Moods

12 Sep 2007

On a forum such as this, we think we 'know' people, from reading their posts. I've just read through some of the replies posted since my last visit (yesterday) and have thought 'he/she was grumpy/miserable/happy'. Some of those thoughts have come from meeting the people whose posts I read. Some from just knowing their posting style.
Do you think it's obvious when a person posts in a particular mood?

12 Sep 2007

Morning hun kiss

Yes I think you can tell people's moods by their postings, but only if they've been on here for a while and you more or less know their posting styles.
I've been known in the past to react to certain situations/posts when I've been hormonal those to which I wouldn't normally react to, but I have to admit this is few and far between.
I am in general a happy go lucky type of person and I tend to be quite up beat most of the time. I have a very dry sense of humour but don't know if this comes across in posting or not.
If I was in a disgustingly bad mood I wouldn't post, only because I would cause some damage if I did. :haha:

12 Sep 2007

I think people often think I'm in a disgustingly bad mood anyway! I've often waited before answering on particular threads, because my comments would more than likely earn me a ban.

12 Sep 2007

Quote by Freckledbird
I think people often think I'm in a disgustingly bad mood anyway! I've often waited before answering on particular threads, because my comments would more than likely earn me a ban.

well yes, sometimes you come across like that, but to be fair to you, knowing you as I do, you are a lovely kind person who has a caring personality.

12 Sep 2007

Freckledbird = The first fluffy bunny EVER that has a spellcheck lol

Tony

12 Sep 2007

You're talking out of you're fecking arse woman. WTF are you on? How can you possibly tell a persons fecking mood by what they type? It's just words FFS!
Yes lol

12 Sep 2007

Quote by winchwench
You're talking out of you're fecking arse woman. WTF are you on? How can you possibly tell a persons fecking mood by what they type? It's just words FFS!

This kids is an example of someone in a GOOD mood.
lol

:lol: :lol:

12 Sep 2007

Quote by Freckledbird
Do you think it's obvious when a person posts in a particular mood?

I think its quite obvious with some. Then again some are quite methodical in the way they post and they do it in the same style all of the time.
Is it obvious with me too?
Louise xx :happy: in quite a good mood today lol

12 Sep 2007

Quote by jaymar
I think people often think I'm in a disgustingly bad mood anyway! I've often waited before answering on particular threads, because my comments would more than likely earn me a ban.

well yes, sometimes you come across like that, but to be fair to you, knowing you as I do, you are a lovely kind person who has a caring personality.
redface

thank you.

Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
Freckledbird = The first fluffy bunny EVER that has a spellcheck
Tony

Bugger off you - I am NOT a fluffy bunny! :lol:

12 Sep 2007

If you thought someone's mood was affecting their post, would that influence how you respond to them?

12 Sep 2007

Quote by Freckledbird
If you thought someone's mood was affecting their post, would that influence how you respond to them?

Yes

If I thought a person was pissed off and might pick an argument with me, I probably wouldn't reply.
However if I thought someone was feeling sad or low, I would attempt to be kinder, I think :?
Can you tell what my mood is by my posts? Not meaning the obvious swearing ones in the steam room :lol2:

12 Sep 2007

What a stupid bloody topic for a Wednesday ffs rolleyes

(Ooops sorry in a bad mood today :grin: )
...seriously...
Yes there are certain people I can tell if they are in a bad mood. :!:
For me personally, I generally have a positive, upbeat personality and if I am feeling low/hormonal/fed up I tend not to post or refrain from posting with too much emotion. I also avoid people's posts when they are clearly in a bad mood as I don't like to encourage negative or unneccesarily contentious posting.
Having said that, I am sure every one of us has posted a more emotional response or negative post than we anticipated, we're all human for goodness sakes and when regular Forum people know how you are generally you are forgiven for little outbursts.
pink x

12 Sep 2007

Quote by Dawnie
If I thought a person was pissed off and might pick an argument with me, I probably wouldn't reply.
However if I thought someone was feeling sad or low, I would attempt to be kinder, I think
Can you tell what my mood is by my posts? Not meaning the obvious swearing ones in the steam room :lol2:

See, as long as it's not abusive, I think the odd argument can clear the air. I tend to say what I think, regardless of my mood, but others only really do that when they get angry. As I said before, even I have stopped myself posting before now, though.
I don't do lots of sympathy for the people who come in to moan. I know we're a community but it often feels that there are periods when all some people do is moan about how poorly they are, how badly done-to they are or how miserable they feel.
If a person is that poorly/sad, they NEED to seek professional help, not the advice of people on here who could tell them any old crap. The only people who maybe could comment, are those who have been in a similar situation and then it needs to go to PM; it could be very personal. I wouldn't be nasty to someone, but try to encourage them to seek professional help. I don't think that being kind is always helpful.
With regard to your mood, no - I can't tell your mood from your posts. Other than Steam Room ones.

12 Sep 2007

Sod you all!
lp

12 Sep 2007

Quote by LondonPlaything
Sod you all!
lp

Guess you're in a bad mood then rolleyes

:giggle:

12 Sep 2007

Quote by LondonPlaything
Sod you all!
lp

Tut. I was expecting at least 'burn them all!' from you rolleyes

12 Sep 2007

Quote by blueandpink
Sod you all!
lp

Guess you're in a bad mood then rolleyes

:giggle:
hehe... not particularly, not today... on a *middle ground* more than anything, personally Im ok, a few concerns for a friend of mine, work concerns etc etc...
all the same though: Sod the lot of ya! biggrin

no really, I have to say regarding moods... I tend to try not to let my mood effect my posting here, however, saying that, I don't generally say much of any consequence anyway... I view SH as Fun Place... somewhere to loiter with intent, and either enjoy threads with a touch of humour, or can become immersed in the *deeper* topics.
on some of the more contenscious >sp?< subjects, I'll generally say nothing, no matter my mood, as I have an outlook on human nature that may be considered slightly left field, and really couldn't be arsed to attempt to justify my comments on a forum such as this should they be challenged. But again, my mood would not be the guiding factor as to whether or not I post. And niether do I judge those who post in such threads either (not tooo much) before you ask...lol.
however, I have noticed at times I tend to ramble a bit... ever noticed that dunno

lp

12 Sep 2007

Quote by Freckledbird
Sod you all!
lp

Tut. I was expecting at least 'burn them all!' from you rolleyes

I was repremanded recently by a certain *warmer* for getting all pyromaniacal, where she considers the burn them to be hers and hers alone,so perhaps a little 'TM warmer' should be employed, certainly when I use the phrase?
I may have to resort to 'thrash them with sticks! in future.
gawd that pisses me orft!
lp

12 Sep 2007

I try not to let my mood spill over into my posts too much. I find that in here I cam sometimes put on a cheery happy-go-lucky persona and throw in an odd quip or too even if im feeling rotten.

12 Sep 2007

The people I know well on the site, I can sometimes tell if they are upset/ happy etc from their posting style.
I normally send them a pm to check all is ok / what is up, and 9 times out of 10 I get it right that there is something wrong / or something to be happy about.
I once got very upset about something a long time back, and post up a thread, which caused the following reaction:-
1. one mod locked it
2. another mod rang me
3. 5 people pmed me
4. 2 other people phoned me.
5. first mod then removed it.
And all that was early on a Sunday morning, and after a munch night!
Now I just log off, and come back later! lol

12 Sep 2007

I am always Happy biggrin

12 Sep 2007

Quote by Dawnie
If you thought someone's mood was affecting their post, would that influence how you respond to them?

Yes

If I thought a person was pissed off and might pick an argument with me, I probably wouldn't reply.
However if I thought someone was feeling sad or low, I would attempt to be kinder, I think :?
Can you tell what my mood is by my posts? Not meaning the obvious swearing ones in the steam room :lol2:
I think I can tell your mood from your nipples..well I'll give it a go anyway.

12 Sep 2007

Quote by Stormwalker

Can you tell what my mood is by my posts? Not meaning the obvious swearing ones in the steam room :lol2:

I think I can tell your mood from your nipples..well I'll give it a go anyway.
Feel free :rascal:

12 Sep 2007

Quote by Sarah
The people I know well on the site, I can sometimes tell if they are upset/ happy etc from their posting style.
I normally send them a pm to check all is ok / what is up, and 9 times out of 10 I get it right that there is something wrong / or something to be happy about.

Never PMed me!! sad

:(
You've really got to know someone to know what their mood is. Very difficult unless you've met 'em and 'known 'em'.
.

12 Sep 2007

Quote by westerross
You've really got to know someone to know what their mood is. Very difficult unless you've met 'em and 'known 'em'.
.

Even then, it's still difficult sometimes.

12 Sep 2007

Its rare Im anything but a happy bunny but I would not post if I wasnt.
I do tend to say what I think if there is something bothering me then leave it at that.
With some on here they dont hide the fact that they are in a good/bad mood but just by looking at a normal 'run of the mill' type post no, I wouldnt be able to tell because I dont know anyone on a personal level.

13 Sep 2007

Sorry for the length of this redface

I'm not quite sure if this fits in with just mood as in a lot of posts. It goes off at a tangent. I apologise in advance.
I think that dependant on how the person can express themselves in literary fashion could have a bearing on how they come across and are perceived by others. We probably all realise that writing effectively is an art as well as a learned skill.
A person can be taught all possible things about the written English langusge and still not be able to write well. Whereas a person can be a natural born writer not know a great deal and come across with fantastic feeling/elequency ability whatever. Though if a person is talented and well taught then this can be a beautiful thing.
I realise that this is in essence a sex site forum. Although, I do think that the people who use this site have more to them than sex every moment of everyday. One of the delicious things i find is the fact that in the small hours as i sadly watch news 24 or some such programme i can muse over stuff. Doing this is cool in the forum, where at gone 3:00a.m do i get the chance put my ideas and thoughts down. Here is as a good a place as any.
This is a community indeed, and as such a myriad of different types of people from all walks of life use it. This in itself is brilliant i think. At least with a sex site there are less inhibiting factors. sex is universal or as near as damn it.
To get a view point from a doctor, postman, unemployed or servicemen etc. Yes even teachers is great to read and benefit from. Its nice to know that you are communicatng with people.
If some people who are on here at times are very poorly or sad then i think its good that they/we are maybe able to communicate via this forum to people. Possibly its not easy for them to do elsewhere. One major! benefit in my own life is that I find liking what i do sexually and discussing it on this site through chat or forum and onto socially in 'real' life is not as singular and as weird as i previously thought. This is something that I would possibly never discussed anywhere else possibly. Even so far as too allow myself and my partner to develope far better communicating skills than ever before.
So being able to share lives to a degree anonymously with others has possibly great benefits in my view. Also there is a wealth of experience within this site and people can be pointed in the direction of more professional help or advice from here. Indeed there are many posts that do that. Inevitably there are posts that maybe get heavy or a bit ho hum with discussions but is that different to a discussion between any gruop in any format?
Nobody asks to be cried down or criticised unecessarily and if one feels short tempered or that they will say something detrimental in reply to a post then really it would be nice if they didn't. Or if they did at least do it in a thoughtful manner trying to look at it from the readers prospective.
Something that a lot of people do that i think is odd is say such things as " i didn't realy want to say this but....." then why say it? Again another is "I hope you won't take it the wrong way but ......" well dont say it then. Find a different way of saying it a way that is thoughtful to the person hearing or reading concientious of the other party. Use the facilities of good manners and politeness as tools of communication.
I realise that at times we all make mistakes and regret them. I know of two there, maybe a couple more i don't know, posts which i regret in having written. But I really try not to offend anyone. Failing at times no doubt but trying hard.
------- Someone tell him to stop ffs!!!-------
smile

took a bit of thinking cool

13 Sep 2007

I used to post when I had had a drink - dont now lol

:lol: think looking back at old post from when I was Corriefem it was obvious!
Not sure I can tell anyones mood in here really if I am honest. Its only when I meet people I tend to 'read' people but again that depends on how open they are.
Lost, good reply to this thread smile

13 Sep 2007

Quote by Freckledbird
Do you think it's obvious when a person posts in a particular mood?

Yes

:giggle: Seriously though yes if I know a person well enough either through their posting or in real life then I can tell if something is out of character....
I am one of those people that very rarely dips in to a PM box as I dont like to impose incase they dont want me there redface

14 Sep 2007

i only do grumpy or alseep - so i am told!
lol

if i thought someone was upset i would not really be interested in the thread - i wopuld just pm, text, call them or whatever. the problem is, it IS so hard to tell by a post, someone forgetting to put a smiley at the end may appear as though they are down, just like people are often misunderstood as being arsey when really they are not.
not helped much that has it! hmmm