making your child homeless

8 Feb 2009

Quote by bouncy332

no child is born bad it is down to a set of circumstances and as parents it is our job to help them through lifes hard times

Some children will not respond to help...
i disagree all children will respond if the right type of help is found
Sometimes that help maybe in the form of them leaving home.
Oh and I so think there are children that are beyond all help from their parents I really really do I do I do I do

8 Feb 2009

Quote by Lost

no child is born bad it is down to a set of circumstances and as parents it is our job to help them through lifes hard times

Some children will not respond to help...
i disagree all children will respond if the right type of help is found
Sometimes that help maybe in the form of them leaving home.
Oh and I so think there are children that are beyond all help from their parents I really really do I do I do I do
i don't i don't i don't
how would them leaving home help them?
where would they then get help and support
i went right off the rails once i was kicked out ended up living rough sleeping in doorways and squats how was that helping me?
i was one of the incredibly lucky ones that thanks to meeting my now husband who through an awfull lot of understanding and patience i made it out the other side
very few find someone to help them like i did

8 Feb 2009

Quote by bouncy332

no child is born bad it is down to a set of circumstances and as parents it is our job to help them through lifes hard times

Some children will not respond to help...
i disagree all children will respond if the right type of help is found
Sometimes that help maybe in the form of them leaving home.
Oh and I so think there are children that are beyond all help from their parents I really really do I do I do I do
i don't i don't i don't
how would them leaving home help them?
where would they then get help and support
i went right off the rails once i was kicked out ended up living rough sleeping in doorways and squats how was that helping me?
i was one of the incredibly lucky ones that thanks to meeting my now husband who through an awfull lot of understanding and patience i made it out the other side
very few find someone to help them like i did
Yours is just one outcome though bouncy. I got kicked out spent five nights at a mates bedsit found a live in job and was sorted (for the time being anyays). Thats just another outcome and there would be many more types.
My parents had two other children they had to care about living at home and also their own partnership and my dads career as a copper. With the stuff I was getting up to that was no place to have other kids. What then? At 14 I just went nuts no rythm nor reason I had a good upbringing always safe and loved fed and warm. Why did I go off the rails? Because I did thats why. nothing else.
Though I think that it would be nice to think that one would never consider the option of kicking your own kids out. I can't see it not being an option in some circumstances. God willing I never need to make those sort of decisions but if need be I could.

8 Feb 2009

Quote by bouncy332

no child is born bad it is down to a set of circumstances and as parents it is our job to help them through lifes hard times

Some children will not respond to help...
i disagree all children will respond if the right type of help is found
Speaking from experience I can say my statement is true...

8 Feb 2009

Quote by bouncy332

no child is born bad it is down to a set of circumstances and as parents it is our job to help them through lifes hard times

Some children will not respond to help...
i disagree all children will respond if the right type of help is found
Sometimes that help maybe in the form of them leaving home.
Oh and I so think there are children that are beyond all help from their parents I really really do I do I do I do
i don't i don't i don't
how would them leaving home help them?
where would they then get help and support
i went right off the rails once i was kicked out ended up living rough sleeping in doorways and squats how was that helping me?
i was one of the incredibly lucky ones that thanks to meeting my now husband who through an awfull lot of understanding and patience i made it out the other side
very few find someone to help them like i did
Sometimes the only help available is outside of the home. I don't think that any of the parents who are finding this topic difficult have taken the decision lightly, there is a lot of heartache, trying and soul searching before such a decision is made.
I also doubt that any of the parents here have turfed their child onto the street, instead finding a place elsewhere, whether it be with other family (as was my case temporarily) or in a hostel etc.
There are many reasons child react, not all of them are easily explained, undiagnosed mental health issues, insecurity etc.
There are some that would argue that keeping a child in an environment where they are unhappy and react badly can be classed as neglectful, surely the welfare of the child is paramount (and of course the welfare of other children in the house) and if removing them from the home is necessary to foster better behaviour then so be it.

8 Feb 2009

Quote by Calista
Sometimes the only help available is outside of the home. I don't think that any of the parents who are finding this topic difficult have taken the decision lightly, there is a lot of heartache, trying and soul searching before such a decision is made.
I also doubt that any of the parents here have turfed their child onto the street, instead finding a place elsewhere, whether it be with other family (as was my case temporarily) or in a hostel etc.
There are many reasons child react, not all of them are easily explained, undiagnosed mental health issues, insecurity etc.
There are some that would argue that keeping a child in an environment where they are unhappy and react badly can be classed as neglectful, surely the welfare of the child is paramount (and of course the welfare of other children in the house) and if removing them from the home is necessary to foster better behaviour then so be it.

i do agree with you that if the child is unhappy then taking them out of the situation can be a good thing but then i do think that that is a way of helping them i do not consider this just making them homeless
my problem was the teens that were just turfed out and backs turned on them
i am all for doing everything you can to help the child and make thier life better
i just meant i could never just turn my back on my sons

8 Feb 2009

The tragedy is, help is often NOT available. Not even the help needed to identify what intervention (if any) is needed.
When it is just a child with severe behavioural problems, one or two parents, and a school that may be slightly less than useless any option is a poor choice. The cause of the child's behaviour may well become irrelevant at that point. All energies go into dealing with it - firefighting basically.