My advice would be to explain in a clear but friendly manner that you have a set of parameters that you would like to be met and that the person you are emailing has met most of those requirements. Tell them you you need a little bit more information before swapping photographs and arranging a subsequent meeting.
If they are genuine and want to meet you they will not mind providing you with the information you require in order to establish your compatibility levels which will ensure that you all have a good time and a successful meet. If only everyone was this particular in who they meet a lot less time would be wasted. Good Luck.
they will be more than pleased to have made it to last three......and if they answered correctly the first time...will be more than pleased to try again to be that lucky one.....but hey don't throw away those other two..keep them in reserve incase your first choice doesn't turn out as expected...
good luck and just wish i lived closer !!!!!
Though I have had no luck with the ads my self, I would also use your gut instinct.
Aint only you lasses though. I replied to an add last week, and it is so rare i find an ad i actually like. Specifically asking for more than a couple of lines, and to read her ad and reply to her questions.
So I did... I was quite impressed with my effort. And what did i get back ?
"erm.. I dunno what to say, you write a lot ! " .... one bleedin line. Which would have been ok, if she'd have said " OK. You are in matey!"
So i sent a self deprecating reply back giving her a way to reply. And she wrote back saying i was sarcastic... and we wouldn't be suited ! WTF !
So i wrote back with an example of sarcasm.
Some strange types out there....
I don't really think people can be processed with this kind of stuff. And why are you developing this ?
Surely the toughts and feelings of the responder should be all you need?
It was the detail of the technique you were discussing. Did you not think he may have been reading the forum? The 'development' is the thread. You know, ideas went around and people contributed which led to a lot of advice and the generation of tactics etc.
The reason I asked is that you got a lot of support and help about this. Which I think is fine. Guys don't get that unless its really unusual. They are usually told to lump it and 'move on'.