Overcoming embarrassment

3 Jul 2004

Hi all

I am fairly new to this site and would like a little advice.
When I was a teenager I dabbled a little with another female but it was only the once.
Now that I am a few years older I feel like I would like to try again but am very embarrassed. My ex, who I still live with as we are really good friends, is very supportive and says that he will help me however he can.
I am confused with regard to my sexuality as I do enjoy sex with men but am also curious as to what sex as an adult would be like with a woman :confused: I suppose you could describe me as bi-curious!!!
Does anyone have any advice they can offer me PLEASE?!?!?!?!

3 Jul 2004

Quote by CarrieAnn
Hi all
Does anyone have any advice they can offer me PLEASE?!?!?!?!

Hello there -
Mmm thought you were embarressed cause Gilbert was trying to make friends with you earlier - my advice to you with regard to that matter would be to tell him where to take his soft centres to
But for real advice about your sexuality I believe you couldn't be in a more friendly and helpful place than this - and your over the worst bit now by saying hello - a great place to get good advice and make friends.
Cheers
CQ

3 Jul 2004

I can see why your ex wants to remain really good friends... especially if you're talking about a little dabbling with the ladies!!! (Good on you if you do by the way) however keep this in mind, if it was an ex of mine talking about have some fun with a female then hell yeh!!! it is the one thing every straight guy yearns for deep in his heart... lesbians in the same house...
I am nobody to give advice but yeah do it but don't go telling him cos if he ain't joining in he'll be cracking one off thinking about joining in!!!

3 Jul 2004

Quote by Benz2502
I am nobody to give advice but yeah do it but don't go telling him cos if he ain't joining in he'll be cracking one off thinking about joining in!!!

You are so right in all that you say but I have never 'cracked one off' in her company while thinking of anybody other than her because she asked me not to and to do otherwise would simply be bad manners.
As a standard 'bloke' of course I would welcome and rejoice in having the pleasure of 2 ladies but the rules of engagement would be set by the ladies concerned.

3 Jul 2004

Told you he is supportive, and understanding - although I do make it very difficult for him sometimes!
Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I could meet a lady that would understand my position? This could either be just FF or MFF (the M would be my ex as I trust him implicitly).
Has anyone worked out who my ex might be yet?!?!?!?!?!? lol

3 Jul 2004

Damn Damn Damn - should have spotted that sooner.

3 Jul 2004

Hello again :twisted: and thank you

3 Jul 2004

Carrieann!!!!! kiss

Great to meet you at last! Big welcome biggrin

3 Jul 2004

Hi MISSCHIEF,
Hope that I haven't put the ladies off flirting with Dambuster now that I am active on the site!!!!! lol

4 Jul 2004

Dambuster... Like that one mate... crafty one set out by carrieann and well good on you..
it is jsut red blood pumping through the veins when it comes to thinking of the joy of the womanly habits of lesbianism...
Hell i would still relish the fact that she be doing that!! as you state any normal guy would!!!
But good whammy there! biggrin

:D :D :D

4 Jul 2004

Quote by CarrieAnn
Hope that I haven't put the ladies off flirting with Dambuster now that I am active on the site!!!!!

Awwww CarrieAnn, now stop fretting ........ I think we can still manage that one cool

And as for your situation on the bi thing, well don't think you're alone there. Know exactly where you're coming from, although you're ahead of me with your one experience :lol2:
I know the slight curiosity is there for me, but dunno whether I want to act on it dunno

The opportunity has never come up for that decision to be made. So I would suggest that you think about it some more, then if the situation did come about you are at least a bit more secure of your decision ......... no rush, just take your time n have fun on the way biggrin

Oh and

for Dambuster, don't want him feeling left out already rolleyes

4 Jul 2004

Quote by Benz2502
Dambuster... Like that one mate... crafty one set out by carrieann and well good on you..
it is jsut red blood pumping through the veins when it comes to thinking of the joy of the womanly habits of lesbianism...
Hell i would still relish the fact that she be doing that!! as you state any normal guy would!!!
But good whammy there! :D :D :D

Nothing crafty going on here. (if there is; then even I missed it)
I think you may have misunderstood. We are two different people. Her posts are hers, my posts are mine. CA started this thread before i came back to the house last night after a night out. We don't 'check' our posts with each other before posting. That would question my "open and honest" ethic and damage our status as individuals.
I have made no secret of my/our situation, as many know from postings in the cafe or PMs.
None taken btw.

4 Jul 2004

Welcome aboard CarrieAnn, I was beginning to think you were a figment or Dambuster's imagination!!! :shock: lol

:lol: :lol: :lol:
I too am curious about having sex with a female and would happily accept any tips!!! confused

:? :? :? :? :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

4 Jul 2004

Welcome Carrieanne to this very mad place. biggrin

4 Jul 2004

Welcome CarrieAnn wave

Well i myself am curious as far as being with another woman,like MISSCHEIF ive never had the opportunity yet with the meets that we have had to experiment.
I personally find the chatroom is a good place to meet people,if you hang around there for a bit youll get to know who is genuine and find out who you would like to get to know.
If you feel ready for it you could place an ad and see where that leads.
Hope it helps a little.
Clare,xxx
wink

4 Jul 2004

Quote by Sgt Bilko
I too am curious about having sex with a female and would happily accept any tips!!! :? :? :? :? :lol: :lol: :lol:

Hi Sgt Bilko,
Now why don't I beleive that for one minute :lol:
Do you have any experiences that you would like to share with me regarding my quandary?

4 Jul 2004

Quote by MISSCHIEF
The opportunity has never come up for that decision to be made.

Thanks for that MISSCHIEF,
How on earth would the opportunity arise though - apart from meeting up with someone from this site? As all the SH members are so far away from me, that may be quite difficult!
The more I am speaking about this with all of you, the easier I am finding it - the redface

is fading

4 Jul 2004

Hi Carrie Ann nice to see you in here! :welcome:
i too was bi curious and through the lovely people on this site have found that the curious is now a deff bi!!
you will get to chat with loads of like minded people and who knows you may just put the curious part to rest!
bye for now love peppsxxxx wink

4 Jul 2004

Quote by pepps
i too was bi curious and through the lovely people on this site have found that the curious is now a deff bi!!

Hi pepps,
Thanks for that. Did you meet up with someone from the site, and if so, were they local to you? If the person was not from this site, where did you meet them?

4 Jul 2004

Hi & Welcome Carrie Ann
Like many of the others here I have a bi curious streak and do feel quite similar. I am happily married (hubby doesn't post but is a regular reader) and encourages me to explore this if I want to ... either alone or with him as a watcher/third person.
I've decided not to take it too fast, but to get regular on SH, have placed indicators in our ad and I'm just going to get to know a few people, hopefully I will meet the "right" woman and it will happen smile

I've a few people I chat to on already and it certainly helps to be able to explore fears and the embarrassment factor.
Calista x

4 Jul 2004

Quote by pepps
i too was bi curious and through the lovely people on this site have found that the curious is now a deff bi!!
:

Hi pepps,
Thanks for that. Did you meet up with someone from the site, and if so, were they local to you? If the person was not from this site, where did you meet them?

4 Jul 2004

Quote by Calista
Hi & Welcome Carrie Ann
Like many of the others here I have a bi curious streak and do feel quite similar. I am happily married (hubby doesn't post but is a regular reader) and encourages me to explore this if I want to ... either alone or with him as a watcher/third person.
I've decided not to take it too fast, but to get regular on SH, have placed indicators in our ad and I'm just going to get to know a few people, hopefully I will meet the "right" woman and it will happen
I've a few people I chat to on already and it certainly helps to be able to explore fears and the embarrassment factor.
Calista x

Hi Calista,
I am so surprised that so many people are in the same position as me :shock:
I too have fears and am embarrassed but don't have . Can you speak about these openly on this site or is it best to do this through PM's? confused

Perhaps this is a question that MISSCHIEF can answer.

4 Jul 2004

Welcome Carrie Ann!
I'm sure you will find out you have come to the right place. There are so many helpful and friendly people on here and I'm sure there are plenty of bi females that will give you all the advice you need.
There is no need to be embarrased about being bi curious. Nobody on here will judge you. We have found everyone on here to be totally supportive and some of the best friends you will ever have.

4 Jul 2004

CarrieAnn,
Ask away hunny biggrin

..... if you ask questions in the Forums, then you will get different opinions from different people. If you want to carry on a conversation with one person then PM them.
Basically if you're talking about something that lots of people can join in with, then keep it in the Forums, we thrive on it cool

Sometimes you might ask something that has already been covered. I which case someone will usually post a link to point you in the right direction for you to take a look at.
Just dive right in, and don't forget to also give your opinion on things 8-)

4 Jul 2004

Quote by CarrieAnn
Hi & Welcome Carrie Ann
Like many of the others here I have a bi curious streak and do feel quite similar. I am happily married (hubby doesn't post but is a regular reader) and encourages me to explore this if I want to ... either alone or with him as a watcher/third person.
I've decided not to take it too fast, but to get regular on SH, have placed indicators in our ad and I'm just going to get to know a few people, hopefully I will meet the "right" woman and it will happen
I've a few people I chat to on already and it certainly helps to be able to explore fears and the embarrassment factor.
Calista x

Hi Calista,
I am so surprised that so many people are in the same position as me :shock:
I too have fears and am embarrassed but don't have . Can you speak about these openly on this site or is it best to do this through PM's? confused

Perhaps this is a question that MISSCHIEF can answer.
i think for me it's a confidence thing, and a sort of fear of the unknown. I've been sexually active with men for numerous years and so I'm fairly confident as to how it all works .... with another women, it's all new ... i feel the nervousness that I felt as a virgin approaching my first male encounter.
Also, with blokes, well if I see one I like then I can be fairly confident that a bit of flirting is okay, but not all women are bi or curious and so flirting for that reason is harder. Although if you were meeting someone from online, you'd probably know that already.
I dont know how to make the first move with a woman and that sort of puts me off, it's almost like i need someone to take my hand and guide me through it ....
If you want to chat off board then do feel free to pm or email me biggrin

Calista x
edited to correct dismal spelling sad

4 Jul 2004

Quote by CarrieAnn
I am so surprised that so many people are in the same position as me :shock:
I too have fears and am embarrassed but don't have . Can you speak about these openly on this site or is it best to do this through PM's? Perhaps this is a question that MISSCHIEF can answer.

Hello CarrieAnn - nice to met you!
msgr is easy to download and use.
So is MSN.
And they can be far easier sometimes as the conversation can progress quicker.
PMs on here are good though.
And STOP being embarrassed - absolutely no need - specially on here!
Alex x x
(also slightly bi-curious - but in my case I suspect it will remain curiosity)

4 Jul 2004

Quote by MISSCHIEF
Ask away hunny .....

Well here goes - I suppose by biggest fear is STD's. How would I protect myself if I were to have sex with a woman (or is that a really stupid and naive question redface

)?
Are there women out there who would take it steady, for example, e-mailing, talking on the phone, going out for a drink/meal and then see where it goes :twisted: ? (stupid and naive again!!! rolleyes

)

4 Jul 2004

Hi there er yes i met both couples from this site, they live quite away from me but we met at a munch, and a party and had the BEST time lol, as i said lots of nice people on here. We are still looking but getting to chat, and then meet i found is the best option for ourselves. Some like to meet after a couple of emails and pics but its each to his own as they say we are in no rush as we have a great sex life anyway! wink

so hope you get to find what your looking for and why not come to the next munch on the 21st Aug? you never know who you may meet! love peppsxxxxx 69position

:wave2: love peppsxxxx

4 Jul 2004

Quote by Alexandra
And STOP being embarrassed - absolutely no need - specially on here!

Hi Alex,
Thanks but that is sometimes easier said than done lol

. I am getting there though - the more I am talking about it the easier it is getting.
I don't think I'm far away from taking the second step (the first step being talking about it and admitting it is something that I think I would like to do )!
Watch out for an ad appearing!!!!

4 Jul 2004

Quote by pepps
why not come to the next munch on the 21st Aug? you never know who you may meet!

I would love to come but am doing a freefall parachute jump that weekend in aid of CancerBACUP and as I am terrified of heights AND aeroplanes, I am wearing brown trousers until then lol

:lol: :lol:
I would be really grateful though if you could let me know when the next one is after that. I chickened out of going to the munch last night with Dambuster but wish that I had gone with him now sad