeast

As for paying? You may initially think its all a dreadful step into the unknown dark side of life etc. But its not. The people you meet are not animals to be abused etc. Like all of us they just need to survive. So be respectful and you'll get on fine.

That's pretty much how I would view it. It's a job - not something I could ever do - but it's up the individual. It should be legalised over here.
Pretty much my thoughts as well.

bbw_loverNkitty

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Quote by Marya_Northeast
Honestly - I don't see a big problem with it. It's not for me, but I don't condone anyone else for doing it.
You pay for everything else in life don't you?

I see nothing wrong with it for the same reason. There is a criminal element, as in everything else these days, that makes the headlines, but most of it is quite mundane.
The idea that all the girls are coke heads and are doing it to feed their habit only applies to a small minority. Stick to well known establishments or well known independents and you'll probably be ok. All the bad press seems to come from reports about streetwalkers, but they're probably best avoided. The important thing is to stay safe otherwise why not?
There is a particularly strange attitude to sex in this country, it is both confused and ambiguous, and insists on categorising sex into one aspect of life whereas the reality is that it takes many forms.

Quote by Sarah
If that is what you want, you can afford it, and it is not causing anyone any problems, then why not.

How true.

Dawnie

Sex God

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If you went out to a bar to find yourself a lady you could end up buying her drinks all night, taking her for a meal or paying for a taxi.
To an extent, isn't that just paying for it dunno

Make it legal, give good health cover, suitable conditions and pay for it all you like :thumbup:

bbw_loverNkitty

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Quote by Dawnie
If you went out to a bar to find yourself a lady you could end up buying her drinks all night, taking her for a meal or paying for a taxi.
To an extent, isn't that just paying for it
Make it legal, give good health cover, suitable conditions and pay for it all you like :thumbup:

In certain instances that's true. In bars and clubs there is an unspoken agreement that you buy the woman a drink at least to get anywhere. Often if it goes so far as buying a meal then the expectation is for full sex. This doesn't mean however that you'll ever see her again once you've had sex, but it is usually accepted that it is the right 'procedure'.
This also applies when approaching a woman for a more lasting relationship. If you expect to have sex then you have to spend a lot of money on her first before you can expect to get anything in return.
Paying for it up front merely cuts out all the preamble.
confused

Unknown User

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Why on earth wouldn't it be? dunno

Dawnie

Sex God

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Just as an after thought, I was looking at this from the male point because that is what Philfuller is but would any female here pay for sex from a male?

bbw_loverNkitty

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Quote by Dawnie
Just as an after thought, I was looking at this from the male point because that is what Philfuller is but would any female here pay for sex from a male?

This is something I'd like to know about too!
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lyns

Sex God

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If I ever did I would expect it to be completly fantastic or i`d want a refund! :giggle:
Seriously if I was desperate and was single then why not. A girls got needs!!!

blueandpink

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Quote by duncanlondon
I'm a punter, welcome to the club mate. You may take to it like ducks to water, or you may find you don't. Keep to decent establishments and get to know the regulars. My favourites are mature orientals, generally lovely ladies. They are always clean and welcoming, and most of them like mature British guys.
There will be some who frown on puntering for a variety of reasons. This is because they don't know how things work. There's no point discussing it with them.
As for paying? You may initially think its all a dreadful step into the unknown dark side of life etc. But its not. The people you meet are not animals to be abused etc. Like all of us they just need to survive. So be respectful and you'll get on fine.

Excellent post Duncan :thumbup:
And yes it should be legalised, made safer for all concerned and be respected as people's right to choose.
pink x

Freckledbird

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Quote by Dawnie
Just as an after thought, I was looking at this from the male point because that is what Philfuller is but would any female here pay for sex from a male?

I doubt any female from here would need to - even I could get offers of shags if I put up an ad. lol

Dawnie

Sex God

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Maybe so but if you couldn't get what you wanted when you wanted it, would you pay for it?

Unknown User

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I suppose it's the same as when we go to clubs and pay entry fee, that's paying to swing and play therefore paying for it.
It's your life Phil, and I would say enjoy it while you can anyway you can. cool

Steve

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Quote by Dawnie
Just as an after thought, I was looking at this from the male point because that is what Philfuller is but would any female here pay for sex from a male?

Here's hoping :giggle:

Unknown User

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Quote by Dawnie
If you went out to a bar to find yourself a lady you could end up buying her drinks all night, taking her for a meal or paying for a taxi.

Yes and it could work out far more expensive also!
Its not something i have ever done and more than likely never will but I wouldn't think bad of someone else that does it and yes, i think it should be legalized.
Sex isn't breaking the law, so why is paying for it mad

Anyway, we used to know a "lady of the night" and she was a very nice lass, clean, respectable and just the same as "you" and "me"
Nope, she wasn't on no kind of drugs at all and rarely drunk alcohol, she was just doing it to help pay her house of quick.
Tony wink

Dawnie

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Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
Anyway, we used to know a "lady of the night" and she was a very nice lass, clean, respectable and just the same as "you" and "me"

You say that as if a person that earns a living from having sex with others couldbe different from the average person in the street.
Why would she be any different to you and I?

Unknown User

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Quote by Dawnie

Anyway, we used to know a "lady of the night" and she was a very nice lass, clean, respectable and just the same as "you" and "me"

You say that as if a person that earns a living from having sex with others couldbe different from the average person in the street.
Why would she be any different to you and I?
I don't think she would be any different at all.
I added that part only to point out to some others that just because of what she does, doesn't make her any different to everyone else!
Some people have a low opinion of them selling sex, and assume there ( as pointed out earlier ) using intoxicating substances, and so on.
Its not like that at all, a majority of these ladies and guys are real nice folk, like in everything, the odd ones can give the rest a bad name.
Tony wink

Unknown User

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If I felt a male escort could fulfil a particular need, I would have no problem at all with it morally.

Unknown User

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Are we talking about ladies of the night here?
I don't think i'd pay for sex - But am I not doing that here already just alot cheaper? wink

Maybe some women and men should actually take up a profession. In which they work for a company which goes round 'helping' the eldely kind of like meals on wheels.

Freckledbird

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Quote by Amazing_dan
Are we talking about ladies of the night here?
I don't think i'd pay for sex - But am I not doing that here already just alot cheaper?
Maybe some women and men should actually take up a profession. In which they work for a company which goes round 'helping' the eldely kind of like meals on wheels.

No, you're not paying for sex on here - it's not a given that you will ever have sex with anyone from this site.
Ask loads of unsuccessful males - or wait until one posts in the forum - they'll tell you they've never even met anyone or that we're all fakes/timewasters/not genuine.

Unknown User

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Quote by Freckledbird
Are we talking about ladies of the night here?
I don't think i'd pay for sex - But am I not doing that here already just alot cheaper?
Maybe some women and men should actually take up a profession. In which they work for a company which goes round 'helping' the eldely kind of like meals on wheels.

No, you're not paying for sex on here - it's not a given that you will ever have sex with anyone from this site.
Ask loads of unsuccessful males - or wait until one posts in the forum - they'll tell you they've never even met anyone or that we're all fakes/timewasters/not genuine.
ha sorry I should have made that clear then. redface

Unknown User

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I see no problem in paying for it either.
After all, for most of the ladies doing it, it is just a job. Although there are some women that are forced into it and would definately stay away from them or the establishments that they are in. If I was a bloke that is lol

As a woman, if I wanted sex and couldnt get it elsewhere then I would have no problem paying. Although he'd have to be pretty damn good and nice looking too.
Louise xx

Freckledbird

Sex God

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This might sound contradictory (or of double standards) but I wouldn't pay for a man's company, either with or without sex. Obviously I'm a married woman and we have a healthy sex life, even without swinging, so my view might be different if I were single and/or male.
However, I can't see myself in a position where I'd need a man just for company or sex. I know some women pay for just the escort (say, to accompany them to a 'do') - but I'd be confident enough to do that alone. There are always toys for the other needs, if I couldn't ever find anyone to shag me. :twisted:

Sarah

Sex God

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Quote by Freckledbird
This might sound contradictory (or of double standards) but I wouldn't pay for a man's company, either with or without sex. Obviously I'm a married woman and we have a healthy sex life, even without swinging, so my view might be different if I were single and/or male.
However, I can't see myself in a position where I'd need a man just for company or sex. I know some women pay for just the escort (say, to accompany them to a 'do') - but I'd be confident enough to do that alone. There are always toys for the other needs, if I couldn't ever find anyone to shag me. :twisted:

Agreed :thumbup:

bbw_loverNkitty

Sex God

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Quote by Shaz_n_Tony

Anyway, we used to know a "lady of the night" and she was a very nice lass, clean, respectable and just the same as "you" and "me"

You say that as if a person that earns a living from having sex with others couldbe different from the average person in the street.
Why would she be any different to you and I?
I don't think she would be any different at all.
I added that part only to point out to some others that just because of what she does, doesn't make her any different to everyone else!
Some people have a low opinion of them selling sex, and assume there ( as pointed out earlier ) using intoxicating substances, and so on.
Its not like that at all, a majority of these ladies and guys are real nice folk, like in everything, the odd ones can give the rest a bad name.
Tony wink

:thumbup:
The idea that people only do it because they're desperate or need the money for drugs, for the vast majority is simply not true. Of course there are those who are doing that, but I've known people in full time respectable jobs who are potential druggies and alcoholics.
Contrary to popular perception many people do it as a considered career choice, and until the population as a whole stops being so hypocritical about sex they will no longer feel the need to justify their choice to do what they do.
As an example a friend of mine who was in full time employment decided that she'd had enough of the 9-5 and the politics, and wanted to be her own boss. So she's now an 'escort' and seems to be enjoying every moment of it.
This was her choice. She doesn't take drugs, hasn't got a pimp, and has a glass of wine with her meals, and still the nice warm person she's always been.

Unknown User

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Wow! Thanks for all those supportive replies. It sounds as though it would be/will be/is ok to proceed ...
eerrrr confused

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