you say your not ready for a munch yet but in my opinion munches are perfect for newbies, its just like going out to the pubs with ya m8s, i'm sure you have done that a million times? theres no sex they are just social meets with like minded people, just go relax have a drink and a chat.
Hi takingitslow,
Welcome to the forum. It's fine to have a curious mind, but might I suggest that a trawl through old threads in the cafe forums, and also the advice section (see the menu to the left) might answer a few of your questions.
It's perhaps unfortunate for you that people here have suspicious minds, but journalists ARE known to frequent this site anonymously in search of a good scandal, and someone like you, coming along and posing searching questions on their first day here, sets alarm bells ringing among the regulars here, especially as you have said very little about yourself except that you are very cautious!
Hope you enjoy it in here.
Mike.
If this chap IS a journalist, he's not a very good one, to arouse so much suspicion.
But taking up the point, I do feel that SH members are much too wary of the Press. They treat us like monsters and perverts only because they don't understand us, and we make tittilating copy for readers who don't understand us. Shouldn't we be changing that, rather than running away from it?
We're rather in the position that gays were 50 years ago..... and gays became acceptable because they educated the public to stop thinking of them as "queer"; to regard an alternative lifestyle as a respectable option.
Seriously: the Press aren't going to be at all interested in individual swingers, unless they are celebs, politicians, vicars, teachers, or senior policemen.
There is a real argument for answering their questions frankly, and being less afraid.
^^^^^ id have to agree with that^^^^^^
The poor woman in the local paper case was a teacher..... as I said, teachers (or others involved with kids) are always at risk, so long as the -scare continues - along with the other categories I mentioned.
Absolutely nothing but unfortunately this is the real world we live in.
What I find really annoying is that the same type of newspapers publish sensationalist headlines about swingers, and then on dear Deidre pages are happy to print stories of the very same topics.
But hey that’s why I choose not to buy the crap.
K - I - S - S - I - N - G
Pull it together people your losing the thread
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