It just seems common sense to me that each human pays their share.
That could be varied to take account of who travelled (if only one side of the 'party' travels), if one or other side is an MP and the other is on the dole. That kind of thing.
Of course if one side wants to pay all/more, then that's fine - their prerogative and generous too.
But to start on any other premise than each pays equally is wrong in my mind. It sends huge signals about one side feeling they are 'worth' more than the other side.
This is a simple enough arrangement to make as long as everyone discusses and agrees it before meeting. That also needs to include over and under attendance. Then if the price is not right for anyone, they decide if they will come or not.
I tend to think all the other arguments stem from not doing the above, that people are faced with a decision too late in the process.
You can always check with the hotel the exact price of the room, and any other costs you will have to meet anyway, such as travel, new wardrobe, haircut, wart removal etc.
That way you know you have agreed on a fair split, and don't come away thinking you might have settled for a better price. Any kind of activity costs something, and people often forget this.
my experience in "hotel room sex" is fairly limited as most girls I've met, were either at my place or hers.
yes, we meet in a public place and before meeting we always have chatted for quite a while and know each other fairly well in terms of why we are meeting and what we are like.."do I trust him/her enough to meet up?" is a big deal in terms of confidence in the other person
and meeting in public is a way to "confirm" that neither of us has been lying.
after that, the usual thing is to go to either of our places. as I have found very little in the way of local girls, I always travel, sometimes a couple of hours if not more, to get to the girl..hence the place is more often than not hers.
I only twice set up a night in a hotel.
the first time, the girl offered to pay half, and I decided against it, doing the "gentleman thing"... we had however agreed on the budget and level of the hotel..and even chose it together. this was quite far away from my place..but I coupled my visit with meeting a customer for work, so it made some economical sense.
the next time I met her was at her place, she fed me and we spent the night chatting and doing very little else, as it was that time of the month.
the second time I actually took a flight to ireland, and took a hotel room for the weekend..she never offered to pay her share... then again, she never even showed up...my first, and so far only, no-show. one expensive joke.
I've only met one couple so far, and they received me at their house.
I would never ask a couple to pay more than half the fare of a hotel room, as a couple might be made of 2 people, but I see it as a single entity..
on the other hand, the absurd notion that I should pay because I should feel indebted with them for letting me join their games/shag the lady... would put me off immediately. it smacks indeed of pimping the woman out...
whether I would not mind paying for the room in its entirety, it should never be expectedfrom me, as I should think if they decide to meet me it's because there is some attraction and mutual interest..and not because I'm a cock with a paid for bedroom available; (if that's all they were after they could pull anyone from the street....)and that should put us on the same "level" as far as interactions go.
yes, I would feel honoured and pleased for a couple to choose me amongst so many alternatives, but if they do, surely it's because they think I'm worth it?
no Werthers... no comment
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