lifestyle, private or open.

21 Nov 2006

My two closest freinds know i swing,as i felt to keep it from them would have devalued our open and honest friendship. One of them is sexualy retarded and thinks its a phase and i will come thro it but is ok with my choice,the other is happy as long as i am and is as sexualy open as anyone i have met within this lifestyle. Also as i started out as a swingle it was for my safety also.
As for my bi-sexual nature im sure they both know but i have only told the second friend,as the first one would have a heart attack. Honestly you should see her face if anyone mentions anything of a sexual nature around her. Better still you should have seen her face when at a vanila party russ decided to show us all his new pants and droped his trousers rotflmao

for russ
As for my family they wouldnt want to know what i was sexualy doing in any respect so dont feel the need to tell them. I choose keep my swinging activitys away from my kids,they can and will make their own choices regarding there sexuality and how liberated they want to be. I wouldnt want to influence that or be held responsible the same way that parents that smoke are if their children then become smokers.
And yes i do smoke redface

Nicky

21 Nov 2006

I was slated for this before by someone but I'll say it again because I'm honest... we have two sets of friends.. one for swinging and they know about us because they are in the same boat, and a wider set of friends for socialising etc., now I'm not saying you cannot have swinging friends as social friends, of course you can but we just prefer to keep that side to ourselves as not everyone appreciates or understands what we do. smile

21 Nov 2006

Quote by jaymar
I was slated for this before by someone but I'll say it again because I'm honest... we have two sets of friends.. one for swinging and they know about us because they are in the same boat, and a wider set of friends for socialising etc., now I'm not saying you cannot have swinging friends as social friends, of course you can but we just prefer to keep that side to ourselves as not everyone appreciates or understands what we do.

right on sister :thumbup:

21 Nov 2006

there's no one from our families no we are swingers,not cos we are ashamed of it(we aren't) but it's the grief we would get from her side of the family,i could tell my mam what i do but she'd only worry and i apparently give her plenty to worry about dunno

a cpl of mrs creams uni friends no and they all still talk to her and treat her no differant to what they use to....

21 Nov 2006

Quote by Sassy-Seren
I was slated for this before by someone but I'll say it again because I'm honest... we have two sets of friends.. one for swinging and they know about us because they are in the same boat, and a wider set of friends for socialising etc., now I'm not saying you cannot have swinging friends as social friends, of course you can but we just prefer to keep that side to ourselves as not everyone appreciates or understands what we do.

right on sister :thumbup:
ty sweetie kiss

22 Nov 2006

A few really interesting points here I discussed this with Mrs Lys over breakfast (beats GMTV). The added problem, which may have gone unmentioned is that by telling vanilla friends it may make them feel uneasy.
I've got a close mate who Mrs Lys is on good terms with, we've gone out as a three a couple of times and we all get on really well. He's kipped on the sofa more times than I care to remember.
If all of a sudden we were to announce what we do it'd cause an uneasiness. The next time he came over, got drunk and kipped on the sofa he might feel that we were hoping something might happen. It adds an awkward dynamic.
Most vanilla perceptions of swingers is akin to the naive male reaction to a colleague admitting he's gay ("He must fancy me"). Unless you are able to explain and debunk the myths they may end up with the wrong idea and see sexual motivation where there is none.

22 Nov 2006

Quote by Juniper_couple
As for couple vanilla friends, would they really feel comfortable having dinner with us? or would they sit and be thinking "are they eyeing us up for desert?" The mind boggles :shock:

Our thoughts exactly :thumbup:

22 Nov 2006

We are fairly open about our activities but we don't outrightly tell family or friends. If anyone asks a question, they get an honest reply. They usually act all shocked, then ask about a zillion questions.

22 Nov 2006

My initial thought was that nobody knows what mrs cuk and me do in our spare time â€¦ but reading throâ€™ the posts and thinking a bit more I realised that at least one of my workmates know, my sister and brother in law know and various of mrs cukâ€™s female friends do â€¦ all due to drunken chit chat. None condemned what we got up to and all the females expressed some jealousy. The only distaste I have seen was from an openly gay friend of a friend when I had a night out with him â€¦ we concluded that he was straighter than me!
Part of the turn on for most? (or many ?) (â€¦ or is it just me?) is that fact that what we do is not considered to be â€˜the normâ€™ â€¦ so there is a lot to be said for keeping what you do to yourself ... if that is not too contradictory with the para above confused

22 Nov 2006

My best friend knows- and insists on juicy gossip.
Most of my mates from training know (a game of "I have never" at last years xmas party saw to that- I chose not to lie)
My friends on the ship know- by choice. On my first night on board I bonked one of the crew- so I later asked another guy to explain to everyone after I'd gone that it was with Mr W's permission. I hate the thought of being seen as a heartless bitch-and would rather be seen as a swinging strumpet anytime!

22 Nov 2006

Due to the shenanigans that have been going on in my life just recently, I have "come out" so to speak.
the only ppl in the family who still donâ€™t know are my mum (god forbid :scared smile

and obviously the youngest boy.
the two elder lads took it just fine and said, hey, its your life, enjoy. (I still have a sneaky suspicion that my eldest and his mrs are into it in some way ( :shock: could you imagine meeting at a munch bolt

)
my mates all think its bloody great and one of them actually said last night, where do we join lol.
I no longer have a problem with people knowing, if they don't like it, feck em.
the neighbours must know by now, what with having had pampas grass in the garden for the last 15 years or so (ask shedster what thatâ€™s all about) and the last two socials we had round here, if they donâ€™t know they must be dead lol.
I'm waffling again aint I rolleyes

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