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do you want one?
i mean you don't sound like you'd get on with me or my buddy.
Your avatar makes me think you are just a big pussy Duncan
Ni hao to your buddy from fraser though :rascal:
Sexlightened
No phone number = No meet.
No face picture = No meet.
It's not being paranoid or unreasonable! It's having common sense.
Anyone who is reluctant to give either we'd not be interested in meeting anyway as we are only interested in genuine, honest play friends...
Xxxx
No face picture = No meet.
It's not being paranoid or unreasonable! It's having common sense.
Anyone who is reluctant to give either we'd not be interested in meeting anyway as we are only interested in genuine, honest play friends...
Xxxx
Getting a phone number from a mobile is a good idea but has it's flaws.
Most people who are having a bit of a sexual adventure behind their partners back will just buy a pay as you go phone and have it unregistered.
Obviously this means that it will be untraceable UNLESS they have paid to top it up by credit card at some time which means the police will be able to trace it if needed (only in serious circumstances not if he has stood you up or you later find out he is married obviously).
For safety advice about meeting strangers I would recommend the following hints and tips.
Never meet anywhere other than a place and time of your descision as locations etc can be controlled if someone has sinister intent in mind. Maybe ask to meet at a busy pub/restraunt like a service station toby carvery etc. These places are discreet but have excellent CCTV and have 30 day computerised back up of footage. Due to the location the person would probably have to drive. The carpark will be covered so you would also probably be able to trace the persons car registration number in a serious incident.
If possible get the persons car reg and make discreetly, say you will be staying for another drink when they go to leave and watch them leave without being noticed or leave at the same time and say goodbye and faff about a bit in your vehicle till they get to their car and jot down the plate. If they have nothing to hide they wont be clandestine about things like this.
Insist on a phone number as they may be unnaware of digital forensic tracking and have a contract phone or hae topped up pay and go by card.
Never meet someone who is cloak and dagger about anything that you ask for. They clearly have SOMETHING to hide. Be it a wife or girlfriend or a mental illness you just don't know what your getting yourself into.
Use your common sense and your instincts if in doubt don't meet.
Most people who are having a bit of a sexual adventure behind their partners back will just buy a pay as you go phone and have it unregistered.
Obviously this means that it will be untraceable UNLESS they have paid to top it up by credit card at some time which means the police will be able to trace it if needed (only in serious circumstances not if he has stood you up or you later find out he is married obviously).
For safety advice about meeting strangers I would recommend the following hints and tips.
Never meet anywhere other than a place and time of your descision as locations etc can be controlled if someone has sinister intent in mind. Maybe ask to meet at a busy pub/restraunt like a service station toby carvery etc. These places are discreet but have excellent CCTV and have 30 day computerised back up of footage. Due to the location the person would probably have to drive. The carpark will be covered so you would also probably be able to trace the persons car registration number in a serious incident.
If possible get the persons car reg and make discreetly, say you will be staying for another drink when they go to leave and watch them leave without being noticed or leave at the same time and say goodbye and faff about a bit in your vehicle till they get to their car and jot down the plate. If they have nothing to hide they wont be clandestine about things like this.
Insist on a phone number as they may be unnaware of digital forensic tracking and have a contract phone or hae topped up pay and go by card.
Never meet someone who is cloak and dagger about anything that you ask for. They clearly have SOMETHING to hide. Be it a wife or girlfriend or a mental illness you just don't know what your getting yourself into.
Use your common sense and your instincts if in doubt don't meet.
Blimey Srne, that all sounds alittle cloak and dagger in itself :eeek:
If I was new to this game I`d be thinking "what the feck have I got myself into" , although I`m probably bias due to the fact that the people I/we have met have all been quite pleasant people and reasonably sane :taz:
On a serious note, you know when things don`t feel right and you should go with your gut instinct and cancel the meet until you find someone who makes you feel safe and secure in the knowledge that they are the right person for you both.
If I was new to this game I`d be thinking "what the feck have I got myself into" , although I`m probably bias due to the fact that the people I/we have met have all been quite pleasant people and reasonably sane :taz:
On a serious note, you know when things don`t feel right and you should go with your gut instinct and cancel the meet until you find someone who makes you feel safe and secure in the knowledge that they are the right person for you both.
There is some pretty hardcore outrageous advice on this thread, but I suppose it is the internet afterall.
For my two-pence worth... if you are going to the lengths of picking a place with 30 day computerised recorded CCTV footage, or hanging around for car registration numbers, or worried about mobile phones etc, then perhaps you should ask whether meeting anyone is for you, failing that get some training from MI5 and the SAS before going on a meet.
Nevertheless, only an idiot would meet someone solely of the strength of a few words in a chatroom that could have been written by anyone.
My view is that if there is any doubt about the person you are meeting (and it doesn't matter what that doubt is)... then there is no doubt that you should not meet them... and that's the end of it.
First assumptions are usually the correct ones and it isn't important how you arrive at them, just that you do. Afterall you do not have to justify your conclusions to anyone other than yourself.
For my two-pence worth... if you are going to the lengths of picking a place with 30 day computerised recorded CCTV footage, or hanging around for car registration numbers, or worried about mobile phones etc, then perhaps you should ask whether meeting anyone is for you, failing that get some training from MI5 and the SAS before going on a meet.
Nevertheless, only an idiot would meet someone solely of the strength of a few words in a chatroom that could have been written by anyone.
My view is that if there is any doubt about the person you are meeting (and it doesn't matter what that doubt is)... then there is no doubt that you should not meet them... and that's the end of it.
First assumptions are usually the correct ones and it isn't important how you arrive at them, just that you do. Afterall you do not have to justify your conclusions to anyone other than yourself.
Sex God
Ok, for my two pence worth I think you are being sensible. Why? well simply because you are doing what feels right for you. It sometimes seems to me that people on here forget that not everyone has the same perspective on things as themselves. Which is why people tend to judge others.
This website and scene are all about personal choice. There are no fixed rules and no laid down procedures. We have our own mmethod of ensuring we are comfortablw with people we choose to meet, but don't expect everyone else to do the same.
When you choose to invite someone into your home and relationship you are taking a calculated risk. The discretion that everyone always seeks is a double edged sword and it has already been mentioned that the person coming into your home can't help but find out a whole wealth of things about you.
It seems like you have met a few people that have different ideas about discretion than yourself, and us for what it's worth, however do not despair.
How about asking them for their number to text them which pub you are going to meet in for a drink and chat? that way you get the assurance that you are looking for, and you don't waste your time and effort if they choose not to take you up on the offer.
This website and scene are all about personal choice. There are no fixed rules and no laid down procedures. We have our own mmethod of ensuring we are comfortablw with people we choose to meet, but don't expect everyone else to do the same.
When you choose to invite someone into your home and relationship you are taking a calculated risk. The discretion that everyone always seeks is a double edged sword and it has already been mentioned that the person coming into your home can't help but find out a whole wealth of things about you.
It seems like you have met a few people that have different ideas about discretion than yourself, and us for what it's worth, however do not despair.
How about asking them for their number to text them which pub you are going to meet in for a drink and chat? that way you get the assurance that you are looking for, and you don't waste your time and effort if they choose not to take you up on the offer.