Over the hill and far away....

30 Mar 2007

Bear with me on this one - I know what I want to ask, along a similar line to the Scene Replay thread... but it aint coming out right! ...but, its Friday, we're due a sex-related thread, so I'm trying .. lol

From previous discussions and threads here, I'm aware that there's not that many of us who can orgasm at the drop of a hat (aka through penetration alone) and something else is usually required to tip you over the edge - clit stimulation being the main one but I'm curious about any others that really hit your spot and, for want of a better word, guarantee an orgasm dunno

For me its fingers, so I'm easily pleased if they're doing it right :lol: However, I have had play partners in the past who just didn't 'get' that something very specific is needed to bring me to orgasm...like in films (and porn) where sex scenes almost always end with the fem cumming through penetration - when actually it's not really like that! (or is it? :lol smile

I've always found it incredibly difficult to orgasm through penetration alone...it can take me right to the edge...but never actually over it rolleyes

, no matter how horny I am! In fact, if I'm that horny, I kinda cant orgasm at all, until it builds to the point of exploding :lol2: Is anyone else the same ? (male or female wink

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So I guess the actual question is... is there one particular thing that will make you orgasm? the 'when all else fails' button? can you go right to the edge but not over it without this particular thing? ..and, what is it!? Or, are you one of the lucky people who can cum for England pretty easily? and (edited to add...) Oooo, sudden thought! :idea: - is there anyone who cant orgasm without penetration? :dunno:
Go on, have a bash (pun intended rotflmao

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30 Mar 2007

Oooooh... go on then... I'll give it a bash!
Back in a bit! lol

Just kidding! biggrin

I'm one of those who very rarely orgasms through penetration alone although it does happen sometimes, and more often it can be done if I'm on top.
I quite like a mind fuck and it always helps if I'm anticipating what's going to happen having talked about it beforehand. I had a "not allowed to cum" period before a meet and had to wank but stop before I came (torture!) that went on for almost a week before... let's just say it didn't take me very long to orgasm when I was finally allowed to! :rascal:
I often find that it has more to do with my state of relaxation though and I guess that's partly why I only play with people I've spent time building some kind of friendship with. I need to be comfortable with them or it'll never happen at all!
But the one thing, guaranteeed to make it happen for me is someones fingers on my clit and in my ass. Bingo... does it every time! :D

30 Mar 2007

Quote by Dirtygirlie
I often find that it has more to do with my state of relaxation though and I guess that's partly why I only play with people I've spent time building some kind of friendship with. I need to be comfortable with them or it'll never happen at all!

agree with that, 100% :thumbup:, I'm exactly the same :shock: I can do 'horny as hell/ filthy bitch' with someone I dont really know/met that night type situation....but orgasm just doesnt happen. Kinda dont need it to sometimes though wink

But the one thing, guaranteeed to make it happen for me is someones fingers on my clit and in my ass. Bingo... does it every time!

:twisted:

thanks DG

30 Mar 2007

Welcome!

Psssst... do you think everyone else is shy?!

30 Mar 2007

shy? :shock: Its a swinging site not a fookin knitting circle (jeez, stuck record! lol

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btw, for the 50 who've read but not posted yet, dont forget when constructing your informative and interesting contributions, the site times out at 24 minutes - so hit copy before submit and we'll have you disarmed of knit one pearl one in no time :lol2:

30 Mar 2007

For me, it's not necessarily the same thing that will tip me over the edge every time - sometimes it's the person, sometimes the situation, sometimes it's whatever's used for stimulation. :twisted:

30 Mar 2007

Hadn't really answered this because TBH I orgasm quite easily.
I can orgasm through penetration alone, but if a guy's not quite getting me there I can just get on top of him and do it myself lol

30 Mar 2007

jammy cow :lol2:

30 Mar 2007

I'd reply, but to be honest I'm too redface

Maybe in a bit.... lol

30 Mar 2007

crack open the vino then, I'll come back to this later! lol

30 Mar 2007

Quote by Darkfire
crack open the vino then, I'll come back to this later!

It would take more than Vino to say exactly what I want...:giggle:
But an abridged version is starting to take shape.....ish :lol:

30 Mar 2007

:twisted: - well, post the abridged version then hun, and I'll have the rest by pm wink

:giggle:

30 Mar 2007

Quote by Darkfire
:twisted: - well, post the abridged version then hun, and I'll have the rest by pm
:giggle:

Would that count as the Pervy one I owe you.....? I've got writers block for naughty stories atm.... rolleyes

30 Mar 2007

I have to admit i have NEVER had an orgasm thru penetration!! Never ever... just cant, tried, but cant. Went out with a guy once who said it was his mission to make me cum that way... talk about making me feel a freak and also talk about piling on the pressure!! He said he had shagged countless women and i was the only one who hadnt cum when being shagged - i told him a lot of women cant but no he wouldnt have it!!
Nowadays, i love my back and the back of my legs being stroked and tickled to get my senses aroused. Then of course i lurrrrvvvveee oral sex being performed on me, but it has to be the right way else its just a waste of time!! I know, im a fussy cow arent i!! I love a vibe being used on me at the same time as being tongued too....mmmmmm.
Suze xx

30 Mar 2007

Quote by Darkfire
:idea: - is there anyone who cant orgasm without penetration?
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ME!!!!!
I'm very very strange that way! penetration is the easiest way for me to cum, (depending on the position) i find it really hard to cum from oral!
I think I'm lucky!!
m xx

30 Mar 2007

Quote by Suze43
Went out with a guy once who said it was his mission to make me cum that way... talk about making me feel a freak and also talk about piling on the pressure!! He said he had shagged countless women and i was the only one who hadnt cum when being shagged - i told him a lot of women cant but no he wouldnt have it!!

they were more than likley faking it to get it over and done with, arrogant twat :lol2:
nice one Suze kiss

good to see you posting again!

30 Mar 2007

Quote by Darkfire
I've always found it incredibly difficult to orgasm through penetration alone...it can take me right to the edge...but never actually over it , no matter how horny I am! In fact, if I'm that horny, I kinda cant orgasm at all, until it builds to the point of exploding :lol2: Is anyone else the same ? (male or female )

Could have written this word for word .... I can cum via penetration but I have to be in a specific position which is virtually impossible to get at the moment LOL, and I still need that rubbing action on my clit to achieve it! (but it's definitely a penetrative orgasm IYKWIM).
The mood affects me quite a lot, quicky's are never that unless I've been induced by porn or alcohol or batteried means (love BOB).
Guaranteed to finish me off is tongue action on my nipples though ...... absolute surefire way :giggle: and I know I've held out too long when Morbius starts there :twisted:
And I should have been a man ... once I've cum *and I'm not lucky enough to have multiples* I rarely feel like anything excpet rolling over and going to sleep redface

Cx

30 Mar 2007

What can i say, i'm a guy, i'd cum even if i used shards of glass as a sexual aid :giggle:

30 Mar 2007

The erm......(very) abridged Version O Fiery Atramentous one!
lol

It really depends on who I'm with. I rarely meet anyone I haven't at least met at a munch or talked to in chat etc. I'm also very sensitive in certain areas, so if the lady in question find one such area it could be over in short order. However, the factors of whether or not I have been really looking forward to meeting them, whether we get on at most or all levels, and whether they have similar swingerests (swinging interests :lol: ) as me come into it too. Also, some people are naturally able to put others at ease. I'm nervous - always. The difference is day to day, the degree or depth. I love both penetrative and oral sex (I love giving mainly in my case - I do get very guilty if someone performs for me redface

Don't ask why I just do... :shock: ) If the lady I'm with is able to make me relax, then I'm very like to "get there" easily, speedily and happily....:twisted:

30 Mar 2007

ok then Drew (and anyone else :wink) do you think orgasm is guaranteed through :wanker: then, or is there a 'technique'/ grip/rhythm/ whatever that you know will bring you off quicker/stronger ?
and for the purposes of playing - could you 'teach' that to your partner, or would you just do it yourself? dunno

30 Mar 2007

Quote by Darkfire
ok then Drew (and anyone else :wink) do you think orgasm is guaranteed through :wanker: then, or is there a 'technique'/ grip/rhythm/ whatever that you know will bring you off quicker/stronger ?
and for the purposes of playing - could you 'teach' that to your partner, or would you just do it yourself?

theres a technique yes....but even a crap wank will make you cum eventually....it may leave you tired and with a shattered wrist but it'll do it for ya!

30 Mar 2007

Quote by Darkfire
ok then Drew (and anyone else :wink) do you think orgasm is guaranteed through :wanker: then, or is there a 'technique'/ grip/rhythm/ whatever that you know will bring you off quicker/stronger ?
Definitely a technique. A few times I've been given a HJ, and the lady in question has not been able to make me come as she didn't know the "stages". I mean the different stages of arousal that happen on the way to climax. It's difficult for me to articulate to someone what they need to do to get me to come, and I suppose it could be frustrating to the lady too. But, I suppose the reverse is also true. :giggle:
and for the purposes of playing - could you 'teach' that to your partner, or would you just do it yourself?

As above, it would be difficult to describe how to do it, but I would try to. I would certainly prefer a lady tell me (suggest, threaten etc... ) how to make them come too....

30 Mar 2007

Quote by Dlep
ok then Drew (and anyone else :wink) do you think orgasm is guaranteed through :wanker: then, or is there a 'technique'/ grip/rhythm/ whatever that you know will bring you off quicker/stronger ?
Definitely a technique. A few times I've been given a HJ, and the lady in question has not been able to make me come as she didn't know the "stages". I mean the different stages of arousal that happen on the way to climax. It's difficult for me to articulate to someone what they need to do to get me to come, and I suppose it could be frustrating to the lady too. But, I suppose the reverse is also true. :giggle:
and for the purposes of playing - could you 'teach' that to your partner, or would you just do it yourself?

As above, it would be difficult to describe how to do it, but I would try to. I would certainly prefer a lady tell me (suggest, threaten etc... ) how to make them come too....

I agree with this, some people just cant give HJs x

30 Mar 2007

Well, I'm one of the multiple orgasmerrrrs lol

I can orgasm with or without penetration, but do prefer penetrative ones.
Now, I cant remember a sexual liason where i did not orgasm, but numbers and strength can vary.
I would say that there is a technique (no door bell ringing so to speak, who did say that? i think that was very funny)
Now what i want to know is, how do you orgasm just from nipple stimulation ? :shock:
To answer the "would i teach to a partner for the purpose of playing?" Yes, I would hope that likes and dislikes are discussed first and if something is good or bad it can be said without offence wink

30 Mar 2007

This is scary :shock:
I was going to post a "can you come through penetration alone" thread!
Pretty much the same old same old- outside stimulation is needed for me too. Oral or good fingering usually does the trick- Im not fussy!
I did once have a guy holding a HUGE dildo in with his chin whilst licking my clit. When I came it was so intense that without exaggeration I almost passed out. :shock: Everything went black!

30 Mar 2007

ops: :oops: :oops:
I'll have a few more glasses of Fosters then attempt a reply again!

30 Mar 2007

Quote by Kiss
ops: :oops: :oops:
I'll have a few more glasses of Fosters then attempt a reply again!

:notes:

30 Mar 2007

Quote by Juniper_couple
To answer the "would i teach to a partner for the purpose of playing?" Yes, I would hope that likes and dislikes are discussed first and if something is good or bad it can be said without offence

totally :thumbup: me personally, I like that 'instruction'....but, we've had discussions before about confidence & performance etc, and I guess there are people who might be mortified to be told how to do it ...and take it the wrong way, ya know?
lol

- one mention of knitting circles and there's now so many posts I want to pick up on and reply to I cant type quick enough! :lol: redface

Keep em coming though please, not ignoring anyone intentionally just reading with interest :wink:

30 Mar 2007

Quote by Juniper_couple
ops: :oops: :oops:
I'll have a few more glasses of Fosters then attempt a reply again!

:notes:
You got a spare one? :oops: (I can't believe I've posted in here....and I still owe DF a pervy PM ffs.... rolleyes

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30 Mar 2007

Quote by Darkfire
totally :thumbup: me personally, I like that 'instruction'....but, we've had discussions before about confidence & performance etc, and I guess there are people who might be mortified to be told how to do it ...and take it the wrong way, ya know?

I would never be "Mortified" at helpful and tactful advice. In fact I'd be more upset if I was not told.