Join the most popular community of UK swingers now
Login

mature couple swinging with black guy - experience/advice?

last reply
61 replies
3.1k views
0 watchers
0 likes
Quote by H-x
Is there any difference between a woman saying she want to be with a black man and a man saying he wants to be with a natural blonde?
The fantacy of it is one thing but in reality surely there has to be more to it than skin or hair colour.
H.x

This is such a good point. In my view there is no difference and it's precisely what I've been banging on about for years.
I used to think I was strange but I've always been attracted to personality rather than hair colour or anything similar.
Now? These are very long sleeves for a casual jacket??
:silly:
Does being a natural blonde make me an ethinic minority then?? :giggle:
Sorry redface surprisedops: :oops:
bolt
Quote by helnheaven
Does being a natural blonde make me an ethinic minority then?? :giggle:

Don't know I'll have to have a look.
cool
Quote by bbw_lover
Does being a natural blonde make me an ethinic minority then?? :giggle:

Don't know I'll have to have a look.
cool
Give me a couple of weeks so that I can prove it
redface surprisedops: :oops:
rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Quote by helnheaven
Does being a natural blonde make me an ethinic minority then?? :giggle:

Don't know I'll have to have a look.
cool
Give me a couple of weeks so that I can prove it
redface surprisedops: :oops:
rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Starting from … now!
wink
Quote by bbw_lover
Does being a natural blonde make me an ethinic minority then?? :giggle:

Don't know I'll have to have a look.
cool
Give me a couple of weeks so that I can prove it
redface surprisedops: :oops:
rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Starting from … now!
wink
:shock:
This has just reminded me of a joke lol
Well, getting back to the original question ....
As a couple who have had 3-sums with black males (and also with white males) we can say that the 'procedure' to 'get it on' is no different for either.
in fact we can say -
- the thrill was no greater because the male was black.
- the experience no more enjoyable because the guy was black
- the arrangements for the meet no more difficult to make because the male was black
BUT
despite our careful and extensive selection process the odd dickhead can slip through and make the meets less than happy occasions - and you know what! This applies to white guys and black guys equally!! - who'd o' thought it!!
All in all our advice (such as it is) is to choose carefully - take your time - and make sure you both enjoy the experience by talking extensively about it before taking the plunge (we guess that applies to almost all Swinging situations)
And having said all that, we have to also confess that Chilli has a liking for black males - its the skintone apparently - something about the contrast against her own lily white flesh - don't understand it properly as myself, but hey - we always have a great time so who am I to complain.
Quote by Joma71
Hi
We're new to this, and in our 40s, and just want to know of how people got things going with teaming up with a black guy. My partner is keen to 'scratch the itch' that is going with a black guy who will indulge her. I'm happy to oblige as it would be a turn on for me to see her having her dream fulfilled. Does anybody out there have any stories or advice on this?
Joma

Oi! I find this post very offensive!....
.... Being in your 40's does not mean you're mature!! :giggle:
:welcome: to the Cafe.......
And by the way, have you met Fabio ;-)
Hello and welcome to the mad-house.
What folks have already said about arranging meets is very true. It's as easy or hard regardless of the guy's (or girl's) genetic make-up. There is a pretty eaven spread of lovely people and dick-heads whatever group you are into.
A few have indicated that requesting a black guy specifically is racist. I don't believe so, any more than requesting someone older/younger than oneself is ageist. So long as the guy (or girl) is treated with respect as an individual and not as a piece of meat. I don't imagine for a minute that you two would do that by the way.
As to why some of us are into black guys? Personally - an entirely personal opinion - is that I love the visual contrast of black skin against my very pale skin. For a woman in a relatively responsible job, being with a muscular, dark-skinned, masculine guy who is also great fun and great conversationalist is heaven. (I think I may have to go and 'lie down' for a few minutes biggrin )
Anyway - get to know some of the people on here and you will be fine - the socials and munches are great ways to get to know people before committing to a meet.
Have you met Fabio by the way? rotflmao (He's lovely and a gent).
okay..... I have thought about it....
I have pondered a witty and articulate response to your question......
after talking to my lawyers... these are my views on the subject and where I stand....
:gagged: :gagged: :gagged: :gagged:
Still saying no-thing!!!! lol :lol: nada... zilch... squat!!!!
I agree with my 'fellow Soul Brother' Fabio.
I am not saying anything more about Race on this website.
Have a read of my recent Post about Lewis Hamilton...
Let's say...
Just read it.
Am not saying anything.
Quote by splendid_
I actually perceived buckingfabe's response as being more that this couple had a fantasy specifically about the man fucking the woman being black. The colour of the man being the racist part. Not the use of the word 'black' to describe him.
splendid

You are quite right splendid. That was exactly what I meant. I find it highly distasteful that people speak about black people as though they are an alien species. Wtf would make a meet with a black guy any different to a meet with a white guy or asian guy?
:shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:

Watching and waiting!!

innocent :whistling: :whistling: :whistling:
Quote by foxylady2209
Hello and welcome to the mad-house.
What folks have already said about arranging meets is very true. It's as easy or hard regardless of the guy's (or girl's) genetic make-up. There is a pretty eaven spread of lovely people and dick-heads whatever group you are into.
A few have indicated that requesting a black guy specifically is racist. I don't believe so, any more than requesting someone older/younger than oneself is ageist. So long as the guy (or girl) is treated with respect as an individual and not as a piece of meat. I don't imagine for a minute that you two would do that by the way.
As to why some of us are into black guys? Personally - an entirely personal opinion - is that I love the visual contrast of black skin against my very pale skin. For a woman in a relatively responsible job, being with a muscular, dark-skinned, masculine guy who is also great fun and great conversationalist is heaven. (I think I may have to go and 'lie down' for a few minutes biggrin )
Anyway - get to know some of the people on here and you will be fine - the socials and munches are great ways to get to know people before committing to a meet.
Have you met Fabio by the way? rotflmao (He's lovely and a gent).

This is a good point, however there is the danger (sometimes) that the black guy is being treated as an object rather than a person in their own right.
I know and have met many women who are genuinely intersted in black guys simply because it's their preference, as you've indicated. However I have also met a few who see you as a curiousity, and are intrigued to see if we're the same as a white guy.
As strange as it may seem I have been asked, on more than one occassion, whether my spunk was white (???) How do you respond to that? Is that racist? or just ignorant?
It's obviously very complex and this must be exactly how women must feel like when guys go on and on about slim blondes. Surely people are more than that.
confused :? :?
Quote by bbw_lover
It's obviously very complex and this must be exactly how women must feel like when guys go on and on about slim blondes. Surely people are more than that.
confused :? :?

I think it's the implication that the colour of his skin is all that's needed. As a single woman on here I get couples asking me to join them merely because I'm a single woman, they don't really mind who I am so long as I turn up, to me it's the same thing - that label is attached to you and it's the label they want, not you.
H.x
Quote by H-x

It's obviously very complex and this must be exactly how women must feel like when guys go on and on about slim blondes. Surely people are more than that.
confused :? :?

I think it's the implication that the colour of his skin is all that's needed. As a single woman on here I get couples asking me to join them merely because I'm a single woman, they don't really mind who I am so long as I turn up, to me it's the same thing - that label is attached to you and it's the label they want, not you.
H.x
Yup! Think you're absolutely right. As long as you tick the boxes.
Not everyone's like that, but it makes you end up feeling used.
sad
Quote by bbw_lover
Not everyone's like that, but it makes you end up feeling used.
sad

Damn people for making anyone feel this way, BBW... :therethere: for you... kiss
ive been emailed because im...female... white... blonde... bbw.... bi sexual.... live in cornwall etc etc
should i take offence to any of those people?( only the ones who want me cuse i live in cornwall and they want a free holiday lol) no cuse its about preference and no good poking me if i dont turn you on, however..... on a site where by you can not initially be attracted to a personality, the way someone walks etc etc due to not physically meeting them, then yes you have to have a starting point.
beyond that then you discover if you actually "like" the person.
the poster is new to here, looking to full fill a fantasy ( like alot of us) but could have, and have admitted to maybe wording it better.
if one was to ask how do i go about meeting/setting up a meet with a bbw, well maybe the advice would be pop along to the bbw chat room?
remember that the internet is full of sex sites and promote blatent " i wanna fuck a ***** (fill in preference) threads,
SH i hope is still a community, so dont flame people for not knowing how it works here.
xxxx fem xxx
Quote by jaymar

Not everyone's like that, but it makes you end up feeling used.
sad

Damn people for making anyone feel this way, BBW... :therethere: for you... kiss
Thanks Mar, much needed.
:kiss:
Quote by fem_4_taboo
ive been emailed because im...female... white... blonde... bbw.... bi sexual.... live in cornwall etc etc
should i take offence to any of those people?( only the ones who want me cuse i live in cornwall and they want a free holiday lol) no cuse its about preference and no good poking me if i dont turn you on, however..... on a site where by you can not initially be attracted to a personality, the way someone walks etc etc due to not physically meeting them, then yes you have to have a starting point.
beyond that then you discover if you actually "like" the person.
the poster is new to here, looking to full fill a fantasy ( like alot of us) but could have, and have admitted to maybe wording it better.
if one was to ask how do i go about meeting/setting up a meet with a bbw, well maybe the advice would be pop along to the bbw chat room?
remember that the internet is full of sex sites and promote blatent " i wanna fuck a ***** (fill in preference) threads,
SH i hope is still a community, so dont flame people for not knowing how it works here.
xxxx fem xxx

I take you point, however what I'm saying is that there's a difference between having a preference and objectifying.
confused
i used the word preference to be kind lol
being a single bi fem on here omg i know what objectifying is.
ive been invited along to meet a couple where by they have thought i am there only as a bi fem toy/tool to assist in fullfilling their fantesy and not as a friend whom to share a mutual satisfying experience.
i did have the thought that maybe if people dont have friends who are black,and are not looking to make friends, and look at meeting a gentleman just because he is black specifically for sex then maybe they need to consider if they would feel comfortable in that situation them selves, or they areso self concious of saying something politically incorrect that they would cause offense, and there by any friendship/converstaion is nill.
did that make any sense?
to me, meeting any one for swingng is about making friends with people who i may have sex with.
xx fem xx
Hey guys. Seems like we've caused offence which is certainly NOT what was intended. Think we got the balance of the wording a bit wrong. We're just looking for people's experiences of getting it on, no slur intended.
Joma,
threads often veer off.. that is the beauty of forums. It is a rare person that means anything personal. So please forget about worry. We are all entitled to our opinion as you are too.
splendid
Quote by Joma71
Hey guys. Seems like we've caused offence which is certainly NOT what was intended. Think we got the balance of the wording a bit wrong. We're just looking for people's experiences of getting it on, no slur intended.

Nooooooo! No offence taken at all. Threads like these are great cos they get people thinking and sometimes it goes off in a direction not at all expected, but that's part of the fun.
Some people may have strong views, but it's generally all good humoured. So it's not your fault, we just like a friendly punch up every now and then.
biggrin :D :D
Quote by varca
Hey guys. Seems like we've caused offence which is certainly NOT what was intended. Think we got the balance of the wording a bit wrong. We're just looking for people's experiences of getting it on, no slur intended.

We know that Joma, don't be disheartened kiss and if you read through, you will find that the thread posters have given some good advice as well as your post opening up some interesting and healthy discussion. It was also injected with some humour and to top it off it faciltated at least 2 offers for you guys that I could see biggrin
Wise words from Varca I think, and there's a positive there for you too.
So not only have you stimulated a very interesting thread, but it looks like you've got a result as well. That's more than most people get.
:P
Quote by flower411
Hey guys. Seems like we've caused offence which is certainly NOT what was intended. Think we got the balance of the wording a bit wrong. We're just looking for people's experiences of getting it on, no slur intended.

It does appear that one or two people have taken mild offence at your original post rolleyes
My advice to you would be to go into the chatrooms. There is usually A "black dicks for white chicks" room, which I`m amazed nobody has mentioned !!
And if you spend more than ten minutes in the sauna. beach or jacuzzi you are sure to be whispered one of these:
"Does mrs joma like black cocks ? "
"Look at my cam, would you like to watch me fuck your wife with my 9 inch black cock ? "
" Hey Babe, ever had black?"
With this sort of thing going on, on a daily basis I think it`s a bit rich people alluding to racism on your part wink
The subtle approach? That must be where I'm going wrong.
rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
This thread has reminded me of our last visit to a club. I was fortunate to meet a lovely bloke- who was being treated as the club's "Token big black guy." When I say big- I mean big- brick outhouse proportions here!
It was his first club visit, and he was feeling very used & uncomfortable. We ended up having a scream that night- I accepted his offer of finding a room not because he was a black guy- but because he was a lovely guy, and the rest was hysterically funny, but I might just have to start another thread.
Just to add a question to the pot though.....is it a black guy thing, or a hung black guy thing? Would the fantasy match up if it was a black guy hung like an Gnat on an expedition to the Antartic who'd forgotten his winter coat?